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December 10th, 2016
Magic pill: get blown out
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Paris Boum Boum

Paris Boum Boum

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Join Date: 04/02/2009 | Posts: 2948

Get blown out. Hard. A lot. 

Why ?

If you avoid it, you won't approach. Or your approaches will be weak. Or the interaction will be weak because you'll be afraid of her reactions to you. Or you'll be so anxious, wanting the interaction to go well, that you'll bomb. 

If you get bown out a lot however, either you quit, or you become indifferent. 

Genuinely indifferent. 

Then the lens through which you view your interactions changes. 

You speak to a girl, and you are totally indifferent to her reactions. 

Get blown out again. Hard. A lot. 

Then you are indifferent to her reactions, and also you don't give a fuck, so much so that you find what you are going to say much more interesting than what a random girl will. 

Get blown out again. Hard. A lot. 

Then you automatically value yourself more than any random girl. You assume you can get blown out, but also you assume than saying what you want to say has more value than taking into account her possible reactions. 

And here you have it. 

Freedom from outcome, because you don't give a fuck. Momentum, because nothing prevented you from approaching. Higher value, because you genuinely value yourself more, you can't even pretend anymore. Leading, because you are including her into your movie, and it's far more interesting than anything she can give you. 

How to get there ? 

Approach first. 

Think about what you say after. Walk up and move your mouth, don't worry about the rest. 

Get blown out. 

Do it again. 

And again. 

It truely doesn't matter. 

Now you play with it. 

Now you value yourself more than her. 

Now you are not afraid of her reactions. 

Now you approach hard with high value right from the get go. She is in for a ride. 

It all starts with being blown out. 
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RedWhiteBlue

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Join Date: 01/02/2011 | Posts: 52

Very true.  Being rejected is part of the situation.

I think a lot of people just don't want to accept that.

Most folk just want to wait for the clearest most wide open situation before they make a move.

Most folk analyse WAY too much.

"I got rejected but <insert, probably false, justification here>."

No.  You got rejected because being rejected is part of this "game".
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J.Sark

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 I really like your posts. I was going to te club yesterday jumping and shouting FIRST BLOOD! and not giving a shit is the best sensation ever
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Maze

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Great article.

This is probably the best way the get freedom of outcome in the long term.
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Jarno

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solid post, but i havnt craved the courage myself to get blown out that much so i can't speak out of expirience..
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fullysick

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this is all we need. 
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SexyBeast69

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Hard core rejections are funny as fuck.  Fucking Blowouts sharpen my personality, it's all good.
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Jack of Hearts

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Also, get blown out a lot everywhere down the line. you might get blown out a lot from approaching, so you become comfortable with that, but you're still afraid of getting rejected when getting the number, going for the kiss, calling her up, pulling to your house etc. so get rejected further down the line as well. at a certain point this sucks because you're so far with a chick but you still lose her. but it's better to give it a shot and lose her than not to try and to hold a fantasy in your head that it might have worked out.
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Jack of Hearts

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RedWhiteBlue wrote:
Very true.  Being rejected is part of the situation.

I think a lot of people just don't want to accept that.

Most folk just want to wait for the clearest most wide open situation before they make a move.

Most folk analyse WAY too much.

"I got rejected but <insert, probably false, justification here>."

No.  You got rejected because being rejected is part of this "game".



yeah, good point. even tyler and jeffy get blown out a lot, just accept it as a part of the deal.
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#9

XXL

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Join Date: 03/16/2011 | Posts: 491

yes. challenging yourself is great way to learn to internalize concepts and take one's game to the next level. ozzie stated lately that it's actually the fastest most effective way. being cool calm and collected FOR REAL comes from experience
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Bitme

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Join Date: 06/20/2011 | Posts: 238

This is what i do now, its to get blown out alot, and for the latest 2 weeks, i believe ive gotten 72 rejections, thats 18 rejections every night going out 2 nights a week.
It really feel the stings, but i reframe it "im out to get blownout and to get the skill", then i feel better. But after 72 rejections NOW, i really HATE WOMEN!! lol
But you cant be blown out always, you always gonna get that yes girl later that night. And thats all i need :)
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