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December 3rd, 2016
Practice makes perfect (you have to put in effort if you want to improve)
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Cupcakes

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You watched the Blueprint, had your mind blown, but you still don't have success in the real world? Taken a boot camp, but months later you are the same old chode who fears talking to women?

Sucks to be you. And guess what? The Blueprint is not a magic bullet. Neither is a boot camp. If you want to get good, if you REALLY want to improve yourself, you've got to put in an effort. You learn your stuff (in this case, the Blueprint is a good example), then you step outside of your mum's basement, go into the real world, and APPLY IT.

Seriously, enough experience will fix nearly any problem you have. Going out and meeting people, pushing your comfort zone, that stuff might be uncomfortable at first, you might invent all manner of bullshit "logical" excuses as to why you shouldn't go out, or talk to that girl over there (that steroid-infused meathead next to her might be her boyfriend after all), but the fact is that by pushing yourself into these hard situations, and by failing again and again, you will improve.

That's how it's done. You don't just read a book, or watch 20 hours worth of videos and come out as some smooth talking player who can lay any woman. It just doesn't work like that. You actually have to go and DO STUFF. Take action. Push your comfort zones. Fail again and again, failure means that you are at least trying. Do learn from your mistakes though. That's why they say that posting "field reports" up here is so helpful. You might not know where you are going wrong, but other wiser minds might be able to point something out.

YES, this is all simple, and honestly it should be pretty obvious at the core. Practice does make perfect. Thing is, although the road to mega social skills is actually pretty straightforward, it requires you to put in effort and to push through your comfort zones and bad feelings like a madman. That's why most guys will never have the social skills they dream about, or a true abundance of women. Because they don't take action. Reading a few inspirational posts on a forum will not fix your life, only you can do that.

Normal guys, some of them might buy every RSD product, even attend a $2,500 boot camp. That's not makng an effort. Putting $2,500 on a credit card does not take effort. It doesn't push your comfort zone. The instructors on boot camp will push you hard, but that's just for a weekend. You have to keep putting in the effort on your own after that. 3 days of somebody else pushing you is not a magic bullet if you aren't willing to put in the hard work yourself afterwards.

All of this comes down to 3 words: PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT. You got a problem with women? Go out there and meet people. Get blown out by gorgeous women. It might be painful and uncomfortable at first, but it's what has to be done. Going out alone to a club scares you? Going out alone to clubs will fix that. (or maybe you lie to yourself and say it's because "clubs are boring" or some shit like that.) That's where the Blueprint coems in: you start to notice when you lie to yourself (and a whole bunch of other cool stuff.)

I think I've laid this out as bare as can be. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT. That's it. That's as close to a magic bullet as you can get. Watch the Blueprint, take a boot camp if you want, it'll point you in the right direction. But in the end, you've got to take action yourself, or you'll spend your life jerking off to pictures of Jeffy's mullet.

Good luck!

Cupcakes.
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Jack-Stripper

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Fuckin monaaay
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+1 Solid post
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MY PRE BOOTCAMP JOURNAL - a very honest account of a guy trying to transform this area of his lifehttp://www.rsdnation.com/node/176546

ALEXANDER BOOTCAMP REVIEW - Oslo, September 2011 http://www.rsdnation.com/node/200440

POST BOOTCAMP JOURNAL - holding myself accountable, seeing how far I can go. http://www.rsdnation.com/node/201364
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theCurse

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Nobody is perfect. For me letting go of trying to be perfect has made a very big positive chance in my personality. Seeing all the weird approaches I did, seeing all the blowns out I have gotten, 'losing' that fucking hot girl by acting completely retarted.. it's all fine you know. My goal is to never care about doing something stupid aslong as I didn't do it before, learn from it and move on. I am perfect, but more in the sense of .. having flaws and having awesome qualities. I have been blown out so much, and I have had awesome women in my life. I have made carreer moves that where not right for me, and i have made the right choices. I lost friends, made new friends, ... It's all Yin Yang, so in that sense, everybody is already perfect

being passive about life, that's bad to me. So striving to be the most active you can get, without caring how you might feel on the inside if you fail while going after what you really want from life, to me that has more value then striving to be perfect.

My question would be: Define perfect?
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 Cupcakes this post was exactly what i needed man, for the past few days i was making so many excuses and was jsut going over the blueprint over and over again thinking subconsciously that it was a magic pill. This post has snapped me back to reality and i'm going to favourite this and read it every morning until it becomes ingrained in my mind, thank you!

question: would you go as far as to say whatever your mind tells you to do, do the opposite.? like your always thinking of excuses as why not to dos this and that. any 'logical' explanation thats out there and sometimes you believe it and just stay at home or not approach. but if every time you have one of those thoughts you think 'fuck it' and do the complete opposite of your mind is telling you eventually it'll stop making those excuses. any thoughts on that?

 
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Cupcakes

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Good to hear! Reading your post basically got me hard.

OK not really, but it's nice to hear that it helped.
O.haven wrote:
 Cupcakes this post was exactly what i needed man, for the past few days i was making so many excuses and was jsut going over the blueprint over and over again thinking subconsciously that it was a magic pill. This post has snapped me back to reality and i'm going to favourite this and read it every morning until it becomes ingrained in my mind, thank you!

question: would you go as far as to say whatever your mind tells you to do, do the opposite.? like your always thinking of excuses as why not to dos this and that. any 'logical' explanation thats out there and sometimes you believe it and just stay at home or not approach. but if every time you have one of those thoughts you think 'fuck it' and do the complete opposite of your mind is telling you eventually it'll stop making those excuses. any thoughts on that?

 
Answer: well, it depends, I wouldn't go running blindfolded across a freeway because my mind tells me not to, but I know what you mean. I think if you understand what's going wrong (watching the Blueprint is great for this) you'll soon start to notice more and more when you're just making up excuses not do do things (out of fear of leaving your comfort zone), and by recognising that you're making excuses, you can man up and grab your balls and go do the right thing. The cool thing is that if you actually go in and put in the effort and push yourself you'll see improvements pretty fast.
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Paris Boum Boum

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Please Cupcake, tell me you're not a keyboard jockey or something, because I remember you posting about your inability to lose weight, and I see a link about "how to lose weight". 

Simply put: did you lay more and more girls by practicing more and more ? 

This is a genuine question, because the post is good and I'd like to put it in a collection of recent good posts, but I don't want to promote KJing. I am not saying you are one, I may be mistaken. I'm asking whether it is the case or not. 

I also think it's cool to write down things you realized so as not to forget them, or things you aren't yet doing so as to do them in the near future. It can work and if it does it's good for everyone. 

Thanks.
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Cupcakes

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Practice: turned me from a chode and the of my "friends" into a pretty cool guy who's got his stuff together , got rid of a lot of my anxiety very fast, made me a better conversationalist, made me less influenced by others' behaviours towards me....
Paris Boum Boum wrote:
Please Cupcake, tell me you're not a keyboard jockey or something, because I remember you posting about your inability to lose weight, and I see a link about "how to lose weight".
LOL. You mean this thread: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/171504

I posted that I couldn't stop eating junk food. Despite the crap that was finding it's way into my diet at times, I generally do eat pretty well and I exercise a LOT and this kept the weight off. As for weight loss, I've only had to do it seriously once (I started overeating at one point in my life not too long ago), I dropped 10kg (22 lbs) in just a couple of months. I was so pissed that I'd gained weight (i used to get a lot of compliments on my body) that I spent those 2 months totally without junk food, I began counting my calories and kept them to a low level every day, and every day I spent an entire hour doing cardio. I wanted to lose my new weight FAST and I wanted it bad.

Dedication guys. It pays off.
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GET THE FUCK OUT THERE AND TALK TO THEM.
FAILURE IS THE ONLY WAY TO SUCCEED.
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Ya for sure, its funny that you don't even need the blueprint or a bootcamp (although they can definatly help) to become good at this just a bunch of good old fashion trial and error.
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Paris Boum Boum

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Cupcakes wrote:
Practice: turned me from a chode and the of my "friends" into a pretty cool guy who's got his stuff together , got rid of a lot of my anxiety very fast, made me a better conversationalist, made me less influenced by others' behaviours towards me....
Paris Boum Boum wrote:
Please Cupcake, tell me you're not a keyboard jockey or something, because I remember you posting about your inability to lose weight, and I see a link about "how to lose weight".
LOL. You mean this thread: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/171504

I posted that I couldn't stop eating junk food. Despite the crap that was finding it's way into my diet at times, I generally do eat pretty well and I exercise a LOT and this kept the weight off. As for weight loss, I've only had to do it seriously once (I started overeating at one point in my life not too long ago), I dropped 10kg (22 lbs) in just a couple of months. I was so pissed that I'd gained weight (i used to get a lot of compliments on my body) that I spent those 2 months totally without junk food, I began counting my calories and kept them to a low level every day, and every day I spent an entire hour doing cardio. I wanted to lose my new weight FAST and I wanted it bad.

Dedication guys. It pays off.

OK cool, nice work. 
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