THE FORUMS

I was going to do an anti-vaccination post but I figure no one is dumb enough to take vaccines anyway. A few minutes research on the web, before it gets censored to preserve Big Pharma profits, will show you how stupid an idea THAT is.  Sorry, I meant "national security" or "copyright infringements" or whatever else they come up with.  Our government certainly isn't trying to preserve Big Pharma profits (the FDA is a bunch of nice guys who never act contrary to the best interest of the people!!).  Anyways, onto value.

"Value comes first" - The Blueprint

The above statement has haunted me for a long time.  Value is the ultimate filter. 

The value you PERCEIVE yourself to have limits what you can see.  You literally can't see the opportunities to get a girl if you don't value yourself highly enough.  Furthermore, your value a woman PERCEIVES you to have determines if she is even aware of your presence, let alone if she sleeps with you.  The more you value yourself the greater clarity you have.

Note the word "PERCEIVE".  This is NOT an objective reality.  This is TOTALLY subjective.

Not only that but value is a SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY. 

The more you value yourself, the more others will value you.  The more you value yourself the better the results you will obtain.  The less you value yourself, the less others will value you. The less you value yourself the worst the results you will obtain. 

Further, as implied above, you get to determine your own value.  "You set your own price" to quote Owen. 

So why doesn't everyone just value themselves as a 10 and start dating supermodels (or YOUR version of a "10")?  There are a number of reasons for this.  These reasons are your "success barriers".  Below are the most important, in my humble opinion:

1)  You have a lot of usually dormant limiting beliefs that prevent you from see yourself as a "10" (or having a high sense of entitlement or see yourself at the top of the totem pole to use a Blueprint analogy).  As said before, these limiting beliefs are usually dormant.  What does this mean?  It means that usually you are not thinking, talking or acting on these limiting beliefs so you don't know that they are there.  When you DO think/ talk or act on them you need the awareness to break the pattern and kill them before they cause you even more damage.

2) Your environment, the people you associate with support you maintaining whatever level of value you BELIEVE that you have.  The level of value you THINK that you have tends to be self perpetuating.  This is a big reason that your sense of value tends to get stuck at a certain level and with that your results.

3) You are WIRED to seeing yourself a certain way.  You have MASSIVE neural connections that keep you stuck.  You are ADDICTED to certain emotions, many of which are disempowering and that keep your stuck.  You literally have to rewire your brain to raise your value.

4)  You have FEAR of increasing your value.  FEAR WILL KEEP YOU STUCK.  I did a post called "The Ultimate Sticking Point" about this( http://www.rsdnation.com/node/160540 ). To REALLY increase your SELF value you HAVE to take new actions.  You HAVE to take chances.  You have to be WILLING to make mistakes and look foolish.  You have to TRUST yourself enough to know that you are worthy of a lot more than you have previously manifested.  You have to TRUST you can handle being a higher status person.  You can handle the new challenges that arise.  You can deal with the increased energy requirements.  "Trust in a foreign set of bearings" to quote the Blueprint.

Because you have to "trust in a foreign set of bearings" to raise your value (in your OWN eyes) you have to trust yourself above all else.  You have to trust YOUR thinking and YOUR experience (i.e., first hand thinking and experience) above what others think and tell you (i.e., social conditioning- second hand thinking and experience).  This is why social conditioning is so detrimental to natural game.  By its very nature it is about second hand thinking and experience.

As you trust yourself more and more (i.e., develop more "core confidence" (self esteem) to use the Blueprint term) you become less socially conditioned (ego based).  In other words, you become more authentic.  Your self esteem increases as your ego decreases.

By the way, this is also why things like affirmations and visualizations are not enough.  Your mind is not that stupid.  To REALLY raise your value to yourself you have to MAN UP and take action.  Because you have to DO THE WORK this is a journey.  You have to GRADUALLY increase your range of behaviors ("progressive desensization" to use the term from Foundations).  This is also why progress tends to be slow at first.  There are no magic pills, there are no quick fixes.

Lastly, it is BECAUSE of the above success barriers that success can take a long time and why you need to be easy on yourself ("lower your standards" be "process focused").  This is also why the older you are the HARDER it generally is to become successful with women if you haven't been before.  You have tend to have more limiting beliefs, a more disempowering enviroment, even worse wiring and greater fear to overcome.  If you don't live in the right way you tend to become chodier as you get older (yet another idea from Blueprint).

And that is my take on value.