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Connecting With Yourself: 24/7 Acting Through Your Own Intentions
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Connecting With Yourself: 24/7 Acting Through Your Own Intentions

Life can be full of opportunities. Or, life can be a prison wrought from self-limitations. YOU decide which one you want to live.

Acting through your own intentions (ATOI) has been circulated a lot within RSD, and I know that it is one of those few fundamental concepts from the Blueprint that, if tapped into in the way you’re supposed to, will result in great changes in your life—not just getting women.

We talk a lot here in RSD about social momentum and hitting STATE. What’s our traditional method to getting into state? Go out, do a bunch of approaches, done. This works, no doubt about it. But it kind of sucks that we need all these warm up approaches to get through the night. I once asked if warm up approaches were going to be necessary till the day I die. The truth is they might always be, but the extent of how much you NEED them is something that varies depending on a lot of factors.

One user from RSD said that he’s “always in STATE.” He said this was because he is completely aligned with everything he does. 24/7, this guy knows WHY he does what he does (from the most subtle things to the bigger ones like approaching hot girls). According to him, he is so connected with his purpose, so congruent in everything he does, that there is nothing awkward about approaching hot girls he bumps into on a daily basis, or approaching hot girls he meets went out at bars or clubs. There is just this stream of fluidity, this seamlessness between desire and action that creates a level of confidence, self-certainty, and fulfillment that, I believe, defines the naturals who became natural without even knowing about RSD.

I’ve noticed, after contemplating my bad habits over the past few months, that I restrain myself all the time. Meaning, just like I restrain myself when it comes to approaching women I find attractive, I restrain myself EVERYWHERE:

1) Starbucks: just chilling, I stifle up a bit and become kind of rigid in my movements. Essentially, whereas if I was home on comp, I would be much more laid back. But in Starbucks, I’m kind of rigid. This is just my general shyness, my general reactiveness to the presence of strangers (hot women or not).
2) Driving: I don’t follow through with my intentions all the time, meaning that I’m pretty timid when switching lanes, concerned with pissing other drivers off, etc.

The point is that the moment I step out of the confines of my home, I am stifling myself (even in the most subtle ways). For me, this RESISTANCE of my own intentions builds up over time and places a burden of hesitation on my shoulders. Instead of being fulfilled because I have addressed even the most subtle of my desires, I actually feel stifled, limited, and restrained in even the most casual, non-intimidating environments (Star-fucking-bucks, for example). These, I think, accumulate BIG TIME and just like you can accumulate social momentum, you can accumulate this RESISTANCE.

It’s important to realize that your desires exist for a reason. They are telling you something, and you DESERVE to fulfill your desires. When you start resisting your desires, you are literally killing off the very things that will give your life fulfillment, enjoyment, excitement, etc.

But why do we hold back from pursuing our desires (from the most subtle – stretching in Starbucks - to the most significant – approaching hot girls)? It probably originates from early life experiences, like a parent telling a child to be quiet in a public place or stop jumping around. Over the years, all of this restraining by your parents causes you to constantly reconsider your urges, impulses, and desires. There are, of course, other causes.

So who cares if you don’t follow your desires 24/7? Who cares if you don’t completely eliminate all shyness, in even the most casual environments? Well, think about how this resistance affects you over days, weeks, months, and years. Think about how this resistance affects you at all different types of places: your job, school, going for a walk, running, going to Starbucks, getting the mail, talking to your neighbor, ordering food at a restaurant, going to a friends house, talking to a girl, hitting the bar, or hitting the club.

What does this resistance, although seemingly subtle and insignificant, do to your entire life?

Probably the most damning part of this resistance is that holding back from your desires holds you back from being your self, and being your self is KEY to all of this. That’s what STATE is: freedom to be yourself, to access your core, to peel back the layers of social conditioning and let your true self flow freely without hesitations, doubts, resistance, and the same outcome dependency that YELLS at girls and tells them you’re a fucking chode...

I’m going to start HONORING my desires. I’m going to start praising my urges, my impulses, my every single desire—24/7. My new perspective is that all of my impulses and desires are there for a REASON, and I should pursue and fulfill them (this, of course, does not mean pursuing the impulse to eat fast food, at least not when I’m watching my weight and getting ripped). Like ‘twas said in the Matrix, “To deny your own impulses is to deny the very thing that makes you human.” No doubt.

You know, I’m writing this in Starbucks right now. I’ve been practicing it, acting through my own intentions, following my desires (from the most subtle to the most significant). Now, I’m not approaching the hot girl to my left, and I should, I’m still anxious because I’m a chode. The point is that I feel BETTER, more loose, more confident, more awesome, just because I’m making eye contact with whoever I want to when I have the random urge to do so. When a hot girl walks in, I reconnect with my core desire—NOT the conditioned, fearful, hesitant version of the desire—and I can just feel more confident when our eyes lock as she passes by.

I think most depression, most shortages of self-esteem, most dissatisfaction in a person when it comes to who they are and their circumstances, MOST of that comes from holding back, from RESISTNING, from denying your impulses which, in turn, denies your very existence and the things that define YOU.

I’m having kind of mind-shifting experience as I write this. I’m looking at a group of 3 middle-aged women chatting (not hot at all). I imagine my self going up to them and saying hi, just for the freaking hell of it. The conditioned me resists. But then I wonder: “what if, beyond the years of hesitating, beyond the layers upon layers of conditioning, there is the core within me that would completely just go up and say hi, simply because I had the urge to do so?” I know that if I were to approach them based SOLEY on my desires (no hesitating, no doubts, no foolish concerns with outcome) that they would react positively, simply because I am offering nothing but ME at the core: me reflected in the fulfillment of my desires. I have this fleeting feeling that once, a long time ago, I could have approached anyone with smile on my face and it would have all gone great. I don’t know where I fucked up, but something happened along the way.

Coming full circle, life can be a playground of opportunity, OR it can be a prison where the bars are wrought from self-hesitation, self-restraining. When you fulfill your desires, you are creating opportunities. Imagine that “in-state” version of yourself, which you know is extremely fucking social and outgoing, flowing outward in all social instances. Imagine the opportunities you would create for yourself just by talking to that interesting looking person, just by approaching that hot girl.

Life can be a playground, or a prison: YOU CHOOSE.
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 Damn man, your post are quality stuff. Props. 
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progress-now wrote:
Connecting With Yourself: 24/7 Acting Through Your Own Intentions

Coming full circle, life can be a playground of opportunity, OR it can be a prison where the bars are wrought from self-hesitation, self-restraining. When you fulfill your desires, you are creating opportunities. Imagine that “in-state” version of yourself, which you know is extremely fucking social and outgoing, flowing outward in all social instances. Imagine the opportunities you would create for yourself just by talking to that interesting looking person, just by approaching that hot girl.
Well said. I need to try to remember this at all times.
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damn dude you discribed it so well.. like the past few months i was TOTALLY MYSELF.. it literally felt like a playground.. i could have fun with everybody, approach anybody, sing on the streets, celebrate life, just TOTALLY loose and free to express myself without boundries.. not giving a fuck/acting through own intentions ! everything is build of of this, VERY important topic ! the CORE !

and now since a few weeks of my fallback i feel exactly like you said.. in a fucking prison !!!
i don't know how to break out of it but im trying hard... thansk for your post, you seem like a smart dude man ! thanks for your replys on my posts also ! ;)
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Jarno wrote:
damn dude you discribed it so well.. like the past few months i was TOTALLY MYSELF.. it literally felt like a playground.. i could have fun with everybody, approach anybody, sing on the streets, celebrate life, just TOTALLY loose and free to express myself without boundries.. not giving a fuck/acting through own intentions ! everything is build of of this, VERY important topic ! the CORE !

and now since a few weeks of my fallback i feel exactly like you said.. in a fucking prison !!!
i don't know how to break out of it but im trying hard... thansk for your post, you seem like a smart dude man ! thanks for your replys on my posts also ! ;)

Yeah, well,  a big part of this process for me has invovled just ANALYZING the fuck out of myself and the thought patterns that have been around for so long that I don't even notice they're there.  Your mind has fallen into patterns of thought, conditioned thoughts and beleifs and expectations that may have been accurate a long time ago, but don't apply anymore.

That's why RSD bootcamps work so well: you do so many approaches that you just shatter all of your old expectations and presumptions about social interacitons.  You become refreshed and your view of social interactions is relevant and up to date.

I think RSD concept are great for a foundation, but its important to analyze yourself and come up with some of your own solutions, because every problem is extremely unique.  Find the roots of your problems, notice the thought patterns that you;ve created and ask yourself why you have them.
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progress-now wrote:





Jarno wrote:
damn dude you discribed it so well.. like the past few months i was TOTALLY MYSELF.. it literally felt like a playground.. i could have fun with everybody, approach anybody, sing on the streets, celebrate life, just TOTALLY loose and free to express myself without boundries.. not giving a fuck/acting through own intentions ! everything is build of of this, VERY important topic ! the CORE !

and now since a few weeks of my fallback i feel exactly like you said.. in a fucking prison !!!
i don't know how to break out of it but im trying hard... thansk for your post, you seem like a smart dude man ! thanks for your replys on my posts also ! ;)

Yeah, well,  a big part of this process for me has invovled just ANALYZING the fuck out of myself and the thought patterns that have been around for so long that I don't even notice they're there.  Your mind has fallen into patterns of thought, conditioned thoughts and beleifs and expectations that may have been accurate a long time ago, but don't apply anymore.

That's why RSD bootcamps work so well: you do so many approaches that you just shatter all of your old expectations and presumptions about social interacitons.  You become refreshed and your view of social interactions is relevant and up to date.

I think RSD concept are great for a foundation, but its important to analyze yourself and come up with some of your own solutions, because every problem is extremely unique.  Find the roots of your problems, notice the thought patterns that you;ve created and ask yourself why you have them.
yes but i find like.. analizing and stuff just makes it worse.. it makes you more in your head and more confused and reinforces your reality/identity as a dude who is insecure/stifled etc..
what i found what worked so well is just to shift your identity.. just focus only on the positive like just chilling/having a good time/focus outwards and not inwards(inthemoment)/justdowhatyouwant and fuck what anybody thinks of you as you discribed in this post !
you just shift your identity because dude, everybody is that awesome the only problem is they don't even know it.. you just gotta be yourself man. and keep reinforcing thát reality or identity or whatever you wanna call it. just assume that you are a confident dude who doesnt give a fuck, because truly when you just chill and you express yourself fully and you are yourself. that is how you are, it is you at the core !
don't pay attention to when your feeling bad sometimes, accept it but see there is nothing wrong with YOU.. so just move on and keep chilling out and feeding your normal identity as you could call it that.
i found that just knowing that you are ok, you are not giving a fuck and chill and happy at the core. you dont need to do shit or analyze shit in your head or fix the insecurity problems but only do what ive discibred above. when you know that you are ok, you let go of worrying about yourself so much and you can actually start enjoying things outside of you.. like the weather, people, food, a favorite movie, whateeever. and you just come in the moment, stop being so egotistical.. that ego is the whole blocking part that gets in the way of being yourself and seeing there is nothing wrong with you that you need to fix (what your ego might tell you when your so much in your head).

but yea.. i'm also still working on it ! still, a solid post mate ;)

cheers
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it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy or something or how do you call it.. it's whatever you believe you know, whatever you focus on.
you think cool guys worry if they feel akward or insecure once in a while ? hell no, it doesnt even enter their reality because they know who they are at the core !
but the difference is, chodes or whatever you want to call them.. focus only on the negative and start to build an entire identity around it reinforcing it over and over again.. !
it's whatever you focus on, whatever you choose you know..
don't know how to explain this simple but it's a huge realization i had. because in the past months i didnt think about this shit alot dude.. i was only like : DAMNN look at me i'm so cool,
ohhhhhhh i'm having fun blbalablabla, ohhh life is goood, hmmm i don't give a fuckkk.. let's approach some girls !
i was just fully assuming my "new identity" ..and i just found my normal me again.. just pure myself what i've known.. how people had always known me.. you feel it.. you feel that it's right, you feel
that it's you, you feel that it's meant to be this way !

anyways peace out !
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haha i've ALSO noticed that chill guys are just totally in the moment most of the time.. it's like, they know that théy are ok. so they can just put there focus outside !
it's like, when a cool guy tells you how you should get to the next busstop.. his only  "criterea for succes is how well he explains it and if you get it.. it's like he's only concerned with what is right in front of him.. he's not in his head like a chode like  "do you think i'm cool ? is my bodylanguage cool ? ohh, he probably thinks im weird etcetc ".. NO, just only focussed on the moment ! that's the only way to enjoy things you know. if your so worried with yourself all the time you miss all the glory and happyness around you. and it's not even like you are enjoying the outside things so much, it's just that by enjoying those things and being outside your head.. you enjoy yoursélf the most ! it's like your just fucking happy, your kind of present or something. hahahah i don't know how to explain this shit but i like to get this shit a lil straight for myself ! :p

peace again !!
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You're right about not being stuck in your head.  Over anlyazing is a problem.  I analyze myself most of the day but it never bothers me.  I don't get even more insecure, I feel like I'm begining to understand myself.  this is, of course, when I'm at home or just chilling.  If I'm going out, the last thing I'm doing is thinking. 
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This thread seems like a relevant place to post this.  I stumbled across this guy by chance.  Supposedly he's :"channeling", meaning some extraterrestrial being from somewhwere else in the universe is offering the information through the human. Don't know about that, but his words are insightful:

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