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December 8th, 2016
GF all over a dude at the bar..shall I leave and go back to beastmodez
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Thats a thread I had debating my goals and this GF.

The girl who I thought was ohh so nice, and would never do anything wrong.
Really guys, I truly thought this, i never saw this coming


Ok anyways, she goes out with her freind, and gets drunk, which happens fairly often.
I was at home working on a song.

I get a txt around 1230 from my boy who is at a bar and see her all over some guy.

him: yo dude your girl is all over some guy at the club, do you know who shes here with.

So I call him up, chat a bit, guess shes been grinding on some dude for like an hour.
So bad that when my buddy said to his freinds,

"yo thats my boys GF they go"


"Uhhhhh is that your friend?"

Anyways, I roll down there, beacuse I wanted to see if it was past the line. Its cool if she is dancing at a club, and guys come up to her...

But shes in a tiny bar, with soft music, griding all over a dude in a chair for over an hour and a half. rubbing face, there cheeks are touching ETC. shes all over him,

JUST NOT KISSING

So i watch for about 5 minutes from the outside window like a stalker, go in all quite and tap her on the shoulder...


She thinks NOTHING is wrong, nadda...like this is normal.

Shes wasted, we go outside to chat, she says

I"M JUST DANCING..... I ALWAYS DO THAT, I didn't do anything wrong

Though she was very convencing, my mind says there is no way this doesn't cross the line. Drunk or not.

After a few minutes, like most girls, the issue becomes MY FAULT, and shes the victim, she starts crying, her freinds start yelling at me...shes hitting me.

All the while I don't say two words. I just stand there and laugh about how this is going to be a funny story for the guys at R dizzle.

I make sure she finds a ride, where her freind yells at me some more, I do not listen.

So after this lovely tale....would you

A. Think this is normal dating behavior and keep her.
B. Date her but keep a eye for anything sketchy.
C. Go back into beast modez.

We have been dating 6 months, shes never done anything " sketchy" that I know of. I trusted her 100%.
The problem is....she just thinks this is normal, and I am at wrong.


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vastan

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She's a ho, if she's not cheating on your ass it's only a matter of time. Dump the and find another girl if you can.
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vastan wrote:
She's a ho, if she's not cheating on your ass it's only a matter of time. Dump the and find another girl if you can.
I don't even like dating, the shit is to time consuming.
Moving in 3 months anyways, guess its a no brainer

Thanks for the quick reply
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vastan

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PlayDate wrote:

vastan wrote:
She's a ho, if she's not cheating on your ass it's only a matter of time. Dump the and find another girl if you can.
I don't even like dating, the shit is to time consuming.
Moving in 3 months anyways, guess its a no brainer

Thanks for the quick reply



No worries. Though I'd wait for other replies, I'm sort of jaded.
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BEAST BEAST BEAST BEAST.

If that were my girl, she'd be GOOOOOONE.

Your girl thinks this is normal. Well guess what fellas, even if you think that behaviour is "normal" these days, doesn't make it good. Just because everybody does something, or it is normal, or common, does not mean it is good, and does not mean that you should not be holding yourself to a higher standard. It's not even that she messed up and violated her own moral code, she thinks this stuff is OK.

In the end I blab on for ages and break shit down and so forth but I really don't want to do that because I'm fucking tired and it's irrelevant.

This girl crossed your boundaries. In my opinion (which is RIGHT!!!!) what she did is unacceptable and she is not relationship material.
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PlayDate wrote:


After a few minutes, like most girls, the issue becomes MY FAULT, and shes the victim, she starts crying, her freinds start yelling at me...shes hitting me.

All the while I don't say two words. I just stand there and laugh about how this is going to be a funny story for the guys at R dizzle.

I make sure she finds a ride, where her freind yells at me some more, I do not listen.

So after this lovely tale....would you

A. Think this is normal dating behavior and keep her.
B. Date her but keep a eye for anything sketchy.
C. Go back into beast modez.

We have been dating 6 months, shes never done anything " sketchy" that I know of. I trusted her 100%.
The problem is....she just thinks this is normal, and I am at wrong.


hypocrite


I would say either A or C.
 What do you want? Is "this" normal?

the self described stalking behaivior, well thats kind of like option B on super turbo freaky, in a way... And then actually if you choose that, it is your "fault." and you're both somekinda victims. And you can blame her. and she can pull someone else tonight too...
 
I had a recent situation, after a 40 day/night Day"2" type sceneario, left the girl at the party, on newyears eve. She had a RIDE mysteriously show up. After AMOGing her backup fuck/orbiter, who showed at the party. Anyway, went in to text mode, and ended up revenge fucking her reality, evil chick crack style.

Then I stopped, realized i was doing B, and blocked her #/SMS on my phone.

Glad to be out of that mess. But I havent pulled since, so my reality is a bit fucked at the moment.

One more thing,

If she thinks "this" is normal, she's still totally relating to your lead, which is that of a beasting beastmode guy...

I say leave em better then ya found em. Atleast some rafc or chode will score a RIDE off her emotional breakup spikes tonight, and if you choose C ya got some furious fule for your beasting

Id say you could pull an eleven in the next few days if you meet one. Like a hot celeb if you find one.

And if ya need a wing 4 that i'll need a flight hit me up.. lolz
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Only ONE answer to this:

a.) Tell her to fuck off

b.) Go beasting in front of her

If you tolerate this... she does it again.
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I think you should listen to YOURSELF, not some random dudes on RSDN.
Your not mentioning relevant information such as what your feelingz towards this girl is, if you have any plans for the future together, and so forth. 
It can, in certain situations, be worth it to actually spend time trying to "educate" another girl into being the girl for you. But in my experience, in 9/10 cases it's best to just move on. 

Based on what you described, it sounds like what you have is a semi-shallow relationship with a dumb, insecure chick that is or is not very hot. So I'd say dump, and go into beastmode. If your insecure about the decision, know that she will always come crawling back and you can reevaluate the situation later. 
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Lightbulb wrote:
If your insecure about the decision, know that she will always come crawling back and you can reevaluate the situation later. 

I cant think of a single sane non-creep girl that ever "crawled back" to me once she picked up an "insecurity" signal from me.
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So who decides what's good and what not? Certainty it's not some guys you talk to in the internet. If you go walk your life and saying: Man, I know what normal means, AND THEY DONT ..you are still in a place where your ego is bigger then the world. 
Cupcakes wrote:
BEAST BEAST BEAST BEAST.

If that were my girl, she'd be GOOOOOONE.

Your girl thinks this is normal. Well guess what fellas, even if you think that behaviour is "normal" these days, doesn't make it good. Just because everybody does something, or it is normal, or common, does not mean it is good, and does not mean that you should not be holding yourself to a higher standard. It's not even that she messed up and violated her own moral code, she thinks this stuff is OK.

In the end I blab on for ages and break shit down and so forth but I really don't want to do that because I'm fucking tired and it's irrelevant.

This girl crossed your boundaries. In my opinion (which is RIGHT!!!!) what she did is unacceptable and she is not relationship material.


And to the OP. You could ask for advice, which one I would choose. I would go for ditching her because I think you are emotionally involved in the girl. If it was just a girl you have been fucking for some time.. you wouldn't even care.

Now she is a slut, a whore..etc etc While, maybe, just maybe (i really don't know), you failed to talk about eachother what you really are..!! If she really, really feels, drunk or not, that she is doing nothing wrong, I am real curious what kind of relationship you developed? No matter if its 6 months, or 2. 
To me it seems you both where just dating, after 6 months of 'just dating' .. and to me there is nothing wrong with her actions if that's the case

Have you been having sex with other ladies while you where with her? 

I love those doubled standards about women and men /sarcasm
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 She was able to turn it around and make it your fault 'cuz you're a puss.  She saw her opening and took advantage.

If she didn't ALREADY know this was a possibility, she wouldn't have done shit like this in the first place.  Girls don't fuck around like this on a guy who's solid.

You caught HER grinding on some dude and you were SO weak her and her friend were able to turn it back on YOU?  C'mon dude.  Don't let that shit happen.  You have to be tough.. not even tough.  Your mind is already set.  That's it.


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