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Huckleberry

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 Hey guys, so I've decided that it would be really beneficial for me to start doing field reports so I can start getting some advice, and start reflecting on things I could have done better. Up until now I've Just been dabbling here and ther with day game and club game, but I thought that it was about time I had some kind of structure so I can really start taking care of business. Honestly, I'm not in this to be some crazy ass "playa", Im just looking to be able to free myself in this regard of my life, and not be restricted by my social conditioning and my insecurities. I guess just learning to be a REAL person. No filler, no preservatives, 100%, Made Fresh daily! Lol I should make that into a shirt!  

Also getting laid is awesome.......I just dont want to turn into an egomanic in the process.



 
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In comemoration of creating a feild report, I went out and did the most amount of day game approaches I've ever done today. Which was 9. Ive heard of people doing 20 in the span of a couple hours, but I guess was just being too picky, and so it took me a while. Crazy day today tho haha.

Started out the day not too high energy or centered. But trying to find that unshakable spot within me. Medium sucesss. Just rode around on my long board smiling at girls and getting comfortable being around so many people. Sometimes I would get shy when they smiled back and I'd turn away quickly. Acting like a chode is dicouraging. Felt stupid for a while, then did some Real approcahes. I decided that I'd just bring whatever I had in me at that moment to the table, and just lay it there. NO HIDING. So what if I didn't feel super confident, or awesome? I'll make peace with whatever I had, and just be real. It was kinda nice. My state wasnt crazy, but I also wasn't super nervous. More or less just a normal dude talking to chicks. Nothing fancy.

1.Russian Spy
Ok first set, I spotted a short girl with glasses that was video taping a building. She was facing away from me and I approached asking her if she was a russian spy doing recon on the building. She laughed a bit, I went on a bit and then told her she was cute and that I wanted her number. No dice. Wasn't into her anyway. Just practice.

2.Hot asian girl with her dad. Said hi, thaught she was cute, tried to get her number. Asked if I was christian, I said I could pretend. No dice. Shoulda talked to her dad too. Maybe joke about asking for her hand in marriage.

3. Asian girl with mom. stopped her on street, Introductions, Asked her if she had gone shopping, she said no movies, talked to mom this time and said I'd take her out to an olive garden. Girl said there were none around, I kinda fumbled a bit with suggesting another place down the street. (all joking) No dice.

4.I decided I was only gonna go after girls that I was actually interested in. Saw a girl across the street, and decided "That one is for me!" and went went over. I was way more centered, and I could feel the intention coming through. I introduced myself, and she seemed taken aback, then I told her I thought she was cute, and decided to come all the way across the street to talk to her. She laughed. She was in a rush to go somewhere, so I asked her for her number we could maybe hang out sometime. Turns out shes from Italy and was visiting or something, I forget. Anyway, she seemed receptive. She was really fashiony, and normally I don't expect a good reaction from those types cuz theyre kinda stuck up sometimes, but she seemed cool. Felt good after this one. ( Outcome dependence I guess eh? Just a bit though.) Anyway We part ways and send her a message a bit later saying

"You should take me back to Italy with you ;)" (Am I appearing weak here? It was a joke.)
"What??? haha"
"We can sell gelato :P"
Anyway long story short, I msged the wrong person and they were confused. I guess I lost her number somewhere in my phone and couldn't find it.

Lesson: Make sure to organize new numbers you get. ALWAYS. I normally put a 2 in front their names so I dont get mixed up between friends and girls.

5. At this point I really don't mind getting rejected, but im also not a tiger or anything. I approach a decently cute red ( GAWD I love red heads!) handing out surveys. She starts telling me abount some shit and I kinda interrupt by saying, I only came over cuz I thought you were cute. She gets all uptight and nervous and says that shes really busy and cant do this right now , and so I back off a bit and ask her about what shes doing. I then ask her for her number and as she held my phone I could see her hands shaking a bit haha. Im not sure what that means. lol. I go sit down fill out the survey, put it in the box, and went over to where she had gone now and told her I'd text her later, and that she had the cutest freckles. (Good? bad?) left after that.

6. I was getting used to riding the "THATS FOR ME" wave. Approached my first 30 year old. (Im 21 btw) haha She was a cute blonde, with her friend. I used my usual introduction + I had to meet you, thought you were cute open. I asked what they were doing and then teased them about how it was boring. I also make it a point to meet her friend Anywayshe asks me my age and I hesitate at first, then tell them im 21. She laughs and says shes old enough to be my mother. I hand her the phone telling her she could be my mother if she wants. No dice.

How do you over come that age gap? I look kinda young so people are always asking me how old i am. Sometimes I say im 42, sometimes I just tell them.

A few other unremarkable approaches here and there.

9. My last one of the night. This one made me feel dirty so I went home after. I wanted to do ten approaches today but I felt sick after. I approached this girl that seemed like she was walking abit funny but was ok looking, and decided, meh, ill finish up my night. Roll up beside her. Said hi, say shes cute, and talk a little and she seems a bit out of it. It was gay pride today so she was drunk. Anyway she just suddenly gives me this sloppy kiss on the cheek and asks if I want to walk her a couple of blocks. I hesitatate and was thinking if it was chode to let her lead me like that. But I was like meh, ill give it a go . I put my arm around her and we walk. She tells me straight up that she likes me aand thinks im cute....but in a really sloppy drunk way, and then she starts trying to kiss me. First one was bad and she missed my mouth, second was BRUTAL as she was bitting and pulling at my lips. Her mouth tasted like strawberry vodka....it was gross. At this point I have NO IDEA what to do. I just try to keep up. But I decide against it and pull my mouth away letting her kiss my neck. I half entertained the idea of getting her number and haging out when she was sober, but I just really wanted to leave. I felt gross and kinda violated hahaha. So she crosses the street and I ditch her. I spent the next half hour spitting and hoping I didnt catch something....

That was the end of my night.

Things I feel I need to work on.
-Approaching hotter girls
-Approaching more "dressy club type girls." lol The ones that you know are gonna blow your shit apart if your game isnt tight.
-approaching groups. (I can do 2 sets SOMETIMES. Especially if theyre asian. Im asian so I guess I feel safer. haha, weird. Also Asian girls probably wont tool you as hard.)
-Using a more sexual frame + more KIno. I dont really have experience with physical escalation in day game.
-GO. OUT.AND.GET.TOOLED....HARD.( not looking forward to this)
-Go out to clubs(solo would be very interesting)
-Jumping into sets faster, rather than thinking about it.

I dont have a wing man so I do this stuff solo. I feel like I'd be much bolder if I had a wing, but solo has its benefits too. If you wanna wing me, and your in TORONTO give me a shout. Im down for anything you can throw at me. In fact, Im down for crazy suggestions from anybody to try out next time I go out.
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Huckleberry

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 Im trying to figure out a more efficient format for my FR's I think its too long. Any sugesstions?
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 Not much to report today. Went out, got drunk with friends, sang karoeke for the first time in front of people.(WHICH WAS AWESOME!) Felt kinda chode today. I.E I dont know what to say syndrome, while talking with a girl I havent seen in a while. Not much other action. I havent gamed in front of friends before and wasnt that comfortable doing it. I did however go up to this random chick sitting at a table by her self and grabbed both her hands like we were a couple and joked around for a bit. I taught her how to longboard in the bar/ we danced while she was on it. Anyway, I got a little more comfortable being physical. She seemed into me. Bf took her away tho haha.

I think the key to all of this is just to act on pure impulse and cut out the thought process in between. And the key to my "I have nothing to say syndrome", was that I wasnt Self entertained enough. Also coming from a sexual frame really brings that masculine polarity out of you. And another thing. I think most of my responses or openers are kinda chodey, I know theyre chodey, but I also kinda say it in a way where i dont really care how they respond. Im not looking for a reaction, I just have nothing better to day hahah. Gotta start having fun with it and come up with crazy shit.

Goal for Next couple of days
-Get a boner talking to girls/ TURN UP THE SEXY!!!
-Self entertain ALL DAY LONG!
-ADD/Impulsive brain. lower the standards of my filter.
-Just jump the Fuck in. I can feel it. SOOOOOO close to just losing grip on my reality and just turning into a beast! Im still holding back. I need to RAGEEEEE.
-Try out crazy shit!
I need to find a more experienced wing to kick my ass. Im not really sure where to go from here. I don't want to keep doing the same shit. Gotta amp it up some how....
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 Alright just rolled around on a monday night trying to get a few sets in. First set, I waited too long from the time i saw her to the time i approached. I came in from behind and said hi, She got super freaked out. Lesson: Don't approach a girl from behind on a dark street haha. Also Use a better opener than "I think youre cute". More casual.
Next set cute well dressed asian girl. I tried to stay in set longer this time and plough a bit. I was at the stop light with her and then headed in the same direction. Opened with hi i think youre cute, recieved ok. Kind of chuckle and a ohhh.....thanks... NOT GOOD. Anyway said she had a bf, and I asked her if she wanted another, and then I said two is better than one, and that all her friends would think shes a huge pimp for having two. anyway she said sorry and I rolled off. Shoulda ploughed MORE for exp. Last set was a super cute blonde with flowers in her hair, we were on a super dark road, and I decided I dindt want to be a creep. I opened with "why are you dressed so fancy on a monday night?" Hooked. Casual and situational openers seem to work best. All the solid numbers I have gotten are a result of these. I was just playing it chill and we talked about longboards for a bit. I got off my long long board so she could try it, and after i picked it up to walk with her. I could see that made her a bit uncomfortable, thinking id just follow her, so I said we should go board sometime. Number close. Talking was easy on this one.
I played it cool and casual on this one and looked into her eyes a bit, but didnt communicate sexuality. I played to not lose........PLAY TO WIN MUTHAFUCKA.

My AA is not really that high anymore, and im getting kinda comfortable approaching single sets. I really gotta start amping it up and play to win. Also gotta work on talking about random shit. 

RAAAARRR I want some POOONN! Gotta get my day twos to happen faster. I got two other solid numbers a while ago, but logistics are really keeping me from Closing the deal. 
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Keep going out, if you're still at it in a few days time I'll attempt to offer some kind of feedback!
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One thing I've noticed is that you seem to usually have short interactions and then go for a number at the end.

The more you interact with them and the better it goes, the more the number will be worth and the more likely they are to give it to you. For example, generally a girl si more likely to respond if you made out before getting her number and spent an hour together than if you talked for 5 minutes and then go the number and bailed.
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 Hey cool thanks a lot man. The thing is I'm doing day game most of the time. Im trying to stay in sets longer, but theyre normally going somewhere so they can't stay for long. :P Im gonna go clubbing solo for the first time this weekend and see if I can stay in set longer. I can open them fine now, I just need to be more comfortable staying and vibing.

Ok I did a couple sets last night that went pretty well in terms of the interaction. But It so happens that all three of them had boyfriends and were late twenties to mid thirties. hahaha YEAHH COUUGARS!! 

1.First one I saw across the street and decided to open less direct, but I went in harder than I usually do., partly cuz I was a bit tipsy from drinking earlier. Good reffrence point none the less. I forgot what I did but it was casual. She responded well and talked about skateboarding a bit and let her try. (FACKIN LOVE MY LONGBOARD!) Eventually the age question came up and she said she was 34, and I told her age was just a number. But eventually I told her I was twenty one. She said she was having a bad day and might be getting a devorce. ( Ethical alarms going off) we talked a bit more and then I asked her for her number, she wanted to take mine and I said sure, but we didnt have a pen so she took mine. She said she wanted to learn how to skate and I said sure. I also asked her if she was free right now and we could chill. (gotta try this more. Opportunity to buildd more rapport.)She said she was busy. I gave her a hug and said hope you feel better and she said I already do.. I txted her today and surprisingly she txted back hahaha.


Me: Hey if we go skate board you know you can't bring your heels right? :P (She was wearing heels when we met)
Her:Thank you. I will leave the stilettoes at home.I think I need some gear so I wiil not kill myself trying to skate.I will let you know ehn I'm free.
Me: You just gotta promise me youre not some kind of predator :P
Her:I prey on boys to learn to skate board. Ha Ha 
(After not txting back for a while)
Her: I am joking. Remember I have two children. I am not a crazy. I have always wanted to skateboard. It looks so cool!
(Gonna wait a bit more then re txt her back)
Not sure what to say really.. Ill figure it out. I have time.

Ok I really don't know if I should go for this. It would be a crazy refference experience, and shes really hot. BUT her marriage is not doing well and she has kids........yeeeeesh..... :S. Im thinking that Me hooking up with her wouldn't damage anything, Im just helping her relieve stress. :P  Plus shes a grown ass woman and can make her own decisions. But I dont know....Lol thats if I even get that far. I don't want to let this chance for a reffrence experience go. 

Also as far as I can tell she only wants to hangout to learn to skate, but you know what they say, you miss 100% of the shots you dont take. So im really not sure how to game an older woman. I think I gotta be really chill and escalate SLOWLY. Just be fun and chill and not come off at all as trying to get in her pants. Just flirt a bit. Then try and escalate when shes comfortable. SUGGESTIONS PLZZ haha.

2. Rode up beside a hottie and asked her if she knew her shirt was see through. HOOK. we talk blah blah blah I say shes cute blah blah blah, I ask some chodey questions like whats up? what do you study? and the like, but I was actually conversing not just reaction seeking. I honestly just dont know what else to talk about. Anyway she says shes a taking a masters of psychology and I ask her if she studies carl jung a famous psychologist to build some rapport, but before I can set in she gets a phone call and answers it. My one mistake was that i was walking with her. and didnt stop her. So I follow for like a minute or two and im like THIS IS DISGRACEFUL! so I kinda slow down and stop and check my phone, kinda wondering what would happen now. To my surprise she starts to slow down a bit after and turns and says sorry and that its her boyfriend. haha Good reffrence exp. DONT BE A FOLLOWING CHODE. anyway I say "you have a boy friend huh?"  "Yeah im meeting him." " haha alright I'll see you later than" and I leave. I had enough at this point.

Lesson learned: stand your ground. Open with something random. 

3. This one opened with 'what did you buy', with a fun attitude. (she was carrying a bunch of bags.)She says personal stuff. And I respond with "Oh 'Personal stuff' its cool I wont push anyfurther haha. I roll on to the side walk and stand infront of her to talk. I am directly in her path and I stay, no more following bullshit. We talk a bit and I go and grab a book she had in her bag. It was something like Candida Yeast. So I start asking her about it. Like if she was a baker, Nope, or if she had a yeast infection, haha nope, turns out it was something with blood. Non infectious tho haha. I say shes cute and we should hang out. "My bf  wouldn't like that" " Well think about how pimp you'll be with two. All your friends would be jealous. And then you could eventually upgrade haha." anyway no dice.

Lesson Learned: Dont be afraid to get inter active. To stand in their way...just do it without a rapey vibe.

4. This one was today, I was in a gym and I see this cute asian girl walk by. I open clusily with asking if she was lifting weights, and that I didnt know many girls that could bench. blah blah, more fumbling remarks about her wearing a lot of make up to the gym to impress guys, and then I say shes cute go for # close. She said she had a bf, and next time I should just say hi and try for the number. Haha alright. She says maybe ill see you around next time. 

This interaction was CLUMSY! I was rushed for things to say, and I generally fumbled. BUT good news is I didnt really care. haha I just rolled on with my day like normal. Didnt even raise my heart rate. Im happy about that. I outcome dependence is dying. My AA is dying. I am awesome.

Last thing. weeks before this FR I dabbled in some street pick up and got two solid numbers. Hot blondie and Cute persian chick. Both are into me solid. I went on a day two with the blonde one and it was just great day.  Shes really wicked and down to earth.  I decided to buy her ticket over to the island cuz i felt bad that she came so far to see me, and I told her that. she said thanks, and then later She paid 25$ so we could go canoeing. I to pay or help pay but she refused. I was smitten after that haha. Then we went to the beach and I chickened out for a while and decided to finally go for a kiss kindo of sneakily. But she turned her head away and I awkwardely put my head on her shoulder. Hahahaha hilarious! A bit later I ust grabbed her and went for it. She turned but eventually gave in. I cut it short and we went back to sit down. She started being awkward about the kiss and I told her jokingly haha, then immediately chaged the subject to something fun. I went for another kiss later and she cut it short this time.This girl was giving me the oneitis, and waiting for her txts initially was PAINFUL haha. seemed like forever cuz she'd wait like an hour or half an hour between txts. On purpose or is she busy?  Anyway she had to go to montreal for the weekend and so I used it as an opportunity to fight this oneitis crap. I had initially tried to plan to hangout but she was going so I told her "alright have a good time in montreal and txt me when you get back so we can chill. :)" Good stuff she sent me back "Mmmkay ;)" in the middle of the txt page so that it would be bold and noticeable. GOOD reaction haha. Anyway after that I got a more a much more abundant mindset and dont really get that feeling nearly as much anymore.  Shes working all this week so no hangout. :( meh ill keep myself busy. 

Lesson: up until this point we had been txting almost evry day. I then decided to impose an unecessary break, and thus communicated higher value. She liked it. 

I have been trying to meet with this persian girl but she lives waay far, and I work eleven to seven weekdays. Logistics are difficult. But shes deff into me. haha I actually almost lost this one cuz she forgot who i was. She didnt txt back when I sent the standard hey whats upp its edwin txt. I went for broke and said that I was looking forward to taking her to mexico to marry her, but since she didnt txt back I needed to go to therapy now for years :P  Anyways I didnt have to game her much after that. Part of the reason this one is so solid is because I was gaming her friend hard for like 15 minutes and teasing her and stuff and didnt pay attention to her. When I realized I wasnt getting anywhere with her friend I opened her and was nice to her. VERY SOLID INTERACTIOn.

GRaaaahhhh frustrating having thses solid girls and not being able to pull the trigger due to logistics! FFUUUUUUU Im gonna follow up on these other girls in a few days.

Suggestions PLLZZ haha. thanks.
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ok im gonna go out clubbing alone for the first time tonight see how it turns out haha. Should be good. 
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 Lol alrighty its been a while. I've been getting a lot more comfortable talking to females and have been having some success. Its sweet. 

I met up with a girl I met on the street today and we met up at a club. I knew before hand she was defenately into cuz she was texting me all the time. But anyway, I go there with some friends, and I bump into her. Lookin really cute.

So I practice leading her around and stuff and it was ok. I think i need more practice being physical and being decisicve in that regard. Just pulling her around the dance floor and suggesting we go into the middle of a group of girls and just dance there. But it wasn't toooo bad. I didn't really feel nerves at all with her. My challenge was to keep having fun and not stall out.

It  was pretty chill for the most part, trying to JUST express and not really take anything else into consideration. My verbals weren't too bad at the begining of the night since i was in a higher energy than normal, but as the night progressed my desire to express became more of a challenge. We had been dancing for a while and We did this thing where we hugged and massaged each other it got me going a little bit and her too. 

Eventually I just pulled her in for the kiss, she hesitated for a bit, just to get ready I guess, and then I just kissed her. The rest of the night was spent talking to random people, kissing, and talking. I tried escalating beyond the kiss but she resisted and I didn't want to be  overly aggressive since im not that experienced with club game. Also It just feels too rapey to keep going if they stop you. But i think with more experience it'll be smoother. 
everything at the club went pretty good, it was after when the lights went on that there were a few challenges. 

Things I need work on:
1. My energy was just gone, and It was hard to be expressive and at the cause end of things. (im normally pretty laid back and low energy just going with the flow. It feels unnatural to me to be ALWAYS leading with my energy.)
2. I didn't know what the best way to pull was due to a lack of experience. I think I stumbled out something about a new song on my guitar I wanted to show her. She seemed receptive. But after that we went out to get food with her friends and I was just too tired to maintain her bt, and so she ended up going home with her girlfriend. I tried a few more times with the offer.....( probably shouldn't of offered.....Cuz that means shes responsible) 
3. I wasn't HORNY enough.. I think many of these challenges could have been overcome with better sexual state projection or building of sexual tension. 
Gotta learn how to do that. We didn't have a love bubble . Chemistry was , for me, kinda dry. But it may be my dificulty in connecting with people quickly. Without horniness this whole "pick up" thing is kinda hollow. I feel like im just mimicking the motions of a typical horny guy.  I guess I just gotta get more comfortable expressing my sexuality.

Things I did well:
1.Was pretty expressive at the beginning of the night.
2. Felt pretty confident, lack of fear. I could of literally talked to anybody in that club. I wasn't afraid, but there were a few times I was just uncertain of what to do.
3. I played it fairly breezy and would sometimes just stop talking to her and talk to my friends or hers. But other times i would give her my undivided attention.

Pretty decent night. Also there was another girl that was really into me, but i didnt take the opportunity to get her number fast enough. I wasnt that interested seeing as I already had a girl.

Lol my "Player" instincts arent that great haha. I think im realizing that this game is a bit messier than I thought. I also feel bad about things like being too persistent, and gaming other girls while I have one around already.
Also Im thinking I might go do a 30 day challenge tommorow. 
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 Did a few approaches tonight after doing some "brain polishing"  Heres my thread on my new way of being, http://www.rsdnation.com/node/208552?#comment-818932

Its a really clean headspace to be in and Im not always planning. Its GREAT.

1.Anyway, first girl i talked to tonight was on the bus, I just said some stupid thing about her phone and got off the bus. Had more trouble holding my personal head space on the bus, I.e, dropping thoughts of what people might think. The pressure of thirty people watching me in a small space compromised it a little bit haha. 
2. Hit the street. and went up to a blonde girl and opened pretty good, not perfect in my own space but a bunch better than before. She said she had a boy friend and and I asked if he was imaginary. Then she went across the street to meet him. 

3. Pretty good in  my own space now. My RAS was tuned to express only, and to put planning and prepping and guessing on the lowest priority. It was all about me just doing my thing for my enjoyment. Saw a girl across the street. and waited relaxed for her to come over, (there was no rushed feeling of "Manning up") then I just casually ran over and talked to her. Cute brunette with big grannyish hipster glasses, turns out she was kinda checking me out already and she kept appologizing to me about being awkward. I just told her it was ok and kept talking. Its soooo cool to talk to girls and not feel rushed. You can just take your time. turns out she has a boy friend and so I told her we could be friends with sexual tension. Gave her a hug and said good bye. Butter smooth.  

4. Walk up to cute black girl said some shit like hey youre cute wanted to say hi. Went in really normal and friendly, crossed the street with her to the street car stop and told her I'd wait with her till it came (it was just down the street.) blah blah blah shooting the shit, something about modeling, pretty standard no fire works. Gave her a hug and left. I was chill but my verbals were less smooth than last time. 

5. felt good two numbers from just crossing the intersection in the span of like 5 minutes. Talked to a group of three walked in like it was my group of friends,  youre cute blah blah blah.  I just started talking, one of them makes fun of me for having my fly undone and they all laugh, i kinda just look down and say its it? then say thats alright, and left it undone haha. kept talking. The one I approached said she had a bf, and i said my standard retorts to that.  Then the other one said her name is over it, as in shes over it, and for a moment they expected me to leave, but i just stood there still in my own space haha and so THEY had to leave haha. Shit just slides right off. I think with this one my verbals werent perfect but they were pretty smooth. I reached just a little bit.

6. My friend brought out his gf to chill with us and she is really cute, and kinda defiant, i was really attracted to her and also i felt really comfortable talking to her too. It was sweet. So i kinda kept a bit of distance because i didnt want to make a move on my friends gf, so we just talked abit, At this point I was still in my own space and wasnt trying to impress anyone. As the night went on I started acting more hyper and showoffy like a school boy haha, to indirectly get her attention. it was weird, so I held off from that, and my RAS kept focusing on her, so I tried to resist wich made me avoidant, and started acting a liittle bit weird. Started to turn into that  headspace where everything i did was to either avoid talking to her so I wont act weird or if i talked to her it was weird because suddenly talking to her was a big deal and so i felt tense and awkward. The intense "lazer glare" resurfaced as if I was trying to beam something in her head. Actually now that i think of it I think its a defense mechanism agaisnt being seen as nervous. I'll just glare at them intesely so i wont come off as being scared to look at them normally. Really fucked up head space. Like I wasn't just being normal like her friend anymore it was like everything gravitated towards her. Maybe thats the pedestal in action. Kinda pissed off about this cuz it would be cool to be her friend, I just gotta not turn into a fucking mega caveman chode. I think its beccause I gave her too much weight in my reality. and It totally pulled me off center, and so my brain just started feasting on garbage thoughts of tactics, avoidance, worry ifi fuck it up. Just plain garbage. Lol I was scared to openly vibe with her anymore like we were doing at the begining which i was enjoying a lot. Its like im Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. Except Mr. Hyde is some weird gollum like needy crippled groveling mutant. Im gonna just practice being friends with girls and have that kind of relationship rather than having that old "gaming habit "kick in.

Texts later. with hipster glasses

me: Hey whats up, this is my number -Huckleberry
her: Hey Huck, how was the building :) (I was going urban exploring)
Me: Sick lol . Found some cool places. The view was awesome. Lol id love to dress up and break into a random roof top and do a date with candles music and slow dancing above the city. haha would be so much fun
her: with me? ;3
Me:lol You have a boy friend already ;P
her:Ugh yah I know
Her: would still like to get to know you. :)
Her:I cant lie, i had a huge smile on my face tonight. lol
Me: Lol hoestly youre pretty cute.
Me: lol oh well..
Her:Does it mean we cant hang out? Im curious about you
Me:  Lol What do you want to know?
Her: about you lol you seem interesting
Me:Im reeeaallyyy boring I promise you.
her: sorry you just caught me by surprise tonite, yes I have bf I wanted to be upfront, but it hasnt rly been going well.
Me: Lol alright. Lets just be friends. I need more plutonic female friends anyway haha.

Then i told her to add me on fb and she did. Thing Ive been doing lately. Not sure about it.
I wasnt really trying at all with her and just had a bit of fun with it. I'd love some feed back on it tho. And what i could of done different.

Feed back my freinds gf would be cool too. Help me understand what this mega chode creature is.

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