THE FORUMS

06-24-12
Saturday

I'm sick but I go out - yay. 

I can't be fucked to write everything. 

I remember I kissed a short girl with nice boobz. 

Also a not so cute girl with very nice boobz kissed me. I was rubbing her boobz because they were nice and I had nothing better to do. 

I approached well a blonde girl I was afraid of talking to. She was cute and had nice boobz, but I realized too late she was chubby, so I didn't push it. 

Got a few "rejections", talked to people, had nice reactions, blah blah blah. 

I tried to pull a nice brunette with short hair and nice boobz who seemed hot. She has a BF, doesn't want to cheat on him, likes me but no go. 

etc etc

So why was I feeling bad and thinking I was having a shitty night ? That bugs me. I have to get rid of that, and this will take some time. 

UPDATE

-Fucked the Library Girl I was impressed with back in the day. Super slutty chick.

-Fucked a girl using the Phantom Approach (ie not say a word before 1h into set, then say as little as possible), fingered her in the car, I got complimented. 
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/234695/forum

-Hanging out with new natural friends. 

-3 next days in Paris, are gonna be insane, Bastille Day this weekend.

07-12-12
Thursday

LR: ZEBOOBZ

Go out with new natural friend. 
Get drinks. 
Ha ha. 
Go to venue. 

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I shaved my beautiful hair again - AND I kept my beard. So now I look like Al-Qaeda. 
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I feel self-conscious. I joke with my buddy: "Dude, if I can get laid with those looks, ze sky will be the limit".
There is a hot blonde. I hesitate. I go in. But I hesitate. She's super hot. I goes not so well and I laugh at it. It makes me realize that looks truly don't matter. 
Because I saw it was my hesitations that made the interaction so uninteresting. 

I see a hot hot brunette I approached a while ago. I am afraid to appraoch her, but I do. I get super physical asap because she's hot. I rub her ass, it feels good. My verbals are still off, but I went there - ze winning. 

We go to another bar. Same stuff i.e. I can't believe girls want to fuck Al-Qaeda, so not much happen, I stifle myself a lot. 

Last bar. 
I see an ok-cute girl with massive, massive SUPERBOOBZ(tm). Ok she's chubby, ha, but I can't get my eyes off of her boobz.
I'm still stifled, I say fuck it, and approach her. 

Say shit, get physical, calibrate, kiss, make out, feel boobz, dance a bit to show I'm normal, grab her to a corner, finger her after a few attempts, her friends are taking pictures, get her out, finger her in the street, taxi, my place, I fuck her from behind at my window, looking at the rain falling, her massive boobz bouncing everywhere. 

One of my most recent realizations comes from hanging out with new naturals, and this video articulates very well what I wasn't understanding before:



In short, I never had any strategy, whereas those guys are only about strategy, which is why they fuck so much. 

They have built their social ecosystem in a way that when a girl comes in the circle, she having fun fun fun with awesome guys, then she's alone with one of them and she wants to fuck him. 

There is a strategy there, ie to fuck a girl take your time, make her enjoy your social circle to get more and more comfortable with you, do stuff with her and your friends so that you're not a random person anymore, and from there it's easy to isolate and fuck her. 

The funny part is how they don't understand what I am doing. One of them told me yesterday "dude, with X- friend you are my masters, how are you doing what you are doing ?". YET the same night I pull and fucked the girl with big boobz within 30 min, he also pulled. The difference is this: he was amazed I could pull after so little time, and that I fucked her the same night, while he spent time with his girl, did stuff but no lay. But what happened the day after ?
SHE WAS STILL HERE. She was willing to spend more time with him, see how he is with his friends, blah blah, she had a good time, and from there it was too easy to isolate and fuck her (which I assume he did yesterday). It's very relaxed and chill, whereas I am more in a mood where I am trying to make things happen alone against the world. 

The only strategy I had was not conscious, and this is the big thing I learned. 
My strategy so far is: get the girl so turned on she wants to leave the venue with you to fuck you. 
But I am consistently getting the girls I want ? No. 
So maybe I should address the still virgin strategic facet of my game.

What is my strategy ? And what is my goal ?

STRATEGY

I realize now my strategy has always been SNL game. 

I was kind of thinking the only way to get girls is by SNL game. I can't deny it's the most exciting kind of game I know of, because you meet a girl you've never seen before, and some time later you are fucking her. It's thrilling. 

There are downsides to sticking to it though. If things are not working the way I want, I feel bad because I think I can't reach my goals. This comes from thinking SNL game is the only way to reach my goals. I learned to be too pushy that way, trying to hard to make things work with the wrong set of tools.

As I understood from Todd's video, my goals were not determined well enough to prevent me from being frustrated at times. I can't count the times where I should have been happy from a SNL standpoint, because I'm with a girl and I can pull her and fuck her, but actually feel sad, frustrated, and DITCH HER out of anger because I don't feel I am reaching my goals. 

The reason is now obvious.
The SNL strategy is not the best suited to get the hot girls I want consistently. 
A 9.9 is not so desperate for sex she'll ditch her friends and orbiters to fuck me within 30 min. She has too many options to do that. She has a few FBs on dial, and will call one or the other at the end of the night. To get her, I not only need to be good, I also need to be BETTER. So she needs to know me more, and need more time to express my personality. 

That's why my new natural friends are so amazing. 
The buddy is was with yesterday is the epitome of that. He takes his time. When he's with a girl, she's surprised because she gets to know him, and he's super super "high value". They can't believe it. Then they meet his friends, who are also cool as fuck high value guys. It's a great social experience for the girl, who probably doesn't know many people that interesting in her own life. She KNOWS that if she leaves, it will be her loss. So when they leave, she leaves with them. But where does it lead to ? To yet another cool party. She's taken from venue to venue, enjoying herself with great people, and the guy is not trying to get anything from her, he's not pushy at all, he's "cool and friendly". I think at one point she's thinking "omg why isn't he fucking me now, am I good enough for him ?". 
That's why they're very, very compliant. 
The girl I approached yesterday for my buddy ditched her group of 5 female friends just to stay with us, for example. 

And she was a great girl. I actually was a bit jealous lol. Why ? Because in a SNL based game, I rarely see that side of a girl's personality. I screen on a few physical features, and go at it. The girls my buddy was interested in didn't strike my eye at first (a.k.a. no boobz), but I had to admit they were great, and I would have liked to fuck her. 
But to see that side, you have to express it and take time for it, and when I am in SNL mode I rarely do it.

IOW my strategy, my lack of alternative, and of clearly defined and selected goals is what prevented me from getting the results I wanted. 

The positive side of it is that the things I can do are hilarious and very very useful. I feel fairly confident that once in isolation with the girl there's a high probability I fuck her. I grew a thick skin, and I am way more persistent and focused than many people. I think that if my buddy had a bit more of that "warrior mindset", he could fuck even more. 

But now the time has come to actually think about a good strategy to reach well defined goals. My goal has never been to fuck strings of club sluts, but that's what my present strategy is useful for.