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March 28th, 2017
Has a Long Distance Relationship Ever Worked for Anyone?
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#21
Kyle F

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Join Date: 08/04/2010 | Posts: 71

 Oh god it just doesn't work, Even visiting once or twice a month...forget it and move on.
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#22
TheHolyMe

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Join Date: 11/29/2011 | Posts: 41

Friend of mine lives in Holland, his girlfriend lives in Tjech.
They have been seeing eachother for the last 4 years only 2/3 weeks a years..sometimes twice a year. They are now living together. She came to Holland.

true story.
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#23

fnavidad

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Join Date: 09/19/2009 | Posts: 195

I'm in a long distance relationship. We see eachother every week or two. It's pretty cool because when she's not here I can focus 100% on my career and hobbies without getting distracted. I get a lot of work done during that time because I don't have to think "Oh, maybe I should spend some time with my GF now.". Then when she's here I can focus 100% on her and we have lots of sex. :) Can't complain.
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Jakro

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Join Date: 02/06/2011 | Posts: 163

 I'm probably in the biggest long-distance relationship at the moment of the whole forum. My girl lives in Malaysia. Me? Finland. That's 10 000 kilometres. But yeah, I think the distance is unbearable and I'm not planning to stay in a long-distance relationship - in other words, I'm going to convert it into no-distance relationship asap.

It helps if you truly have a deep connection with the other person so just chatting over the internet can be amazing.
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#25

james123

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Join Date: 04/13/2012 | Posts: 81

 Been in a long distance relationship for over a year. I think mines further than Jakro. Im in Australia, shes in LA...14000ks? massive time zone differences...

Truth is, it was awesome at the start..fun and exciting, we usually see eachother every 3 months...and it was always an awesome thing to look forward to.

I think if you are mature enough you can do it, and you can both be happy. Its my first proper relationship and I suck at it. I get pretty needy/jelous and she doesnt like that. We broke up after 1 year. Right now we still talk almost every day and are quite happy where we are at. I cant really see us getting back together anytime soon, mainly because of where im at in terms of not being a bitch, i think. End of the day if you cant see yourself being with that person for a VERY long time, its probably not worth it, who the fuck knows, case by case basis.
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#26
ortizology

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Join Date: 07/18/2012 | Posts: 20

 Well, yes, distance make the heart grow fonder. It works until your girlfriend fucks some guy, then it ends.. confused
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Grow

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Join Date: 09/09/2014 | Posts: 43

I think every person is different and at a different stage in their life. If your new in the game then your usually either want to fuck everything is sight and go for quantity over quality or cling to this 'one' girl. Of you are at a stage where you have fucked a lot of girls and are looking for something more and have met someone special I believe it can work.
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#28

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Join Date: 04/21/2014 | Posts: 290

Kyle F Wrote:
 Oh god it just doesn't work, Even visiting once or twice a month...forget it and move on.


Yeah I feel like I'd be MONEY if I could see her twice a month. Right now things are open, so I'm able to handle it (barely), but I get depressed in the fall, so man if I didn't have girls in town here this winter I'd definitely end it. Even still, I might have to. She just said she wanted marriage one day and even at 29, I ain't ready for that anytime soon. I don't know if this is the one for me to settle down with, she's definitely the best so far, but I have a lot more fucking that I want to do before I'm married as frank as it sounds, so I'm gonna talk with her about a lot of these feelings and see what happens. 

The last time I was single and sober/clean enough to enjoy it was almost 10 years ago. I've never had a chance to be single while also having better pickup skills, with some of the money, resources, and looks/status that comes with not being a college kid. It's sort of like the pandora's box opened and now I can't really close it. This open 'ship is working for now, but sometimes I ask myself, if I really wanted to be with her would I even want to be gaming around town and on tinder? I don't know. 

I do know that this LDR, especially before it was open, is the hardest thing I've ever done. To love someone so much and just have them vanish from your day to day life is like someone you love dying. Not to mention we're in different time zones, and she has a crazy work schedule at her new job, so we barely get to talk. I get out there every 6 weeks but it is getting harder and harder for me to see the upsides.

I don't think anyone knows what an LDR is really like until they do it. I wouldn't reccomend anyone even try it unless they love the shit out of the other person.

It's a cynical quote but it's how I feel sometimes: "A long distance relationship isn't a relationship. It's the promise of one in the future." 
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#29

enjoyingcandy

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Join Date: 07/05/2013 | Posts: 955

Dunno, I suppose guys have made it work before.

I bet a lot of guys have pushed girls away forever in a LDR,also, when they could of simply went dark on her, called her up one day and 'hey im in town..want to meet at your house and chat a sec?"
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charlestk

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Join Date: 08/14/2014 | Posts: 58

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