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The REAL Way of Being Chill Around Women (how to become a jamaican, attractive bitsch)
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jRad

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I was talking to Prince of Persia just now, and he told me to write the following into a post, cause it would help a lot of you out. He, and other people have noticed how 'Jamaican' I am around women, and how being that centred-kind-of-guy really does pay off (not just with women, but on your path, as well).

Let's define my version of, 'Jamaican': Basically, a guy who isn't high energy at his core. For the most part, 90% or so, very fucking chill and relaxed. He has that high energy inside of him, but he can harness it.

Welp, big gulps eh.. onto the article:


The REAL Way of Being Chill Around Women

#1) Stop reacting to people.

Let them react to you. For example, I'm out playing dodgeball, I'm out at a bar, I'm out water-skiing... and everybody laughs at something - I usually don't laugh. I give a little smirk or a chuckle. Why? Cause shit doesn't phase me easily. I ain't no fuckin' hyena. If something is genuinely funny to me (like walking around, pretending I have a massive lisp, pure self amusement), then I'll laugh my fucking ass off. Honestly, I don't laugh my ass off too much. I may think certain things are hilarious, but I don't over-react to it. 

#2) Start becoming aware and reacting to things *more slowly*.

In order to chill out, you need to just slow down.. just slooow down. You can work diligently on your path, but possess strength and vigor. When girls test you, be chill about it. Don't focus on, 'okay, so she asked me this, or shes behaving like that.. therefore I need to do this'. ... the fuck? You're on your own path, you act accordingly. When I grew up, I used to be a kid that was high strung, and just wanted a reaction out of people. I would put on this 'try hard' act, or dancing monkey act in order to just get a reaction. It took me 22 years to figure out that the most high valued people in the room didn't react, or reacted very subtlly to things that were going on. Again, easy shit shouldn't phase you. People need to work for your reactivity.

#3) Go back to the basics of alpha behaviour. Take it with a grain of salt, don't over indulge. The most common 'alpha traits' a guy has, that are chill, are.. sitting down with your legs spread open, arms out. DEEP SLOW VOICE <-- huge. Move slowly. I always move slowly. There's a big difference between, "oh look, dudes in rap videos walk slowly cause they're cool" and, "I'm walking slow because I'm super comfortable and enjoying being valuable to my surroundings".

#4) Suck guys and women into a chill reality. Slow her down. If she's all super giddy, bubbly and all that shit, just sit back and relax... think of yourself as a lion. A lion isn't all fuckin giddy now, is he. He preserves a certain 'high energy', but hes for sure not an annoying ass hyena. He knows how to harness it, because 90% of the time he does. Think of her as a lioness, looking up to you, waiting for her 'lion' to take the lead, in a chill, relaxed manner. The more chill you are, the more relaxed she becomes.

#5) Your main core should be chill. Plain and simple. Think of it as an elastic band - when you're all there, you're centered, and chill within yourself. When you're with a girl, you can stretch that elastic band just enough, so you become playful with her - you can tease her and have fun with her. But right when you've hit that line, where you're like, 'oh, alright, i'm going too far, I'm looking like a dumbass hyena', that's when you snap right back to the center, of being really relaxed and chill - and when you snap back, it's her time to discover you, and to indulge in your relaxing reality.

When it all comes down to it, women prefer the relaxed, ambitious man, who's sticking to his path... opposed to some high energy douche bag, lost, who's just trying to get a rise out of her.
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Resaj

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:) Nice post j

Point "4 resonated with me strongly.
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Jack of Hearts

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also, if you say bacon, you should pronounce it like beercan.
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jRad

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@resaj - thanks dude, glad I could give you some value

@jack -
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PeteyPiranha

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Awesome post. I tend to go into 'hyper idiot' mode in any high energy social situation, gotta work on the chillness
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PeteyPiranha wrote:
Awesome post. I tend to go into 'hyper idiot' mode in any high energy social situation, gotta work on the chillness
Thanks bro. That's what Prince of Persia came to me about - the guy's got good game, but he feels that sometimes he goes in with *too much* energy, or when he's just on a day2 with a chick he can't actually *be chill* with her.

You basically need to look at it as, grab her attention with being high energy, but then snap back into your own reality of being relaxed and chill.. because obviously you're not going to be high strung the whole conversation, or when you go out on a day2 with her. Or, grab her attention as your own relaxed and chill self, and at times tease her and be playful with her, but then snap back right into 'relaxed' mode.
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Learn to do what you want, without the fear of seeing what others will do in reaction to it. Harder than it sounds.
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 ya mon!
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Ya, your post really well defines how you act as I remember... Make sure to visit mtl this summer :). Me and mtl madison got a sick place in the heart of downtown now.
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I got stuck watching the angry little kid who wants bacon video in jRad's signature.. what was this post about??
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Gold... glad we had this chat buddy. Been working magic for me the past couple days
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