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Great Idea Mark, I'll be next than
Hey everyone,
My name is Ramiro and my forum name will be Eclect
I was at the free seminar yesterday and became a social chair for the inner circle Amsterdam.
Utrecht is where I live now, which is only half an hour away. So I will be looking for cool stuff to do in Amstedam and also Utrecht.
Still a student, my study is Social Psychology in Utrecht University and interests are playing guitar, learning japanese martial arts and self actualisation.
We got a short explanation about the different functions for the inner circle and I will do my best to fullfil mine but this is all new very new to me so I am learning ofcourse.
The first things that pop in my head that I would be interested in and would consider investigating is:
1. Finding out what kind of hobby's and interest people have here and finding stuff in Utrecht/Amsterdam that could correspond to that.
2. Eating venues in Utrecht and Amsterdam. Maybe by means of groups that would try out different restaurants every once in a while and letting people know if it was worth while.
3. Trying out different clubs in Utrecht/Amsterdam and do not only field reports but also let others know if it would generally be a cool place to go to and/or bring other friends to.
4. A fun thing I would like to experiment with is finding out where people's comfort zones are in terms of trying out new stuff. Then maybe we could discuss about ways to find activity's that would be fun/helpfull to do in order to help expand your comfort zone with people who may have the same angle. For example I have friends who love to go out but who believe they are out fo their comfort zone when they go to busy nigh clubs, but would try it if they could go with more people. Or maybe people would love to pickup a salsa course but haven't had the guts yet. Who knows:p
This is just an initial list of the top of my head ofcourse and curious to hear what you guys think:).
My hystory with the community started six years ago and I have known RSD for 4 years.
I started out pretty traditional with mostly outer game stuff but soon realized that in my case I had to start with myself first so I went inner game only for a time.
With an average of two girls a year I wasn't really pushing myself because I thought it would just happen anyway. But even though it sometimes happened for me, I knever knew how I got there and I was never happy with these girls. There would always be issues that where not the kind of issues I would accept in dating or a relationship now.
That's why I could relate to what you said in your earlier post Mark, I started having more succes after I worked on my inner game of seeing the world, women and people in general very differenly than before. Way more positive also.
I was just an 18 year old kid with no experience and an unhealthy awe for beautifull women so from the moment I read 'golden oldies' like, "don't put women on a pedestal and you are the prize" I was blown away. As simple as it may sound now, that kind of stuff changed my world. I started to get good with chalenging girls in a fun way and teasing them to a point of interest. I got more comfortable putting myself out there and when I started to feel like this would be a chanse really get better at this.... I fell in love with a girl, threw everything at her that I thought I knew back then and it worked really well.
I say worked well, because she admited later to me that she initially was not in love or interested in me at all when we first met but that there was just 'something about the way I behaved' that really got her interested, it was an amazing experience. It made me feel like, hey *** this stuff actually has potential to work because this was not just some coincidental girl I met somewhere who happened to like me because she confused friendship with attraction.
So then I got a girlfriend and try to keep up by reading and viewing material but I soon lost that edge I felt I had back than because there was just no need. I had a healthy and really fun relation ship with this girl for over 4 years but the feelings dried up and now I am single again. I am going out more and getting better again, but I am noticing that the relationship has really made me rusty and I need to reboot. Therefore I rejoined and am planning on working on pickup and self improvement in general and learning with all of you instead of alone behind a computer.
The way Papa discribed the inner circle sounded really awesome and I hope we can make something great out of this like how it happened in Canada and America. Will definitely try being on every meeting.
Grtz and all the best,
Eclect
Hey everyone,
My name is Ramiro and my forum name will be Eclect
I was at the free seminar yesterday and became a social chair for the inner circle Amsterdam.
Utrecht is where I live now, which is only half an hour away. So I will be looking for cool stuff to do in Amstedam and also Utrecht.
Still a student, my study is Social Psychology in Utrecht University and interests are playing guitar, learning japanese martial arts and self actualisation.
We got a short explanation about the different functions for the inner circle and I will do my best to fullfil mine but this is all new very new to me so I am learning ofcourse.
The first things that pop in my head that I would be interested in and would consider investigating is:
1. Finding out what kind of hobby's and interest people have here and finding stuff in Utrecht/Amsterdam that could correspond to that.
2. Eating venues in Utrecht and Amsterdam. Maybe by means of groups that would try out different restaurants every once in a while and letting people know if it was worth while.
3. Trying out different clubs in Utrecht/Amsterdam and do not only field reports but also let others know if it would generally be a cool place to go to and/or bring other friends to.
4. A fun thing I would like to experiment with is finding out where people's comfort zones are in terms of trying out new stuff. Then maybe we could discuss about ways to find activity's that would be fun/helpfull to do in order to help expand your comfort zone with people who may have the same angle. For example I have friends who love to go out but who believe they are out fo their comfort zone when they go to busy nigh clubs, but would try it if they could go with more people. Or maybe people would love to pickup a salsa course but haven't had the guts yet. Who knows:p
This is just an initial list of the top of my head ofcourse and curious to hear what you guys think:).
My hystory with the community started six years ago and I have known RSD for 4 years.
I started out pretty traditional with mostly outer game stuff but soon realized that in my case I had to start with myself first so I went inner game only for a time.
With an average of two girls a year I wasn't really pushing myself because I thought it would just happen anyway. But even though it sometimes happened for me, I knever knew how I got there and I was never happy with these girls. There would always be issues that where not the kind of issues I would accept in dating or a relationship now.
That's why I could relate to what you said in your earlier post Mark, I started having more succes after I worked on my inner game of seeing the world, women and people in general very differenly than before. Way more positive also.
I was just an 18 year old kid with no experience and an unhealthy awe for beautifull women so from the moment I read 'golden oldies' like, "don't put women on a pedestal and you are the prize" I was blown away. As simple as it may sound now, that kind of stuff changed my world. I started to get good with chalenging girls in a fun way and teasing them to a point of interest. I got more comfortable putting myself out there and when I started to feel like this would be a chanse really get better at this.... I fell in love with a girl, threw everything at her that I thought I knew back then and it worked really well.
I say worked well, because she admited later to me that she initially was not in love or interested in me at all when we first met but that there was just 'something about the way I behaved' that really got her interested, it was an amazing experience. It made me feel like, hey *** this stuff actually has potential to work because this was not just some coincidental girl I met somewhere who happened to like me because she confused friendship with attraction.
So then I got a girlfriend and try to keep up by reading and viewing material but I soon lost that edge I felt I had back than because there was just no need. I had a healthy and really fun relation ship with this girl for over 4 years but the feelings dried up and now I am single again. I am going out more and getting better again, but I am noticing that the relationship has really made me rusty and I need to reboot. Therefore I rejoined and am planning on working on pickup and self improvement in general and learning with all of you instead of alone behind a computer.
The way Papa discribed the inner circle sounded really awesome and I hope we can make something great out of this like how it happened in Canada and America. Will definitely try being on every meeting.
Grtz and all the best,
Eclect
Allright
My name is Armindo therefore I go by R-do.
I'm interested in self development, arts of the normal and martial kind and just all round having a good time.
A friend of mine showed me the Blueprint wich is where RSD and working on 'game' started for me. It's also part of me becoming more outgoing and social as I used to be locked up in my own head very much. Was always too conscious of what other thought (or might think) of me, wich does not help on improving life. It's a work in process, I already improved a lot but still have ways more to go! =]
My 'game' was actually non existent. I knew nothing of approaching women let alone would I have dared to just adress strangers! I was completely dependend on noticing a girl taking an interest in me, and even then it would be hard for me to take any steps! All the girlfriends I had where through the social circle one way or another. I guess verbal game would be the the biggest pittfall for me as I used to have no idea what to talk about whatsoever unless I was talking to close friends!
As I said though.. I have gone through some improvements but still have much to learn! And that's where RSD and the Amsterdam chapter falls into place for me!
So I hope we can all get along, have some great times and experience awesome new and challenging things together!
Peace!
R-do
My name is Armindo therefore I go by R-do.
I'm interested in self development, arts of the normal and martial kind and just all round having a good time.
A friend of mine showed me the Blueprint wich is where RSD and working on 'game' started for me. It's also part of me becoming more outgoing and social as I used to be locked up in my own head very much. Was always too conscious of what other thought (or might think) of me, wich does not help on improving life. It's a work in process, I already improved a lot but still have ways more to go! =]
My 'game' was actually non existent. I knew nothing of approaching women let alone would I have dared to just adress strangers! I was completely dependend on noticing a girl taking an interest in me, and even then it would be hard for me to take any steps! All the girlfriends I had where through the social circle one way or another. I guess verbal game would be the the biggest pittfall for me as I used to have no idea what to talk about whatsoever unless I was talking to close friends!
As I said though.. I have gone through some improvements but still have much to learn! And that's where RSD and the Amsterdam chapter falls into place for me!
So I hope we can all get along, have some great times and experience awesome new and challenging things together!
Peace!
R-do
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Sup' guys!
David here, currently cruising through life in Amsterdam! I was pretty occupied with this intense liberal arts & science study program last year, but summer has arrived and it's full focus-time again on my other interests! (which happen to include pick-up, among various others)
Let's make this inner circle thing happen!
David
David here, currently cruising through life in Amsterdam! I was pretty occupied with this intense liberal arts & science study program last year, but summer has arrived and it's full focus-time again on my other interests! (which happen to include pick-up, among various others)
Let's make this inner circle thing happen!
David
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Hey guys whatsup? i was at the freetour today(which was awsome btw) and was interested in this whole inner circle deal.
I am a student of higher education in the city Den Bosch which is also where i live. ive been lurking these forums for a while now and only recently decided that i really want to change. inspired by some other field reports i want out and started doing some day time approaches which mostly involve asking for directions(mostly to get over my social anxiety i guess).
At first i thought about doing this stuff alone because i feel like i want to do this shit by myself and not depend on someone else, but after hearing jeffy say how importent it is to go out with like minded individuals i thought id post here and see what happens.
ps: does anyone know where to get the freetour bonus stuff?
I am a student of higher education in the city Den Bosch which is also where i live. ive been lurking these forums for a while now and only recently decided that i really want to change. inspired by some other field reports i want out and started doing some day time approaches which mostly involve asking for directions(mostly to get over my social anxiety i guess).
At first i thought about doing this stuff alone because i feel like i want to do this shit by myself and not depend on someone else, but after hearing jeffy say how importent it is to go out with like minded individuals i thought id post here and see what happens.
ps: does anyone know where to get the freetour bonus stuff?
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Hi everybody,
Just came back from an awesome weekend in Amsterdam. My name is Andy and I'm from Belgium. The reason I join this forum is to learn, teach and have a little bit of fun ofcourse. A couple of years ago I started to pick up pick up again and so I came across RSD Nation. This is for me the best information (not only about pick up) found on the internet. Let's see where this goes... :)
@ Loveblow: check your email from Real Social Dynamics. The first link leads you right there.
@ Jeffy: If ze Germans release Funnybot upon us it's YOUR FAULT! ;)
www.youtube.com/watch
Just came back from an awesome weekend in Amsterdam. My name is Andy and I'm from Belgium. The reason I join this forum is to learn, teach and have a little bit of fun ofcourse. A couple of years ago I started to pick up pick up again and so I came across RSD Nation. This is for me the best information (not only about pick up) found on the internet. Let's see where this goes... :)
@ Loveblow: check your email from Real Social Dynamics. The first link leads you right there.
@ Jeffy: If ze Germans release Funnybot upon us it's YOUR FAULT! ;)
www.youtube.com/watch
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did not recieve a link. I know i was on time for the bonus so i guess they made a mistake?
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Hi Guys!
Name is Anton, I live not too far from the city, on the Dutch border. I came here to learn, share, and have a blast!
Name is Anton, I live not too far from the city, on the Dutch border. I came here to learn, share, and have a blast!
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did not recieve a link. I know i was on time for the bonus so i guess they made a mistake?
I've got an email from Real Social Dynamics: Thank you for ordering from rsd. This emails has the jeffyfreetourbonus, the address from the hotel + info and the rsdfreetour bonus. I suppose everybody who made a $25 (refundable) deposit gets this email. Maybe you should send an email to support@realsocialdynamics.com for more info.
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i got that email but there wasnt a link in there.
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Hey @lovebelow
That probably is because you ordered later than their offer limit.
The offer was that if you ordered before a certain date (forgot what it was) you would get the bonuses. Anyone ordering after that that got regulated to the same page but without those bonuses.
Happy to have new guys here, and most definitely would be cool to meet you again at our future events and on random nights out. The more people that join, the easier it will be to find people who live around the same places that you can go out with.
We do post here from time to time but we are most active on our facebook group. We found that this is easier and quicker to stay in contact and to plan events aswell as quick nights out with however might be interested that week.
If you want to join the facebook group just let us know here what your facebook name is or pm me so one of the board members can add you to the facebook group.
Grtz
Eclect
That probably is because you ordered later than their offer limit.
The offer was that if you ordered before a certain date (forgot what it was) you would get the bonuses. Anyone ordering after that that got regulated to the same page but without those bonuses.
Happy to have new guys here, and most definitely would be cool to meet you again at our future events and on random nights out. The more people that join, the easier it will be to find people who live around the same places that you can go out with.
We do post here from time to time but we are most active on our facebook group. We found that this is easier and quicker to stay in contact and to plan events aswell as quick nights out with however might be interested that week.
If you want to join the facebook group just let us know here what your facebook name is or pm me so one of the board members can add you to the facebook group.
Grtz
Eclect
markzor
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Join Date: 11/25/2009 | Posts: 810
Did you visit the free tour yesterday?
Then guess who is this.... Right! Markzor = Mark!
I'll write a field report of the evening this day. I think there are some interesting lessons if you take a moment to stop and think about the evening!
Of course, you guys are only involved in the first part. How did your evening turn out? I ended up at a REALLY awesome bar. But they only give parties a few time each year, so it's not going to be my new favorite place.
I already have gotten to know some of you, but to build a local community, let's introduce ourselves again here!
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I started this journey in november 2009... so I am more than a year-and-a-half in. I was just your typical Mr. Nice Guy that ends up in the friendzone. Always had lots of female friends (which usually started with me liking them...), and I barely had any guy-friends. (Could not handle the macho/dominance thing very well in high school -- I was insecure and I didn't feel comfortable with those guys always needing to be so dominant and macho. Fortunately, I now appreciate this male charateristic. Still don't have many male friends, though)
The first three months were really mind-shattering. A whole new world opened up for me. There were lots ofs lessons to be learned, and I had massive ups & downs regarding the nights itself.
After a few months however, I still didn't get laid, and some yuck-feeling starts building up. I am about to give this whole endevour up ("what was I thinking?"); but I remember to persevere, and indeed, I get my first fuckbuddy in februari 2010. I met & had sex with her in under two hours, I believe.
Succes seems so far away if you don't have it - and then when you are suddenly "there", you realize it was all the time just around the corner.
My first fuckbuddy didn't last long, because it was only physical fucking. That isn't worth much, unless you put sex on a pedestal. But sex won't make you happy, I learned. So I focused on having multiple long-term relationships. I got another cherish in march, which I have seen for a year. In the next couple of months, about a dozen or so make-outs and a couple of day2's. I get another cherish in may 2010; but that only lasts a few months. Turns out pushing for a quality relationship only limits you. It forces you to be unnatural, and you miss oppertunities for adventure and ONS.
So in the summer 2010, I wanted to do more pick-up, have more adventure, and have some ONS. However, I hit another plateau and my results stagnate. A couple of make-outs, and that's. Again, a kind of yuck-feeling of frustration starts building up.
In august-september 2011, I realize why I had no results. I thought I knew the basics and had learned my lessons.... But I lacked any focus, and failed to apply the knowledge and lessons. I was just expecting things to happen. So I had some major epiphanies and focused back on the basics. I had more make-outs, more fun, and was enjoying the proces. I fucked 5 girls in one month! I had two cherishes, two ONS, and slept with one girl I have a history with.
My newest cherish, however, really got me. I was invincible, but she saw the cracks: She gave me love where I couldn't give myself love. (That's why: always love yourself more than anybody else does!). I didn't want a relationship (or so I thought) or abandon my oldest cherish. I did not pick up much anymore, because I had my hands full. In the meanwhile, school was more demanding and I needed to focus on that.
Februari 2011, my cherisch breaks up with me. She leaves for a guy who *does* want a relationship. Fuck. I realize how in love I am, and end up crying for a month. It was the heaviest heartache I had in my whole live, and I only knew her for 3-4 months! But it was intense! In march-april 2011 I recover a bit... slept with my two ONS again (yeah, easy pull..)... but there is not much going on. Currently, I am busy getting my undergraduate which puts an insane amount of pressure on me. That really fucks up my game; because I have no time, and also because the pressure makes me feel stressed & bad about myself.
EDIT: Still busy with finishng my bachelor, *sigh*. Only a couple of weeks now! But I've been "on fire" again lately, having a few successes here and there. Mostly due to a 10-day meditation retreat (I guess) and focusing on being really comfortalble and relaxed :) (Alexander-style of game)
Cheers,
Mark