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How to deal with this/reframe it?
The best analogy I can give is playing a gig as a musician.
When you rehearse your material, it pays to be very militant and analytical in your approach, because you want to prepare yourself to play the best show you possibly can. You work really hard to make sure that you know all the songs like the back of your hand, and you painstakingly run through the setlist until you have every single note engraved into your mind. You do multiple soundchecks to make sure your levels are perfect, and you spend hours equalizing each instrument to get the best possible sound.
However, as soon as the show starts, all of that preparation is done. Once you start performing, analysis and thought have no place in the music. Everything that you did during rehearsal has made its impression on you, and all that remains is the energy and the vibe of the show. Once you start playing, actively thinking (worrying) about what you are doing is only going to make you slip up. Your mission from the moment the show begins is to simply allow yourself to kick ass and play the music as it comes to you. If you forget something, it's irrelevant. You improvise and trust that it will be awesome. Most of all, you HAVE FUN and play your damn heart out.
Watching The Blueprint is great, because it allows you to understand on a cognitive level what most people only understand instinctually. However, getting analytical while you are out will only cause you to retreat into your mind, and you will lose the natural and organic quality that will make you successful with women. There's a time to practice, and there's a time to play. When you're out at a club or any other venue, PLAY! Have fun! Once you're back home and have some time to yourself, THEN you can analyze and play scientist. Just enjoy yourself, and have faith that every time you go out, you'll be subconsciously applying more and more of the things that you learned while in scientist-mode.
As for your second question, "knowing who you are" is just another way of saying that you aren't identifying with other people's responses to you. "Knowing who you are" means being internally-referenced so far as your identity is concerned. If someone calls you a creep or tells you to fuck off, "knowing who you are" is what will allow you to brush it off and be unphased by it, because you value your own self-concept more than others' concept of you.
When you rehearse your material, it pays to be very militant and analytical in your approach, because you want to prepare yourself to play the best show you possibly can. You work really hard to make sure that you know all the songs like the back of your hand, and you painstakingly run through the setlist until you have every single note engraved into your mind. You do multiple soundchecks to make sure your levels are perfect, and you spend hours equalizing each instrument to get the best possible sound.
However, as soon as the show starts, all of that preparation is done. Once you start performing, analysis and thought have no place in the music. Everything that you did during rehearsal has made its impression on you, and all that remains is the energy and the vibe of the show. Once you start playing, actively thinking (worrying) about what you are doing is only going to make you slip up. Your mission from the moment the show begins is to simply allow yourself to kick ass and play the music as it comes to you. If you forget something, it's irrelevant. You improvise and trust that it will be awesome. Most of all, you HAVE FUN and play your damn heart out.
Watching The Blueprint is great, because it allows you to understand on a cognitive level what most people only understand instinctually. However, getting analytical while you are out will only cause you to retreat into your mind, and you will lose the natural and organic quality that will make you successful with women. There's a time to practice, and there's a time to play. When you're out at a club or any other venue, PLAY! Have fun! Once you're back home and have some time to yourself, THEN you can analyze and play scientist. Just enjoy yourself, and have faith that every time you go out, you'll be subconsciously applying more and more of the things that you learned while in scientist-mode.
As for your second question, "knowing who you are" is just another way of saying that you aren't identifying with other people's responses to you. "Knowing who you are" means being internally-referenced so far as your identity is concerned. If someone calls you a creep or tells you to fuck off, "knowing who you are" is what will allow you to brush it off and be unphased by it, because you value your own self-concept more than others' concept of you.
The best analogy I can give is playing a gig as a musician.
When you rehearse your material, it pays to be very militant and analytical in your approach, because you want to prepare yourself to play the best show you possibly can. You work really hard to make sure that you know all the songs like the back of your hand, and you painstakingly run through the setlist until you have every single note engraved into your mind. You do multiple soundchecks to make sure your levels are perfect, and you spend hours equalizing each instrument to get the best possible sound.
However, as soon as the show starts, all of that preparation is done. Once you start performing, analysis and thought have no place in the music. Everything that you did during rehearsal has made its impression on you, and all that remains is the energy and the vibe of the show. Once you start playing, actively thinking (worrying) about what you are doing is only going to make you slip up. Your mission from the moment the show begins is to simply allow yourself to kick ass and play the music as it comes to you. If you forget something, it's irrelevant. You improvise and trust that it will be awesome. Most of all, you HAVE FUN and play your damn heart out.
Watching The Blueprint is great, because it allows you to understand on a cognitive level what most people only understand instinctually. However, getting analytical while you are out will only cause you to retreat into your mind, and you will lose the natural and organic quality that will make you successful with women. There's a time to practice, and there's a time to play. When you're out at a club or any other venue, PLAY! Have fun! Once you're back home and have some time to yourself, THEN you can analyze and play scientist. Just enjoy yourself, and have faith that every time you go out, you'll be subconsciously applying more and more of the things that you learned while in scientist-mode.
As for your second question, "knowing who you are" is just another way of saying that you aren't identifying with other people's responses to you. "Knowing who you are" means being internally-referenced so far as your identity is concerned. If someone calls you a creep or tells you to fuck off, "knowing who you are" is what will allow you to brush it off and be unphased by it, because you value your own self-concept more than others' concept of you.
Wow man, this did really hit me on a deep level, very good response! thankyou! When you rehearse your material, it pays to be very militant and analytical in your approach, because you want to prepare yourself to play the best show you possibly can. You work really hard to make sure that you know all the songs like the back of your hand, and you painstakingly run through the setlist until you have every single note engraved into your mind. You do multiple soundchecks to make sure your levels are perfect, and you spend hours equalizing each instrument to get the best possible sound.
However, as soon as the show starts, all of that preparation is done. Once you start performing, analysis and thought have no place in the music. Everything that you did during rehearsal has made its impression on you, and all that remains is the energy and the vibe of the show. Once you start playing, actively thinking (worrying) about what you are doing is only going to make you slip up. Your mission from the moment the show begins is to simply allow yourself to kick ass and play the music as it comes to you. If you forget something, it's irrelevant. You improvise and trust that it will be awesome. Most of all, you HAVE FUN and play your damn heart out.
Watching The Blueprint is great, because it allows you to understand on a cognitive level what most people only understand instinctually. However, getting analytical while you are out will only cause you to retreat into your mind, and you will lose the natural and organic quality that will make you successful with women. There's a time to practice, and there's a time to play. When you're out at a club or any other venue, PLAY! Have fun! Once you're back home and have some time to yourself, THEN you can analyze and play scientist. Just enjoy yourself, and have faith that every time you go out, you'll be subconsciously applying more and more of the things that you learned while in scientist-mode.
As for your second question, "knowing who you are" is just another way of saying that you aren't identifying with other people's responses to you. "Knowing who you are" means being internally-referenced so far as your identity is concerned. If someone calls you a creep or tells you to fuck off, "knowing who you are" is what will allow you to brush it off and be unphased by it, because you value your own self-concept more than others' concept of you.
nebuR
Senior Member
Join Date: 10/07/2010 | Posts: 266
I also dont understand the concept about who you are and that you shouldnt identify with anything combined with the concept of "knowing who you are", how do they match?
Its like ive started second guessing myself more because I have this deep knowledge that I cant really control.
Anyone experienced this? how did you deal with it?