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December 6th, 2016
Being THAT Guy
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li0n

li0n

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Join Date: 11/12/2010 | Posts: 49

This article is about a thought experiment I use regularly and hope it will benefit you too.

It is based on the assumption that MEN know THAT GUY who is tight as fuck, that guy they want to be.

The simple thought experiment is to ask “what actions would THAT GUY take in this situation?”.

The answer is what you should do in that situation.  Straightforward.

Learn to USE THAT IMAGE as an INSTINCT TO ACT as opposed to a ego-based in-your-head pick-up calculus move forty seconds late.

Use this question to figure out the characteristics you want to cultivate and get an image of that guy, and SLOWLY but SURLY BECOME THAT GUY.

If THAT GUY is an open, strong, respectful man who is interested in ANYONES happiness, how would THAT GUY act, what are the actions, when...

…a chick walks into the elevator.
…a super cute dog walks by.
…your chick is blowing you off.

Again, this isn’t chess. It’s just LIVING TOWARD YOUR IDEAL consciousness.

So when a girl walks into the elevator, he is chatting her, NOT FOR ANY OTHER REASON THAN THAT IS WHO HE IS. (It’s a positive habit; most of us have what we could call a negative habit of NOT talking, THAT GUY doesn’t.)

He has the SOCIAL INSTINCT to screen possible friends and women to enrich his life.
He has SELF RESPECT enough to work hard to be healthy, and to be healthy for himself.
He LOVES LEARNING and takes every opportunity to internalize something new, be it from whoever and whatever crosses his path.

THATS WHO THAT GUY IS.

Mind-fuck yourself on this thought experiment when you realize you’re not striving toward THAT GUY hard enough, when you miss opportunities.

Otherwise use this as an IMMEDIATE JUSTIFICATION for THE RIGHT ACTION.

“It’s what THAT GUY would do...." as you're yelling AYE.
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Fenyx

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 Magical.
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longhorn

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NIce post.  good way to get myself to take the right action.
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Divorcing

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 What's that Dave Matthews song that says 'sometimes I find that it's better to be somebody else...' or whatever

I knew a guy in high school who was 'that guy.'  I think I spent my early 20s being him in bars, on dates, etc.  It's definitely a reference point - just like you describe.  I gradually just kind of grew into my own style.  To be more accurate, I found other reference points to incorporate into a style of my own.  

After a while, I noticed that people were looking at me as 'that guy.'  That's a trip when you first notice it, but you get comfortable with it pretty fast.

By the way, I just found that dude on facebook after 24 years.  He's still a fucking hound dog from hell, but he never amounted to much else...
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Crunch

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I'm liking this idea. Im going to have to go out and give it a try.

li0n, you need to post up a picture, other wise you cant be THAT guy to me anymore... hahahah thumbs up
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li0n

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Crunch wrote:
I'm liking this idea. Im going to have to go out and give it a try.

li0n, you need to post up a picture, other wise you cant be THAT guy to me anymore... hahahah thumbs up
Photo: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/169806
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Yeah i was thinking of this strategy before. It is very interesting.

What are your thoughts guys on this in relation to this quote from "The Blueprint Decoded"

"If you don’t know who you are, there is a vacuum and you will continually be sucking value from people trying to figure out who you are and what you should think."

I think this quote is geared towards what Mayhem was hinting at. 

If you are speaking about doing things with the same level of belief/self respect/learning habits/social instinct as cool guys..well, that is a different story , because you are chunking a level up and focusing something that you can apply to your own, self made behaviours.

But if we are talking in terms of "Well this guy said that line...so I am going to say that"....then that is taking a step back from core confidence, self-esteem or what have you.
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Jack-Stripper

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This is definately not an ideal, but its a great mindset to be in for a little bit. A month or two in my oppinion. It could be a nice tool, its a form of roleplay, an imprint. But later, id advise not to depend on it.

Props lion, lots of value in this.
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yeah Jack i think the poster means ...for example

NOT

girl walks into elevator- yeah, 'that guy' would probably say line x to her . i will say that line exactly word for word because that what he said

but rather

girl walks into elevator, yeah 'that guy' would be cool friendly and chatty, so i shall do that conveying my own personality.
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Paris Boum Boum

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Cool post.

THAT guy = the ideal YOU, so it's still about you.

If you are faking to be someone else who you consider to be THAT guy, I think it's bad for you long term. 

So it's about striving to be the person you decides to be, not so much about imitating people. 
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li0n

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Paris Boum Boum wrote:
Cool post.

THAT guy = the ideal YOU, so it's still about you.

If you are faking to be someone else who you consider to be THAT guy, I think it's bad for you long term. 

So it's about striving to be the person you decides to be, not so much about imitating people. 
Yes.

Think of this like a gut reaction that you need to build.  

What is my IDEAL SELFs gut reaction in X situation?

Know to do that as fast as possible in the next instance of X.

So my I want my immediate learned-into-me response to be Q (TALK) when P (hottie walky byme). 
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