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My Field Reports - The Journey to being Epically Awesome!
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So, I've had one or two people on here suggesting that I start a field report thread of my own, now I have been writing them anyway for myself and for a book I've started writing (if anything it pushes me to do stuff, because I know it'll look great to read back later)

So, I'll start from tonight, I'mout for my sisters Birthday in Preston (North of England, if anyone didn't know) it a cool place, full of students and it is where I've had a few Number-closes and make outs.

I'll start with a brief history, 23 years old, still a virgin (partly by choice as I've had a few chances before when I was younger, but missed the chances or one time it was my mates ex-girlfriend and I just coulden't go through with it.) but over last year or so, steadily improved. I started with the Mystery Method which was great but was limiting and didn't really fit my personality and was actually at times limiting me due to insistance on routines. I remember reading about Tyler and Papa in the Game and decided to check out what they were doing in RSD.

I read through various bits I found and I liked what i saw, I started to become more natural and I can see it has had a major effect on my life in general. I suffered One-itis over various girls and couldn't figure out why they wouldn't go out with me and just wanted to be friends, after it was pretty much spelt out to me in "Duh!" moments through RSD's stuff that I went back and realised I could be fantastic if I tapped into my own personality and stopped trying to impress or show off and just be my best self.

Fast forward to today, I've had chances to fuck about 4 girls, one passed out(didn't plow through, my fault) one liked my mate more(Met and talked to him alot since they met weeks earlier, then fucked him instead of me that night) and the rest I actually didn't want to. I can do approaches easier, though I still get bad Approach Anxiety, and although I know alot of thoery and help others on here and another forum with, I feel like I should be going and doing this myself.

I am more of a Night Game guy due to my job and can and do go out 1 or 2 nights a week, always with mates, but planning a few solo nights myself soon in Manchester or other close cities, also planning to go to the RSD Free Tour and Hotseat with Papa in London in September aswell as a weekend down in London to practice more. I try to approach 3 times a night but trying not to be outcome dependent. Slowly I feel myself getting better and better and more comfortable with myself and what I can and have been doing. I love the way I feel now and how much better I look from the gym and diet.

So, I'll be posting my first field report on here later on toniht or tomorrow morning, currently re-watching Foundations to get it into my head for later, any feedback will be great, let me know what you think.

Good Luck to the rest of you.
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Well 1st FR stats

No. of Approaches: 4

Closes: 1 Kiss Close

Ok, well, i just got back a few minutes ago, a little bit tipsy but able to write and speak coherently enough.

It was a really good night, I went out with the sole intention to just have fun and see what happens, as it turns out some thoery worked for me without thinking about it. I was out with a few people and my sister said she was trying to set up 2 of her friends, well, the guy involved was choding out, so I took a lead and showed him my spin-kiss close, where I told her to give me her hand, spin, come close, close your eyes and then I kiss her, and made out with her twice, I then decided to leave it between them as they both liked each other a lot and I didn't want to ruin that. I explained some thoery to him and told hime to just do what I did earlier, he did and now they have a date. I felt good about this as I helped 2 people get together with ease. The other approaches I made were good but didn't escalate or they lost interest or wanted to stick with their friends, thats cool to me as I didn't go out to pull, I went to have fun and I did. I've become less outcome dependent tonight, and although I wouldof liked to of closed more tonight, I still feel great about briniging those 2 together as it feels like I've achieved something cool.

I feel great after tonight and can't wait forthe next week.
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An Girls actual description of my looks - "Wow, you look like a cross between Robert Downey Jr. and Ed Norton" is that a good thing?

My Field Reports: My Journey to becoming Epically Awesome! - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/178214

My experiments in online dating: Online Dating sories of glory and other moments - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/200527

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Well, I've sobered up more and feel quite refreshed, suprising considering I've only had 5 hours sleep, I guess this new sleep pattern I've been following is working. Anyway, I'll take this chance to break down the 4 approaches and the kiss close from last night.

1. Approached this fat HB6(I saw potentail if she lost a few pounds, but was kinda cute) just sat outside smoking, I walked up, said Hi and asked her about where the best bar was in the City (btw, i already know the answer, just was an easy question) I got her name and said I'd catch up with her later and it was a pleasure meeting her. Cool interaction, was in control and leading the conversation. Left on a high note, plus I was meeting someone there anyway.

2. About half hour later, started dancing with a cute tall brunette(HB8) just a quick dance, nothing more, she walked away after a few mins. Slight lapse of the mind from me lol

3. Don't really remember this one too well, but was talking to a cute short blonde girl for a good coupla minutes, got her name and said she would add me on facebook, her friend (who came from nowhere lol) dragged her away not long after, I kept bumping into them later, to no avail, she hooked up with another guy.

4. Was at the bar and noticed this really cute blonde rock chick wearing a flowery dress and noticed her tattoos on her arms and hand, commented on them with something like "Wow, you must be a spiritual person, those cool flower tattoos signify that, wait are you a hippy?" we had a good talk about tattoos and music, we're into similer stuff and I started pulling at her lip piercing whilst deploying "The Claw" ;) she didn't have her phone on her (said she lost it a few days earlier and was waiting for her insurance to send her a new one) but I gave her my number and added her on facebook, so we'll see. She was going at this point so I left at that and gave her a hug goodbye. Should of kissed her, ah well, missed the chance this time, a smal blip, normally I'd have this stuff calibrated. An off shot I guess.

Anyway, the kiss-close, my sister was trying to set up 2 of her friends, a cute brunette half-cast girl who I've known for ages and a 18 year old, he was choding out a bit due to his complete inexperience, no matter we've all been there, they both like each other, but neither would make the first move, so I told him how to do a kiss-close I use, that I call "The baby-step, spin kiss close" but he was laughing and nervous and coulden't do it. So I did it to her in front of him, grabbed her hand, told her to put her bag down, gimme a spin, arms around my neck, close your eyes, BAM! Kiss, I love it, she actually a good kisser and I was getting turned on, my sisters face was fantastic at this point lol. We started talking a bit and  and laughing and ended up making out with her in the corner again. I stopped and said I couldn't cause I know the other guy likes her and I'd not be good for her.

We move on to the club where I made the last 2 approaches, whilst talking to the Rock chick from above, I look over and what do I see? The guy actually using my spin kiss on her and they eventually will go home together, this actually makes me buzz as i know I helped this along with very little effort, I have Superpowers! I am Awesome! haha, anyway, I walk over to them after Rock Chick goes and start clapping, they're like "What?" I was like "Eventually!" and high five them both.


All in all, a great night, all I was doing was focusing on having a good, fun night and I did. Awesome.
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To Succeed You Have to Stop being Ordinary and Start Being Legen ... Wait for it... DARY

Live for the Moment, Never see a chance you didn't take...

If You Do What You Always Did, You Will Get What You Always Got

An Girls actual description of my looks - "Wow, you look like a cross between Robert Downey Jr. and Ed Norton" is that a good thing?

My Field Reports: My Journey to becoming Epically Awesome! - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/178214

My experiments in online dating: Online Dating sories of glory and other moments - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/200527

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 NICE, SUIT UP mr Cupid :D
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OK, quick update

Didn't go out last night, my town is just a bust for Sundays out in town unless it's during the day and even then it's hard pushed, I'm thinking of finding another town or something just for Sundays. But anyway, today I woke up really fresh (8 hours sleep for once, awesome) this new sleeping pattern and diet are working noticibly better and my hair is starting to look alot better and easier to style in a morning, so thats cool.

So, I haven't made any approaches today, but I usually can't in my job as I usually on my own cooped up somewhere(not my choice at all, but it's ok money wise) but I am genrally feeling great about myself and over the events of the evening, that Rock Chick girl hasn't added me on FB yet, but I don't really care about it to be honest, I barely remember the interaction other than what I mentioned yesterday.

Back at the gym later, thats improving me so much, I am almost back to my old Wrestling/MMA self, still got it haha.

Oh and starting today I'm doing the 30 Day challenge of no porn or masturbating, not sure why but I feel like it's the next step.
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To Succeed You Have to Stop being Ordinary and Start Being Legen ... Wait for it... DARY

Live for the Moment, Never see a chance you didn't take...

If You Do What You Always Did, You Will Get What You Always Got

An Girls actual description of my looks - "Wow, you look like a cross between Robert Downey Jr. and Ed Norton" is that a good thing?

My Field Reports: My Journey to becoming Epically Awesome! - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/178214

My experiments in online dating: Online Dating sories of glory and other moments - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/200527

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synergist wrote:
Great field report, good job playing matchmaker, and you're a badass because I've never done a bar/club makeout. What's the deal with your sleeping plan? Sounds interesting.

Well, I used to suffer from Insomnia and was keen not to get back into that state as I was feeling that I was going to, so now I try and get 8 hours sleep no matter what, always try to sleep at 10pm, up at 6am, exceptions are when I go out obviously, easy way to fall asleep is to turn all lights off, jump in bed and watch TV with my head down, in 20 mins I'm gone for the night.

As for kissing in Bars/clubs, give that spin kiss-close a try that I used, especailly if you've been building rapport up a lot, I like it, my ratio for kiss close is somewhere like 4/10 approaches now, not bad, nearly half of them :)
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To Succeed You Have to Stop being Ordinary and Start Being Legen ... Wait for it... DARY

Live for the Moment, Never see a chance you didn't take...

If You Do What You Always Did, You Will Get What You Always Got

An Girls actual description of my looks - "Wow, you look like a cross between Robert Downey Jr. and Ed Norton" is that a good thing?

My Field Reports: My Journey to becoming Epically Awesome! - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/178214

My experiments in online dating: Online Dating sories of glory and other moments - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/200527

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ok, update, didn't go out last night due to the fact my town is a complete bust from Sun-Weds(sounds like an excuse, but it really is that bad) but I am looking at other towns etc to rectify that. Instead I kept up to date with the last day of the Football (soccer) Transfer window and was quite pissed off this morning when I read all about Fernando Torres (A big Liverpool fan myself) but strangely, despite a rant I posted on Facebook, my mentality changed to "I don't care, it doesn't matter" as soon as I thought that sentence, weird considering thats what I say to myself when I get a blowout on approach or in set, cool, it's flowing into other aspects in my life I hope.

Anyway, not much to do today other than work, but I'm gonna be productive, I was looking on here for stuff about Online Dating, and it kinda interests me, more so because it feels like something I can practice on Sun-Weds nights if/when I don't go anywhere, so I figured (Credit to Manwhore for his awesome guide, which you can find here : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/169887) I'm going to give it a try and link it here from plentyoffish.org along with the success stories or blowouts I have. Gonna be interesting to say the least.
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To Succeed You Have to Stop being Ordinary and Start Being Legen ... Wait for it... DARY

Live for the Moment, Never see a chance you didn't take...

If You Do What You Always Did, You Will Get What You Always Got

An Girls actual description of my looks - "Wow, you look like a cross between Robert Downey Jr. and Ed Norton" is that a good thing?

My Field Reports: My Journey to becoming Epically Awesome! - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/178214

My experiments in online dating: Online Dating sories of glory and other moments - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/200527

My Online Dating profiles - suggestions wanted:
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OK, there was a change of plans and I ended going to the cinema with a few friends, watched The Mechanic, good film. Also have a party I'm now going to on Thursday so it looks like my online dating profile will have to wait, I may do it tonight if I've got time. It's gonna be a busy weekend, I hoping there are some girls at this party, apparently my friend did try to set me up with this one armed girl at his work (I met her once before and shes hot and kinda cool) and she wasn't interested :( so even handicapped girls are turning me down haha.

But last night I actually felt that I was more relaxed, more chilled out and that blow would usually take me outta state or I'd dwell on it, now, I don't even care. I really am living by the motto of "I don't care, it doesn't matter" it feels good. 

I feel awesome!
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To Succeed You Have to Stop being Ordinary and Start Being Legen ... Wait for it... DARY

Live for the Moment, Never see a chance you didn't take...

If You Do What You Always Did, You Will Get What You Always Got

An Girls actual description of my looks - "Wow, you look like a cross between Robert Downey Jr. and Ed Norton" is that a good thing?

My Field Reports: My Journey to becoming Epically Awesome! - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/178214

My experiments in online dating: Online Dating sories of glory and other moments - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/200527

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 I guess the word "awesome" is something you are very familiar with.. refering to your display picture :D
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Me-vs-Me wrote:
 I guess the word "awesome" is something you are very familiar with.. refering to your display picture :D

Haha, yea I guess so, I may change that at some point.

Anyway, more about how this newer relaxed feeling is, today at work I had a women really have a go at me because I told her she couldn't park where she was and needed to move it, well this was a really arrogant women and a few weeks ago I would of completly blown up in her face, but now, I kept calm and ended up apologise for how I spoke to her (btw, I wasn't in the wrong at all, I just had better things to do than argue with her) and she left it at that.

The old me would be looking at a disaplinary (ironically I'm posting this whilst at work and they don't care that I am lol) but not now. Not having a great day at all, but still feel good.
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To Succeed You Have to Stop being Ordinary and Start Being Legen ... Wait for it... DARY

Live for the Moment, Never see a chance you didn't take...

If You Do What You Always Did, You Will Get What You Always Got

An Girls actual description of my looks - "Wow, you look like a cross between Robert Downey Jr. and Ed Norton" is that a good thing?

My Field Reports: My Journey to becoming Epically Awesome! - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/178214

My experiments in online dating: Online Dating sories of glory and other moments - http://www.rsdnation.com/node/200527

My Online Dating profiles - suggestions wanted:
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