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May 21st, 2013
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Eugene

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I definitely agree with you on the part where you said about being more chilled. I think everyone starts with trying to shoot laser out of their eyes and unicorns out of their ass, but once they get in the game deep enough, they realize just being cool is where it's at. I haven't had a lot of success but I started being more relaxed and chill and I can feel that I'll be really good with this "technique".
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Eugene wrote:
I definitely agree with you on the part where you said about being more chilled. I think everyone starts with trying to shoot laser out of their eyes and unicorns out of their ass, but once they get in the game deep enough, they realize just being cool is where it's at. I haven't had a lot of success but I started being more relaxed and chill and I can feel that I'll be really good with this "technique".
I'm also noticing that a lot of it is just being yourself.  Personally I'm a little amped by nature and I love to talk.  SOme may think I'm talking too much but honestly that's how my real self shines through.  THat's whats important.  

When your real self shines through.  So if you're chill by nature than be chill.  If you're  amped by nature be amped. Simple as that.  Just don't force anything.  
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Yeah, I think 

Congruence > Charisma = first step

Getting loose = second step

Taking what you want = third step
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Saturday

Play ball then I host a little BBQ at my place which I love doing. Always good to bring a bunch of fun people together. Good for the soul (emotional health connotation).

Atown and Tedly and I head to this party, Tedly knows people. It's small but chill, I realize .. damn, I haven't been to a house party IN MONTHS, this is different.

I am way too social initially :) Social as in talking to everyone. Depends on the venue, e.g. if there were 50+ CEO-types and models at a house party vs a bunch of youngish hipster nerds.

Anyway we destroy. One small remembering: two girls, one of them is talking about me behind my back after I met her, I intro to the second one, she is like "you are way too much," I ROLL WITH IT and say "yeah I'm ridiculous" and throw up my hands in surrender. And thrity minutes later I am swapping digits w/ the first one who eventually tells me she has a BF.

// Honestly this was just me noticing that I am on that level of calibration where "Sometimes I can come off bad and still get away with it".

// I think this is an "achievement" in a sense, or a "result" that someone like me trying to get good at this shit can "get more consistently". Lean the odds in my favor on the "fuck it up and still get in" result. Just a small thing but it's interesting what EXPERIENCE is teaching me about going out and the "things I can measure" --> how I can get better at fucking up and recovering, which LETS ME BE MORE RISKY --> and being more risky lets me TRY escalating in a lot of different ways more quickly, letting me see what works faster.

Atown and I head out of zer, run a random errand, realize we don't want to hang around girls we already know, and decide to go out and pimp it. Yeh son.

Get to the gym at like midnight. Stop something before we get in I think, some chick is peeing in a bush and we chat the friends, get into venue, two set, get talking.

Miss a bunch because "everyone is seated" which is BS but whatever, some more had to happen, but we leave.

Two set walking in, stop them, they wont stop, STOP THEM, they stop :) Huge. I was yelling at them but sometimes thats what you have to do. Works but its a rough landing, but it stops them. Eventually they invite us back in, they want to drink, they go in, we stay out.

Walk for a minute, five of them and the girl in the blue dress is into me telling her she is gorgeous or her friends are but I run back and stop her in the same place, the four of them leave us, I have my arm around her even though shes not having it, shes laughing because I'm being so aggressive, its more of that "haha and ?" space where I'm (in Alexander terms) arousing her emotionally and its having influence but shes not quite SOLD yet. She also invites me inside to have a drink with her but we're out.

Probably one or two on the street, even if just throw aways.

Oh yes, there mustve been one because I transition off of that and walk into a parking lot to approach 3 girls. Walk up "you guys are cute, I'm hitting on you guys", look and find the hottest one, turn, face her, walk up to her, "you are beautiful". She smiles, we shake hands, do introductions. Yay, I heart hot girls.

Atown comes in and wings it really well, we are all chatting for a second, one of us asks "where is everyone headed" they say some other place, we say our place, Atown is like "lets go" and they are down. Niceness

The mother hen is asking us on the walk over if we are buying them drinks. "No! hahahah!" Shes not happy but my girl is into me and we're committed to the walk, so we head to the bar. I do buy my girl a drink and have a beer, I pull her out and talk to her.

Super boring shit just chode questions and answers. Work, where you live, what are you guys doing. I guess I naturally do the logistical questions now which is good (and important to understand the situation). Anyway its not really about what we're saying, we are just hanging out smiling and talking and laughing and enjoying each others company. My eye contact isnt killer with her, I think it was entitlement.

This girl is very very gorgeous. Irish with strawberry long hair, gorgeous complexion, tall, long slim legs and arms. Beautiful face. Very social (she tells me this as well).

Some dude knows her in the bar, he grabs her and they start talking. I assess the situation and slot this fellow as a CHODE so I turn the the mother hen and chat her.

She works me.

It was the most "interviewing you as the best GF on a dating reality TV show" type experience I've had out in the field. It was hilarious. And I owned it, amazing eye contact, very polite but also very dominating and funny. This girl was also quite hot.

// Afterthefact: when I call my new irish girl on Monday she tells me that the mother hen would've stolen me from her if she wasn't in a long term relationship. That's a good endorsement.

I can tell Atown is done winging because this isn't pullable. Mother hen overhears and says "okay go and take her number, just walk in their confidentally and pull her out and get it". LOL

So I do.

:)

// Just goes to prove to myself YET AGAIN that not going over the top is good. CALIBRATION. I was over the top at the house party and could calibrate DOWN to the right place. And I was NATURALLY CALIBRATED to the bar and then took THEM down to a more chilled out, "ayyyye" space.

This girls is on the upper-hotness level of my entitlement zone. It's damn on though. Stoked to fuck it up .. or .. bang it out :)

Go to the next spot. Atown opens a tough one, nice, he is in, I pop in and go after one girl on the wall, its like a semi-seated 7 set. My girl is "hahha but no" so I bullshit with them and the dude next to us is cool too.

I get eyes from the girl directly next to the girl I was hitting on.

Literally instinct alone moves my body directly in front of her, grabs her, full lock eyes. I felt beastly ;)

Crazy on. I am being ridiculous and playing higher flash at this point. Momentum has set in, I'm loose, and in a good mood.. flowing.

I pull this girl around the corner for "our first romantic date in front of this... brightly lit ATM machine". Makeout. I get her number.

Its super on in the moment but no response on text the next day :) haha.

Here's the thing:

-- You NEVER know who will hit you back based on the first approach BUT
-- You DO HAVE BETTER STYLES FOR CERTAIN OUTCOMES

So this girl could've been all over it the next day but she wasnt (and I havent tried again but I should). In this case I think that flashier, higher octane shit can be too much for a good % of hit backs the next day IF I dont bring it back down to make it real.

// Makes me wonder if I should just try getting better at high BT one night stand game, try the Beryl / Josh "challenge". Whatever

// HERE'S THE TRUTH ABOUT METHODS: -- I'm using different styles every night in every approach. I calibrate differently every time. It's almost all unique. But I'm used to certain types so I have a good "plan" for that one.

Anyway we take off after this one, some randoms on the street. I text both back and make plans w/ the irish stunner. Stoked although I've been so busy that I haven't hit her back on text in the way that shes probably used to, seems like i might be playing games, then again if she was a 7 I wouldn't care so.. out of sight out of mind.

Chill Saturday no doubt
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Buddhagames

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Unless Congruence = Charisma... for you personally ; )


Cat wrote:
Yeah, I think 

Congruence > Charisma = first step

Getting loose = second step

Taking what you want = third step
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Sunday

Bang it out with one of my girls.

Monday

Do an hour or so w/ Atown who is hitting it up a lot with me recently, always cool. 

I cant remember much.  

This venue is tough.  Not an excuse because I WILL get it, but its a good thing for my ego to get shit on a bit, teaching me through experience that I'm not actually God.  (Although, yes I am actually God).  

This venue has MAJOR SHARKS IN THE WATERS because there are the hottest girls here of any night out in my city.  And its primarily a dancefloor venue so girls are ADD and will run off to dance for no reason very often.

Blowouts like always.  Some that stuck for a minute or two but then ran to the dancefloor.  Can think of two like that.  One on the dancefloor, this Columbian chick, I was walking out and I see her, immediately you are beautiful who are you, almost like I was surprised I was even saying it, it came out so fast. 

// One thing about blowouts: I DO remember my first one, some girl walking up the stairs as I walk down, I run back up after her, blowout, she tells me to fuck off in so many words.  In that moment I felt that emotional reaction.. and I literally DECIDED to roll with it and laugh it off.  

// I think this is HUGE.  If you can go out and laugh off your first blowout every night you are DOING SOMETHING RIGHT.  Like I said in my last post, this could also be "something to measure".  

// What I mean by that is simply that each night I go out I can notice if I take the first blowout personally or not, and compare my "results" with whether I laughed off the first one or not.  I think this is cool as fuck, honestly.  In the same way that I can look at "creating momentum" and how it effects my results, I can do the same with "laughing off the first blowout".  Cool

Open the hottest girl I see in the venue by holding her hand.  This sounds retarded but it was fucking boss.  Walk up to a true 10 and without looking at her grab her hand and walk with her?  Baller.

She is being pulled away to the bathroom.  I fight for it, hold her, she is looking at me, smiling.  "I have to go..."  Then she runs into some dude and stops for him, they know each other.  Instead of being deflated I make it into a big joke.

This girl has stopped and I'm like "you are gorgeous who are you" and shes like ".... Cat... it's Ally.  You've been texting me..." 

:)

Whooops lol

I had met this girl two or three weeks before at the same venue.. Gawd shes my ten.  Number closed that one at the end of the night real fast, she "boyfriended" me but I still hit her up (gotta hit up your numbers, or if you are overloaded, your HOT/out-of-entitlement-zone numbers).  

// Getting turned down by girls out of my entitlment zone is a good feeling.  It keeps me humble, makes me appreciate the girls I do have, and also gives me these glimpses of what its like to be getting those uber hot girls in a consistent way.  1% every week?  I can take that.  

Two set, I'm in my momentum now, the first girl is fucking hating me.  Second girl.  Laser eyes.  "I'm Cat"  She is smiling looking back but not saying anything.  I wait, laser eyes.  More.  She buckles.  Its on.

Her GF is a huge cockblock and she puts up with me because I have hooked this girl super hard.  Pure eye contact game.  

Chat chat chat.  Atown comes in to help, the GF attacks him like a homeless dog looking for food, not much anyone could do, she was just pissed off.  I'm going for the number, my girl has the biggest tits ever, shes purposefully pushing them into my chest/stomach and they are big enough where nothing else of her body is touching me, I get wood, want to fuck her.  Shes hesitant.  Slow it down, try again.  

Her GF is like "LETS GO!!!" and Atown tries to calm her down but it ends up being the excuse the GF needs to pull my girl away, lose her forever.  Forever alone.  Maybe one day I'll find a pretty girl that will love me.  

Nothing could've been done about this one but it still was too bad, damn she was hooked and in that reeeeeally chill / sexual way, eye contact will do that.  Ugh.  Happens.  

Pop in another one or two before we head out.  

Nice lessons from a MONDAY (lol, we are awesome out here).  Felt good to hit the gym and bang the guns, get some reps in.  

I want to be in a place where this venue feels COMFORTABLE.  I sorta wish all other venues I went to were this difficult because I could just sack up and get used to it, but since most venues are pretty fucking easy (just think the street at 2am, god its so fun) it does feel like an abrupt change to switch it up to this spot.

I'm stoked for the future.  Progress is a biproduct of taking action, being critically minded, and staying humble and open to learning.  

Growth mindset above all else.

Much love my little kittens
-Cat
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Tuesday

Bang it out with one of my girls.

Wednesday + Thursday

I spent two days with friends, family, and myself thinking about what I want in my life.  What do I want out of my job, my relationships, where I live, what I spend my time on?

What do I want to consume, what do I want to detox from and avoid?  

What influences are bringing me up and which ones are holding me down?

It's been a pensive time for me recently.  I don't want to implement drastic change but I know some major change is needed.  

Been thinking about my next six months.  Have a draft of my goals written down.  Will get that posted soon when I feel 100% on them. 

Friday

Huge music festival in my hood.  Walk over, open a three set, lose them but its solid.  

BEING CHILL AND HAPPY IS THE SECRET SAUCE FOR MY STYLE.  Damn.

Randomly one of my girls is at the festival so we meet up, spend some quality time together, is cool.  Wish I was beasting though.  

I'm fucking obsessed :)

See the last show and the girl I'm with is going to hang with some friends in another part of town which is good because I had already made plans with another one of my girls for a date.  

Meetup w/ her, have a beer, bang it out.  She sleeps over for the first time and we bang it out in the AM (60 minutes ago). 

Sex.  It's pretty fun.

This girl has a bubble butt.  I told her she was the first black albino I've been with.  

She hits all my personality buttons: brilliant, creative/artistic, funny/clever, low maintenance, sweetheart.  And shes got 34Ds and a bubblebutt.  

Oh mamma.

Much love, hope you players are enjoying your success at wherever you are at
-Cat
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 I beat you to 30,000 views.
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dave7- wrote:
 I beat you to 30,000 views.
That is kinky my friend ;)
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Portland Hot Seat

Looks like I will not be going to LA in September but instead I am doing Portland in August. 

I am looking for a place to crash on the night of the 23rd, 24th, and 25th (Thursday, Friday, Saturday).

I can offer the following services:
Car
Will out of your hair (working remotely) Thursday & Friday day
I can cook really well
I am "intermediate" at pickup and take a lot of action (e.g. if you want a mini-bootcamp or not)
I am cool, hygenic, and very respectful

I would love to crash with you.  If you are in Portland with a couch / comfortable floor that weekend please let me know, I really want to head down and kick it!

Thanks!
-Cat
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