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Social Skillz: Turning a Skill Set Into a Science and Its By-Products
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"True strength is not always shown through victory. Stand up, try again and display strength of heart."
-Rickson Gracie
"There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle
The other is as though everything is a miracle."
-Albert Einstein
-Rickson Gracie
"There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle
The other is as though everything is a miracle."
-Albert Einstein
Personally man, I don't like to think of what we do as a science.
Why? Because science is devoid of feeling, it is cold unbending rule.
I feel that social skills are more of an art for the reason that no two interactions are always the same, and one doesn't necessarily get the same reaction twice from the same thing done. Talking to other people is always a personal thing.
I prefer to think of these things as art because art is humanistic and art gives rise for subjective interpretation. Science is just pure mechanism; we have laws and with those laws we have everything predetermined.
Art gives us ability to create something of special significant value to ourselves. Science on the other hand just lets us act according to the laws that we didn't make.
Why? Because science is devoid of feeling, it is cold unbending rule.
I feel that social skills are more of an art for the reason that no two interactions are always the same, and one doesn't necessarily get the same reaction twice from the same thing done. Talking to other people is always a personal thing.
I prefer to think of these things as art because art is humanistic and art gives rise for subjective interpretation. Science is just pure mechanism; we have laws and with those laws we have everything predetermined.
Art gives us ability to create something of special significant value to ourselves. Science on the other hand just lets us act according to the laws that we didn't make.
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For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself:
“if today was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?”
And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need
to change something… Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear
of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving
only what is truly important.
Remembering that you are going to die is the best way
I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.
- Steve Jobs
“if today was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?”
And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need
to change something… Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear
of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving
only what is truly important.
Remembering that you are going to die is the best way
I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.
- Steve Jobs
I agree. That is why I say that there needs to be balance.
And at the same time that is why I sometimes worry about the long term effects of studying this stuff so intensely...
And at the same time that is why I sometimes worry about the long term effects of studying this stuff so intensely...
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I really like this article because it just sparked my interest and made me think of several different things.
One thing it made me think of is the fact that you say you being worrying about certain things. The way you say it, made me react to it in a way that makes me think that almost as if the problem of being too over analyzing of your social interactions is a newly developed problem that is a side effect of being too much in the game and thinking about it. But, then I realized that I had a problem of over analyzing to begin with. The problem has always been there. Before you know game, you always enter a social interaction over thinking it. Me personally, I always used to overthink everything that I did to a certain extent that was out of my comfort zone. So is the problem of over analyzing problems another skillset that you can overcome? Lol. I'm thinking it is more of a hard wired instinct that cannot go away for the purpose of keeping us alive.. by analyzing situations to a certain extent, we are keeping ourselves alive.
Hmm.. I forgot about the other stuff I was thinking of, I just got too wrapped up writing that paragraph. I will get back to this later when it comes to me.
One thing it made me think of is the fact that you say you being worrying about certain things. The way you say it, made me react to it in a way that makes me think that almost as if the problem of being too over analyzing of your social interactions is a newly developed problem that is a side effect of being too much in the game and thinking about it. But, then I realized that I had a problem of over analyzing to begin with. The problem has always been there. Before you know game, you always enter a social interaction over thinking it. Me personally, I always used to overthink everything that I did to a certain extent that was out of my comfort zone. So is the problem of over analyzing problems another skillset that you can overcome? Lol. I'm thinking it is more of a hard wired instinct that cannot go away for the purpose of keeping us alive.. by analyzing situations to a certain extent, we are keeping ourselves alive.
Hmm.. I forgot about the other stuff I was thinking of, I just got too wrapped up writing that paragraph. I will get back to this later when it comes to me.
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"Fuck social conditioning and fuck what anybody thinks of you!" ~Tyler Durden
Rejection > Regret
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I hear you man, definately agree with the finding a balance thing.
The thing is the reason I love all this analysing 'social skill' shit is because i see it as an art. Kind of like an art lover will look for a deeper meaning in one of his favourite paintings...what it depicts and what the artist is trying to convey, bla bla bla. Or how a music lover will listen to music on a whole other level...he notices how the differrent sounds play off each other..and how the song may build you up slowly and the suddenly drop you into a flurry of a different array of sounds and bla bla bla.
Basically, because I love all this shit and i know consciously how all this shit works...it allows me to enjoy and appreciate it in me and in others when I see it. This is an art man.
The thing I think a lot of people have back to front is the over analysing while they are trying to do. That's what will fuck your shit up. An artist or a musician is not consciously thinking every stroke or beat he makes before hand....he is completely expressing himself in the moment...and that's the fuckin beauty of it!
Good article
Nuff love
The thing is the reason I love all this analysing 'social skill' shit is because i see it as an art. Kind of like an art lover will look for a deeper meaning in one of his favourite paintings...what it depicts and what the artist is trying to convey, bla bla bla. Or how a music lover will listen to music on a whole other level...he notices how the differrent sounds play off each other..and how the song may build you up slowly and the suddenly drop you into a flurry of a different array of sounds and bla bla bla.
Basically, because I love all this shit and i know consciously how all this shit works...it allows me to enjoy and appreciate it in me and in others when I see it. This is an art man.
The thing I think a lot of people have back to front is the over analysing while they are trying to do. That's what will fuck your shit up. An artist or a musician is not consciously thinking every stroke or beat he makes before hand....he is completely expressing himself in the moment...and that's the fuckin beauty of it!
Good article
Nuff love
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"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." - Aristotle
"That which is done out of love is always beyond good and evil" - Nietzsche
"It is better to do one's own duty, however defective it may be, than to follow the duty of another, however well one may perform it. He who does his duty as his own nature reveals it, never sins." - Lao Tzu
"Experience without theory is blind, but theory without experience is mere intellectual play." - Kant
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"That which is done out of love is always beyond good and evil" - Nietzsche
"It is better to do one's own duty, however defective it may be, than to follow the duty of another, however well one may perform it. He who does his duty as his own nature reveals it, never sins." - Lao Tzu
"Experience without theory is blind, but theory without experience is mere intellectual play." - Kant
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As I sat at the top of the hill, images of me with a dislocated elbow, a serious concussion, and a torn ACL flashed through my head.
These are standard thoughts if you end up in the terrain park at a ski resort, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience in this environment...
...yeah, it’s good to have a conscious understanding of your thought processes, not just living life in reaction.
And this level of consciousness resulted in me “hitting the slopes” quicker and better than I probably would have if I just went at it blind.
But it’s damn annoying and energy intensive to constantly be in thought about why you do what you do.
Hey guys!
Check out the new blog article, my meditations on snowboarding earlier today...
Social Skillz: Turning a Skill Set Into a Science and Its By-Products