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March 23rd, 2017
Girl messages me AGAIN about being pregnant saying she is going to keep it
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Karlax

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Join Date: 04/13/2011 | Posts: 38

Man this is a nuisance.

I got another message from the same girl who said it a few weeks ago say am I SURE condom didn't break since she said I was the only one she was with in the window of 5 weeks ago- I don't even remember the date.

I got some more info out of her this time.

She said she was with me and her X around the same time- me with condom her X without so wanted to make sure which is reasonable.

I asked why she didn't just get rid of it and she said cos she had another baby that died she is not that way 'in cline' (yes she spelt it like that).

The only thing is- if it were mine and she kept it and she was back with X I was worried the baby would baby mixed race and have afro hair (since I'm half black)...is there a way I could text her to ask if he is also mixed race without it seeming like I am trying to get her to 'cucklold' him?

I told her that I don't want a kid till I'm at least 40 if at all..so if it was mine she would have screwed me over.

So if the guy was mixed race/black then I could just deny responsiblity but if the x of hers was white and the kid comes out with afro hair then I'd be in trouble.

So I have this hanging over my head for the next 9 months knowing she will be keeping it.

I am debating whether to just change my phone number- I hope she doesn't rememebr where I live though worryingly she said 'I know where we are' when we got out of my apartment. I live in an apartment block and she only came one time and in 9 months I could easily have moved?

What would be the best way to get a clear birth (oops unintended bad pun) of this?

Actually I just thought that keeping this number would be a better idea but ignoring her so at least then I would get warning if she was coming after me.

If she does she is fucked up since I took responsibility in the 1st place by using protection and told her now I didn't want a baby so it woud be unreasonable for her to come to me then- though girls are known for messed up behaviour so I better keep this phone number just in case to get clear warning incase I'd have to take evasive action.
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MovingForward

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Join Date: 07/12/2010 | Posts: 308

There are always DNA tests that prove or disprove paternity. You also have to remember that if she knows who you are and where you live and you phone number, she can (and most probably will) claim child support through state. Child support will be a huge chunk of your income, there are calculators for each specific state, google it. If she does this, you must get paternity test done (unless you want to pay for someone else's baby).

If you did use a condom correctly and didn't cum in her, then I don't see how it's possible that you got her pregnant.

Tough situation overall... hard to really say what you should do, since I don't know you and the girl at all.
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TableDance

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So let me get this straight....

You used a condom...
He didn't....

You are worried about it being yours?.....
Just asking.
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Karlax

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Join Date: 04/13/2011 | Posts: 38

TableDance wrote:
So let me get this straight....

You used a condom...
He didn't....

You are worried about it being yours?.....
Just asking.
Ya.

I was probably one of the worst ppl for her to pull this on cos I can be a bad hypochondriac with things like doctors and worryer generally in life.
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Doge~

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Karlax, when it comes to baby Aisha... YOU ARE THE FATHER!

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jlaix

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Congratulations!
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Rich~

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 couple of thoughts,

-screening for girls with issues pays big dividends.. the last and only girl who threw talk of pregnant-ness on me, I should have seen coming based on her behaviour pre-lay (thankfully amounted to nothing in the end)

-clear boundaries are key key key.  in my limited (and young) opinion...  being the biological progenitor is not the same as choosing to father a child, and people trying to lump responsibility on you for their own reasons/beliefs is their own deal, not yours.  Your choice is your choice IMO.

Good luck with it mate.  stay true to yourself and your values as it plays out.  whatever happens, it will be an experience you grow from
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Sunny667

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go to Maury, get a dna test
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Manwhore

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 Karlax you're a dumbass the baby isn't yours.  If you weren't such a with a weak sense of reality this girl would never attempt such retarded nonsense on you.  This could serve to be a lesson in growing a pair of balls and not letting people run shit like this on you but no I suspect that this will actually just make it worse.  
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