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I can't believe I missed this article I CAN'T FUCKING BELIEVE IT
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/pick-girls-take-total-responsibi...

Cool :)

SELF-INDUCED NEGATIVITY

1/ Context

I spent months on end banging my head against the same wall.

"Why am I not banging the hottest girls on the regular ? It's not fair... I put so much time in it ! My game can be awesome at times ! I am a nice person ! Why isn't it happening ? WHYYYYYYYY ?????"

A night would consist of going out (alone and sober most of the time), choding out for some time, not enjoying myself. I would finally start to approach, sometimes even meet a very hot girl, but would always lose her at some point. She leaves after the talk, or the make out, or the pull home. 
So I'd start to ask myself "WHYYYYYYY ????? WHYYYYYYYY ?????????"
Game sucks, I suck, I am a failure, etc. 

Next night I go out, I chode out even harder, I force myself to approach, and lose another girl. 
I come back home. "WHYYYYYYY ????? WHYYYYYYYYYYYY ???????????".

Next time I go out again, even more drained, I chode out even harder, I suck even more. 
"WHYYYYYYYY ???????????????????? WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY??????????????"

There was a pattern here. Instead of viewing every interaction as a win and a step to success, I viewed every interaction as a loss. I didn't fuck the girl, so I am a loser. My game sucks. Etc. In retroaction, MY CONFIDENCE STARTED TO VANISH.
And this is the real reason I started to suck. My results actually aligned themselves on my lower confidence. This reinforced the fact I sucked, etc. 


2/ Definition

I call Self-Induced Negativity (SIN) the negativity that invades your mind by practicing MORE and getting LESS results. 

SIN puts you in a downward spiral of failure.
SIN is the fall of man.
SIN is the roots of all evil. 


3/ Symptoms

You focus on what your RESULTS should be instead of what your ACTIONS should be. 
You feel bad and out of state. 
Meeting a girl is a trial and not something fun. 
You become super outcome dependent because getting a hot girl is the only thing that can help you keep your sanity. 
And most importantly, SIN has become a HABIT. You can't get rid of it. It always comes back, one day or the other. 


4/ Solutions

You have to think long term. For the next X-weeks, not getting girls is not a big deal. You still go out though, but you focus on something else. 

You have to learn how to have fun without needing to fuck hot girls for that. You do that by going out just for the sake of going out. Go to fun places, go out with friends, new people, don't even approach, don't do anything that can make you feel bad for some time. 
The beauty of it is that you'll quickly get bored because there is so much to do in a bar, so if you've approached hardcore before you'll finally feel the need to approach girls FOR YOUR OWN FUN. You approach because it's something you do, not because you have to. 

I remember one of my best night state wise was during an off night with a friend. We went to a bar I had a hard time approaching in. I was feeling so good and relieved that I didn't have to approach that my vibe was instantly attractive to the girls. I made out with a few girls in that bar without doing anything, and I didn't give a fuck. 

This goes back to this article: http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/pick-girls-take-total-responsibi... that nobody fucking read, not even me before lol. In it, Alex describes the idea of designing your week as opposed to doing the same thing every night. 
What I used to do, especially when I started going out hardcore, was trying to do the same things on Friday and Tuesday. It made everything more difficult, beacuse there was no decent club opened on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. 

Alex advises to do this - and I think it is genius:
*Don't go out 7x a week, so you don't become unidimensional (and proactively prevent any SIN to appear)
*One night a week is for learning, i. e. you focus on only one thing and you man the fuck up (this is what I used to do every night).
*One night is for winning, i.e. there is nothing to learn anymore, you are enough, you do what you can and you fuck the girl
*One night is for celebrating, i. e. you don't give a shit about PU anymore, you go out with your buddies, get wasted or whatever, and game is none of your concern - although you'll obviously approach because it's fun.
*Add one night to socialize with friends
*and the other nights to work, develop your hobbies, whatever. 
This way of designing your week is genius because it proactively eliminates SIN, and maximize your chances of finding going out fun and enjoyable. 

You can also try an extended positivity challenge, it can help a lot. 

The last key is your criteria for success. Change it. Spend 30 days on that only . Success is that you approached, nothing more. Even if you lose many girls that way, if you TRUST that the process will transform you, you'll be succesful. 

And when start becoming less outcome dependent, having more fun, being more carefree and positive throughout the night, all the while taking action, results will start to pile in, and you'll put yourself in an upward spiral of success. 

HOW TO GET GIRLS IN 2013 FOR PARIS BOUM BOUM

SNL game
This is the core of my game, and this is the only game I have lol. 
In 2013, I will keep the SNL game to a minimum, Fri and Sat. I'll go hardcore at it though. 

Day game
I never do day game. 
In 2013 , I will learn day game and fuck hot girls during the afternoon.

Week design
Here is what I'll try to follow:
MON: hobby night
TUE: hobby night
WED: social night (meet friends in a bar)
THU: learning night (go out alone, sober, and man the fuck up)
FRI: winning night (hardcore SNL game, with one wing)
SAT: fun night (go out with friends, drink, fuck bitches)
SUN: meditation lol IDK yet

Also if I want to do lots of daygame, I have to set aside at least one night for D2s.