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December 11th, 2016
Warm up experiment, magic pill included
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Paris Boum Boum

Paris Boum Boum

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Tonight is your night.

You will go out and approach. 

To make sure you are going to commit in your approaches, you will warm up first. The first approaches don't count. 

Usually it's around 3 approaches. 

Tonight I want you to make 10 warm up approaches. 

As soon as you see a girl you want to approach, you tell yourself nothing, or at most "just a warm up, let's do it", and you approach.

Of course you won't have anything to say. 

Of course you're gonna bomb, sometimes. 

Of course you're gonna feel lame, maybe. 

Of course you'll be afraid, even a little. 

And you keep at it, until you reach 10. That's it. No outcome, no "I want to get laid now". But also, no lame gay friend bullshit. 

That's the first rule: 10 warm up approaches asap. 

There is a second one. This one is key. 

The second rule is: You approach before knowing what to say. 

If you have figured out what to say, it's already too late. 

I repeat: you approach BEFORE knowing what to say, not AFTER.

You do that 10 times in a row. It may take 5 minutes, it may take 1 hour. 

If you think your approach will suck, you do it. 

If you think you'll bomb, you do it. 

If you think it's too difficult for you, you do it.

If you think you're entertainer man, who gives a fuck, it's a warm up, you do it. 

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So tonight: 10 warm up approaches, approach before you figure out what to say. That's it.

Report back results. See you tomorrow. 
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jRad

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Or just go have fun. lol
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Paris Boum Boum

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And read some Tolle.
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Or just go have fun. lol
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tycho!

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 man, paris, your posts are always so money. *gonnadoit
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Paris Boum Boum

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So, I just came back home.

I approached 10x more than usual when I am not in state. 
I approached girls I wouldn't have approached when I am not in state. 
It felt natural to approach anyone way earlier than usual. 
The night is less boring than when I am not in state. 

I wish I had started by doing only this in my first year. 

Awesome. 

It still needs to be polished, but there are many good sides to that. 

I didn't pull a girl I wanted though, I didn't have the same kind of reactions than when I assess carefully my approach beforehand, and I got a few harsh blow outs. I guess it's a good thing, because usually it almost never happens, which means I am not taking full action all the time. 
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Paris Boum Boum

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How was it tonight ? 
tycho wrote:
 man, paris, your posts are always so money. *gonnadoit
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Paris Boum Boum

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You'll do awesome, be happy just for the fact that you're trying something new. Going out alone in itself is a victory, everything else is a bonus. It's gonna be way easier to pull because you don't have to follow your friends. It's gonna be more adventurous because you'll be forced to approach. 
Your fear will vanish once you realize it's not a big deal, you're just having a drink and people around you went out hoping to meet new people. 

Try what I described in the OP; and report back. 
M0N3YSH0t27 wrote:
goin out to a new venue solo tonight, im scared
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iiSwoosh

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good  post paris, momentum is key, momentum is game itself.
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Awesome post, paris.
I agree completely with your second rule being key.

I love that rush of just approaching without any resistance or even a second of delay. It is a rush. Like me and my friends have the deal where at any point and time you can point at a girl and just say go! and you HAVE to go instantly right towards her and open it.... But I love that feeling of just suddenly walking up to the hottest chick in the venue in one of the most fucked up high risk situations and just throwing yourself at it without a fucking clue as to whats about to come out of your mouth. 

But your post is golden. I need to start implementing this harder when I'm solo, or just implementing it in general to feel the rush more! 
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Paris Boum Boum

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Internal troll, lol exactly.

Kind of the same shit happens to me, I realized it's because I still don't have rock solid foundations to what I do. You don't need them to pull, that's why I can pull, but you need them to pull consistently and effortlessly with very hot girls I think. 
Approaching the way I described in the OP is the right way to IMHO, at least that's what I am working on, because you build on not caring about the outcome, having an empty mind, approaching the hottest girls without anxiety, gaining social momentum, etc. So it will become an habit, and when it does I'll need to tweak it to be even more chill and present, and I have no doubt my results will skyrocket. 

I think it's better to build those habits, than come of the bad ones I unconsciously developped over time (avoiding approaching sometimes, waiting for the right moment, not feeling entitled to approach hard right away with the hottest and relying on momentum, feeling anxiety, etc).

My goal is to approach consistently with nothing in my mind and at the same time having the presence, dominance and sexuality I have after a few hours of approaching right from the get go. 

You already have some experience, it's just a matter of time and of enjoying going out really.
NYDH wrote:
A sticking point i have when approaching right away with nothing in my mind is that my internal troll tries to prove that i shouldn't do that so i'd subconsciously seek for a bad reaction from the girl (bad as the girl showing no emotional reaction to me, not as offending her or something, which is somehow awesome).
Mindsets that help with this
- Deep down, still play to win 
- Chicks are interesting people to connect with
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Paris Boum Boum

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Momentum is key, I am not sure if it's game itself though, what's your take on that ? 
I can picture this if you talk about having momentum of always going further in your interactions and always pushing the limits, though. 
rightnow911go wrote:
good  post paris, momentum is key, momentum is game itself.
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