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December 8th, 2016
30 Day challenge! Starting after first successful approach
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Grunt

Grunt

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Join Date: 02/14/2011 | Posts: 154

 Halloo, so Im starting a 30 day challenge of approachin girls after I finally came off a successful approach grabbing a number. My goal is simple, approach at leat one girl a day and get to know her, ask for her number if I want to. I have tried to do one of these in the past but have failed due to restlessness, and not being able to go out. I may not always have time to go out specificly for approaches, but im going to make it a habit to do so as Im about town. I am going to be approaching, rather then "doing" the approach. I know I can do this, I had a massive realization of my potenchial when I closed the other day, and I want to do this for me. It is the biggest task I want to accomplish. and if I am successful and smart while doing this, I probably will take more from doing this then anything else. Approaching will be something of a hobbie now, I have somwhat made it public after having success, and once I get even more success and start to get day two's, if will be arbitrary that my social circle and family find out I "play the game". So yah, It may only be one approach, or five, who knows. Im taking this seriously now, and know it's something I need to push myself to do. 
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Grunt

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 Well this day has been so far a failure. Right as I was about to hit the mall for some CA, this chick at my work texted me and reminded me I had to pick her up breakfast sanwitches and bring them to her, my work is like 2 mins away from my house, and I didnt have the time to go back out to the mall because i had to bring back my moms car so she could go to work. This is what I was talking about, the inablity to go out due to unpredictable circumstances, and just plain busyness. It does not matter though, I have realized it's not all about going out stricly for approaching, because if you have life and work alot, its just not possible. But what Ive found to be very usefull and highly reccomend is to talk to as many people as possible when you are out n about being busy. "Being" social is key, Im planning on bartending school so I know I need to start being social every chance I get. Being consistant ais key, and when you have something like a job coming up that requires you to be social, its great motivation. So far today I have approached one guy at the gym, my buddies dad, he is very quiet and I barely have talked to him really. But I was said whatever and started a conversation. With those kind of people, you have to lead the conversation constantly, starting new topics, expressing curiosity to what there saying, and haveing a huge smile. It's actully quite sad, most of the people I know are like this and it's annoying. After getting into this RSD stuff a half a year ago, I have realized how anti-social my peer group is, and how talking to strangers is actull more normal then to walk by and be a walking plug. 
So stats so far today, talked to a couple girls, gave a couple teases, and approached one guy, woop dy fucking do. Well, at least I made an effore. Consistancy and disipline bitches. 
Oh, and I tried to start a day two spontaniously with a girl I closed, but she was sleeping. whateves.
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 Change up! Instedad of doing approaches, im hanging with two girls. The girl i closed at starbucks, and her friend. Im a bit nervous, but its nothing new. after I showered and groomed up I felt better. I set it up at work, she asked me when i was free, already know she likes me, from about 5 mins of talking to her, and 15 mins of talk on fb, I must have game. But tonight im nto running any game, Im just gonna be myself, live, laugh, adn enjoy these girls. See what there all about. I dont even know what she planning to do, it could be from a walk in the park, to a threesome, who fuckin knows. All I know is, im excited, before I would get nervous and butthurt. Now all I want is THIS. I love this excitement and nervousness, its like an adrenaline rush. Fuck yah RSD. 8 months ago, I couldnt talk to a girl sober whithout shaking or choding out completely, now Im pulling 9's out of a starbucks? Best shit ive ever learnt, who needs school. 
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 So my day 2 with the girl i pulled was alright, to be honest, I dont think I got anywhere with her. I think it was because she was very quiet and unresponsive. When we were at the bar, I was talking to her alot, trying to figure out what the fuck made her tick, I even asked her, what makes you tick, she said idk. It annoyed me, I put in effort with this girl, and she gave me sqaut. I wouldnt give a shit, but the fact that I got her number randomly, and was asked to go out with her and her friends, by HER, made me think she must be decently talkative and into me. The fact she was quiet and w.e made me think she wasnt into me that much, and it brought down my confidense. A guy friend of hers and her friend that shes only known for a couple days was very comferteble, and was touchy physical with her. WOW, I just realized I could have easily been physical with her at the bar, I jsut didn think of it. WTF. Damn, tha probaly would of changed things alot, because you can definitely tell and girl is alot more conferterble with you once youv gotten physical. Overall, ok night, didnt really get anywhere.
Sticking points:
1. I need to be physical, I think I overthought it too much, and didnt know when to do it. I just need to be physical in small ways as much as I can so she gets mroe comferterble.
2. I need to make my voice my "normal tone", ratehr then deepining it like I did. She couldnt here me sometimes, thats a big indication.
3. I teased her, but If im going to tease her, I need to be physical at the same time.
4. I need to be very outgoing and have a high energy level when she is not that responsive. SELF AMMUSEMENT.

Questions:
1. How can I be more self ammused, what are some ways to work on self ammusing.
2. Being physical, when should I start being physical. IT felt a bit weird because this was the first time I had a day 2 with a cold approach pull.
3. What is something that will get me into the state of not giving a fuck, that I can do infront of the girls, without them thinking im a fuckin weirdo.

Edit: This girl was brought up religously, and has never been in a relationship. So im confused as to how easily it was to get her number. I think I put the friend game on so much, it made her into me. How do I know if she only wants to be friends? What could be my next move, if there is one.
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