THE FORUMS
Could be anything, but it seems to me that you are too invested in everything. You have outcome dependence as they say. I found these to help me a lot:
http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/2-videos-new-article-creating-ultima...
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/perfect-approaching-frame-part-o...
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/perfect-approaching-frame-part-t...
http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/vid-miami-article-exploiting-momentu...
Specially that last article. I found myself that the times when I was like really relaxed and totally detached, yet taking action and being at the cause (ie. self-entitlement) girls would chase me like mad. So my focus from now on - I'll be back, like for real in less than a month, when exams finish - will be to be special. To focus on outcome dependance and not trying at all.
But take in mind that this advice is coming from a chode who hasn't been out gaming properly for months, so take it with a grain of salt.
http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/2-videos-new-article-creating-ultima...
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/perfect-approaching-frame-part-o...
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/perfect-approaching-frame-part-t...
http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/vid-miami-article-exploiting-momentu...
Specially that last article. I found myself that the times when I was like really relaxed and totally detached, yet taking action and being at the cause (ie. self-entitlement) girls would chase me like mad. So my focus from now on - I'll be back, like for real in less than a month, when exams finish - will be to be special. To focus on outcome dependance and not trying at all.
But take in mind that this advice is coming from a chode who hasn't been out gaming properly for months, so take it with a grain of salt.
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Some principles that have been getting me some success:
- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.
- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.
IvánPérez.
Hey Paris, I've been following your journals for a few months now, they are hilarious. I'm just too lazy / bizarrely thinking that I don't have the massive field experience to back up my comments/ to post till now, but anyway. In my experience, I do better when I'm 'humble' then when I think I'm za shit. When I have that voice in my head like 'I'm the shit bitch', I kinda try subnciously to validate it, if that makes sense. So I kinda act a bit too cool
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KJ Trollin'
The 3 commandments of rsdn
Thou shall read The Tolle.
Thou shall eat only Paleo approved food.
Thou shall not jerk off to porn.
My FR Journal:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/201240
'I'm willing to be happy doing anything, even if it sucks, as long as the overall picture is leading me towards an outcome I believe in.
But if it ain't getting me to where I want to go, I'm willing to do ANYTHING to extract myself from that situation. If I have to bloody myself and risk KILLING myself I'll get out of that damned situation and into one that I like.'
The 3 commandments of rsdn
Thou shall read The Tolle.
Thou shall eat only Paleo approved food.
Thou shall not jerk off to porn.
My FR Journal:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/201240
'I'm willing to be happy doing anything, even if it sucks, as long as the overall picture is leading me towards an outcome I believe in.
But if it ain't getting me to where I want to go, I'm willing to do ANYTHING to extract myself from that situation. If I have to bloody myself and risk KILLING myself I'll get out of that damned situation and into one that I like.'
Btw by humble I mean like... Say I have aa, which I still do when I'm with my girl friends especially... Then I talk to myself 'oh wow I'm such a chode' 'hey chodey tough timez?' and I take it less seriously, I realize it's just fun and being retarded who cares
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KJ Trollin'
The 3 commandments of rsdn
Thou shall read The Tolle.
Thou shall eat only Paleo approved food.
Thou shall not jerk off to porn.
My FR Journal:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/201240
'I'm willing to be happy doing anything, even if it sucks, as long as the overall picture is leading me towards an outcome I believe in.
But if it ain't getting me to where I want to go, I'm willing to do ANYTHING to extract myself from that situation. If I have to bloody myself and risk KILLING myself I'll get out of that damned situation and into one that I like.'
The 3 commandments of rsdn
Thou shall read The Tolle.
Thou shall eat only Paleo approved food.
Thou shall not jerk off to porn.
My FR Journal:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/201240
'I'm willing to be happy doing anything, even if it sucks, as long as the overall picture is leading me towards an outcome I believe in.
But if it ain't getting me to where I want to go, I'm willing to do ANYTHING to extract myself from that situation. If I have to bloody myself and risk KILLING myself I'll get out of that damned situation and into one that I like.'

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"I think I had to go away for a while, and do what I felt I should be doing, I had to go away and sort of a step I went down to RADA (Royal Academy of Dramatic Art), and I felt I had to get away to some extent to express myself, and I knew that I could'nT do that in the surroundings that I was in.....in Sheffield. As much as I love the city and I'm proud of it. I knew that I had to go somewhere else to be able to become part of this world I wanted to be in" (Sean Bean, Lord Of the Rings Interview)