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December 6th, 2016
On Why You’re Not a Real Man
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Cat

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On Why You’re Not a Real Man

Real men know where they are in life, and where they want to go. They don’t apologize for walking that path everyday. Why the fuck would they.

Real men are willing to get “hurt”. They are willing to LOSE CONTROL OF THEIR EMOTIONS. They are willing to put themselves in situations that are unsafe, uncomfortable, and unknown.

THEY LET GO OF THEIR CURRENT SELF IMAGE TO FORGE A NEW, BETTER ONE.

Why? To grow. To turn that situation from unsafe, uncomfortable, and unknown, to safe, comfortable, and known.

Why? To become excellent. To build trust in themselves. To grow their self-esteem, their own regard for how they feel about themselves.  To become PROUD of themselves for doing what they set out to do (at whatever level they are at).

How? By taking fucking ACTION.

By taking some fucking control of their life. Real men are choking life with their cock. Owning that shit.

Real men DROP THE EGO. They admit they suck, if that’s where they’re at. And they don’t burn themselves out with guilt or shame about it. If that’s where they are at, THAT’S WHERE THEY ARE AT, and they take steps to move FOWARD from that place.

Real men aren’t just dudes who go out and grab women and fuck them. You can be a total chode and do that. Real men are holistic. They challenge their edge on ALL FRONTS -- they are BECOMING A BETTER MAN, not a better seducer. They challenge their emotional health, their intellectual health, their psychological health. They are challenging their fears, pushing their edges both in their actions and in meditation, not being TOO TO ADMIT WHAT THEY WANT.

Becoming a man is fucking hard. There is no magic pill (although the 30 day challenge with ANYTHING you want to improve feels pretty damn close often ;)

But fuck, get over your persona, your fucking RSDN handle, your “coolness”. If you are not working on this part of your life, if you are not on the path towards MANHOOD, becoming a better DOOD, what the fuck are you doing on these forums? Seriously.

DROP YOUR BULLSHIT.

This is a challenge to you trolls on here. There are real guys, doing real work, fucking up, approaching women, getting blown out and getting blown over in the FIELD REPORTS FORUM.

Guys like
Dave7 - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/167112 - who has approached at least 161 days in a row. His low bar of success, just an approach a day, INSPIRED MY JOURNAL
Synergist - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/166326 - who is on his 3rd 30 day challenge
Me-Vs-Me - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/169945 - who is updating consistently
Rhythm_T - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/177035 - a cool ass drummer in the UK
aBnarf - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/176674 - who is approaching fucking like 15+ girls a day, recording many of them for his own benefit and fucking sharing them with us

And so many others:
Dieselboy - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/154246
DistantLight - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/152840
Detourxl - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/176546
Mr. Mtl Madison - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/153647
Moey - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/176824
Two Step - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/162953
HPJR - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/135273

THESE DUDES DO NOT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT WHERE THEY ARE. THEY CARE ABOUT WHERE THEY ARE GOING.

So get off your fucking high horse you pile of shit. CREATE A NEW RSDnation handle. START YOUR JOURNAL.

BECOME A REAL MAN.

The Real Man Challenge (aka drop your bullshit challenge)
1) Register a new RSD handle.
2) Let go of your own ego, where you pretend to be, and actually look at who you are, where you’re at, how you feel about yourself, and what you think you deserve in life and in your relationships with women.
3) Create a journal.
4) Consistently update your journal with WHERE YOU’RE AT, and where you’re pushing to be.
5) Win. Win so fucking much its not even funny.

WHY?

I did this. I used to be “li0n”. I posted on RSD 3 years ago. One of my posts is in the RSDwiki - http://rsdwiki.com/index.php?title=RSD_Nation_Gems#li0n.

That’s an ego trip. I broke up with my girlfriend and started a journal: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/168875 - “Into the li0n’s Den”

And I did that for a bit but it fell off. I realized I WASNT TAKING ACTION because I had this gangster image of myself in my head to live up to.

I started reading Dave7’s journal. He was just approaching one chick a day. I COULDNT DO THAT. Guys would get on his thread and flame him for being lame, for not pushing. FUCK THAT SHIT, DAVE7 HAS MORE BALLS THAN 99% OF ALL OF YOU. And he has a lot more balls than I do.

It shocked me. Shocked me into recognizing that I have way too much ego around this shit. That I need to work on me, not on some crazy fucking story that I can tell to dudes on a website forum.

Dave7 inspired ME to drop my ego, forget that old “li0n” and become Cat.

Because that’s where I was at. And I’m moving forward, growing, progressing, and fuck I’m having so much fun.

I challenge all of you keyboard jockeys with 500 posts and zero field reports to actually drop your bullshit and get to work.

Either way you should check out those threads and all of the other guys in the Field Reports section; they are getting their shit done, and it’s really fucking inspiring.

I’m normally not this anal, but I want to see you guys grow, and I want to see more of you starting your journal at zero, with us dudes alongside to cheer you on, give you feedback, and wish you the best.

Go get it.
-Cat
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Starsailor

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Awesome!
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Starsailor wrote:
Awesome!
Starsailor you deserve to be on the list too buddy!

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/175088

Getting it done. 
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 Thank you for this!

Great stuff. Printing!
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First part cool, definately alligned with my way of thinking, but after ''This is a challenge to you trolls on here. There are real guys, doing real work, fucking up, approaching women, getting blown out and getting blown over in the FIELD REPORTS FORUM. '' you lost me.
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Good message.

Right now I can't really go out too much.

Just got back from the dr's and have to get a CT scan.  Lady thinks I might have been having small seizures.  Got blood drawn.  Small possibility I have a brain tumor.

As soon as I get my shit sorted though I'm gonna get back into this shit.  I used to daygame 5 days a week.
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@RedGlass

Is there any good excuse for not handling the parts of your life that you want to handle?

I mean, even more so now that you might have a serious condition, doesn't that motivate you even more to go get it?

I'm not in the slightest trying to say your situation isnt bad, or its not hard.  But my point is, aren't we all on here because we want to get better at what we do?  Why would you postpone that.

Take this post as a challenge of encouragment and nothing more. 

Just know that our lives are changing in the Field Reports Forum, and I want to open that up to you dudes.
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Cat wrote:
@RedGlass

Is there any good excuse for not handling the parts of your life that you want to handle?

I mean, even more so now that you might have a serious condition, doesn't that motivate you even more to go get it?

I'm not in the slightest trying to say your situation isnt bad, or its not hard.  But my point is, aren't we all on here because we want to get better at what we do?  Why would you postpone that.

Take this post as a challenge of encouragment and nothing more. 

Just know that our lives are changing in the Field Reports Forum, and I want to open that up to you dudes.

I do want to game and stuff, I still sarge occasionally.  But going out with my condition can be hell.  I have auditory hallucinations which means I hear things that aren't real and aren't there.  It's crazy getting on the phone and hearing a chick's voice who you don't talk to anymore in the backround talking about you that you know doesn't exist.  Same when I go out.  I'll admit it's kinda scary, distracting as hell, and a huge pain in the ass.

My case is rare though, I remain pretty much rational despite my condition.  It can be waaay worse.

Right now handling the parts of my life that need handling is mostly getting my condition fixed.

People that get diagnosed with schizophrenia and stuff have a high suicide rate from what I've read and I completely understand why.

Anyways I don't wanna hijack your thread anymore.
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Good article I'll apply it and start a journal when I'm fixed up.
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Cat wrote:
CREATE A NEW RSDnation handle. START YOUR JOURNAL.

BECOME A REAL MAN.

The Real Man Challenge (aka drop your bullshit challenge)
1) Register a new RSD handle.
2) Let go of your own ego, where you pretend to be, and actually look at who you are, where you’re at, how you feel about yourself, and what you think you deserve in life and in your relationships with women.
3) Create a journal.
4) Consistently update your journal with WHERE YOU’RE AT, and where you’re pushing to be.
5) Win. Win so fucking much its not even funny.

Takes bigger balls to keep your current handle, admit where & how you were wrong, and start over w/ everybody watching.
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Knuckles

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hands down best post ive read so far. fuck all this ego shit forreal. i have dreams of being famous and im daydreaming all the time about bs. its about time i just shut the fuck up and get shit done. Getting MY body in great shape. eating great. getting myself into college. getting a fucking job so i can stop sitting at this apartment with these lames. I live in Savannah GA. and my last name is Nuckols. fuckin A. Time to get my life on track.
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