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May 19th, 2013
Self esteem tied up to girls
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nebuR

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am I alone with this problem?

When Im seeing a girl, I feel great, but my self esteem is tied up to her reaction towards me, for an example if she doesnt call me or send me a text over the day, I start feeling bad and can only think about the girl.

Or when a girl blows me off at the nightclub I feel worse, but when they like me I feel great.

One part of it is probably cuz I dont know who I am or really have any purpose in life right now, could it be more ?

How to fix it?
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Jaffar

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What's your driving passion in life?

Jaffar.
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vastan

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 Maybe it's because your a loser (ie, not content with your life), so your using women to feel good about yourself. I used to feel the same way, that if I got good with women then my life would be better. 
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nebuR

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vastan wrote:
 Maybe it's because your a loser (ie, not content with your life), so your using women to feel good about yourself. I used to feel the same way, that if I got good with women then my life would be better. 

Absolutely, but at the same time I do absolutely think that my life will be better if I get good with women and great socially (which comes hand in hand with being good at PU).

But I will need a more stable ground to base my sense of self of.
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nebuR

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Jaffar wrote:
What's your driving passion in life?

Jaffar.

Yep there you have it, I dont really have any. I neither know how to find out.
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Yeah.
One little suggestion, read The way of the superior man, again if you have already.
Your purpose is what you are lacking.
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nebuR

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Deft wrote:
Yeah.
One little suggestion, read The way of the superior man, again if you have already.
Your purpose is what you are lacking.

Yes. But how do you get to know your purpose? Its like... yeah, I gotta have a purpose... but I .. dont?!

weird stuff
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For me purpose is moving in a direccion were you want to go and being faithfull to it, like you are going in a road that has no end but you stay on that road.

Girls dont need that shit they are ok with the energy of the present moment, be it "good" or "bad", its fucking weird man but they are mystically aware of social energies that I personally dont realise, for example if you get a boner near a girl that you dont know she will know whats up instantly, try it for yourself.

I live near a river in my city and whenever I walk past it Im allways amazed about how the water just flows and flows, Imagine it like that, you are the canal were the water passes and she or them are the water flowing through, if theres no canal "she" cant get to the ocean (be fullfilled).

Thats why they like to be lead and love to have a strong man who she can trust, if you look to society today women are much more masculine and men are much more femenine, its like everywere you look theres no polarity anymore, I mean theres something cool in the sensitive man he is empathetic and polite but he cant do what he likes when he likes he is much more like "water" you know?, theres something cool about women being carreer oriented shes has her path of her own now.

Now evolutionarily a couple of years of "depolarization" dont mean shit, so you by being masculine and having your path nowdays are going to offer so much value that its rediculous. Try it for yourself and youll see.

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nebuR

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Yeah thansk, but I still do have to find my "purpose", and I dont know how to manage to do that.
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nebuR wrote:
Yeah thansk, but I still do have to find my "purpose", and I dont know how to manage to do that.
I think you are making a big deal about it.
Trust yourself and the answer is going to come.
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nebuR

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nah, Ive trusted myself for a long time now, it doesnt come, lol
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