THE FORUMS
Day #8.
Headed out after work to do the regular, aka go to barnes and nobles and hit up chicks.
I had a “no thinking” mindset going on where I was just having all the sensory information come in. These last few weeks I’ve had this intense sense of calm and happiness, having been focused on this shit, and DOING IT, and quitting facebook and cutting off my ex.
On my way out of the office I walk into the elevator and open the dude there, make him smile. It’s great. He leaves, a chick walks in, same deal.
I used to not do this shit. It’s weird, almost, cause like, it’s so so so enriching, and so so so easy. Low investment, and you get smiles out of the deal. Made me feel great being able to give that.
Head out to B&N and ask for the time from a hot late 30s something. Head in and chat with the person, buy a nook color (thing is awesome) and wander around a bit, then bounce.
I feel like, okay I’m good, I feel good for the day I got my social in, but I always want to push myself so let’s see what else is going on. I do an internal 30 second countdown and just find someone to ask where the fiction is. This is important because I AM TRAINING MYSELF to obey my own commands. Success.
I’m not seeing shit here so I head out and wander the streets, head to the bus stop. I see a beautiful girl there and make eye contact as I walk up, look off to see if the bus is down a ways, then ask if shes seen the bus, and immediately, as I move down to tie my shoes, tell her “you have freckles!” in a jovial tone. She said “I’m freckulous?” I laugh, “no, you have freckles, is freckulous a word?” her “no, haha i dont think so” me “it is now, you are so freckulous, i’m Cat, you in the christmas spirit yet?”
I feel awesome about this, I’m pushing it with a stranger, it feels good. I’m noticing that if these girls aren’t in a club/bar they feel waaaay more stifled off this approach, since.. it doesn’t happen much. I think thats why, when you can hold eye contact in a genuine, kind, powerful way, and just chat, it’s really really really attractive, and really memorable. I like being that guy who is memorable for these women. That’s great :)
So we head to the bus together, and she grabs a seat and I have one a bit off so I figure okay, this is done but I’m on my game, I just need to push it farther next time (and for now I’m content with where I’m at).
Then a 7 sits besides me. She’s probably an 8 without makeup on, and damn why do chicks do this, ugh.
I open with hey what time is it and ask her if shes enjoying christmas and other shit, laughing good eye contact when she actually turns to look at me (calibrated so I’m not staring at her too). Shes happy we chat for 5 minutes I gotta bounce so I say hey let me get your phone number, lets hang out. Her: “no... no i dont think so” Me: “haha okay” her: “yeah.. something something blah blah” (literally couldnt hear her) me (still looking at her in the eye no flinch): “seriously, it’s cool, i really dont care, its great we got to chat here for a second and you’ll have a great christmas and maybe we’ll run into each other again”.
It was weird but like, i flipped the script or something... I really didn’t care, not that I didn’t want to see her or hit that but like, honestly, her loss. Its weird, I don’t get it actually, why would someone NOT want to bring people into their life? She had said something about ‘thats not what people do where I’m from’ and I’m looking at her like, don’t defend yourself, i _do_not_care_.
It was strange though, having her say no and being like haha that sucks for you.
And AWESOME. Did I mention how AMAZING I felt after? Like, walking off the bus laughing, having 20 people watching me as I’m giggling so happy.
I felt amazing because I pushed it even though it wasn’t super super on. That’s the shit dudes. That’s the shit.
Getting my social on everyday because that’s who I am.
I hit the gym and wreck some metal, felt great, exhausting but good, hit a shower and then go grab dinner with my sisters and my dad. As we drive out I see K and M on the street, literally, and scream at them out the car and then text em (i need to write that report up on my text shit.. but all those numbers are very solid, asking me to meet up over the weekend or just really fun. one thing i gotta work on is simply detaching myself from that outcome, since it’s not healthy. i need to not care where it goes, just enjoy where it is right now. will have that be a focus).
M and K call bullshit and I laugh and tell em where they were they call me a creeper I joke back and call them hookers and that I ain’t no John. Fun shit. M is being really like.. testy and K sends me this super cute message, adorable girl, awwww.
I hit up dinner with the family and we have a blast. My social confidence and voice is dialed these days so I’m being loud and totally unreactive. My lil sis sees a chick with an awesome tatt and she’s super afraid to tell her she likes it because “it would be awkward”. Me, loudly: “It’s only awkward if you MAKE it awkward!” Then I turn to the girl and tell her my sis loves her tatt and she really enjoys the compliment and it’s great.
Another place where I could’ve said nothing but knew I wanted to say something, even if it wasn’t this HUGE burning desire, or there was some outcome attached, I just wanted to say something. That felt so big, even though it was so small.
Lessons:
- Being social is a great way to brighten my day and the days of others. Its so win-win its not even funny.
- Pushing it is always worth it. Just one more set. Feel good, smile, just one more set.
- Everyone likes to be approached, even if they aren’t familiar with it. Give them time to get comfortable or “give them a chance to give me a chance”.
- Having a girl say No to asking for a number is hilarious, and great. I need more No’s in my life because every time a girl says No I’m getting so many fucking Yes’s its amazing. More no’s = more yeses = more to bring in and share.
- Its impossible to tell based on looks which girls have good social skills, are bashful, confident, nervous, or comfortable. To figure this out, I have to talk to them.
Positives:
- I pushed myself.
- I was on alignment with all my goals, big and small. Just nailed some fish oil too.
- I lowered my fear of rejection.
- I’m fun, seriously. I’m attractive because I have a great state and can go there. My wing buddy said this yesterday genuinely and not only was I really appreciative of his genuine compliment (since I’m working on this stuff) but I was also impressed with his balls to not be a “bro-chode” and actually feel something and express it honestly. That guy is the shit.
- I had a great day.
- I built my momentum even farther.
- I know I’m gonna go get it today.
Let’s go.
Headed out after work to do the regular, aka go to barnes and nobles and hit up chicks.
I had a “no thinking” mindset going on where I was just having all the sensory information come in. These last few weeks I’ve had this intense sense of calm and happiness, having been focused on this shit, and DOING IT, and quitting facebook and cutting off my ex.
On my way out of the office I walk into the elevator and open the dude there, make him smile. It’s great. He leaves, a chick walks in, same deal.
I used to not do this shit. It’s weird, almost, cause like, it’s so so so enriching, and so so so easy. Low investment, and you get smiles out of the deal. Made me feel great being able to give that.
Head out to B&N and ask for the time from a hot late 30s something. Head in and chat with the person, buy a nook color (thing is awesome) and wander around a bit, then bounce.
I feel like, okay I’m good, I feel good for the day I got my social in, but I always want to push myself so let’s see what else is going on. I do an internal 30 second countdown and just find someone to ask where the fiction is. This is important because I AM TRAINING MYSELF to obey my own commands. Success.
I’m not seeing shit here so I head out and wander the streets, head to the bus stop. I see a beautiful girl there and make eye contact as I walk up, look off to see if the bus is down a ways, then ask if shes seen the bus, and immediately, as I move down to tie my shoes, tell her “you have freckles!” in a jovial tone. She said “I’m freckulous?” I laugh, “no, you have freckles, is freckulous a word?” her “no, haha i dont think so” me “it is now, you are so freckulous, i’m Cat, you in the christmas spirit yet?”
I feel awesome about this, I’m pushing it with a stranger, it feels good. I’m noticing that if these girls aren’t in a club/bar they feel waaaay more stifled off this approach, since.. it doesn’t happen much. I think thats why, when you can hold eye contact in a genuine, kind, powerful way, and just chat, it’s really really really attractive, and really memorable. I like being that guy who is memorable for these women. That’s great :)
So we head to the bus together, and she grabs a seat and I have one a bit off so I figure okay, this is done but I’m on my game, I just need to push it farther next time (and for now I’m content with where I’m at).
Then a 7 sits besides me. She’s probably an 8 without makeup on, and damn why do chicks do this, ugh.
I open with hey what time is it and ask her if shes enjoying christmas and other shit, laughing good eye contact when she actually turns to look at me (calibrated so I’m not staring at her too). Shes happy we chat for 5 minutes I gotta bounce so I say hey let me get your phone number, lets hang out. Her: “no... no i dont think so” Me: “haha okay” her: “yeah.. something something blah blah” (literally couldnt hear her) me (still looking at her in the eye no flinch): “seriously, it’s cool, i really dont care, its great we got to chat here for a second and you’ll have a great christmas and maybe we’ll run into each other again”.
It was weird but like, i flipped the script or something... I really didn’t care, not that I didn’t want to see her or hit that but like, honestly, her loss. Its weird, I don’t get it actually, why would someone NOT want to bring people into their life? She had said something about ‘thats not what people do where I’m from’ and I’m looking at her like, don’t defend yourself, i _do_not_care_.
It was strange though, having her say no and being like haha that sucks for you.
And AWESOME. Did I mention how AMAZING I felt after? Like, walking off the bus laughing, having 20 people watching me as I’m giggling so happy.
I felt amazing because I pushed it even though it wasn’t super super on. That’s the shit dudes. That’s the shit.
Getting my social on everyday because that’s who I am.
I hit the gym and wreck some metal, felt great, exhausting but good, hit a shower and then go grab dinner with my sisters and my dad. As we drive out I see K and M on the street, literally, and scream at them out the car and then text em (i need to write that report up on my text shit.. but all those numbers are very solid, asking me to meet up over the weekend or just really fun. one thing i gotta work on is simply detaching myself from that outcome, since it’s not healthy. i need to not care where it goes, just enjoy where it is right now. will have that be a focus).
M and K call bullshit and I laugh and tell em where they were they call me a creeper I joke back and call them hookers and that I ain’t no John. Fun shit. M is being really like.. testy and K sends me this super cute message, adorable girl, awwww.
I hit up dinner with the family and we have a blast. My social confidence and voice is dialed these days so I’m being loud and totally unreactive. My lil sis sees a chick with an awesome tatt and she’s super afraid to tell her she likes it because “it would be awkward”. Me, loudly: “It’s only awkward if you MAKE it awkward!” Then I turn to the girl and tell her my sis loves her tatt and she really enjoys the compliment and it’s great.
Another place where I could’ve said nothing but knew I wanted to say something, even if it wasn’t this HUGE burning desire, or there was some outcome attached, I just wanted to say something. That felt so big, even though it was so small.
Lessons:
- Being social is a great way to brighten my day and the days of others. Its so win-win its not even funny.
- Pushing it is always worth it. Just one more set. Feel good, smile, just one more set.
- Everyone likes to be approached, even if they aren’t familiar with it. Give them time to get comfortable or “give them a chance to give me a chance”.
- Having a girl say No to asking for a number is hilarious, and great. I need more No’s in my life because every time a girl says No I’m getting so many fucking Yes’s its amazing. More no’s = more yeses = more to bring in and share.
- Its impossible to tell based on looks which girls have good social skills, are bashful, confident, nervous, or comfortable. To figure this out, I have to talk to them.
Positives:
- I pushed myself.
- I was on alignment with all my goals, big and small. Just nailed some fish oil too.
- I lowered my fear of rejection.
- I’m fun, seriously. I’m attractive because I have a great state and can go there. My wing buddy said this yesterday genuinely and not only was I really appreciative of his genuine compliment (since I’m working on this stuff) but I was also impressed with his balls to not be a “bro-chode” and actually feel something and express it honestly. That guy is the shit.
- I had a great day.
- I built my momentum even farther.
- I know I’m gonna go get it today.
Let’s go.
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My Field Reports: Cat 3.0 -- "And Then There Was Bootcamp. And It Was Good"
I think it's funny how people like us are always looking to approach people, especially girls, and that's what we do, what we practice, day in day out. And then most people, e.g. your sister, don't do this. Most people may not even care about getting over AA, or getting good with girls, and when they won't approach a total stranger with a simple line, a simple comment and not even a conversation, people like us are like wtf that shit is so easy! It's funny how doing stranger approaching is just not a popular things socially, but it can be done so much by a person who does it every day, like it is a normal thing. And there's nothing at all crazy or negative about it, it's practically a gold mine of fulfillment in a pretty deep way.
And there is nothing really like that wonderful feeling you get when you have just approached a girl or whoever and it went well, most of your stuff was clicking with minimal effort like vocal variety and body language, and she was responding in a socially positive way. If you're thinking at all at this point, it would only be "I'm the shit" (in tyler language).
And there is nothing really like that wonderful feeling you get when you have just approached a girl or whoever and it went well, most of your stuff was clicking with minimal effort like vocal variety and body language, and she was responding in a socially positive way. If you're thinking at all at this point, it would only be "I'm the shit" (in tyler language).
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DavePower
Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
Day #9.
So I had a lot of interesting epiphanies and did some important shit for the day (as far as continuing my path) but overall, I didnt push it enough. It’s because I didn’t have a plan, and because of that, I had no drive to SHOW UP someplace and no motivation to DO X at Y.
I head out after work with my co-worker and grab dinner and a beer with his friends. They are good kids, but def. need some help with social skills. Still, they weren’t intimidated by my presence, so that was nice, I was able to be social but not have to be responsible for everyone’s fun (sometimes if you are a fun guy you sorta get slotted in this role and it’s like, okay I dunno what to say so you say something Cat!). They were definitely low energy so I wasn’t getting pumped up by these dudes.
It’s weird, I’ve been TALKING ALOUD TO MYSELF a lot more and that fucking pumps my state. And laughing at shit a lot more and that pumps my state. It’s awesome. Just fucking laughing for no reason.
So, we grab some food, I kick it with these kids, head to grab some shit on my way home, hit the bus stop, ask the time 2 times on the way over. I hit the bus and get off early so I can walk home through the most trafficked section of my hood. This choice, even though it is small, IS A BIG STEP IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. Giving myself props and pumping my state right now thinking about it, because its so so true, I could stay on the bus and avoid people and be antisocial, or I take that shit headon. I did the right thing, and that's fucking awesome, proud.
I had one two set where I asked the time where they were like, very receptive and laughing cause they said it’s approximately 7:09 and I said approximately huh? coy smile. Should’ve followed up with I actually know the time I just wanted to talk to you two. Missed opportunity.
I realize out of this I need a better opener that pulls them in for a second longer, something more risky.
I’m feeling gooooood at this point in the day and am in my head like fuck I need to push it more and do some riskier shit, I’m feeling goood.
Yet I didn’t push it hard. It was a bad choice, or rather, I let apathy take over.
What I did do, because I was like, fuck, I’m not opening, is when I walked past ANYONE I had ANY desire to open, I would ask the time. In a 6 block stretch I asked 5 people, including couples who were flirting with each other, a mom and daughter. And I’d turn around if I walked past not asking and grab em.
This is GOOD. Even though the results are LAME it is GOOD. It was the RIGHT ACTION. I am in TRAINING CAMP to make these instincts and getting simple ‘what time is it’s under my belt with whoever is key. So this is big even though I felt like a lame duck.
What’s important is I’m still focused. I do not want to dabble, I want to make this a practice. So I’m right now (day later) pumping myself up for that, since that’s whats most important.
What I realized is I need a gameplan everyday I go out, so I can easily hold myself accountable and KNOW where I have to show up. This is a big lesson, and it’s a lot like the 30 second game, you define an outcome and you FORCE YOURSELF THROUGH NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL CONDITIONING to act in the right way.
Today I just have to show up to the mall I decided/planned to go to, and I know I’ll bump heads and meet people. But its showing up. Just showing up.
OTHER NEWS:
I can feel myself choding around about K in my head, she was so so beautiful. I realized this but knew I had to call her anyway, even if it sucked, and I was in a weird state, because it was the right time, and I had to take action. I call and leave a voicemail and it’s chill, a good voicemail.
After this I realize what this means for me as a practice, and how I actually sorta think that like.. if I get this chick, she’ll be the “end” and I’ll have “reached my destination” with this shit. I was realizing this on the bus and it was like WOW, NO, that’s not what this is about. She is just a girl and she’s going to be a moment on my path toward mastery. Shes a hot girl, but shes just a girl, and because I KNOW I AM GOING TO KEEP DOING THIS I also KNOW I will find another one of her, and then another one, and like, a lot more of them. She is the FIRST of these girls, but there is no END to them.
In my mind this has had a big impact on my framing of our situation. I’ve framed it like we are totally IN LOVE and like INTENT is there and she is a woman and I am a man. And I realized I actually LOST that frame by THINKING ABOUT HER. It’s so weird but that’s whats happened. Now she’s become this object that I want. Thats so unfair to her, so I’m going to give her the gift of just wanting to beast her, take her, make her gasp, and let her go. Let her come back, let that desire build in her, let her show her womanhood THROUGH ME.
So I’ve had this big shift in my head. I realized, wow I want this to go well. In reality it needs to be “wow, I am practicing the steps”. So thats where that is.
She ends up texting back saying shes very busy with school, asks for my last name so she can facebook stalk me and procrastinate. We add each other and she turns out to be a 10, straight up. She is the hottest girl I’ve approached and had it be like, 100% on.
So its weird I’m trying to ignore that shit, just let her be her. She’s actually cute, and like, shy, and nervous about being with me, because I’m a pimp, and she is a little bit afraid to pick up the phone. It’s adorable, but Im gonna have to call her out on it tonight while I’m roaming the streets looking for new meat.
Lol.
There are so many fucking beautiful, smart, witty, artistic, sexually and emotionally intelligent girls out there, I’m so lucky to have the balls to go for it, and that’s what I’m living right now. Motivated by this idea that I’m on my deathbed and I’ll know, yeah, yeah I did fucking talk to that girl when I was so afraid. I did take that risk. And I did it again, and again, and again.
I feel like the man, dudes. I’m totally on the path.
Lessons:
- Pushing through because of a ping of desire is always the right move. When I see a beautiful woman it’s never too late to walk toward her, turn her around, and talk. Never.
- I always need a DESTINATION to SHOW UP AT to hold myself accountable.
- Women are people. They get nervous, they get sexually turned on, they get anxious and excited about meeting amazing men. When you make them “a hot girl” and not a woman, you lose all of the preciousness that women offer, all that lust and fiery sex and moaning. Women don’t deserve this, ever, so I want to focus on making a woman be a person, and a woman, as opposed to a vagina and a number, 1-10.
- Even in the lamest sense, consistency is king.
- I need a default opener that has more length.
- I need to let go of the ego surrounding these women being beautiful. Their beauty is not about MY ABILITY it is about THEIR BEAUTY. That’s ONE of the gifts they get to give me, and the gift I can return is my intent to fuck them so well they gasp, and make them laugh and feel loved and dominated (which is protected). Ultimately they are just people and they are who they are, I need to let go of their value, detach from that, because that value really doesn’t exist in the relationship, it exists in me. I’m going to meditate on this tonight.
Positives:
- I did what I knew I had to do, even though I was afraid. I took risks in some situations, and didnt in others, I’m not perfect, but I’m ON MY PATH.
- I am naturally attractive to beautiful women because I’m a funny, charismatic, non-judgemental guy. I can go there quickly and women love love love that.
- People are fucking friendly. They light up when I ask them what time it is, seriously. They actually like, fucking CHANGE THEIR BODY in reaction and light the fuck up.
- Even though I didn’t push it super hard and get like, insane results (or I guess, it’s ANY result from a situation where I push it, E.G. show intent and get a yes or a no) I still felt really proud of myself, because I went out and did it, and I’m changing my life, one day at a time.
I’m about to head out to the mall now and talk to women about soap (e.g. “Hey whats a womans favorite type of soap?”). Part of what I realized from that last bullet point is I feel like a fucking champion after I go out and show intent, so that’s my secondary goal today. The first one is to just show the fuck up, and I know I’m gonna go get it.
So I had a lot of interesting epiphanies and did some important shit for the day (as far as continuing my path) but overall, I didnt push it enough. It’s because I didn’t have a plan, and because of that, I had no drive to SHOW UP someplace and no motivation to DO X at Y.
I head out after work with my co-worker and grab dinner and a beer with his friends. They are good kids, but def. need some help with social skills. Still, they weren’t intimidated by my presence, so that was nice, I was able to be social but not have to be responsible for everyone’s fun (sometimes if you are a fun guy you sorta get slotted in this role and it’s like, okay I dunno what to say so you say something Cat!). They were definitely low energy so I wasn’t getting pumped up by these dudes.
It’s weird, I’ve been TALKING ALOUD TO MYSELF a lot more and that fucking pumps my state. And laughing at shit a lot more and that pumps my state. It’s awesome. Just fucking laughing for no reason.
So, we grab some food, I kick it with these kids, head to grab some shit on my way home, hit the bus stop, ask the time 2 times on the way over. I hit the bus and get off early so I can walk home through the most trafficked section of my hood. This choice, even though it is small, IS A BIG STEP IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. Giving myself props and pumping my state right now thinking about it, because its so so true, I could stay on the bus and avoid people and be antisocial, or I take that shit headon. I did the right thing, and that's fucking awesome, proud.
I had one two set where I asked the time where they were like, very receptive and laughing cause they said it’s approximately 7:09 and I said approximately huh? coy smile. Should’ve followed up with I actually know the time I just wanted to talk to you two. Missed opportunity.
I realize out of this I need a better opener that pulls them in for a second longer, something more risky.
I’m feeling gooooood at this point in the day and am in my head like fuck I need to push it more and do some riskier shit, I’m feeling goood.
Yet I didn’t push it hard. It was a bad choice, or rather, I let apathy take over.
What I did do, because I was like, fuck, I’m not opening, is when I walked past ANYONE I had ANY desire to open, I would ask the time. In a 6 block stretch I asked 5 people, including couples who were flirting with each other, a mom and daughter. And I’d turn around if I walked past not asking and grab em.
This is GOOD. Even though the results are LAME it is GOOD. It was the RIGHT ACTION. I am in TRAINING CAMP to make these instincts and getting simple ‘what time is it’s under my belt with whoever is key. So this is big even though I felt like a lame duck.
What’s important is I’m still focused. I do not want to dabble, I want to make this a practice. So I’m right now (day later) pumping myself up for that, since that’s whats most important.
What I realized is I need a gameplan everyday I go out, so I can easily hold myself accountable and KNOW where I have to show up. This is a big lesson, and it’s a lot like the 30 second game, you define an outcome and you FORCE YOURSELF THROUGH NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL CONDITIONING to act in the right way.
Today I just have to show up to the mall I decided/planned to go to, and I know I’ll bump heads and meet people. But its showing up. Just showing up.
OTHER NEWS:
I can feel myself choding around about K in my head, she was so so beautiful. I realized this but knew I had to call her anyway, even if it sucked, and I was in a weird state, because it was the right time, and I had to take action. I call and leave a voicemail and it’s chill, a good voicemail.
After this I realize what this means for me as a practice, and how I actually sorta think that like.. if I get this chick, she’ll be the “end” and I’ll have “reached my destination” with this shit. I was realizing this on the bus and it was like WOW, NO, that’s not what this is about. She is just a girl and she’s going to be a moment on my path toward mastery. Shes a hot girl, but shes just a girl, and because I KNOW I AM GOING TO KEEP DOING THIS I also KNOW I will find another one of her, and then another one, and like, a lot more of them. She is the FIRST of these girls, but there is no END to them.
In my mind this has had a big impact on my framing of our situation. I’ve framed it like we are totally IN LOVE and like INTENT is there and she is a woman and I am a man. And I realized I actually LOST that frame by THINKING ABOUT HER. It’s so weird but that’s whats happened. Now she’s become this object that I want. Thats so unfair to her, so I’m going to give her the gift of just wanting to beast her, take her, make her gasp, and let her go. Let her come back, let that desire build in her, let her show her womanhood THROUGH ME.
So I’ve had this big shift in my head. I realized, wow I want this to go well. In reality it needs to be “wow, I am practicing the steps”. So thats where that is.
She ends up texting back saying shes very busy with school, asks for my last name so she can facebook stalk me and procrastinate. We add each other and she turns out to be a 10, straight up. She is the hottest girl I’ve approached and had it be like, 100% on.
So its weird I’m trying to ignore that shit, just let her be her. She’s actually cute, and like, shy, and nervous about being with me, because I’m a pimp, and she is a little bit afraid to pick up the phone. It’s adorable, but Im gonna have to call her out on it tonight while I’m roaming the streets looking for new meat.
Lol.
There are so many fucking beautiful, smart, witty, artistic, sexually and emotionally intelligent girls out there, I’m so lucky to have the balls to go for it, and that’s what I’m living right now. Motivated by this idea that I’m on my deathbed and I’ll know, yeah, yeah I did fucking talk to that girl when I was so afraid. I did take that risk. And I did it again, and again, and again.
I feel like the man, dudes. I’m totally on the path.
Lessons:
- Pushing through because of a ping of desire is always the right move. When I see a beautiful woman it’s never too late to walk toward her, turn her around, and talk. Never.
- I always need a DESTINATION to SHOW UP AT to hold myself accountable.
- Women are people. They get nervous, they get sexually turned on, they get anxious and excited about meeting amazing men. When you make them “a hot girl” and not a woman, you lose all of the preciousness that women offer, all that lust and fiery sex and moaning. Women don’t deserve this, ever, so I want to focus on making a woman be a person, and a woman, as opposed to a vagina and a number, 1-10.
- Even in the lamest sense, consistency is king.
- I need a default opener that has more length.
- I need to let go of the ego surrounding these women being beautiful. Their beauty is not about MY ABILITY it is about THEIR BEAUTY. That’s ONE of the gifts they get to give me, and the gift I can return is my intent to fuck them so well they gasp, and make them laugh and feel loved and dominated (which is protected). Ultimately they are just people and they are who they are, I need to let go of their value, detach from that, because that value really doesn’t exist in the relationship, it exists in me. I’m going to meditate on this tonight.
Positives:
- I did what I knew I had to do, even though I was afraid. I took risks in some situations, and didnt in others, I’m not perfect, but I’m ON MY PATH.
- I am naturally attractive to beautiful women because I’m a funny, charismatic, non-judgemental guy. I can go there quickly and women love love love that.
- People are fucking friendly. They light up when I ask them what time it is, seriously. They actually like, fucking CHANGE THEIR BODY in reaction and light the fuck up.
- Even though I didn’t push it super hard and get like, insane results (or I guess, it’s ANY result from a situation where I push it, E.G. show intent and get a yes or a no) I still felt really proud of myself, because I went out and did it, and I’m changing my life, one day at a time.
I’m about to head out to the mall now and talk to women about soap (e.g. “Hey whats a womans favorite type of soap?”). Part of what I realized from that last bullet point is I feel like a fucking champion after I go out and show intent, so that’s my secondary goal today. The first one is to just show the fuck up, and I know I’m gonna go get it.
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My Field Reports: Cat 3.0 -- "And Then There Was Bootcamp. And It Was Good"
Day #10.
I wrote up Day #9’s report, had it get me rolling and pumped because I knew where I wanted to go for solo day game and that I wanted to push it with my intent. I was feeling kinda weird, like, good that I’m on the path, but with a bit of momentum lost. I think the bar/show scene really pumps my momentum (going to another CD release show tonight).
I walk down to a shop and ask the time on the way to WHOEVER. I chat the person in the elevator on the way down and we bullshit and he calls me on it and we’re laughing, it was fun. I grab some sports detergent for my gym shit and head out to a market close by. I find out that there are a lot of hot women shopping on this street, and so I’ll be walking on this one way more.
Okay I walk through the market I hadn’t planned on visiting but realized was close by. I get some free apple and chat with some other chick handing out free slices of pear and she laughs loudly at some shit I say, big old smile. Being boisterous is getting easier and easier. It feels good to brighten these peoples days, and I like feeling that sense that I’m giving that gift to these random people, even just with eye contact. They feel that emotional ping and it’s positive and fun.
I call back K and leave another vmail saying we have to talk on the phone to be friends in real life and that it could be cute for us to be digital text message lovers, and some other shit, how I need to hear her voice to confirm I didnt get the number of a 300lb man. In my head I didn’t feel super into doing it but I was when I did it, good lesson. ACTION changes your state, NOT THINKING. Done, whatever happens with that happens. Keep going.
I ask some 50 year old the time and we bullshit about the weather. I keep walking to the mall where I had planned to go and do some pick up. Boom I show up and scan the environment. I head downstairs and hesitate in front of foot locker thinking about getting a new hat, two alpha dudes in there. I have that desire IN ME so I follow it and walk in and check out shoes. Right action in the small things. I’m on the path.
I head out and walk back upstairs and begin my 30 second game countdown. So far I have not not approached off of this, so its good, getting the training. I walk into a shop with a fuckload of soap and have this girl do it up on me, give me hand massages, arm massages, putting smelly shit on me, all this shit. She is cool, very outgoing, has great eye contact, we have AWESOME rapport like best friends meeting after a long trip and its great. She is a 6/7 in looks but I’m having a lot of fun, and we are both dominating the space together, not that I’m thinking about that while it’s happening, so I couldn’t really say I noticed that, I’m just sure it was a biproduct of the situation.
I seed that shes cool and get logistical info like where she lives and shit, she says her boyfriend likes this for xyz reasons and stuff, whatever, I know I just need to be confident and ask for her number because I want to bring new people into my life, that’s who I am, seriously. This felt like intent, but not sexual intent, like.. masculine intent. I WANT THIS intent, being clear and unapologetic about my desires, be they sexual or friendly.
I get checked out and look her in the eyes and say lets be friends and say ring ring ring phone number and she says I have a boyfriend and I smile and say thats why I said friends, seriously, lets be friends, you are cool lets kick it we have a great rapport. Shes smiling and kinda looks away and everyone in the store is watching and she says she really cant give her number out on the job and to come back, seriously, and find me. I say thats cool and laugh and loudly tell everyone thanks and bounce.
I got another No, excellent. Another brick. Overall this felt weird, I guess I dont understand why people dont want to be open to new people still (thats their stuff though, so I cant take responsibility for them/that). I think I did come across with too much of a sexual intent by being a man and being present, even though there wasnt a lot of sexuality in it (at least my type which is slow and dominate and deliberate and like, breathtaking). So I think thats why it was a no, and also 5 co-workers were watching the whole thing, etc.
It went well, I couldn’t have done anything better, and I’m proud of myself for asking for contact info and inviting this new person into my life, regardless of the outcome. That’s another right action. Bam bitch.
So I’m like, okay cool I’m rolling with it, yeah. I head down the escalator with 30 seconds game going again and ask for the time. Cool, smile, etc. Low risk low reward, just to KEEP TALKING. I realized while meditating yesterday night that SPEAKING with a RESONATING VOICE is a bit state pumper, and thats why I think I’m singing/laughing/talking to myself more and more these days, to get myself feeling good. I think it’s awesome that my tendency is towards higher energy and positive emotions, excellent progress.
I head out of the mall feeling good. I ask for the time again. Then I say okay I’ve filled the quota toady I can go home, anything on top of this is extra. I’m walking past barns and noble and am like... fuck it, one more set. I’ve seen the security guard here all the time (twice on Monday) this week, hah. I stroll through, 30 second game myself, find a 2 set one girl one guy and ask the time. The guy cuts the girl off, very alpha, has good eye contact, and says yeah dude the time is 7:08 or whatever. It was in a I’m gonna lead us to the right place way. Def something I’ll do next time an alpha approaches me and my girl. Very disarming in a positive way, he was adding to the vibe.
Okay coo I feel even more proud of myself for just showing up to another venue and doing another set, pushing my limits. I decide to take a new exit and head through into a new mall. I laugh at some baby who is cute and then head to the exit feeling gooood. I see a girl handing out treats and maintain eye contact as I approach and like, wow its a reminder just thinking about it how powerful that is. Eye contact is this game, with some breaking rapport tonality. She says do you want to fill out a form and get a piece of candy? No. in her eyes. She blushes and I lift my hand to take some candy. She says I cant have that one only this one and she is stiffled and kinda awkward and I feed into it a bit because the eye contact. So I flinch. I grab the candy and say thanks and leave. That was another set to be proud of because of the prolonged eye contact, and me staying with the pressure. Big.
I’ve noticed that I’m less reactive to stuff in general today, walking down the street. I began to walk across a street with a red light and realized I was gonna get hit and frantically turned back around. When I walked past when it was green I wasnt stiffled though, and I think I would’ve been 2 weeks ago. Feels good, interesting how theres that retention of who you were since its recent, even when you are on the path. I know that reaction will feel foreign in a year. Also cars honking and shit, I’m not jumpy. I’m like, just enjoying walking down the street a lot more, its really amazing.
I am soaking up this life.
I decide to walk home instead of taking the bus since I’ll have more opportunities to meet people that way. On the way home I run into a cool dood who I had met on thanksgiving who invited me to a show hes putting on, so I’ll run around this weekend and do that among other things. I ask the time a few more times, laugh seeing some weird shops, just like, standing, laughing alone because the sign and the storefront is hilarious to me. Felt so good, not caring about that shit.
I hit up a grocery store on the way back and grab some food and head home.
I realize I want to detox from validation via my phone, ignore any calls I would get, having left some vmails and texts that day, so I turn off the phone. I sit and meditate for an hour, talking aloud when I need to (realizing that the resonance from speaking is a physical state-pumper), fuck up and think about all sorts of shit and imagine other places, come back to the here and now, and keep doing that, smoking some weed too, room is dark, I’m listening to the rain fall outside. It hits 10pm and I turn my phone back on to set my alarm for the morning and take out my trash and clean my dishes, getting some more little things I wanted to get done, done, feeling good, taking right action. (Crazy how often I checked my phone when it was off, forgetting it was off. Made me realize how attached I am to it).
I then proceed to make beats (something I’ve dabbled with but want to spend more time practicing) and fucking dominate and have a great time. I’m proud of myself for this too, since Ive felt kinda guilty having the means but not executing. So I did that as well, phone off, and loved itl
I’m on for the day and it feels great.
I get two texts as I turn my phone on, one from my ex who invites me to come to hers on Friday for a bottle of wine and a movie = fucking, and another from K. She says she lives at her school but will try to call me later that night.
She calls a minute later, I’m stoned as fuck and dont pick up, she leaves a message. I’m nervous about the call. I realize in my head, okay dude, the OUTCOME doesnt matter, the STEPS do. And I knew I had to follow the steps, SHOW UP for my gameplan. I brush my teeth, drink a glass of water, and call her up and climb into bed under my covers. She picks up and I’m shivering myself warm and shes like what the hell is that sound since I’m under the covers and I tell her and just like, say one or two things and I’m totally calm, totally riffing, asking questions, telling stories, my phone game is tiiiight.
I had a great time talking about what I’m doing in life, getting to know her better (we had maybe 10 minutes in the club, mayyyybe), and just shooting the shit, telling stories. We talked for 40 minutes and during it I tell her about the show I was invited to and tell her she should come, then when I dont get an immediate yes since shes sick I thread off and talk about dreaming and miniature elephants and how shes gonna be my invention girl and we’ll do a honeymoon in alcopulco (reference to our first meet, which was solid, made it more meaningful, she’s clever enough to get that). Good vibe, pretty relaxed and calm, not like crazy apeshit club Cat, just like, this is who I am, deep voice, lots of laugher Cat. She seemed to dig it, but whatever, she does what she does, even if I want it to go well, I just have to know I’m showing who I AM and she can do with that what she wants.
I feel good about it though, I actually feel like I got to screen her a bit and see what shes into, qualify her some with “do you do yoga?” and whats your favorite color and why and spiderman vs batman and stuff. I gave her a real compliment when I asked her do you like film and she said no straight up, since in my mind, not pussyfooting around that shit and just being genuine is attractive, and I said something like that, while making fun of a chode-girl who would’ve been like “um yeah I guess...”. I like that she knows what she wants, thats cool.
I’m sure it’s on to meetup again, probably her friend with her at a bar grabbing some drinks and shit. I’m going to Vietnam next Wednesday for 15 days so I’ll be doing my second half of the 30 day challenge there so I’ll probably meet up with her after that. I’m trying to reserve my Friday&Saturday for no-girls-with-me pick up with my bud.
Anyway I try to sleep but can’t and M texts me (who I had called and left a vmail on) and we text back and forth a bunch, shes testing me and shit, but its good. M and J live together so I have to play this right, realllllllly get the approval of M because J is already hooked but doesnt want to look bad with her girlfriend and seem a) slutty and b) more attractive. So I’m in the mindset of gaming both of them, and showing active interest in M and passive interest in J. Anything I throw out to J will be interpreted as strong intent since I already wrote I want to kiss you to her and M read that, so shes back-burnered for a bit, they might come out this weekend, whatever.
Lessons:
- ACTION changes your state, NOT THINKING.
- Intent isnt just sexual. It can be friendly, and people can “reject” you. This is good, you want to polarize people quickly learn WHO QUALIFIES and who doesnt. I need to show more sexual intent though, more direct shit, I need to own my feelings more.
- Detoxing is important. Focusing on my own life, not how I connect to others, is important. It gives me that knowledge of who I am and what I want to be, since I’m focused on it.
- Mediation is hard and worth it. I want to incorporate this detox & meditation into my life more.
- Eye contact with the walk up is all the attraction I need to run. Seriously. ANYTHING with a good voice tone after that is hooking HARD. Very few people, especially men, can do this. Gonna focus on this tonight, excited to have this effect on more girls.
- One more set. Just one more set.
Positives:
- One more set, I pushed it one more set.
- I pushed intent and put myself out there. Outcome unimportant, intent = on my purpose; I’m on my purpose.
- I’m holding eye contact longer, and more sexually, and with less stiffling.
- I’m feeling less reactive to my environment.
- I had a plan and executed. I keep growing my trust in myself.
- I had fun and took care of myself in all aspects yesterday, interpersonally and intrapersonally.
- Really hot girls want to talk to me for a long time. And it makes me realize these girls are just GIRLS and COINCIDENTALLY they are hot, but theres nothing different between ugly girls and hot girls in a lot of ways. It was great to have a long, person to person connection, no fronting or screens.
- I’m feeling that frame of intent more and more, and I like it, it makes me feel like a man, and regardless of how I polarize people with my actions, I get the respect of all.
- I am the shit.
Glory times await me in the night. Time to bounce.
I wrote up Day #9’s report, had it get me rolling and pumped because I knew where I wanted to go for solo day game and that I wanted to push it with my intent. I was feeling kinda weird, like, good that I’m on the path, but with a bit of momentum lost. I think the bar/show scene really pumps my momentum (going to another CD release show tonight).
I walk down to a shop and ask the time on the way to WHOEVER. I chat the person in the elevator on the way down and we bullshit and he calls me on it and we’re laughing, it was fun. I grab some sports detergent for my gym shit and head out to a market close by. I find out that there are a lot of hot women shopping on this street, and so I’ll be walking on this one way more.
Okay I walk through the market I hadn’t planned on visiting but realized was close by. I get some free apple and chat with some other chick handing out free slices of pear and she laughs loudly at some shit I say, big old smile. Being boisterous is getting easier and easier. It feels good to brighten these peoples days, and I like feeling that sense that I’m giving that gift to these random people, even just with eye contact. They feel that emotional ping and it’s positive and fun.
I call back K and leave another vmail saying we have to talk on the phone to be friends in real life and that it could be cute for us to be digital text message lovers, and some other shit, how I need to hear her voice to confirm I didnt get the number of a 300lb man. In my head I didn’t feel super into doing it but I was when I did it, good lesson. ACTION changes your state, NOT THINKING. Done, whatever happens with that happens. Keep going.
I ask some 50 year old the time and we bullshit about the weather. I keep walking to the mall where I had planned to go and do some pick up. Boom I show up and scan the environment. I head downstairs and hesitate in front of foot locker thinking about getting a new hat, two alpha dudes in there. I have that desire IN ME so I follow it and walk in and check out shoes. Right action in the small things. I’m on the path.
I head out and walk back upstairs and begin my 30 second game countdown. So far I have not not approached off of this, so its good, getting the training. I walk into a shop with a fuckload of soap and have this girl do it up on me, give me hand massages, arm massages, putting smelly shit on me, all this shit. She is cool, very outgoing, has great eye contact, we have AWESOME rapport like best friends meeting after a long trip and its great. She is a 6/7 in looks but I’m having a lot of fun, and we are both dominating the space together, not that I’m thinking about that while it’s happening, so I couldn’t really say I noticed that, I’m just sure it was a biproduct of the situation.
I seed that shes cool and get logistical info like where she lives and shit, she says her boyfriend likes this for xyz reasons and stuff, whatever, I know I just need to be confident and ask for her number because I want to bring new people into my life, that’s who I am, seriously. This felt like intent, but not sexual intent, like.. masculine intent. I WANT THIS intent, being clear and unapologetic about my desires, be they sexual or friendly.
I get checked out and look her in the eyes and say lets be friends and say ring ring ring phone number and she says I have a boyfriend and I smile and say thats why I said friends, seriously, lets be friends, you are cool lets kick it we have a great rapport. Shes smiling and kinda looks away and everyone in the store is watching and she says she really cant give her number out on the job and to come back, seriously, and find me. I say thats cool and laugh and loudly tell everyone thanks and bounce.
I got another No, excellent. Another brick. Overall this felt weird, I guess I dont understand why people dont want to be open to new people still (thats their stuff though, so I cant take responsibility for them/that). I think I did come across with too much of a sexual intent by being a man and being present, even though there wasnt a lot of sexuality in it (at least my type which is slow and dominate and deliberate and like, breathtaking). So I think thats why it was a no, and also 5 co-workers were watching the whole thing, etc.
It went well, I couldn’t have done anything better, and I’m proud of myself for asking for contact info and inviting this new person into my life, regardless of the outcome. That’s another right action. Bam bitch.
So I’m like, okay cool I’m rolling with it, yeah. I head down the escalator with 30 seconds game going again and ask for the time. Cool, smile, etc. Low risk low reward, just to KEEP TALKING. I realized while meditating yesterday night that SPEAKING with a RESONATING VOICE is a bit state pumper, and thats why I think I’m singing/laughing/talking to myself more and more these days, to get myself feeling good. I think it’s awesome that my tendency is towards higher energy and positive emotions, excellent progress.
I head out of the mall feeling good. I ask for the time again. Then I say okay I’ve filled the quota toady I can go home, anything on top of this is extra. I’m walking past barns and noble and am like... fuck it, one more set. I’ve seen the security guard here all the time (twice on Monday) this week, hah. I stroll through, 30 second game myself, find a 2 set one girl one guy and ask the time. The guy cuts the girl off, very alpha, has good eye contact, and says yeah dude the time is 7:08 or whatever. It was in a I’m gonna lead us to the right place way. Def something I’ll do next time an alpha approaches me and my girl. Very disarming in a positive way, he was adding to the vibe.
Okay coo I feel even more proud of myself for just showing up to another venue and doing another set, pushing my limits. I decide to take a new exit and head through into a new mall. I laugh at some baby who is cute and then head to the exit feeling gooood. I see a girl handing out treats and maintain eye contact as I approach and like, wow its a reminder just thinking about it how powerful that is. Eye contact is this game, with some breaking rapport tonality. She says do you want to fill out a form and get a piece of candy? No. in her eyes. She blushes and I lift my hand to take some candy. She says I cant have that one only this one and she is stiffled and kinda awkward and I feed into it a bit because the eye contact. So I flinch. I grab the candy and say thanks and leave. That was another set to be proud of because of the prolonged eye contact, and me staying with the pressure. Big.
I’ve noticed that I’m less reactive to stuff in general today, walking down the street. I began to walk across a street with a red light and realized I was gonna get hit and frantically turned back around. When I walked past when it was green I wasnt stiffled though, and I think I would’ve been 2 weeks ago. Feels good, interesting how theres that retention of who you were since its recent, even when you are on the path. I know that reaction will feel foreign in a year. Also cars honking and shit, I’m not jumpy. I’m like, just enjoying walking down the street a lot more, its really amazing.
I am soaking up this life.
I decide to walk home instead of taking the bus since I’ll have more opportunities to meet people that way. On the way home I run into a cool dood who I had met on thanksgiving who invited me to a show hes putting on, so I’ll run around this weekend and do that among other things. I ask the time a few more times, laugh seeing some weird shops, just like, standing, laughing alone because the sign and the storefront is hilarious to me. Felt so good, not caring about that shit.
I hit up a grocery store on the way back and grab some food and head home.
I realize I want to detox from validation via my phone, ignore any calls I would get, having left some vmails and texts that day, so I turn off the phone. I sit and meditate for an hour, talking aloud when I need to (realizing that the resonance from speaking is a physical state-pumper), fuck up and think about all sorts of shit and imagine other places, come back to the here and now, and keep doing that, smoking some weed too, room is dark, I’m listening to the rain fall outside. It hits 10pm and I turn my phone back on to set my alarm for the morning and take out my trash and clean my dishes, getting some more little things I wanted to get done, done, feeling good, taking right action. (Crazy how often I checked my phone when it was off, forgetting it was off. Made me realize how attached I am to it).
I then proceed to make beats (something I’ve dabbled with but want to spend more time practicing) and fucking dominate and have a great time. I’m proud of myself for this too, since Ive felt kinda guilty having the means but not executing. So I did that as well, phone off, and loved itl
I’m on for the day and it feels great.
I get two texts as I turn my phone on, one from my ex who invites me to come to hers on Friday for a bottle of wine and a movie = fucking, and another from K. She says she lives at her school but will try to call me later that night.
She calls a minute later, I’m stoned as fuck and dont pick up, she leaves a message. I’m nervous about the call. I realize in my head, okay dude, the OUTCOME doesnt matter, the STEPS do. And I knew I had to follow the steps, SHOW UP for my gameplan. I brush my teeth, drink a glass of water, and call her up and climb into bed under my covers. She picks up and I’m shivering myself warm and shes like what the hell is that sound since I’m under the covers and I tell her and just like, say one or two things and I’m totally calm, totally riffing, asking questions, telling stories, my phone game is tiiiight.
I had a great time talking about what I’m doing in life, getting to know her better (we had maybe 10 minutes in the club, mayyyybe), and just shooting the shit, telling stories. We talked for 40 minutes and during it I tell her about the show I was invited to and tell her she should come, then when I dont get an immediate yes since shes sick I thread off and talk about dreaming and miniature elephants and how shes gonna be my invention girl and we’ll do a honeymoon in alcopulco (reference to our first meet, which was solid, made it more meaningful, she’s clever enough to get that). Good vibe, pretty relaxed and calm, not like crazy apeshit club Cat, just like, this is who I am, deep voice, lots of laugher Cat. She seemed to dig it, but whatever, she does what she does, even if I want it to go well, I just have to know I’m showing who I AM and she can do with that what she wants.
I feel good about it though, I actually feel like I got to screen her a bit and see what shes into, qualify her some with “do you do yoga?” and whats your favorite color and why and spiderman vs batman and stuff. I gave her a real compliment when I asked her do you like film and she said no straight up, since in my mind, not pussyfooting around that shit and just being genuine is attractive, and I said something like that, while making fun of a chode-girl who would’ve been like “um yeah I guess...”. I like that she knows what she wants, thats cool.
I’m sure it’s on to meetup again, probably her friend with her at a bar grabbing some drinks and shit. I’m going to Vietnam next Wednesday for 15 days so I’ll be doing my second half of the 30 day challenge there so I’ll probably meet up with her after that. I’m trying to reserve my Friday&Saturday for no-girls-with-me pick up with my bud.
Anyway I try to sleep but can’t and M texts me (who I had called and left a vmail on) and we text back and forth a bunch, shes testing me and shit, but its good. M and J live together so I have to play this right, realllllllly get the approval of M because J is already hooked but doesnt want to look bad with her girlfriend and seem a) slutty and b) more attractive. So I’m in the mindset of gaming both of them, and showing active interest in M and passive interest in J. Anything I throw out to J will be interpreted as strong intent since I already wrote I want to kiss you to her and M read that, so shes back-burnered for a bit, they might come out this weekend, whatever.
Lessons:
- ACTION changes your state, NOT THINKING.
- Intent isnt just sexual. It can be friendly, and people can “reject” you. This is good, you want to polarize people quickly learn WHO QUALIFIES and who doesnt. I need to show more sexual intent though, more direct shit, I need to own my feelings more.
- Detoxing is important. Focusing on my own life, not how I connect to others, is important. It gives me that knowledge of who I am and what I want to be, since I’m focused on it.
- Mediation is hard and worth it. I want to incorporate this detox & meditation into my life more.
- Eye contact with the walk up is all the attraction I need to run. Seriously. ANYTHING with a good voice tone after that is hooking HARD. Very few people, especially men, can do this. Gonna focus on this tonight, excited to have this effect on more girls.
- One more set. Just one more set.
Positives:
- One more set, I pushed it one more set.
- I pushed intent and put myself out there. Outcome unimportant, intent = on my purpose; I’m on my purpose.
- I’m holding eye contact longer, and more sexually, and with less stiffling.
- I’m feeling less reactive to my environment.
- I had a plan and executed. I keep growing my trust in myself.
- I had fun and took care of myself in all aspects yesterday, interpersonally and intrapersonally.
- Really hot girls want to talk to me for a long time. And it makes me realize these girls are just GIRLS and COINCIDENTALLY they are hot, but theres nothing different between ugly girls and hot girls in a lot of ways. It was great to have a long, person to person connection, no fronting or screens.
- I’m feeling that frame of intent more and more, and I like it, it makes me feel like a man, and regardless of how I polarize people with my actions, I get the respect of all.
- I am the shit.
Glory times await me in the night. Time to bounce.
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My Field Reports: Cat 3.0 -- "And Then There Was Bootcamp. And It Was Good"
Day #11.
Don’t have a lot of time to report shit but started the day out by talking to everyone in the elevator. Had fun at work chatting with fools. On the bus ride home I open the girl across from me with I like your boot and it sticks REAL HARD, dammit this girl was 30 and a 6, too bad. We chat for 10.
I head home and pump myself up for heading out in the night. I call up C and we bullshit for 30 real fun, too bad shes HOT and gay, but cool because the perspective is interesting.
My boy shows up and we bounce out. We find our spot and I get a text from K saying whats up. Cool, I write her back saying ‘thinking bout your butt it cute? mine is perky apprently’. We text back and forth. My text game, and knowing when to stop, is getting real solid.
We head over to the bar and the show is starting much later. On the walk over I open a super cute girl and she is loving it, and I totally chode and dont go for the contact info, super dumb she was hot and really into it. Dumb of me, simply put, the conversation was smooth like water and I should’ve incorporated her into my life. Good lesson/reminder.
We find the bar and they say its happening later, I grab my jacket we try to find other bars we stop at one and grab a drink. We see two chicks sitting at a booth and I ask my wing if we should approach, yes, so we sit down with them. We hang with them for 15, they both suck and the receptive one is like a man woman, really dislike that masculine vibe from girls. Whatever it was about approaching. The other chick was dumb and kept trying to blow us out, but we didnt give a shit. Finally she drags the man-woman off, cool.
A few minutes later one of the finest women I’ve seen this week walks by with her gf and I’m like visibly head-turning to watch that ass walk by, clearly noticing them and having everyone watch me notice them. They run off I have an intense desire to talk to them. I don’t because I’m a huge pussy.
We get ready to bounce and pay our tab I open a two set with how to do spell Geraldo (pronounced Hair-ald-o). K had busted on me for spelling it wrong via text. They say whatever, we all flirt for a few minutes, they take off with booze in hand. We bounce.
Heading home I’m feeling intense regret not chatting the super hot one. I think about it, realizing I had had many successes that day, totally naturally opening everyone on the elevator (proud of this), naturally hooking the chick on the bus (proud), the girl on the street (proud), approaching the 2 set in a noticable, social-pressure way (proud) and the last two set.
Realized the larger the desire, the more guilt I associate with not-acting, and the more distracted I am from the successes/proudness of that day.
I want to focus on the successes constantly and just ignore that other shit. Big. Need to keep it in mind.
Head back to mine to debrief with my boy and smoke some dro, he’s a great dude and gives me awesome feedback and also is very appreciative of me, giving me compliments, and shit. We have a good strong connection, I hope he will stay on the path and be committed like I am. It’s very cool.
End up texting with M and J for a bit and play that really well. Need to find a way to export my texts from my phone since they are long, but very good. Want to share that with you guys.
Lessons:
- Just be social. Period.
- Follow my desire when its big no matter what.
- Don’t focus on my lack of action, focus on RIGHT ACTION and the right actions of the day.
- Ugly bitches are blowing me out more than hot bitches. Stick to hot bitches who are feminine, they are more fun.
Positives:
- 4 good sets showing happiness and intent to meet these fools
- K is very interested and I’m loving that
- Gaining more and more momentum. I’m not thinking about approaching nearly as much, just doing it.
- Chicks think I am hot because I am.
- I’m sexy as fuck.
- My phone/text/vibing game is awesome.
I’m doing wine&movie tonight with my EX and then after grabbing a drink with K. Might get laid twice but need to figure out logistics to wash my dick off in between meetups. Weird, but cool.
Don’t have a lot of time to report shit but started the day out by talking to everyone in the elevator. Had fun at work chatting with fools. On the bus ride home I open the girl across from me with I like your boot and it sticks REAL HARD, dammit this girl was 30 and a 6, too bad. We chat for 10.
I head home and pump myself up for heading out in the night. I call up C and we bullshit for 30 real fun, too bad shes HOT and gay, but cool because the perspective is interesting.
My boy shows up and we bounce out. We find our spot and I get a text from K saying whats up. Cool, I write her back saying ‘thinking bout your butt it cute? mine is perky apprently’. We text back and forth. My text game, and knowing when to stop, is getting real solid.
We head over to the bar and the show is starting much later. On the walk over I open a super cute girl and she is loving it, and I totally chode and dont go for the contact info, super dumb she was hot and really into it. Dumb of me, simply put, the conversation was smooth like water and I should’ve incorporated her into my life. Good lesson/reminder.
We find the bar and they say its happening later, I grab my jacket we try to find other bars we stop at one and grab a drink. We see two chicks sitting at a booth and I ask my wing if we should approach, yes, so we sit down with them. We hang with them for 15, they both suck and the receptive one is like a man woman, really dislike that masculine vibe from girls. Whatever it was about approaching. The other chick was dumb and kept trying to blow us out, but we didnt give a shit. Finally she drags the man-woman off, cool.
A few minutes later one of the finest women I’ve seen this week walks by with her gf and I’m like visibly head-turning to watch that ass walk by, clearly noticing them and having everyone watch me notice them. They run off I have an intense desire to talk to them. I don’t because I’m a huge pussy.
We get ready to bounce and pay our tab I open a two set with how to do spell Geraldo (pronounced Hair-ald-o). K had busted on me for spelling it wrong via text. They say whatever, we all flirt for a few minutes, they take off with booze in hand. We bounce.
Heading home I’m feeling intense regret not chatting the super hot one. I think about it, realizing I had had many successes that day, totally naturally opening everyone on the elevator (proud of this), naturally hooking the chick on the bus (proud), the girl on the street (proud), approaching the 2 set in a noticable, social-pressure way (proud) and the last two set.
Realized the larger the desire, the more guilt I associate with not-acting, and the more distracted I am from the successes/proudness of that day.
I want to focus on the successes constantly and just ignore that other shit. Big. Need to keep it in mind.
Head back to mine to debrief with my boy and smoke some dro, he’s a great dude and gives me awesome feedback and also is very appreciative of me, giving me compliments, and shit. We have a good strong connection, I hope he will stay on the path and be committed like I am. It’s very cool.
End up texting with M and J for a bit and play that really well. Need to find a way to export my texts from my phone since they are long, but very good. Want to share that with you guys.
Lessons:
- Just be social. Period.
- Follow my desire when its big no matter what.
- Don’t focus on my lack of action, focus on RIGHT ACTION and the right actions of the day.
- Ugly bitches are blowing me out more than hot bitches. Stick to hot bitches who are feminine, they are more fun.
Positives:
- 4 good sets showing happiness and intent to meet these fools
- K is very interested and I’m loving that
- Gaining more and more momentum. I’m not thinking about approaching nearly as much, just doing it.
- Chicks think I am hot because I am.
- I’m sexy as fuck.
- My phone/text/vibing game is awesome.
I’m doing wine&movie tonight with my EX and then after grabbing a drink with K. Might get laid twice but need to figure out logistics to wash my dick off in between meetups. Weird, but cool.
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You got the approaching down
Start escalating and having more intent at night. Being is social is sweet, but if you anrt a sexual presence your a dancing monkey
Start escalating and having more intent at night. Being is social is sweet, but if you anrt a sexual presence your a dancing monkey
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4:00am drunken response preface..
I agree I need to show more intent. So far my game at night is pretty good, and I really play into momentum in that. I need to go out to more environments with lots of hotties like more shows and bars, prob Thurs Fri Sat.
Regardless I'm so fucking stoked that I've stuck with it thus far and been approaching everyday / pushing myself to be CONSISTENTly social.
I'm feeling awesome, had a great fucking day/night/domination today. Will post up tomorrow when I'm less drunk and stoned and exhausted.
You got the approaching down
Start escalating and having more intent at night. Being is social is sweet, but if you anrt a sexual presence your a dancing monkey
I think that even though I have this guilt about like not approaching every fucking amazing woman I see, and there are hundreds every week, I agree, I can stop people on the street and in a bar and just talk to them and have them pay attention. Right now I feel comfortable at shows and bringing chicks to bars. I haven't been cold approaching and picking up recently so the switch to everyday is amazing and like, overwhelming and awesome, so much choice even with rejection (actually because of it). So yeah I think I'm celebrating that I'm able to cold approach and open and need to not worry about approaching every person ever who is cute.Start escalating and having more intent at night. Being is social is sweet, but if you anrt a sexual presence your a dancing monkey
I agree I need to show more intent. So far my game at night is pretty good, and I really play into momentum in that. I need to go out to more environments with lots of hotties like more shows and bars, prob Thurs Fri Sat.
Regardless I'm so fucking stoked that I've stuck with it thus far and been approaching everyday / pushing myself to be CONSISTENTly social.
I'm feeling awesome, had a great fucking day/night/domination today. Will post up tomorrow when I'm less drunk and stoned and exhausted.
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My Field Reports: Cat 3.0 -- "And Then There Was Bootcamp. And It Was Good"
You got the approaching down
Start escalating and having more intent at night. Being is social is sweet, but if you anrt a sexual presence your a dancing monkey
I can relate to this too, I need to work on escalation! Start escalating and having more intent at night. Being is social is sweet, but if you anrt a sexual presence your a dancing monkey
Approaching every day is intense isn't it!?
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Cat
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I'm headed out now to go do some daygame but really, I'm just gonna go enjoy the town and wander and be social!
I'm excited, I have no clue what's going to happen but I'm sure I'll meet some neat people!
Cheers man