THE FORUMS

Lay Report 1
HBNympho and not so "Steele" Lex

Day 1

Went out to a Drum & Base club with a group of my guy friends and arrived there quite drunk. I didn't have any AA so immediately started approaching girls, but mostly just going up to groups and giving out high fives all round and saying "Are you girls having a good time???" with high energy and a smile. Wasn't getting the best responses even though I like doing this as if I see them later and attempt a PU they often recognize me. To be honest my approach attempts were kind of weak, mostly because i was fairly hammered.

Anyway, one girl I saw jamming at the front of the dance floor, who was bare footed and looked like she was loving the moment, caught my eye. HBNympho. I approached with "You look like you're the girl who's having the most fun tonight". She responded with a smile and bemused kind of look. So I went on about people not being in the moment and that it was awesome to see someone who was. The music was crazy loud and I was pretty much shouting it at her. At this point I think I just arbed off and carried on dancing.

I saw her again, this time in an outside area of the club. This is where the real magic happened. I approached her with good eye contact - locked eyes with her from a few metres away and gave a big grin. She was immediately responsive and I started a conversation with a flirty vibe. What I did at this point was basically vibe and escalate kino. I do this pretty easily when I've been drinking. 

The rest of the PU was pretty simple. I *closed by deliberately saying some corny pick up line about kissing me which I knew wouldn't "work" but which made her laugh. I then went calm and deadly, pulled right up close to her and looked down at her lips. The pretty much did it. After that she was all over me. We went to this lounge area and we were making out like crazy. It was actually super funny, whenever someone walked in, they took one look at us and left. At a point when i could tell she was super turned on, I said we should find somewhere more private. She said she really wanted to but she had her period. 

Day 2

After getting her number we texted for a bit and she was pretty open about the fact she wanted to see me again and bang my brains out. I also found out she had so many of the qualities I find super attractive in girls. So I started doing the one thing everyone who's been here for a while says you shouldn't do, I started becoming whipped. I fantasized about romantic picnics and long walks on the beaches with her (ok not really but you get the idea).

So we met up at her place a couple days later and were planning to go out to a club with a bunch of my friends. When I first got to her house, I started off strong. We basically just chatted a bit and then made out on her bed after a while. I wasn't using tactics, just riding off the value and impression of me she had from the first night.

The interaction went downhill from there though. I became completely chode. I was way too stuck in my head worrying whether everything I said was interesting.

Later when we went to hang out at my friends house things weren't much better and I could feel her losing interest fast. So guess what I started doing? That's right! Drinking again! And a lot. Ended up having more fun and getting a bit more vibey with her. In the end we ended up making out in a bedroom and getting down to it. I'm pretty sure this just came down to the fact that she was a freaky nympho and just wanted sex, not my gaming skills.

After drinking a fuck load i couldn't get it up properly. I get this a lot and is another reason I should stop drinking, other than improving my game. HBNympho was offended by this. And after some on and off sex she wanted to stop. In my drunken state I had a bit of an ego melt down and got all needy and weird. Not Pretty. We were ok the next day, don't think she thinks I'm a complete weirdo, but I'm sure that pretty much killed all the attractive that was there.

Although I got it on with her, overall I feel like pretty average about how it turned out. But hey, there's no such thing as failure, only feedback, right?

Lex

Alright, so I started this thread off at the end of last year and have posted one lame FR from this year. I hadn't really got used to the forum yet and it was a bit of a half-hearted attempt. I've been reading the forum quite a lot since then (FR forum rocks!) and have decided to get my shit together and update this properly.

Goals

1) My main goal right now is to get success without drinking. This is because:

- I can't get it up when I drink. This happened with one of the two girls I have pulled home this year. She was literally saying she'd do anything to get me hard. I still couln't though. This has led to awkardness and no sexytimes on a number of occasions.

- I get hangovers that keep me down for at least a day. Its bad for my health and its stopping me from getting my life sorted out.

- I have created this kind of split personaity where I'm a beast at night and a chode during the day. It's created some intense anxiety and put me in a messed up headspace for my entire first year of varsity (where I was close to being excluded) and a lot of my second year. I'm doing way better than now but it needs to be completely sorted.

- I refuse to be a chode thats dependent on substances. The stuff I've learnt from RSD on bettering myself has helped me SO MUCH already. But it's also helped me realise there is still a long, long way to go.

2) My secondary goal is to improve my lifestyle. This includes gym, healthy eating, balancing work and fun, experiencing life etc. I'll talk about my goals for this kind of stuff later on.

Wow, I sound pretty alcoholic. Anyway, on to the gameplan.

Gameplan 

I'm going to be bringing it back to basics with the whole going out thing. Hitting the clubs sober and solo. I want to go out alone so that i can prove to myself that I'm relying on nothing other than myself. So, to start off with:

- Go out at least 3 times a week, sober.
- Make approaches.

Additionally I think I'm going to need to:

- Try get state from momentum, as I have been reliant on booze.
- Try tap into the pimpness that I know is there, that I've accessed before.

Right, so I'm keeping it simple for now and will probably add more goals and stuff later on. Also planning to do a 30 day challenge during the mid year vac, if not sooner. I could probably even do one during term as my workload is not too bad. I'll see though.

Lex

Yay