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June 18th, 2013
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#41
situation500

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Join Date: 09/07/2010 | Posts: 125

 Hilarious really well written thanks!
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"I think I had to go away for a while, and do what I felt I should be doing, I had to go away and sort of a step I went down to  RADA (Royal Academy of Dramatic Art), and I felt I had to get away to some extent to express myself, and I knew that I could'nT do that in the surroundings that I was in.....in Sheffield. As much as I love the city and I'm proud of it. I knew that I had to go somewhere else to be able to become part of this world I wanted to be in"  (Sean Bean, Lord Of the Rings Interview)
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#42
Paris Boum Boum

Paris Boum Boum

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Join Date: 04/02/2009 | Posts: 2499

Fukc I don't want to write my FRs.

Conclusions from last nights out:

-Just approach = criteria for success, otherwise you'll be too focused on weird shit and become anxious, so you mutliply 10 fold your odds of failing

-Be a selfish prick bastard being of light. Yes.

-Abundance = this means concretely you try something with a girl and if it doesn't work you make out with 5 other girls ALL NIGHT LONG EVERY NIGHT OUT UNTIL YOUR BRAINS FUCKING GETS IT ZOMGWTFLOL
= you don't dwell on anything, you don't try, if it doesn't work you caveman all the others girls. Feelings don't help. Feelings are bad. Unless you feel her boobz which is interesting. 

-Make moves = do something that may get you rejected. If not, you won't get rejected, but you won't get as much humans of the opposite gender as you can.

-Distinction: Going out aimlessly / Learning to lose fear / Learning to play numbers / Learning to fine tune your intuition
Going out aimlessly: won't get you really anywhere. You'll get as much opposite sex as your game can get you, but the progresses can be slow. You're not even sure you'll get girls actually attracted to you.

Learning to lose fear: MOST IMPORTANT STEP. When you have that you can pull girls who are into you, because you are not afraid to interact with them and escalate on them. 

Learning to play numbers: Intermediate step, you try to get girls who are not necessarily into you with mixed success

Learning to finely tune your intuition: You work on getting girls that are not necessarily into you right from the get go. 

OH YOU DON'T AGREE INTERESTING I WRITE IT DOWN IN MY SECRET NOTEPAD KTHXBYE
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#44
Paris Boum Boum

Paris Boum Boum

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Join Date: 04/02/2009 | Posts: 2499

Dear diary,

My game is at an all time low.

I was at a house party and :
-I didn't make out / reproduction with any girl
-I don't understand how come girls hook up with guys different than me. Like for real, I don't get it. 

My night was under the sign of "I don't get it".

There were many girls, not ultra superhot, but:
-Cute girls were afraid of me, really
-One girl, friend of a friend, with HUGEBOOOOOOOOBZ, wasn't into me whereas before, when she wasn't single, she was. Tonight she hooked up with somebody she knew way more, who is less good looking, less funny, less charismatic, less alpha than me. I DON'T GET IT. Of course, my female friend who is always jealous tried to break my interaction a few times, but when all is said and done, I just don't understand why she isn't jumping on my dick. 

This tends to put my in a logical mindset because:
-I'm hot
-I'm super mega smart
-I have social intelligence
-I can be funny
So I'm thinking "WTF girl I would meet you during the day, or be introduced by friends you would be all over me, but now you are playing hard to get, although I know you'll hook up with a less hot/smart/whatever guy ? "

I need input here, so if you have something smart to say, say it know. 

I DON'T GET IT.

I'm like "girl I am the internet of humanity, what ze fuck ? " but it doesn't help me get laid. 

I got even upset when ugs or near ugs where playing games with me, like I was in another dimension. 

After all that time in the field, this is my reward ? ZOPMG

I DON'T GET IT.

Why aren't they asking nicely to suck my cock ? What is wrong with the world ? 

Anyway, another proof that looks don't mean shit, and also that I should practice even more to know what to do when I see something / someone I reallly want.

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKCCCCCCCCCCUK
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#45
Paris Boum Boum

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#46
IvánPérez

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Could be anything, but it seems to me that you are too invested in everything. You have outcome dependence as they say. I found these to help me a lot: 
http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/2-videos-new-article-creating-ultima...
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/perfect-approaching-frame-part-o...
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/perfect-approaching-frame-part-t...
http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/vid-miami-article-exploiting-momentu...

Specially that last article. I found myself that the times when I was like really relaxed and totally detached, yet taking action and being at the cause (ie. self-entitlement) girls would chase me like mad. So my focus from now on - I'll be back, like for real in less than a month, when exams finish - will be to be special. To focus on outcome dependance and not trying at all.

But take in mind that this advice is coming from a chode who hasn't been out gaming properly for months, so take it with a grain of salt.
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Some principles that have been getting me some success:
- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.

IvánPérez.
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#47
Pumba

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Join Date: 05/20/2009 | Posts: 409

Hey Paris, I've been following your journals for a few months now, they are hilarious. I'm just too lazy / bizarrely thinking that I don't have the massive field experience to back up my comments/ to post till now, but anyway. In my experience, I do better when I'm 'humble' then when I think I'm za shit. When I have that voice in my head like 'I'm the shit bitch', I kinda try subnciously to validate it, if that makes sense. So I kinda act a bit too cool
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The 3 commandments of rsdn

Thou shall read The Tolle.
Thou shall eat only Paleo approved food.
Thou shall not jerk off to porn. 


My FR Journal:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/201240 

'I'm willing to be happy doing anything, even if it sucks, as long as the overall picture is leading me towards an outcome I believe in.
But if it ain't getting me to where I want to go, I'm willing to do ANYTHING to extract myself from that situation.  If I have to bloody myself and risk KILLING myself I'll get out of that damned situation and into one that I like.'
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#48
Pumba

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 Btw by humble I mean like... Say I have aa, which I still do when I'm with my girl friends especially... Then I talk to myself 'oh wow I'm such a chode' 'hey chodey tough timez?' and I take it less seriously, I realize it's just fun and being retarded who cares
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KJ Trollin'

The 3 commandments of rsdn

Thou shall read The Tolle.
Thou shall eat only Paleo approved food.
Thou shall not jerk off to porn. 


My FR Journal:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/201240 

'I'm willing to be happy doing anything, even if it sucks, as long as the overall picture is leading me towards an outcome I believe in.
But if it ain't getting me to where I want to go, I'm willing to do ANYTHING to extract myself from that situation.  If I have to bloody myself and risk KILLING myself I'll get out of that damned situation and into one that I like.'
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#49
Paris Boum Boum

Paris Boum Boum

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Join Date: 04/02/2009 | Posts: 2499

Thx, will check this out.
And yeah, I am weirdly outcome dependent. I think the success I had at the beginning was due to the fact that I was so amused and enthused by this new world. Everything was new, I wasn't expecting anything.
Now I feel like a war veteran without his pension, because I spent so much time in the field, I am not reaching my goals and I have to address issues I didn't have 2 years ago. 
Good point. Now I need to figure out what it really means and how to get rid of that. 
IvánPérez wrote:
Could be anything, but it seems to me that you are too invested in everything. You have outcome dependence as they say. I found these to help me a lot: 
http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/2-videos-new-article-creating-ultima...
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/perfect-approaching-frame-part-o...
http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/perfect-approaching-frame-part-t...
http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/vid-miami-article-exploiting-momentu...

Specially that last article. I found myself that the times when I was like really relaxed and totally detached, yet taking action and being at the cause (ie. self-entitlement) girls would chase me like mad. So my focus from now on - I'll be back, like for real in less than a month, when exams finish - will be to be special. To focus on outcome dependance and not trying at all.

But take in mind that this advice is coming from a chode who hasn't been out gaming properly for months, so take it with a grain of salt.

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#50
Paris Boum Boum

Paris Boum Boum

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Join Date: 04/02/2009 | Posts: 2499

Typical bad night:

-I go out late
-I don't get social momentum
-I look for 8-9-10s right away
-I don't approach them because they're in groups / it's too early / I am not enough / I think I am physically too aggressive / I don't have social momentum / I know I'll bomb
-I wait
-I get angry with myself so I apply mechanically "have fun", "get physical", "social momentum", whatever
-I entertaing negative thought loops / start feeling bad / start feeling anxious
-Still scanning the room, waiting for the right time to approach the right girl
-Then the consequences of my lack of action dawn on me, for example, the one girls I liked is leaving, and this makes me angrier
-Also various events throughout the night make think intensely on why I shouldn't do this
Events: ug love me but hottie is leaving, average girl with attitude, random dudes "without game" land hottie and I don't.
Thoughts: I should have invested myself in this, it was all hype, it doesn't work, it doesn't work for me, I am wasting my time, I shouldn't be surrounding myself with so many drunk / "low value" people, I failed my life, etc.
-I still try to push through, and I fail hard with girls. I know my mistakes so I get angry at myself for doing them. Or I don't see them, and I just think this shouldn't be happening. 
-Go home sad, alone, thinking death is a pretty cool guy.
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