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Distant Light

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Should've posted this in original post since I've been getting pms about MBT which is free on google pages, all 820pgs haha. I'd advise reading the preface and then making your own judgment as to whether or not to venture beyond...



My Big Toe by Thomas Campbell
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The My Big TOE reality model will help you understand your life, your purpose, the totality of the reality you experience, how that reality work, and how you might interact most profitably with it.
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Manwhore

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 I am very glad you wrote this post dude.

Cheers to yo momma 
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YaBoiRayDawg

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what makes you so fun? how do you make things fun? you make amusing yourself and others sound so easy.
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Distant Light

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Manwhore: Don't know why "Cheers to yo momma" had me dying but either way if you hadn't posted wondering where that 1,000th post was, this thread would've never been made.

YaBoiRayDawg: What makes me so fun? I guess, you can say it's my energy and just how I am. I'm a pretty happy guy who's care-free so it sorta rubs off on people. Most importantly I'm constantly playing around internally, meaning I'm changing my perception & interpretation of reality for a laugh. Now add that to the fact that I ALMOST never talk about anything serious, I'm always having a blast with myself, and I'm always helping others have fun.

NOTE: I'll be pouring myself a simple drink BUT change the whole interpretation of my reality by believing it's a rare elixir with a backstory and when I take the first sip it ALWAYS tastes more amazing than it actually is.

On a consciousness level I'm simply communicating a state of being which I now call "Euphoria". If people show a reflection of you then things are fun because my intentions for having fun is very clear in my actions. (Actions are the first results of intent) So when I roll up on a chick grabbing her hair an putting my face less than an inch from her's and saying "Hey" with a big ass smirk she already knows I did all that for the sake of fun. Honestly, I can't explain this indepth but I know it's probably a huge factor...

When a group of men & women are having a blast together SEX becomes one big celebration of fun. When NORMAL people say it lacked chemistry they mean "It lacked fun". This realization came after noticing the times I've pulled alone or with naturals, was when we were having fun and we pulled for the sake of fun. I almost fucked a chick dead center of time square at 4:30am in a thunder storm all because I joked about her causing me to cheat on her friend with her and jokingly kissing her everytime her friend turned away. This lead me to learn that women were always down so longs they knew it'll be fun and that relationships could be built on fun shared experiences together. This realization alone fuels so many questions.

NOTE: It might be important to mention that I don't look for anything externally to influence my state of being, I choose how I want to be without any form of dictation from external things. I also meditate an do all sorts of altered states type of things so I'm basically having fun 24/7.

PedroBrazuca4ever: It's funny because this is the "pinnacle" based on where my awareness is currently at. If you're unaware then it doesn't exist in your reality, which is the main reason I like posting because a young 16-19 year old can start building if they see the potential possibilities. At this moment I can't comeprehend how far this will all go which is why I seek to explore one step at a time.

Before anyone looks at all of this as impossible, like one non-community guy stated once "My father said you don't need to own the yacht, just know the guy who owns it." For some reason the book NEVER EAT ALONE by Keith Ferrazzi came to mind since he states his social network helped him a ton...
- In high school the natural dudes from the hood that I knew basically threw pajama parties at there house, I watched 30-40 women in their PJs walking to his house. Now I could knock the quality, but it's irrelevant since to them they were hot and it's still them living there life.

- My friend who works with some promoters, told me how they have a player pad where they pre-game and have after parties. He once brought two hotties to a high end spot, went home to chat with his girlfriend and next day realized the hotties he brought got pulled back to the promoter's player pad.

- Recently read an article of a divorced millionarie who's neighbors are complaining about his after parties in his rented penthouse, naked chicks running through the hallway, loud music, champagne flowing. During the summer in the hamptons they complained about his pool parties.

This doesn't need to be about partying, music, food, etc that's just what I genuinely enjoy and would be into even if women weren't apart of it. If I wasn't into this stuff, I'd play video games, start inviting tons of women for rock band tournaments, using recreational games such as wii or kinetic. I'd have 2-3 women jogging with me, late at night bike rides, water fights, picnics in the park, paintball, etc. It's all about creativity an taking things to the next level. (MBT term, evolving the overall system) Each additional step taken will lead to expanding your awareness to potential possibilities. This whole process isn't work if it's areas you genuinely enjoy and even if you never reach to such extravagance in whatever area, you would ATLEAST be able to say "Those last few years of my life was fucking epic!"

P.S...This post caused me to search for a few interesting examples of what I mean by "It doesn't have to be about partying, nightclubs, etc if that's not your interest." Look at the videos objectively because remember YOU have the TOOL "Cold Approach" so having specific women come into your life isn't a thought. (I say this for those who will judge the quality of women in the videos, which is totally irrelevant)




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Manwhore

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 Ya I know. Then some dude jumped on that thread and put a link to this one in it.  I was laughing 
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How do you "lucid dream" ?
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DIstant Light mate, I didn't get through the entire post. I over viewed it and the points you made throughout. I will check over it again in the near future.

You hit it nail on in so many ways. For one, so many guys put unnecessary pressure to chat up girls. What many fail to realize is that, a night out is no different then your day at college or work or getting in a cab. Its all the same. Its never game time. Its ALWAYS GAME TIME. The switch is on. Its on auto pilot. My demeanor isnt so much thinking up a theory or trying to live up to the community of this or that. I am just at going for what I want. I must say, 10 GAME was my desire. Like anything, the harder you go for this or that, the further away it seems to go. There is a certain flow to life that is intangible and free spirited. A flower doesn't "try" to grow. It grows. I believe so many guys struggle at pick up, cold approach, etc solely due to their effort. So much time on the forums or theory. So much time spend on living up to a character in a book or in the community. It has nothing to do with self or projecting your feats, what youa are about, illustrating and leaving that lasting impression.

This is the game of life and I am all in. Mediocrity is unacceptable. I see it every where but, I know its more important to notice it in myself then around me or in others. There is so much pressure to do this or that. So much "cognitive dissonance" like Alex speaks about in lads trying this or that; how you think and behave is incongruent to who you are. Finding something that truly inspires you will bey key to propell you forward based upon your own motivating driving force. For most, its sex but, that only goes so far. Part of the battle must be giving and adding back. Tony Robbins speaks about for those who want to make their millions, look at what you can give to others. Add value to others. In a bar, you don't need to be chasing tail. You can be chatting up the entire room both guys and girls. The same can be said for the que, the streets, a coffee shop, and any where. It shouldn't be a dial where it needs to be turned on.

To sum it up in so few words, you should flirt with life and be so nonchalant and effortless in doing so.
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Tyler:This is ultimately one of the keys to the game -- viewing EVERYTHING AS A JOKE. It's ALL funny.
Tim:`How can I make this fun?
brad:This thread got Ambiguity banned, you can thank me later. Zack G: Ambiguity is becoming the Howard Roark of RSD!
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WireySpindell

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Distant Light

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MorningWood: Started out on "Dream Views" forum which teaches you how, easiest/consistent approach was doing 1-3 indepth "Reality Checks" a day. I prefered pluging my nose an checking to see if I can breath OR look at numbers/letters, turn away and look again to see if it changed.

Ambiguity: If I was coming from the perspective I have now, acting school would've been a huge success for me in terms of career, social life and sex life because back then I got so caught up with "Cold Approach Mastery". However, no regrets since I wouldn't be who I am now if it weren't for the choices I made back then. I know 100% back then I wasn't ready nor capable of producing the things I'm currently aware of now.

Questions I received from a PM...
1) How do you go about discovering whether or not you're a "chill or high energy person?" I have a hard time telling whether or not I'm naturally "chill" or "High energy/talkative/outgoing."

Reference: The definition of a solid interaction with a woman

IMO, I'd consider this distinction as low-key and energetic but overall it comes from experience of just BEING care-free, open and friendly. I learnt, when your just being care-free, open and friendly your actions will naturally either be more low key or energetic based on preference. For me 90% of the time I'm animated/energetic having a blast. I say "low key" and "energetic because I viewed CHILL as passive and when the invisible game bs came out I was creeping women out because I was a zombie.

2) Which one have you had more success with and why?

I've had more success with being my animated/energetic self for the mere fact that I enjoy it more...
- Way back, I once was pulling a chick and she almost left in a taxi ALONE because all of a sudden I became so chill because I felt no need to be myself since I knew it was "in the bag".
- Few months ago, chick purposely attempts to get me drunk and ends up leaving early. She told me she left because I became so weird/creepy just chillin. (With exception of four loko, shots, & champagne alcohol brings me down)

Low-key became a RED FLAG since the only times I was low key was if I was hiding (chode) closing myself off (douchey) or genuinely enjoying everything I was aware of. (zen monk) The zen monk was the only time women didn't assume something was wrong. I no longer hide my personality BUT the range of douchiness can help or hurt me ranging from intrigued to completely intimidated.

Fingerman's thread had some good points, BUT I have zero interest in calibrrating to a woman nor do I worry about women being interested in me. This all goes back to being a fascinating man which women either makes the cut, ADAPTS to make the cut or simply gets screened out for not making the cut.

Imagine me TRYING to remain low key, does that mean for the next 3-4 months she'll see me low key 80% of the time and animated only 20%? That's like me no longer doing "Homo Erotic Mating Dance" like a retard just because the hottie I'm with might dislike it. I refuse to compromise how I am just to be with some random hot chick. (There are always more!)

Being a fascinating man handles majority of "community" problems naturally...
- When I was with the hottest chick I ever seen in my life, I was 90% screening/listening in a "energetic" manner. The same applied the week after with this gorgeous danish chick. In both cases, it would be consider more tame than usual since I was actually talking/screening.

- LAish suicide looking model approaches me because she remembered seeing me all over the place at another venue. This chick was standing next to me for 15mins waiting/hoping I'd say something but I was actually pissed. (Closed off) Later on she approaches me when I'm actually normal, I #close but she's trying to hook up that night. I invite her out on another night an she instantly goes to kiss me as her way of greeting me.

Honestly, I'd have to sit here an sift through past experiences to really articulate this properly. However, I know my understanding of fun and escapism merged with qualifcation has caused things to be effortless for me. I personally, don't want to have super clingy women so I tend to screen very lightly as opposed to before in the past. (Which is how I managed to mess around with hottest chick I ever met) Up to this day I STILL get messages from this chick in austria who I met back in mar 09 due to "fascinating man" concepts.

3) Would you say that the method of going high energy at first to capture attention then going low energy is the "way?"

It depends on the person and where he's coming from... (Go out experience/experiment, learn, and grow)

I know remaining as my energetic self even during the daytime is highly effective in the daytime, but nowadays I tend to be very douchey during the day and not wanting to chat with anyone. So if I am chatting someone I tend to be very casual/aloof getting STRAIGHT TO THE POINT so I can move on with my life. Basically during the daytime I'd go up giving her an opportunity an just actively screen her that way I can see whether they mesh well or not. I'll nonchalantly #close an just leave after that.

Back when I was not a douche during the daytime I'd be in makeup shops and all girl stores having a blast with women. Every so often women would #close me, I'd kiss a chick, I'd invite her out that night, etc. The whole social/fun aspect was refreshing to them as I remember two russian models trying to blow me out suddenly dropped there front an were actually cracking jokes about there intense lifestyle of early mornings, eating, gym, casting. As oppsed to this black model chick infront a makeup shop who I just went up douche mode, screening hardcore, and although she tried to make it work I wasn't going to adapt. Once I found out she doesn't go out at night it became obvious that I was saying "Welp, this doesn't work we might as well cut this short."

Basically, the ACTION doesn't matter it's the intentions that caused those actions. If you are a social/fun guy who's fascinating it'll always come through regardless of your actions.

4) I'm new to this and had a hard time understanding "screening," is it basically just asking questions (Read about it in your 1000th Post)?

Reread the "Fascinating Man" bit since that is the whole perspective of screening...

It all stems from knowing you have choice sorta like a big time modeling agency that every model wants to get signed to BUT of course its impossible to sign them all. So you have a screening process to weed out the horde an select amongst the ones who come close to the criteria. The criteria/standards helps you focus on what your looking for. Screening is the way you process whether they meet those standards or not. It's done passively and actively.

When I express myself freely in a "take it or leave it" manner she is basically observing what she's getting herself into. If she truly dislikes any aspects of me in my most care-free form then I know we won't mesh well together. This is like showing a person the side of you that is present when in your shower, in private, or with people your most comfortable with. It's the care-free fearless "no one is judging" me. (Now imagine CALIBRATING who you are to accomodate that person, it'll be like them busting in the room and you changing your whole way of being just to accomodate that person.)

Active screening is more of a influencer or way of helping women understand your reality and how she can win you over. Despite this being abit logical at times, this is all still done in a fun and flirtatious tone so it actually remains light and interesting despite how deep you might venture at times. I'm not sure if I explained this in my OP but it's like a tour guide of the rules within your barn. (reality) Before she knows it she'll have a good idea of what's good and bad, what pushes your buttons playfully and what you're real boundaries are. In a sense its more of word play, like a zen monk spitting abstract wisdom of reality...

The standards/criteria/boundaries are the blueprint of your reality and the zen monk (You) is the decoder or advisor who helps her win YOU over. Sorta like in film the scenes where the characters walk through the hallway an giving information about the reality of the film to the audience. In the case of male/female dynamics its like a monk decoding the abstract dynamics of the reality based on the understanding of what's good or bad in your reality. Active screening would be considered the actions of the "zen monk advisor" concept.

Overall, that is the bible that gives you the word play aka verbals since there is some objectivity BUT lots of things are vague/abstract and based on interpretation. When I'm purposely flirting which leads to us kissing an I tell her we can sell this connection we have, how did I even benchmark that energy? I'm like the hallway scene telling her how I view her and what's going on in this male/female dynamic.

For example chick sorta comes up to me so I'm making out and then were full on in less than 1min of knowing each other. I stop an say "Shit!! How the fuck did you do this to me?" and her response "I don't know, I guess its the jew in me". In reality she doesn't know if I purposely did all this or if she truly did something to me, an the mere fact that I point out that she was short (Not a fan of short women) made the dynamics seem like she was a 1% her made the cut and now had the opportunity/possibility to seduce some guy who generally goes for tall women. All abstract I just implemented the dynamics based on how I interpreted my reality.

Overall, the standards/criteria/boundaries is just a template that you play in, without any of that you couldn't play with your verbals like that because you actually have no idea what you're looking for in the first place. This is why understanding and knowing you're standards/criteria/boundaries is important because you're sorta helping her and playing around with the dynamics of you're own reality without even acknowledging that your helping her. Like "hallway scenes" in film they don't annouce "Ladies and gents important information will be given out in this scene" they just do the scene as if they don't know they're giving you the information.

NOTE: This is the first time I've ever explained it like this so hope it made sense.

5) Would you say the Big TOE is a book for "Christians" to read?

The book is for all human beings although I think a religious person will have a much harder time reading through since they'll need to really be open minded and suspend their beliefs until they've investigated for themselves. I a person who questioned religion back when I was very young, knew about lucid dreaming and out of body experiences and still had my moments of "WTF!?! Na, this has to be bullshit" only to learn a big lesson 2-3 months later.
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MorningWood

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I started reading the beginning of the first book of the Big TOE series and Im probably halfway finished, though I havent picked it up in a while (for the ADD-inclined, it's kind of hard to follow) . I've tried doing the lucid dreaming/AP exercises in there a few times, but they don't seem to work for me. I just end up getting really comfortable and falling asleep or something, haha.

Anyway, how does that book relate to PU and success in life in general? Can you go in depth more on this topic? 

Thanks man
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