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October 20th, 2017
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#71
aBnarf

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 sunday i went to the beach and didn't do any approaches! wtf!

later in the day, my neighbors had a superbowl party. i would check in there a few times. i tried to talk to a few girls, but nothing went anywhere. i've done very little party game like that in my life.

me and my roomy went out to this dead bar after and i did 2 approaches, but they both sucked.


it's really nice out and i should be down at the beach right now, but i'm not feeling it. i need to get back to approaching 20+ girls again. i need to get serious. right now i'm regressing after i was starting to do well. 
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Hey dude, have you considered going for less beast and more connection shit?  Like, it sounds to me like you have a really dialed voice.  You say shit thats not funny and they laugh.  You probably have great eye contact too, thats what the audio makes me think.

So why not just sit back a little bit and let them chase you.  It sounds to me like you're really "needing an outcome" with these girls in terms of taking them out on the spot or them being really phsyical with you.

What if you tried one day where you did your daygame shit, did your approach, and before you leave, like right before you're about to say "hah awesome, nice talking to you take it easy" you just sort of realize, hey I should get this girls contact info, she seems cool.  

Seems like you're forcing it hard.  Maybe just doing that many approaches makes you less forced, idk, but yeah man, def keep it up, clearly you're owning hard.

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 i agree with a lot of what you said. i have a ton of outcome dependence. 

speaking of forcing and feeling strange when girls aren't really physical with me, i went to the beach today. 

+first approach was this gorgeous blonde wearing a bright pink short dress. i was up to like her shoulder. i said excuse me she just looked down at me and kept walking haha

+2nd approach, saw a girl walking by on her phone while i was throwing the football with my friends. so i ran over to her. said excuse me, i thought you were cute. she told her friend to hold on theres a cute boy trying to pick me up. 

she was on her way to the bathroom so i walked with her. as she got out she didn't see me, so i whistled at her. she was like what am i a dog? lol. didn't find out she was by herself until we got back to the sand. i should of found that out sooner and went for a hand hold. so we went back to her towel and sat and talked. turns out shes 29 and was a virgin til 22. i just got done telling her i was a virgin til 21. i called her a loser and she hit me on the shoulder. i really wanted to touch her, but i pussied out. i wanted to rub her legs and bring her into me.

we were talking a lot about sex. i told her i really like my ass licked. she isnt down for anal much. we talked about our relationships. she did most of the question asking. i enjoy that. i was pretty relaxed. she asked if i was the first girl i hit on today. i told her she was the 2nd and what happened with the blonde. she thought it was rude, but i told her i was happy with it. she didn't waste my time. she liked my attitude towards it.  it was genuine

i knew she had to go to work. we checked out a shop before she left. she gave me a piggy back ride then i gave her one. chilled at the store for a bit. then i was like so is this it? she's like well it doesn't have to be. i'm like ok i guess we can kick it again. took down her number. asked when she was free, if tomorrow. shes busy tomorrow. she said how about friday or saturday. i was like they are too much fun. she's like what im not enough fun? i was like how about sunday. she was kind of put off by not wanting to hang fri or sat. i dno. maybe i fucked it up at the end. whatevs.

at least i talked to gurlz today. ill do some more day game tomorrow 
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 yea i force a lot. i would like to just relax and chill. i def would like to connect more as well. i also don't really qualify them though. i just assume they will like me. i think qualifying more and connecting more is a good path to go down


3 californication episodes to watch. woot woot
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aBnarf wrote:
 yea i force a lot. i would like to just relax and chill. i def would like to connect more as well. i also don't really qualify them though. i just assume they will like me. i think qualifying more and connecting more is a good path to go down


3 californication episodes to watch. woot woot
Yeah dude.  Approaching during the day and being solid with it is just fucking devestating to a girl man.  She will love you immediately.  Just chill back and see what its like to let them do more talking, ask them questions about their shit and have them explain it (this is good advice for me, shit).  Grab their number with something like "you're cool I want to hang out with you in real life, grab your phone" or whatever, your shit is solid too (obv). 

Man if you focus on that person who you're meeting as a person and as a girl who turns you on, you own it.  It peels back your bullshit man, do it, make yourself into a fucking better man.  MEN ATTRACT WOMEN.  And sadly most guys are boys, not men.  You are clearly on the path.  Peel it back, keep the focus on yourself.

Keep it up I love reading your journal man, you are a legend in terms of approaching, I still rarely approach all the girls I want
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 ok. i will try and not talk and let girls do all the talking today. hopefully i can remember that
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 yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeehaw. had some fun today


we went to some new colleges pretty far from my place today. they wanted to check out a new place. seemed silly to me, but whatever i went along.

my recorder ran out of batteries halfway through the day though ooooooops. 


so the goal was to talk to girls and qualify them and try and connect more. i normally don't do this at all, but i focused on it today. i didn't get good responses from questions like "what are you about?" or "who are you?". so i realized i had to lead them better with explaining shit that i'm into then asking them in return. i've read some good stuff where guys ask questions that get girls to open up. it was my first time though and i didn't really know what i was doing. i didn't really need to fall back on my usual shit of just asking them where they are from or how old though. which i think is a good sign. 

so today i had much better interactions. i'm sure i was sexual, but not over the top with touching and no boners. i feel like it's hard to get them to qualify while trying to make it sexual so they know whats up. maybe i don't need to focus on that so much though

thanks cat. ill focus on just asking them more in detail about the shit they like i guess. also more boners

so anyway i got 5 numbers and probably only did about 10 approaches because my sets were longer than usual. other than me getting a bf right away or girls not hooking from the excuse me part, they went pretty well
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 ooooops. the 2 times i asked when shes free to hang out, i didn't really give her a chance to answer. i interrupted her both times. i guess thats why we didn't set anything up lol. good thing i record these so i know for next time.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQhIYjqei7A

i kissed her hand and spun her during the 2nd hand shake. i picked her up when she said hot much she weighed.

my recorded died near the end of the set. it was quite long. i ended up writing my number on her thigh and put hers in my phone, but we didnt make plans to hang out. any comments on this set?

i wish i was able to record more today. forgot to charge it durrrrrrrp
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 i think i figured something out for myself.

i had a few sets that went well really quickly. i must have been feeling good and in a high state. so i rushed throwing out where i live (it's a pretty hip area of the city). i got some good responses and ended up getting some quick d2s from that format.

so, next few times i went out i would start telling them where i live really quickly. then i would push for a meet just pretty much based on that. i wasn't calibrating to see how the sets were going. just simply telling them where i live and that we should hang out.

today, i've been reading about some soi's. http://www.rsdnation.com/node/72325 i'm going to try some of these out. hopefully i can slowly add them into my game without even having to think about it. start getting the sets a little more sexual. then, if it's going well, bust out the logistics and try to set up the d2. 





weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. got my recorder charged today lulz
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Man she was working a LOT, which is tight.  And yeah dude, you guys talked about a LOT of shit, and the energy was really good, really high.  I wouldn't ask a chick how much she weighs though, hahahahah ;D

I would say that you could pepper in some shit like "hahah you're awesome" or "hahaha, that's cool" to also qualify a bit more.  

Like, shit, man, do you hear how she just fills that void of talk?

Theres a difference between LEADING the conversation through a spot where shes awkward and wont add anything, or is overwhelmed by your approach, which will happen.  Theres a difference between THAT and then having the girl LOVE YOU and giving her the opportunity to IMPRESS YOU.  

To me it felt like that difference was really explicit in this interaction.  You were able to lead by asking about her and she filled that space by trying to impress you.

Was baller homes
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