THE FORUMS
Just wrote this up: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/238610
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It is 2:52 am. I just got laid and then lost this girl (probably). Date, we hookup, she asks the question right before she leaves, bounces and won't kiss me on the way out. She is leaving for school in two weeks regardless so I'm not fretting in the slightest. I'm just curious for the future.
Somehow I get myself into the spot where I have to answer the binary question "are you dating other people".
I felt like being honest, especially given she was leaving in two weeks. Abundance, risk it, she walks.
Do I have to blatantly lie in her face to keep this girl? I've done it before but I feel like it's not who I want to be as a man. I have other shit working for me so I literally have that abundance so it literally is not a big deal BUT are there little things I can do in this situation?
Thanks
-Cat
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And to answer my own question, my guess is this is more of an outcome of variance then fucking up anywhere up until then. Just sorta accept that this shit is going to happen. Jlaix will say 'cop and blow' and yeah, true. Still, any wizard magic I can use here?
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It is 2:52 am. I just got laid and then lost this girl (probably). Date, we hookup, she asks the question right before she leaves, bounces and won't kiss me on the way out. She is leaving for school in two weeks regardless so I'm not fretting in the slightest. I'm just curious for the future.
Somehow I get myself into the spot where I have to answer the binary question "are you dating other people".
I felt like being honest, especially given she was leaving in two weeks. Abundance, risk it, she walks.
Do I have to blatantly lie in her face to keep this girl? I've done it before but I feel like it's not who I want to be as a man. I have other shit working for me so I literally have that abundance so it literally is not a big deal BUT are there little things I can do in this situation?
Thanks
-Cat
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And to answer my own question, my guess is this is more of an outcome of variance then fucking up anywhere up until then. Just sorta accept that this shit is going to happen. Jlaix will say 'cop and blow' and yeah, true. Still, any wizard magic I can use here?
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Thursday
Bang town usa. Saw this girl on Sunday but was so hungover from drinking 8 beers at 11am that my penis was inactive. Tonight I was on active duty.
Saw a good movie together, then we banged. Then I lost her. Oh well lol :)
I am addicted.
-Cat
Bang town usa. Saw this girl on Sunday but was so hungover from drinking 8 beers at 11am that my penis was inactive. Tonight I was on active duty.
Saw a good movie together, then we banged. Then I lost her. Oh well lol :)
I am addicted.
-Cat
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My Field Reports: Cat 3.0 -- "And Then There Was Bootcamp. And It Was Good"
Somehow I get myself into the spot where I have to answer the binary question "are you dating other people".
I felt like being honest, especially given she was leaving in two weeks. Abundance, risk it, she walks.
Do I have to blatantly lie in her face to keep this girl? I've done it before but I feel like it's not who I want to be as a man. I have other shit working for me so I literally have that abundance so it literally is not a big deal BUT are there little things I can do in this situation?
"Nothing serious." Then use your patented Cat puppy eyes soul charm thing and watch as she soaks her panties because you're being so "real". Worked 3-4 times for me, but not a large sample size or anything.I felt like being honest, especially given she was leaving in two weeks. Abundance, risk it, she walks.
Do I have to blatantly lie in her face to keep this girl? I've done it before but I feel like it's not who I want to be as a man. I have other shit working for me so I literally have that abundance so it literally is not a big deal BUT are there little things I can do in this situation?
I've also heard "It's complicated" as a good answer, but I feel like that invites followup questions. Haven't tried it.
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Hey Cat I heart you.
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First post here, but I think I have some salient observations. You can frame the question as being slightly absurd by the way in which you respond. OF COURSE you're dating other people, you JUST MET, how could it be otherwise? If she's asking with the subtext of 'are you now going to cease all other dating interactions because we fucked?', you can also frame your response to point out the arrogance or conceit in such an attitude/question, if that makes sense.
Just wrote this up: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/238610
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It is 2:52 am. I just got laid and then lost this girl (probably). Date, we hookup, she asks the question right before she leaves, bounces and won't kiss me on the way out. She is leaving for school in two weeks regardless so I'm not fretting in the slightest. I'm just curious for the future.
Somehow I get myself into the spot where I have to answer the binary question "are you dating other people".
I felt like being honest, especially given she was leaving in two weeks. Abundance, risk it, she walks.
Do I have to blatantly lie in her face to keep this girl? I've done it before but I feel like it's not who I want to be as a man. I have other shit working for me so I literally have that abundance so it literally is not a big deal BUT are there little things I can do in this situation?
Thanks
-Cat
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And to answer my own question, my guess is this is more of an outcome of variance then fucking up anywhere up until then. Just sorta accept that this shit is going to happen. Jlaix will say 'cop and blow' and yeah, true. Still, any wizard magic I can use here?
/////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////
It is 2:52 am. I just got laid and then lost this girl (probably). Date, we hookup, she asks the question right before she leaves, bounces and won't kiss me on the way out. She is leaving for school in two weeks regardless so I'm not fretting in the slightest. I'm just curious for the future.
Somehow I get myself into the spot where I have to answer the binary question "are you dating other people".
I felt like being honest, especially given she was leaving in two weeks. Abundance, risk it, she walks.
Do I have to blatantly lie in her face to keep this girl? I've done it before but I feel like it's not who I want to be as a man. I have other shit working for me so I literally have that abundance so it literally is not a big deal BUT are there little things I can do in this situation?
Thanks
-Cat
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And to answer my own question, my guess is this is more of an outcome of variance then fucking up anywhere up until then. Just sorta accept that this shit is going to happen. Jlaix will say 'cop and blow' and yeah, true. Still, any wizard magic I can use here?
After sex I tell them I don't want a relationship because "I'm not looking for one right now, I'm discovering myself etc.". It's true and I usually don't get any shit.
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BTW.. telling them this before sex tends to backfire (tho not always.) Just do it after.
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Lessons in Self Destruction
Be a more awesome and authentic man: Adventures, Articles, and Rebirth.
Bob Marley Quotes
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Friday / Saturday / Sunday
Welp, this weekend was uneventful in some ways but great in others. Zero cold approach (ouch), banged it out on Saturday after hosting a party, date on Sunday. Girl from Sunday was from .. Tuesday? the blondie and I did not get laid, handjob. We watch a film together which is great but I'm falling asleep since I've seen it. I wake up when its over, flip her over, rub up her legs.
Then I stand her up (End-Game-Move-TM Cat 2012) and put my hand down her panties and she is fucking soaked. I am surprised enough that I unconsciously say "wow". She says "I've been that wet for the last hour and a half. I don't know what it is about you". Its the smell of other women.
Idk how but we don't have sex. I guess I just wasn't going to .. rape her? It's interesting the calibration though, this girl normally goes MUCH SLOWER THAN THIS and so this is intense for her but even so I would think that a certain amount of physical arousal would have her begging.
This girl is sweet no doubt. Again, its crazy to meet these totally hot girls and have them BECOME SO INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES because you are seen as "higher" in their subjective view. Frankly.. the fact that .. I actually do see myself as "above most" (not about gender) is probably THE VERY REASON I FEEL ENTITLED to that which is somewhat less or at my level. When you are clicking with someone right at your level, that is fucking the hottest shit ever. Be it with a girl you hit on direct on the street, a basketball game, or a friendship, that is boss.
I'm dating this other girl who also "doesn't get why I like her". They both say "I don't even get why you like me" or "what do you even like about me" or straight up say "no" when I tell them they are beautiful. It's ridiculous. But it's good to know that there are girls like that out there, and what to do.
I will say this:
After a certain point "the play that we as actors play out" is relatively the same play. Boy meets girl, boy leads girl, they fuck.
But it's all the VARIATIONS that are so interesting. THAT is where the mastery is in learning about relationships.
This girl ends up being the smart, insecure hottie, ugly duckling girl. She knows she is hot but doesn't "believe it" as part of her identity. I know how to handle her: physical acts instead of words, eye contact to reward her (not words or touch), and hit her with a genuine compliment irregularly on a high note.
Other girls LOVE the verbal praise. Or being touched. We each get addicted to our own form of validation from others. When you can validate her for something that YOU think is cool, you are GENUINELY giving her a compliment. And doing it in the right channels, e.g. eye contact vs touch vs telling vs giving etc = EMOTIONAL HIGH FOR HER.
The calibration for every little emotional characteristic or logistical problem is what makes the GAME FUN. It's like playing a car-racing game and having a new track every time, sometimes super hard other times totally easy and you own. You are the driver bringing your talent to the floor everytime and getting better through experiencing all the different tracks.
It's cool. I'm realizing THERE IS NO END TO THIS SHIT. In my 40s IT WILL JUST BE A DIFFERENT LEARNING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.
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Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday are all booked up. I'm getting steak on Thursday in exchange for using this on her:
Hehehehehe...
-Cat
Welp, this weekend was uneventful in some ways but great in others. Zero cold approach (ouch), banged it out on Saturday after hosting a party, date on Sunday. Girl from Sunday was from .. Tuesday? the blondie and I did not get laid, handjob. We watch a film together which is great but I'm falling asleep since I've seen it. I wake up when its over, flip her over, rub up her legs.
Then I stand her up (End-Game-Move-TM Cat 2012) and put my hand down her panties and she is fucking soaked. I am surprised enough that I unconsciously say "wow". She says "I've been that wet for the last hour and a half. I don't know what it is about you". Its the smell of other women.
Idk how but we don't have sex. I guess I just wasn't going to .. rape her? It's interesting the calibration though, this girl normally goes MUCH SLOWER THAN THIS and so this is intense for her but even so I would think that a certain amount of physical arousal would have her begging.
This girl is sweet no doubt. Again, its crazy to meet these totally hot girls and have them BECOME SO INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES because you are seen as "higher" in their subjective view. Frankly.. the fact that .. I actually do see myself as "above most" (not about gender) is probably THE VERY REASON I FEEL ENTITLED to that which is somewhat less or at my level. When you are clicking with someone right at your level, that is fucking the hottest shit ever. Be it with a girl you hit on direct on the street, a basketball game, or a friendship, that is boss.
I'm dating this other girl who also "doesn't get why I like her". They both say "I don't even get why you like me" or "what do you even like about me" or straight up say "no" when I tell them they are beautiful. It's ridiculous. But it's good to know that there are girls like that out there, and what to do.
I will say this:
After a certain point "the play that we as actors play out" is relatively the same play. Boy meets girl, boy leads girl, they fuck.
But it's all the VARIATIONS that are so interesting. THAT is where the mastery is in learning about relationships.
This girl ends up being the smart, insecure hottie, ugly duckling girl. She knows she is hot but doesn't "believe it" as part of her identity. I know how to handle her: physical acts instead of words, eye contact to reward her (not words or touch), and hit her with a genuine compliment irregularly on a high note.
Other girls LOVE the verbal praise. Or being touched. We each get addicted to our own form of validation from others. When you can validate her for something that YOU think is cool, you are GENUINELY giving her a compliment. And doing it in the right channels, e.g. eye contact vs touch vs telling vs giving etc = EMOTIONAL HIGH FOR HER.
The calibration for every little emotional characteristic or logistical problem is what makes the GAME FUN. It's like playing a car-racing game and having a new track every time, sometimes super hard other times totally easy and you own. You are the driver bringing your talent to the floor everytime and getting better through experiencing all the different tracks.
It's cool. I'm realizing THERE IS NO END TO THIS SHIT. In my 40s IT WILL JUST BE A DIFFERENT LEARNING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.
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Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday are all booked up. I'm getting steak on Thursday in exchange for using this on her:
Hehehehehe...
-Cat
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All I did this week was have sex. With three girls. Over and over.
As cool as it sounds, and hey, it was fun, it does get old. After a certain number of times.. I dunno, sex becomes the same thing.
Always nice to add some spices: new girls, some time off, some rope.
I'm dating 4 right now.
One big sticking point for me right now is to not let all the validation go to my head.
It's hard not to when I'm getting so validated. But I'm trying to be balanced internally.
Trying to go hard on daily habits.
Going to start cold approaching way more again. I just feel better. I like it more than dating these girls.
Also want to do cooler shit on my dates than just fuck the whole time. My cock stops workign after a certain point so I might as well be doing something I'm going to enjoy.
Had a good week though: food with friends, going out, drinks, grabbing food at 1am after fucking one of my girls randomly, a different one comes over and cooks me steak, then I tie her up, I randomly create huge drama with one to make her invest (was so funny at the time even though I was super serious with her, in my head I was like LOL), went paddleboarding, played ball, lifted, read, worked.
Cheers guys
As cool as it sounds, and hey, it was fun, it does get old. After a certain number of times.. I dunno, sex becomes the same thing.
Always nice to add some spices: new girls, some time off, some rope.
I'm dating 4 right now.
One big sticking point for me right now is to not let all the validation go to my head.
It's hard not to when I'm getting so validated. But I'm trying to be balanced internally.
Trying to go hard on daily habits.
Going to start cold approaching way more again. I just feel better. I like it more than dating these girls.
Also want to do cooler shit on my dates than just fuck the whole time. My cock stops workign after a certain point so I might as well be doing something I'm going to enjoy.
Had a good week though: food with friends, going out, drinks, grabbing food at 1am after fucking one of my girls randomly, a different one comes over and cooks me steak, then I tie her up, I randomly create huge drama with one to make her invest (was so funny at the time even though I was super serious with her, in my head I was like LOL), went paddleboarding, played ball, lifted, read, worked.
Cheers guys
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