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London Bootcamp with Ozzie, July 1-3, 2011 Review

Hey guys, I just completed the London bootcamp a couple of days ago. This is pretty fucking long, so skip to “final thoughts” at the bottom if you want the essentials. I was initially going to wait a few months before posting this but I banged the whole thing out on a long train ride today and now I must post it. Enjoy…

Back story:

I’ve taken 2 bootcamps before, one with Jeffy in Feb 2008 and one with Alex last July; both of these were in Las Vegas.

The first bootcamp was with Jeffy and assistants Ryan (pre-instructor days) and Ciaran (pre-leaving the community days). I was pretty new to the game and ignorant to the main concepts of RSD and natural game. I thought the bootcamp would be a magic pill and would “fix me” and I wouldn’t have approach anxiety anymore. Yeah right. And although I actually did pretty well for a newbie, I felt pretty negative about my experience and basically did no approaching afterwards. However, I did lots of RSD nation lurking and watching of DVD programs including the Blueprint, Flawless Natural, and Jeffy Show. I ended up with a very good theoretical understanding of natural game but was too scared to actually take action and implement the theory.

Flash forward to 2010. I took another bootcamp in Las Vegas with Alex, just prior to the World Summit and then attended the Summit. I had a great experience with Alex, the bootcamp was a lot of fun and was like a giant party. I took the momentum from bootcamp and improved a lot over the summit week. The last couple of nights, I had zero anxiety in the club and was attracting girls left and right.

Then, I moved to a small city in Pennsylvania for 3 months to work where there is not much nightlife. I went out a couple of times but didn’t approach much and quickly fell back to baseline. The location where I was living certainly didn’t help matters. However, the true reason I lost my mojo was that I got anxious again once I was away from the frenzy of positivity that was the bootcamp and a week of going out with 100 other RSD guys in a giant wolfpack.

After earning some $$$, I spent several months traveling to Australia and New Zealand earlier this year and started going out again, especially during the month I spent in Sydney. I made some progress but was still very inconsistent- some nights I would do well but others I couldn’t even approach.

Went back to work again in Pennsylvania from April through mid-June and didn’t do any pickup. (At this point in my life, I’m able to work for a few months and then travel for a few months).

I was very frustrated because I knew I could get to a low anxiety “flow state” because I had done so before during the Summit and a couple times in Sydney. I just couldn’t figure out how to get back there. I had too much fear to consistently approach and take action.
I had already planned to spend 2 months this summer traveling in Eastern Europe and Scandinavia, and I booked a bootcamp in London to give me some momentum at the beginning of my trip. Little did I know what I was in for…

Day 1: Friday

I met up with Ozzie and the other student at 7pm at a hotel near Leicester Sq. After the introductions, Ozzie started by telling us how his teaching philosophy had changed over the years. When he first started teaching, he would try to pump his students’ state and get them to overachieve during the bootcamps. After some time, he noticed a common pattern. The students who did awesome during the bootcamp (ie long sets, makeouts, pulls, etc) tended to struggle after the bootcamp and start sending Ozzie emails a few months later that they were too scared to approach anymore. On the other hand, the students who sucked during the bootcamp were more likely to continue approaching, pushing themselves, and eventually realizing success in the months after bootcamp. Ozzie’s conclusion from all this was that the students who sucked on bootcamp got a lot more coaching, specifically coaching them through failure. This served them much better than the students who did well during the bootcamp who then had difficulty with the inevitable anxiety and failure that they later experienced.

So, long story short, Ozzie changed his bootcamp so that his students would be repeatedly put into situations where they would be uncomfortable and likely to fail. In this way, he is able to coach the students through failure and fear.

After explaining this stuff, he was very upfront about the RSD refund policy. He said that we would probably not like him during parts of the bootcamp and we would probably think what he made us do would be useless or counterproductive. As long as a student stays for the whole bootcamp and does everything Ozzie says, the student can get a full refund on the last day if he doesn’t think the bootcamp was useful. At this point, myself and the other student agreed to do whatever Ozzie said for the duration.

Then, Ozzie talked about the concept of fear technology. This is well described in earlier bootcamp reviews. Basically, the concept is that repeated exposure to fearful situations will make your fear diminish as opposed to avoiding the fearful situation, which will reinforce the fear and make it worse over time.

A newer concept of Ozzie’s is the obstacle course. He will put you into extremely challenging situations (obstacles) repeatedly. Once you are comfortable in those situations, normal situations will seem very easy in comparison. The analogy he used was if you are used to benching 300 pounds, lifting 100 pounds will be a breeze. In pickup terms, if you are comfortable approaching couples making out, a 2 set of girls at the bar will seem like nothing.

At this point, we went into the field for some social pressure drills. We selected a non-cool topic that interested us and we could talk about for 2 minutes. Mine was a museum about Nazi Germany that I had just visited in Berlin. The other student’s topic was a fierce rodent called the honey badger (google that shit, it’s awesome).

We had to yell a 2 minute speech about our topic to Ozzie and the other student (standing 15 meters away) in Leicester Square with lots of people milling about. If he couldn’t hear you well enough or you stopped talking for too long, you had to start again. We started in a less crowded area and moved to progressively more crowded spots. Finally we had to give the speech while standing in an exaggerated gay pose and also while humping a sign in the middle of a busy street (a completely non-sexual motion of course).

I was anxious at first but after a couple of drills, my anxiety went away completely. We got plenty of weird looks, but all 3 days of the bootcamp while doing these drills, girls would come up to talk to us. Some girl actually told the other student “I wish you would hump me” while he was grinding on the street sign. LOL

After the drills, we started opening girls walking with the wonderful opener “Is Leicester square a real square?” The girls would walk past us and then the goal was to open them and survive until you reached a movie theater 100 meters up the walkway. At that point, you would leave and go back to Ozzie whether they liked you or not. Ozzie sent me into 10-15 sets and I would guess 1/3 of them hooked. My anxiety levels were very low from the previous drills and went to zero after a couple of street sets.

Then, we went into the Tube station and opened girls while riding up a big escalator with the same lame opener. After a few rounds of this, we got on the train and headed to a beautiful area of London known as Clapham Junction where there is a lovely club called The Grand. This place may be the least conducive club for picking up girls that I’ve ever seen. It’s so loud that you can barely hear and the dance floor is jammed with grinding couples and giant sets of hot girls screaming and freaking out. Sweet. From previous bootcamp reviews, I knew that Ozzie would make me open couples making out, and that thought was making me pretty anxious.

The first 15 minutes, we did an exercise where we walked around the dancefloor first with loser body language, then with winner BL, and finally with neutral BL and recorded what thoughts our brains were giving us.

Then, we headed into the packed dancefloor for 25 minutes of challenges. The goal was to open challenging sets (generally either couples grinding/making out, big groups of screaming girls, or girls dancing up on a ledge above the dancefloor). The opener we had to use was “Is this the best club in Clapham?” The goal was to survive 2 minutes or to eject if we were pushed away or verbally told to fuck off.
I had moderate anxiety before starting the challenges but again, the fear melted away with exposure. The couples making out were usually a little confused but were all quite friendly. I even opened one couple a second time and they cracked up laughing “it’s you again!” There were definitely some awkward situations but nobody ever got remotely hostile or belligerent. A few girls pushed me away or told me to go away and I did.

I quickly became very comfortable doing all this and my brain started perceiving the challenges as hilarious and fun rather than scary. I’d like to emphasize that this was not a conscious effort to “reframe” the situation, it was completely unconscious. Ozzie did his best to make me scared- he made me take breaks from approaching and walk around with loser body language. He also made me open challenging sets with loser body language, with my arms behind my head, and like a creepy Gollum man. I am apparently some sort of freak of nature, because I really did not get anxious at all despite all Ozzie’s efforts.

You might be thinking, why the hell was he trying to make me anxious? The reason is fear technology. The goal is to acknowledge the fear and learn to push through it. I can also add that during the street drills and in the club, Ozzie would offer frequent encouraging comments such as “you’re going to suck,” “they are going to hate you,” “you look really weird right now,” “you’re scaring that family,” etc. LOL.
Eventually, we branched out to do some normal sets at the bar, then zigzagged between challenges on the dancefloor and normal sets until close.

After a quick debrief, we were off until the next evening.

Day 2: Saturday

We met up again at the same hotel at 7:00 pm. The structure of the second night was pretty much identical to the first night with the addition of physical game.

We started off with a more involved debrief of the previous day’s events. After asking me some questions, Ozzie managed to identify what is my major limiting belief which had previously been a complete blind spot to me.

I have a limiting belief that I am incompetent and a fear of showing my incompetence to others. This leads me to avoid approaching and when I do actually approach, I feel that I need to say a lot of interesting things and keep talking fast through the interaction. Eventually, I run out of things to say, feel awkward, and cause the girl to feel awkward.

Ozzie said that he thought I had “good” verbal game, which was very surprising to me at the time because I thought my verbal game sucked. We figured out that my feelings of incompetence were making me try to overcompensate by spitting out tons of words.  Because of this, Ozzie said he wanted me to slow down my words, take pauses, and let the girl contribute her 50% of the interaction. Also, he wanted me to talk about boring topics like what I had for breakfast.

Then, we went over the principles of physical game. You can look at Ozzie’s blog or other BC reviews for more information on this stuff. There’s also some book called the Physical Game that some guy named Osvaldo Garcia wrote.

At this point, we hit the field again. I got to give more scintillating 2 minute talks on WWII Germany to the inhabitants of Leicester Square. I was actually more anxious starting these than the previous night, but again the fear melted away after a couple of minutes of exposure.

Once we started the moving street sets, I made a conscious effort to slow down my words and create pauses. I also just made random statements about various things that I saw and generally tried to make the conversation as boring as possible. What do you think happened? Well, I’d guess my hook rate went from about 30% to about 80%. I also started trying to hug or claw the girls toward the end with Ozzie’s encouragement and was successful every time. I had a great interaction with a gorgeous blonde girl who looked like Barbie (it was funny b/c her fat friend actually had a necklace that said Barbie- I told the hottie that she should wear it instead). At first this girl was kind of testing and bitchy but I remained calm and normal and she was loving it after a minute.

After a couple of tube escalator sets, we headed back to Clapham to the same loud ass club as Friday. The structure in the club was identical to the night before- 15 minutes of body language drills, 25 minutes of friendly game in challenging sets on the dancefloor with an new emphasis on getting physical, and then zigzagging between normal sets and challenges until close. Again on this night, my fear levels were very low after a couple of exposures. I had a really good set where I opened 4 girls by the bar and ended up all snuggled up with the hottest one. They went to the dancefloor and I told them I’d see them later so I could do more sets. Ozzie was like “No man, you should have gone with them!” Of course, then he made me approach more couples making out and wouldn’t let me go back to them. LOL

Finally, the night ended with another quick debrief and we were off until the following afternoon.

Day 3: Sunday

The final day started at 1 pm, same spot. Again, there were individualized debriefs for me and the other student. There was a bit more seminar at this point. You can actually see a video of some of this on Ozzie’s blog (http://pickupmadesimple.com) which also includes some footage of my extremely sexy right hand.

After seminar, we headed out again for the social pressure drills and street sets. Ozzie told us how it was the daytime now and we were going to scare families and look really weird. We got up to the first area for social pressure drills which was always the least crowded before and found a tour group of 50 high school girls sitting there. Well, let’s just say they now know a lot more about WWII Berlin and honey badgers than they used to. I was feeling pretty good after this and ended up getting opened by a pretty hot girl a little later after one of my speeches (actually during the speech).

Then we did more street approaches with “is Leicester Sq a real square?” The previous two nights, I had been delivering the opener with sort of a dramatic pause in the middle to make it sound cooler. This actually worked and a fair number of girls would laugh. On Sunday, I tried to deliver it in the most neutral monotone that I could. I also focused on talking slowly and being as “boring” as possible. Out of at least 10 sets, maybe 1 or 2 didn’t hook and I ended up stopping 2 or 3 of them and talking for a while.

After the street sets, we headed to Trafalgar square. Ozzie made me open a pair of lesbians. Before I went in, he told me that lesbians feel “violated” when a man talks to them and they would probably be really pissed. Then when, I went in, one of the lesbians was actually a chody guy with long hair who was on a date with the other girl, LOL. I felt so bad about the total eclipsing that was going on that I excused myself and left after a few minutes.

Then, Ozzie had me do a challenge, which was probably the toughest of the weekend. I had to open 3 girls who were standing on the upper level of the square from the lower level, which was at least 10 meters below them. All they had to do to avoid me was lean back a little bit and I couldn’t see them anymore. So this set ended up as me yelling random things up at them for 2 minutes (with no response) with like a 100 people standing around trying not to make eye contact with the weirdo. Awesome.

After this, I opened 2 Spanish turbos on the steps and sat and talked for 10 minutes until they had to leave. I couldn’t see Ozzie at this point so I opened a lone Eastern European HB8 sitting by a fountain. She was initially a bit standoffish but I just relaxed and made some random statements and she really opened up and we had a nice vibing conversation which was of course interrupted by Ozzie who made me leave. Bastard ;-P. I didn’t bother getting numbers since I was leaving London and didn’t have a UK mobile, but I could easily have gotten 8-10 solid numbers of hot girls over the weekend from day and street approaches.

Finally, we headed to a café for final debriefs, goalsetting, and a “pickup workout” gameplan for the future (which is basically the same structure as the bootcamp nights).

Final Thoughts about the bootcamp and Ozzie:

Was the bootcamp worth it?

Unquestionably. I believe it was worth many times what I paid for it. I also thought both of my previous 2 bootcamps were worth more than I paid, but for me personally, the Ozzie bootcamp was substantially more valuable.

More about the style and structure of the weekend:

Ozzie’s bootcamp was very different than my previous bootcamps with Jeffy and Alex. The infield portions of the other bootcamps were a lot more free-form, and I was given a lot of independence to approach as I wished. Especially in massive Vegas clubs, it is possible to chode around during bootcamp (which happened more in my first than my second). In Ozzie’s bootcamp, there is none of this. You are either with him or he is watching you in a set for the entire time. Seminar, drills, street sets, challenges, etc are done in the same order for the same amount of time each day. You cannot avoid the drills and approaching unless you physically run away and don’t come back. All the fat has been eliminated from this bootcamp, there are no wasted moments at all.

Ozzie in relation to other RSD instructors:

Ozzie showed up on time and was 100% dedicated throughout the bootcamp for me and the other student. I think he has a similar dedication and drive to Tyler, Jeffy, Alex, or any of the other RSD instructors. I’ve been nothing but impressed by all my encounters with RSD.

Ozzie’s methods of teaching are what makes him stand apart from the other instructors (in my opinion).

In my previous bootcamps with Jeffy and Alex, a major goal seemed to be pumping up my state so that I would approach/push myself/succeed. I can’t accurately comment on other instructors (Tyler, Brad, etc), but this seems to be a general principle of RSD’s teaching methodology.

Ozzie actually does the opposite. He tries to make you scared, forces you to fail repeatedly, and intensively coaches you through fear and failure. You will likely approach much more challenging sets and much hotter girls on Ozzie’s bootcamp than you might on another instructor’s bootcamp. Your fears will be acknowledged, challenged, and will be eroded with the continued exposure. You will learn what to do on that bad night a few weeks after bootcamp once the high wears off and you have a lot of approach anxiety.

The second thing that I felt set Ozzie apart from my previous instructors was his relentless focus on our limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns. From this, he was able to quickly figure out my limiting belief of incompetence and how it was hurting my game. This fix led to a quantum leap in my results over the course of 2 days. Alex actually gave me similar advice about relaxing, slowing down, and not trying so hard, but they were sort of off-hand comments in the field and I never understood the underlying issues.

More comments on Ozzie as a teacher:

Although a lot of Ozzie’s methods are the same for all students, he was able to effectively focus on individual issues for myself and the other student. There were a lot of times he was actually telling me and the other student to do the complete opposite things because of our individual issues.

I also believe he is very effective at making complex ideas simple and focusing on the most high-yield stuff.

He did very few demos on the bootcamp. He opened the first challenge set on the dancefloor both nights at the club, and opened 1 set of girls in Trafalgar square on Sunday, that’s it. This was both me and the other student’s 3rd bootcamp, so he may do more demos for newer students. I didn’t feel the lack of demos was a drawback at all.

Who is the ideal student for an Ozzie bootcamp?

Well, fuck, I don’t know that. But I do think that anyone from a newbie who’s never approached to an advanced guy with advanced issues would benefit greatly from this experience. I would consider myself a newbie-intermediate in terms of actual field experience going in. There’s a review from a couple months ago by a guy named Leo who gives the perspective of an advanced student.

I am also a very intelligent and logical guy. I think Ozzie’s methodology is ideal for people like me because the fear technology is so simple, logical, and straightforward that my brain is forced to accept it. There is no way to rationalize that anything else could be true.

A non-ideal student would be someone who expects pickup success during the bootcamp (ie pulls, makeouts, long sets). Not to say that these won’t happen, but your chances are much less than in other instructors’ bootcamps. Come into this bootcamp expecting to fuck up.

I don’t know if Ozzie’s method is the best way for everyone, but I do think it was the best way for me personally. I think any RSD bootcamp will be beneficial, though.

(Really) Final Thoughts:

I had an atypically easy time on Ozzie’s bootcamp. Once I did a few social pressure drills and exposed myself to fear, I became basically fearless for the rest of the night. My mind viewed the challenges as hilarious rather than fear-inducing. Ozzie actually spent much more effort trying to make me scared than anything else. I believe the terms “unbreakable” and “freak of nature” were used. I’m not saying this to make me sound awesome, it’s just the way my mind works. Now I know what I need to do.

The other student had probably a more typical experience. He had some times when he was really struggling, and Ozzie was right there to talk him through it and push him. He also said he was extremely satisfied at the end of the bootcamp, and in fact this was his 3rd bootcamp with Ozzie.

In conclusion, the London bootcamp is really, really, really, really, really, really, ……., really fucking good. And a bargain at only $1500! Take one and be transformed…

It’s only been 4 days since the bootcamp, but I’ve done multiple approaches every day, talked to the hottest non-English speaking girl ever, molested a 19 year old Polish girl in front of her cousin, best friend, and boyfriend, and spoke gibberish to a Polish turbo girl who refused to acknowledge my presence. Just think what’s coming next. God help us all.

Follow my encounters with turbo chicks, fat men on trains who keep speaking Polish to me, and other Eastern European adventures for the rest of this summer at the link in my signature.

Adios muchachos!
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Thanks man.  I'm actually a medical doctor but I've decided to work temporary jobs for awhile so I can travel and hopefully become a better guy at life.
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 Awesome report man. Ozzie definitely sounds interesting, I love the idea of the fear stuff. May have to check him out when I'm in Europe.

Cheers!
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 Yes, there seems an indeed an underlying common philosophy.

I'd like to think of Alex -vs- Ozzie as follows:

You can be either "avoiding" or "try-hard".

"Avoiding" is everything passive: being stiffled, feeling fear, etc.
"Try-hard" is everything too active: you put up a schtick, inauthentic or incongruent, needy (seeking happiness from others), a dancing clown.

If you feel fear, you benefit for trying hard: it feels incongruent at first, but that's just because you are scared. (Ozzie)
If you are trying to hard, you benefit from realizing "you are enough", and getting back to self-amusement and bringing the party. (Alex)

Although Alex also motivates to stop avoiding, by telling you to "take initiative & make moves".
It tries to reduce anxiety by reducing standards (anything you say and anymove you make is fine).

And although the solution to trying too hard might seem to do less - the answer is always taking action.
You can't stop approaching in order to become less try-hard. You just have to go in more honest. 
Ozzie's method will ultimately do this, as long as you keep confronting fear until liberation.
If you are comfortable doing scary shit, you might identify that you deliberatly blow yourself out, and have a fear of acting normal.
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MAYHEM wrote:
Just watched the video and read your Alex bootcamp write up. I can definitely see a correlation between what Alex teaches and Ozzie teaches: how to be ultimately comfortable relaxed with yourself in any environment under any circumstances. Core confidence, take initiative, persevere, win. Awesome.
Yeah, I think all the instructors' various methods will ultimately get you to the same place if you take action and follow through. 

I think the main reason a lot of guys don't follow through after the bootcamp is the fear issue, and I think Ozzie's method is the best for preparing the student to deal with the inevitable fear that they will experience.
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markzor wrote:
 Yes, there seems an indeed an underlying common philosophy.

I'd like to think of Alex -vs- Ozzie as follows:

You can be either "avoiding" or "try-hard".

"Avoiding" is everything passive: being stiffled, feeling fear, etc.
"Try-hard" is everything too active: you put up a schtick, inauthentic or incongruent, needy (seeking happiness from others), a dancing clown.

If you feel fear, you benefit for trying hard: it feels incongruent at first, but that's just because you are scared. (Ozzie)
If you are trying to hard, you benefit from realizing "you are enough", and getting back to self-amusement and bringing the party. (Alex)

Although Alex also motivates to stop avoiding, by telling you to "take initiative & make moves".
It tries to reduce anxiety by reducing standards (anything you say and anymove you make is fine).

And although the solution to trying too hard might seem to do less - the answer is always taking action.
You can't stop approaching in order to become less try-hard. You just have to go in more honest. 
Ozzie's method will ultimately do this, as long as you keep confronting fear until liberation.
If you are comfortable doing scary shit, you might identify that you deliberatly blow yourself out, and have a fear of acting normal.

Yeah, absolutely. You do have to "try hard" to the point that you take action.  But once you have taken action and approached, you do not have to be a whirling pickup wizard of lines and fancy moves.  You just need to do simple things, and if your fear level is low, you will automatically do those simple things.
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 you left the Alex~ brand and pursued different instruction ? nooooo !

great report man, Ozzie is fantastic. I remember the times I read about his escalator drills and did them back in my hometown. 

see you at Summit 2011 ?
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Summit God~ wrote:
 you left the Alex~ brand and pursued different instruction ? nooooo !

great report man, Ozzie is fantastic. I remember the times I read about his escalator drills and did them back in my hometown. 

see you at Summit 2011 ?
Haha, I'm a traitor yo! 

Sadly I will not be at the Summit this year since I'll be in Europe, but I definitely plan to attend again in the future.  Tell the hotties in XS I said hi.
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 Excellent write up.

If you hit copenhagen after the 9th of august, and need a place to crash. hit me up.
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Really awesome report. I'd heard Ozzie's BC's were scary as shit, but your report really helped explain and put a lot into light, so that all seems to make a lot more sense.

Awesome report.
(Love the challenge of trying to pull the group 10m's above you. Lol, brillant.)
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I'm planning to do monthly progress reports for at least a few months after bootcamp.  This is partly to have another reason to continue taking action, but also because I want to provide some documented proof that Ozzie's methods help to keep you motivated and troubleshoot problems in the time after the bootcamp is over.  I had originally planned to wait several months after the bootcamp before posting a review (so that the review wouldn't just reflect a post-BC high), but in hindsight I'm glad I'm doing it this way.

1 Month Post-Bootcamp Progress Summary:

23 days I approached at least 1 girl.  8 days I had 0 approaches
Total of 87 approaches, 17 of them I would consider turbo/5 star/8.5 or better
Kissed or went for the kiss- 3 times
Dominant physical escalation with the girl into me- 6 times
Pushed through severe chode reality snapback- 1 time
Got laid/pulled- 0 times
"Good nights" (i.e. in state, good reactions from girls)- 5 times

Lessons:
1. Non-linear progress.  I feel like I've been on a plateau since the bootcamp.  My "good nights" have been spaced out pretty evenly over the month.  Usually my worst nights are right after my best nights.
2. I've learned to go out solo and actually approach.  It's still not consistent/without hesitation yet but I'm getting there.
3. Learned that I can push through feelings of anxiety and chodishness by taking action. 
4. Physicality is essential to a good interaction.  All of my best interactions for the month have featured quick escalation after opening.  Taking girls to the dance floor is basically a cheat code to escalate physically.

Current status: on a plateau.  I'm generally able to approach and hook with conversation.  I've been inconsistent with physicality.  I'm generally not trying to pull/close. 

My main thinking errors:
1. Fortune-telling: ie thoughts that "this set is going to go poorly" or "I won't be able to get that girl."  Goes along with my feelings of incompetence.
2. Perfectionist thinking- especially after my good nights
3. Discounting the positive.

Goals for the next month:
1. More consistent with approaching
2. Start escalating sooner and more consistently.  Go for the makeout more often.
3. Go for the pull/close more often

I'll be in Scandinavia for most of mid-late August so I should be going out a lot more with RSDN wingmen.  I'm happy with my progress and action for the past month, but now it's time to step it up a notch.
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