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December 10th, 2016
You can not change
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GaryBusey

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You can not change who you are. You can change the way you perceive yourself, but how you perceive yourself is not who you are in the same way as how you perceive someone else is not who they really are.
You can change the idea of yourself in the same way you can change the idea of someone else, but ultimately your idea of someone else has nothing to do with who they are.

These are good things by the way, changing your idea of yourself and the way you perceive yourself to something positive and awesome. I am not telling you to “not have an ego” or anything stupid like that.
I simply want to emphasize the fact that you will never be able to change who you really are, the observer behind your thoughts, your true nature. Which is not the opposite of your ego by the way.

Having a belief that you can change who you ultimately are is coming from a position of scarcity and neediness and is very much the opposite of 'you are enough', a common phrase in RSD.
The book Nine Ball by Jeff Allen emphasizes this in a personal yet profound way.

Furthermore, with that belief you can still accomplish great things however, create an awesome personality for yourself(that you believe is who you are) and so on.
But in the end it will only create a feeling of lack. Because it ultimately moves you away from your core and adds more layers instead of the opposite.

However do not let the phrase 'you can not change' disencourage you. Because there are things you can change. Do we, as human beings, have free will? I do not know, I do not care. It is irrelevant.
You can change the things in your life - your habits, your values, the way you look at things and so on. These things, such as habits and values, can move you closer and closer to your core day by day
Which is the same thing as 'you are enough'. Ultimately your actions and values will not suddenly make you realize that “oh... maybe I am enough?” but rather move you closer to that core.
(Life has no destination, thanks a lot Hollywood.)

You want to live in alignment with your true nature, just as we do as kids. Emotionally, spiritually, when it comes to your physical and mental health and well being and so on.
Consciously creating and responsively maintaining habits and beliefs that makes you live in alignment with what has real value in life is the key, I would say.
In doing this, you will eventually (re)understand what 'you are enough' means and ultimately 'you are enough' is not something separate from the actual habits that makes you feel this way.

“Social conditioning gets replaced by another form of conditioning. The true strength lies in a return to the origin. A return to nature and natural forms.
 A return to beastmode.”
-Jlaix

You are enough and therefore you are more than enough to others, not the other way around.
However everybody has a socially defined ego to an extent so it is close to impossible to always feel enough in the pressence of other people.

Ultimately why would you want to change who you are? I mean deep down there you have always been enough, haven't you?
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GaryBusey

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By the way I love you guys.
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Jack-Stripper

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My personality changed alot over the years. I see it as uncovering parts of myself that got hidden away by bullshit.

- Luv Jack-Stripper
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GaryBusey

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That is great.
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TapArtist

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You can not change, you can only adapt.
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Cupcakes

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Personally I think this is just bullshit and mental masturbation (no offence meant), you CAN change yourself, and self improvment has nothing to do with neediness or a scarcity mindset. You might be enough, but why would you not want to be the best person you can be?
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GaryBusey

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Cupcakes wrote:
Personally I think this is just bullshit and mental masturbation (no offence meant), you CAN change yourself, and self improvment has nothing to do with neediness or a scarcity mindset. You might be enough, but why would you not want to be the best person you can be?
No offense taken. Please elaborate however.

I am a big fan of self development as well as becoming the awesome person you want to become. However in becoming this person, you have to realize that there is no one to become. You already are that person.

I am a huge believer in change by the way and that is probably what keeps me motivated throughout my day by day life. To make a change and offer value. However there is a drastic difference between improving your life and believing that you have to change who you are in order to be happy, and that is ultimately what this article emphazieses.
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Cupcakes

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I think I get what you're saying here, after self improvement you're still the same person... just different. As in you aren't becoming another person, just an improved version of yourself. Since you had the ability inside your original self to become this improved version of yourself.
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GaryBusey

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Yes, you can improve your identity and personality in a sense that it makes you live your life more in alignment with yourself as a human being and therefore generating positive emotions for yourself and others. But ultimately your identity is nothing more than a concept you have of yourself. 

Having a healthy, action-based identity is furthermore something that will inevitibly and positively move you closer to who you really are. Your core.
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GaryBusey

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This dooooooooode.
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julpt

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I changed. It's easy to change.

You don't need to be a self-appointed gurus like RSD guys or Tony Robbins or Tim Ferriss or Myst3ry to change.



It won't be overnight tho.

But It's perfectly possible to change.

What's the best example of change in the world? Guys in the army. Talk about conditioning...

PS.: By the way, do you have free time? Get the M1stery 2002 bootcamp cam videos and see Tyler. Then see Tyler on DYD dvds. Then see Tyler on Blueprint. Then see Tyler now. The guy's surname is Change.
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