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December 12th, 2017
Vipassana Meditation and pickup
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#71

lala

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Join Date: 12/05/2009 | Posts: 209

"I dont control life but I control how I react to it."

Sickkkkk lyrics thanks for sharing.
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Listen to the lyrics.


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#72

stayfly

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Join Date: 08/24/2007 | Posts: 230

wow, I have to do this

I've never really mediatted before though. should be interesting.

btw, how much should one dontate for this retreat? I'm looking for a new job atm so low on cash but I don't want to be stingy. any advice here?
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#73

moltar

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Join Date: 08/26/2008 | Posts: 74

Did it help you with approach anxiety?
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#74

Desmond

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Join Date: 08/11/2008 | Posts: 1203

It did not remedy my approach anxiety. But I handle rejections better now with the improved emotional balance.
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#75
markzor

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Join Date: 11/25/2009 | Posts: 734

 It would if you would observe your thoughts about "needing to approach". 
you could observe how these thougths activate desire.
if stop identifying with that and can let that go, it would help.

You can't let a thought go by forcing it. The more you want to "let go", the more it tends to stick.
So I found out that reframing the question from "I should approach" to "Why shouldn't I approach" helps me.
By focusing on why shouldn't I approach, I stop obsessing over why I should approach.
This helps me to let go.

Observation skills obtained with the mediation can help identifying this behavior, these thought patterns.
you can stop identifying by observing them, accepting yourself as you are right now,
by observing the hindrances they cause.
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#76
ceoarob

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I can attest to this from 1st hand experience. 
diskodancer wrote:
for anyone that knows how to meditate, how much the time of each meditation sesh has effect on you.

1 hour = you get out of your thoughts but you're not quite in the present yet, you're kind of half way and this can leave you very unstable, humble feeling, empty. you're out of your ego but not yet in your body.
2 hours= good to go, you're grounded and with action meditating throughout the day your day will go great. people can't emotionally effect you and you're strong minded.
2.5 hours= very efficient throughout the day and it feels like god, or presence works through you instead of you trying, access to intuition.
3 hours= god mode, higher state throughout the day and complete realness. you can see through people but this can make it harder to relate to them. conversations with girls become very fun with this.

this is how it goes with me anyway. recently i do 2 hours straight each morning, seems to be enough. 1 hour in the morning and one in night sucks, do them after eachother.

2.5 hours makes you a happy person, nothing to worry about and you have no problems

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#77
markzor

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 haha fuckkk....
i do like 20-30 minutes, and sometimes 1 hour MAX.

If I have a good session, I notice that my mind becomes more quiet after 10 minutes.
You start with directing attention ALL THE TIME, never having time enough to sustain attention and to actually concentrate.
After 10 minutes or so, my mind seems to settle down and I can put a little less effort into meditating.
(That is, if I am not too restless or too tired)

do you do a reaaaaal slow bodyscan (focusing attention on different parts of your body)
or do you focus solely on the breath?

do you practice the "strong determination" and sit absolutely still?

mind you, I only have a couple of years (summed up) meditation experience - I didn't take the course yet.

I would love to try longer sessions and see what happens.
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#78

cman

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Join Date: 12/03/2009 | Posts: 89

Can you guys go more in depth about the first hour? ten to 20 minutes of meditation I start to to see this flashing light, and when I come out I am spacy and really out of it... LIke I had a siezure (which I am told meditation can trigger by stringing together irritable neurons). I also sometimes with this get a pain in my head like a pressure.

Is this what you mean by half way? Should I push through it to get to the good stuff or am I having a seizure and I will just make it worse?.
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#79

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Double post. Please delete.
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ceoarob

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Hey Markzor, 

I'll speak from my experiences on this one: 

For late February/Early March, I extended each sitting that I had by one minute each time. I started off with 1hr0 mins on Feb 20th or so, then I slowly worked my way up to 1hr30 mins of sitting. I've lately been moving back to 1hr sittings and I'm noticing that they go by MUCH faster than normal. Knowing that I can sit for 1hr30 mins crosslegged without opening my eyes, opening/moving my hands, or even opening/moving my legs is pretty baller. It makes doing anything less than that seem like Childs Play.

I do "strong determination" sittings....IMO, there's really no other way to do it. If you move, then you break concentration...it's just that simple. 

To be quite honest, the deeper I go, the more my mind seems to chatter, but the softer it gets. Hard to explain. There are some times where all time stands still and I'm just in a "no thought" zone, but I can't really pinpoint those times (if you're not thinking...then how do you know that you're not thinking?). I just know that time seems to speed up at certain intervals without me even noticing it. 

Right now, I'm doing 2hrs a day. Morning and Night. 

Doing it in the morning helps me overcome procrastination throughout the day. If I find myself doing something that I shouldn't, then it's VERY easy to become aware and push myself towards right action. 

In the past 2 months, I've made more progress towards my LIFE goals than I have in any other time period. After coming back from my retreat, it seems that time has been going by MUCH slower than before because so much is going on, but I'm aware of things now. In addition, I'm MUCH more balanced. 

I've also switched my diet to vegetarion which has completely shot up my energy levels. 

But yeah, 

I say take a course no matter how experienced you are. You'll learn something about yourself...guaranteed. 

-AR
markzor wrote:
 haha fuckkk....
i do like 20-30 minutes, and sometimes 1 hour MAX.

If I have a good session, I notice that my mind becomes more quiet after 10 minutes.
You start with directing attention ALL THE TIME, never having time enough to sustain attention and to actually concentrate.
After 10 minutes or so, my mind seems to settle down and I can put a little less effort into meditating.
(That is, if I am not too restless or too tired)

do you do a reaaaaal slow bodyscan (focusing attention on different parts of your body)
or do you focus solely on the breath?

do you practice the "strong determination" and sit absolutely still?

mind you, I only have a couple of years (summed up) meditation experience - I didn't take the course yet.

I would love to try longer sessions and see what happens.


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