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Me-vs-Me

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 Okay, as I read Dave thread he had an idea of giving 2012 a review. So I thought I might do it as well and at the same time set goals for 2013. 

2012 REVIEW
To be honest 2012 was pretty bad year in pick-up, it might have been even the worst one during the 4 and half years of my pickup awareness. 
I kissed 4 girls and the last one was 6 months ago. I went out rarely and when I did I was pretty drunk and didn't talk to any girls or talked but I didn't remember. My life has turned out a bit sad atm as I spend almost 11-12 hours behind computer and another 10-11 hours sleeping. I am doing IM and getting some money and hope to get better in it. That in return makes me a bit antisocial as I don't have places to go. I wrote yesterday about my new day scedule. It's fcking brutal for me but I really have to keep it if I want to save my life. It is utterly important. Change is hard but necessary. 

I think the percentage of pure-wasted time (not taking sleeping into consideration) was between 70-80%

The best things in 2012 were me finishing university successfully and getting my first paycheck from IM. 

2013 GOALS and PLANS
Sleep around 8-9 hours
Spend no more than 6 hours behind computer
Make one approch each day (it will be killer and probably the hardest thing I have ever done in my life this far.. but I have no other options)
Take care of my health as go jogging, play football, work out in gym or whatever. Ideally 3 days a week or.. every other day.
Take IM to the next level, start doing PPC and make it to over 100$ per day MINIMUM

Atm I have some smaller goals also like moving out but that completely depends of the IM. Also it is advisable to find a part time job so I would get healt injurance. 

So these are my goals, I think the hardest are the one approach a day that.. we will probably see really soon if I can do it or not. The other ones are hard also, slepping I think is the easiest. Anyways, this is it 2013, let's make my life shine!
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Fucking awesome.

I've been reading your journal.

And now, you are taking action ! The old you would be sucking your dick right now.

When you approached that group of girls, the old you would never have done it. He would have said something like "They think I'm super cute but I'm not gonna talk to them, you know, they're not that good looking, plus, I'm a cool guy, I don't chase bitches".

You didn't make any excuse and you just did it. Awesome !

I've been where you're at, going out for a long time, not taking action. Just mind fucking myself and brad beating myself. Then I broke out of it, to fall right back in it a few weeks later.

So my advise to you would be to be super proud of yourself for doing it. I personnaly, after my approach, would tell myself :

"The fuck was I so nervous about ? Fuck. I'm a bitch. I'm not making any progress (after 15 approaches^^), this is not gonna work, and so on"

Plus some beating because I wasn't taking it super far and shit. Because, you know, Tyler said so !

Well, fuck Tyler. Do it at your rythm. One approach a day, sounds good.

It's like the dude who never ran in his whole life, then he sees a professionnal runner or a guy that has been practicing for years. How on earth would it be possible for the new dude to train like the runner ? It's just impossible.

First, create the habit, then take it to the next level and aim for more.

Ahahahaha. Yeah. This was me mentally masturbating in your journal.

Anyway, I'll be checking your journal for more awesomness. Do not disappoint me ;)

Keep it up :D
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 Thank you. I'm your first.. post :D I like the "First, create the habit, then take it to the next level and aim for more."
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 05/01/2012
Pushing forward, 1 approach a day

Today I went out around 2 AM with my friend, fcking hate the winter. Went to a bar, looked around and there was a girl standing next to me with her back turned towards me and she had a tatoo onher neck. I know asking about tatoos is lame as every other guy asks her about it but I was like fck it, I want to make an approach and it was an easy thing to open. Tapped her on the shoulder and asked about it. Made a little joke about it, she was a bit drunk and kinda uptight hipster chick but it doesn't matter. I opened and talked like 30 seconds.

The good: I wasn't feeling much of anxiety while talking or anything. I made one approach.
Things I learned: I didn't feel almost no emotions while talking to this chik, no nervousness or anything, not much adrenaline but I WAS nervous back home while thinking that I have to approach and that it is hard etc.

Tomorrow is going to be a challenge as it is sunday.. almost dead like night life here.. I am seriously considering going to a mall to make that one approach. Most likely it would be something like asking aboutsome stuff from the girl. We will see.
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 LOL @17 - " The old you would be sucking your dick right now."

It sounds retarded, but I had the same little emotional roller coaster on my way to a club a few nights ago. I think about approaching chicks and get super nervous. I stop that, throw on some music and vibe with people in line when I get there, not nervous at all.

You're journal's legit. Have at it.
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 06/01/2013
Executing the plan

I meant to make an approach in some mall but then got an invitation to play football (since it's my work out day also) and I went to play football. That's soccer for you americans. Anyways, on a way there I asked one girl waiting in a bus stop about the time. I know it's a bit cheap but it counted for me as I am happy with even "hi" atm. Then in the sports center I talked few words with the girl working there, really brief. Actually.. today.. if I asked about the time I wasn't also nervous or anything. Maybe it was cause I had an so-called other agenda than picking her up. I guess just going to a girl and saying: "Hi, I'm Me-vs-Me" would be harder. We will see. 

The good: I made an approach, I had a killer workout
Things I learned: Talking to girls isn't that scary.. thinking about approaching them IS. 
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 07/01/2013
Daygame is a bit troublesome

Today was not that good. I had trouble sleeping cause all my muscles were aching so bad. They are doing it also today. Anyways, I spoke with the unemplyment worker today and then went to downtown. I only asked one woman what the time is. I was walking around the mall but it felt so weird just going to some girl and saying "hi". It was also difficult understanding which girls were over 18 and which were not. There were couple of cute girls there and they bough boose so they were def over 18, I was standing right behind them in the cash register but I did nothing. I could have made some remark about them drinking so early and on monday.. but I didn't. 

My eye-contact was weird.. on some occasions it was pretty good.. then it was pretty bad. I also started thinking about the appearance shit again and that brought in the ego and .. yea.. you know how it goes. Anyways, walking around I looked at girls more and appreciated their beauty.. that's a good thing. 

Daygame is hardcore shit, no noise, no darkness, girls are sober, you really have no "socialising" environment. If you go in it's just direct or asking about some shit.. I am not sure if I will go out during the day anymore.. it's hard to find people out during the nights at sunday-tuesday. If you have any tips for "daygame" then share them with me :)

The good: I atleast took the trouble of going downtown to make one approach, I asked one woman what the time is
Things I learned: I want to THINK before approaching but this MUST be avoided at all cost.
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 To be honest, I feel a bit discouraged after reading some field report threads here. Even the dudes who have shittier background than me (socially weird, akward, never kissed a girl, no female or male friends) are doing better than me. Approaching more and so one. I am not envious of the results as I know they come with more practice but I feel bad that I have troubles even making one approach per day.. when all the other dudes get that done no problem. I will continue with my goals and I guess.. it's all about me in the end to make it work. I will keep on doing the one approach a day with all my teeth. 
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Look at how many users this forum has and then think of all the guys who don't have FR threads, where do you think most of them are at?
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 10/01/2012
In state

Ok, I admit, I did not go out tuesday or wednesday cause I was afraid and had very little motivation. Today however made it all worth it. I watched Tyler video about the game is fun as hell and small chunking it. 


I especially liked the examples around 20 minutes where he, the best dude in this, shows how he opens sets. And it was a huge relief to see that even he starts sets with absolutely nothing in his mind and that he has akward 1 sentence convos at the start of the night. 

Then I added that to the mindset of "I AM ENOUGH". I do not remeber but one member posted a thread in the main forum where he explained about why we seek validation and why we do not need it as we are already enough. 

These were the two themes going around my head tonight + not thinking ahead before opening.

I went to a bar to just start do something and then I met one of my friend. I was telling myself that I am enough and just started vibing, the more I vibed the better my mood got. I always told myself I am enough.. and had VERY solid and strong eye-contact with all his friends. To my surprise, I was doing very well with talking to them all. There were also 4 girls in the table that were kinda in our group and weren't. Anyways I talked like 1 minute with them also, had a very good eye-contact and leading the convo. The most beautiful girl in the town was also in that table.. and I had a good eye-contact with her, she actually was pretty friendly and very cute/sexy. Well.. the most beautiful is my opinion.. cause we have over 100k people here.. but I have seen her before out and I really like her. Anyways, it was good that I finally talked to her.. even if it was just some random stuff and nothing more.

Then I went to my friends place and after that went back to town with one of my friends. I was in a really good mood, in state I could say. Self-amusing, feeling good, sober. Then around one bar I turned around and saw one girl, looked at her with good eye-contact and she started talking, asking where we are going. I told her and she wanted to join. Turned out she was out alone, she heavilly wanted to talk to us and be in our company. She was pretty but her lips were really weird blue and I was afraid she might have had some disease going on there. Anyways, I was self-amusing and the shit. 

Had good eye-contact with other girls that I passed. Very solid night. I was in state, sober, talked to very cute/sexy girl and had a very long set with another pretty girl. 
Key things: I AM ENOUGH, I do not need a job, a gf, friends, to be liked by everybody, other people approval, good looks, muscles, lot's of knowledge to feel that I am ALREADY enough. All the other things are bonuses. Talking to girls is a skill that is learnable and a bonus. I am already enough.

The good: whole night
Things I learned: I am ENOUGH!
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