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I know what you mean, and I didn't like it as well until Adam Lyons explained to me the importance of comfort. It's the most important thing in the game. Ruling out rape, you could almost flat out say that no guy has ever consistently been able to bang girls without being able to consistently build comfort.
Even RSD preaches comfort. They don't outright say it, but they do. In the recent Jeffy video, where he talks about Evil Stifler's 6 minute lay, Evil Stifler had a shit ton of comfort, which is why the lay happened so fast.
Comfort is one of the fundamentals of game, and not acknowledging it, is to not acknowledge reality. Women need comfort to be picked up, it's their nature. I don't like it as much as you, but one thing about facts and reality is that they don't care about our opinions or feelings about things. Reality is what it is, irrespective of our views on it.
Take a fundamental principle of physics like gravity for instance. Someone could think gravity is gay, but if that person where to jump off of a cliff, they would still surrender themselves to the mercy of gravity irrespective of them thinking gravity was gay. Gravity is an absolute.
Following that train of thought, comfort is a fundamental principle in pickup. You may think it is gay, but at the end of the day, if you're picking up girls, you will still have to surrender to it. All the great pickup guys that we look up to, from Tyler, Jeffy, Brad, Justin Wayne, etc. understand this, and if we want to reach their level we do as well.
Comfort is absolute.
Even RSD preaches comfort. They don't outright say it, but they do. In the recent Jeffy video, where he talks about Evil Stifler's 6 minute lay, Evil Stifler had a shit ton of comfort, which is why the lay happened so fast.
Comfort is one of the fundamentals of game, and not acknowledging it, is to not acknowledge reality. Women need comfort to be picked up, it's their nature. I don't like it as much as you, but one thing about facts and reality is that they don't care about our opinions or feelings about things. Reality is what it is, irrespective of our views on it.
Take a fundamental principle of physics like gravity for instance. Someone could think gravity is gay, but if that person where to jump off of a cliff, they would still surrender themselves to the mercy of gravity irrespective of them thinking gravity was gay. Gravity is an absolute.
Following that train of thought, comfort is a fundamental principle in pickup. You may think it is gay, but at the end of the day, if you're picking up girls, you will still have to surrender to it. All the great pickup guys that we look up to, from Tyler, Jeffy, Brad, Justin Wayne, etc. understand this, and if we want to reach their level we do as well.
Comfort is absolute.
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Yeah, I guess another way "comfort is brought up" is when Jeff talks about seeing the girls emotions, a la "emotional acuity" and see what she is feeling in that moment.
I often say "I can tell I'm making you uncomfortable right now" and I might even ask about it like "is it cuz your boyfriend is around?" or other stuff that pops to mind, as I don't care about the "blowout" that could come out at the moment.
I often say "I can tell I'm making you uncomfortable right now" and I might even ask about it like "is it cuz your boyfriend is around?" or other stuff that pops to mind, as I don't care about the "blowout" that could come out at the moment.
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RSD Misinterpreted: A Series of Posts on Popular RSD Ideas and How I Used to Misunderstand Them
Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
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Coming to you every Sunday...
►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Dave, I'm noticing that you're bringing in a lot of hate towards women into your posts. "Dumb sluts" and "stupid bitches" and other shit.
How does this self-talk / mentality effect your game?
What does that mentality imply about your place in the world and your place with women? Do you think studs like Owen and Brad and Jeff have similiar beliefs? How do their beliefs about women help or hurt them?
Are these girls actually dumb or are they dumb because they don't like you in some random moment of both of your lives?
Your progress is ridiculous man and I dont want to see you fucking yourself up because of some inner beliefs that are causing friction with being an attractive guy to women.
Please take this as a critical and supportive post, seriously. Not trying to shit on you at all. Just want to make sure you know that this shit is creeping into your writing (whereas before it wasn't in your writing, even if you did have these beliefs).
For you this might be one of the subtlest versions of "giving a fuck" that you might feel inclined to irradicate. Either way, whatever you do about it, be mindful.
Cheers man, loving your massive action.
How does this self-talk / mentality effect your game?
What does that mentality imply about your place in the world and your place with women? Do you think studs like Owen and Brad and Jeff have similiar beliefs? How do their beliefs about women help or hurt them?
Are these girls actually dumb or are they dumb because they don't like you in some random moment of both of your lives?
Your progress is ridiculous man and I dont want to see you fucking yourself up because of some inner beliefs that are causing friction with being an attractive guy to women.
Please take this as a critical and supportive post, seriously. Not trying to shit on you at all. Just want to make sure you know that this shit is creeping into your writing (whereas before it wasn't in your writing, even if you did have these beliefs).
For you this might be one of the subtlest versions of "giving a fuck" that you might feel inclined to irradicate. Either way, whatever you do about it, be mindful.
Cheers man, loving your massive action.
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Yeah, I guess another way "comfort is brought up" is when Jeff talks about seeing the girls emotions, a la "emotional acuity" and see what she is feeling in that moment.
I often say "I can tell I'm making you uncomfortable right now" and I might even ask about it like "is it cuz your boyfriend is around?" or other stuff that pops to mind, as I don't care about the "blowout" that could come out at the moment.
Very interesting. I really need to work on caring what girls feel b/c right now I really don't give a shit lol. I often say "I can tell I'm making you uncomfortable right now" and I might even ask about it like "is it cuz your boyfriend is around?" or other stuff that pops to mind, as I don't care about the "blowout" that could come out at the moment.
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DavePower
Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
Dave, I'm noticing that you're bringing in a lot of hate towards women into your posts. "Dumb sluts" and "stupid bitches" and other shit.
How does this self-talk / mentality effect your game?
What does that mentality imply about your place in the world and your place with women? Do you think studs like Owen and Brad and Jeff have similiar beliefs? How do their beliefs about women help or hurt them?
Are these girls actually dumb or are they dumb because they don't like you in some random moment of both of your lives?
Your progress is ridiculous man and I dont want to see you fucking yourself up because of some inner beliefs that are causing friction with being an attractive guy to women.
Please take this as a critical and supportive post, seriously. Not trying to shit on you at all. Just want to make sure you know that this shit is creeping into your writing (whereas before it wasn't in your writing, even if you did have these beliefs).
For you this might be one of the subtlest versions of "giving a fuck" that you might feel inclined to irradicate. Either way, whatever you do about it, be mindful.
Cheers man, loving your massive action.
Lol, don't worry I am very aware of things like this. Honestly I was just trying to be funny, it was more self amusing that negative self-talk, but maybe a little bit of both. It's more of a personal frustration thing. Just a phase I think. Besides that is a sweeeet shirt I got. How does this self-talk / mentality effect your game?
What does that mentality imply about your place in the world and your place with women? Do you think studs like Owen and Brad and Jeff have similiar beliefs? How do their beliefs about women help or hurt them?
Are these girls actually dumb or are they dumb because they don't like you in some random moment of both of your lives?
Your progress is ridiculous man and I dont want to see you fucking yourself up because of some inner beliefs that are causing friction with being an attractive guy to women.
Please take this as a critical and supportive post, seriously. Not trying to shit on you at all. Just want to make sure you know that this shit is creeping into your writing (whereas before it wasn't in your writing, even if you did have these beliefs).
For you this might be one of the subtlest versions of "giving a fuck" that you might feel inclined to irradicate. Either way, whatever you do about it, be mindful.
Cheers man, loving your massive action.
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DavePower
Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
Sunday January 15, 2012
Went out tonight, forgot to meditate so I wasn't quite as focused as I could have been. I also ate ice cream today, which I haven't done so in like 5 days so that's ok. But i noticed that ice cream makes me slightly less focused in my brain so that is a very good reason to not eat it. I might just eat ice cream once a week on sunday.
Did a quick approach at a bar, then grabbed a bus up 14th street. Did an ok approach in a bookstore. This all seems so long ago, like it was yesterday.
Then went to bar. Lots 'o people out tonight apparently it's a holiday tomorrow, who'd've known? Sat on bar stool next to 2 girls, then opened one and asked what she was drinking. This somehow led into a good interaction for like 20+ minutes pretty chill. She was ok cute I would fuck her. When she left I tried to get her number and I was honestly expecting an easy number but she didn't give it to me which really surprised me but I still didn't care but that was interesting. I think she was probably the mediocre type girl who "won't get played by pimps". But after this interaction I was feeling good like put in some good work on sunday.
I do a quick approach with this cute drunk girl over a wall. Then I go say hi to this girl I already know and meet her friend. Then I walk over to another area and stand next to 2 girls. I decide to go stand in front of them and approach them. I do some opener like "hey", some hardcore advanced shit. These girls are blonde, one is not attractive but is still cool and the other is reallllly cute and is the type of puffy blonde ya know? like not the skinny type but still in shape in her own body type. Anyway somehow I talk to these girls for an hour, I did pretty good with this "group interaction". After they left my brain felt so awesome it was so stimulated in the best ways. Dopamine yo, neurotransmitters.
I go do a brief approach with another girl.
Then go to another bar where bouncer lets me in without ID, this bar always just lets me in and it's funny b/c I never talk to the bouncers or anything it's awesome. I go stand next to 2 girls and then talk to them. At certain points in this interaction I was feeling awesome just so chill. I wasn't quite up to my capability in terms of "not trying" which I think was b/c of the ice cream and not meditating earlier, but I was still maxing out my ability. It was slightly weird at one point, the girl kept asking me if I was gonna get a drink, and I'm totally fine with not drinking in bars or drinking water and I didn't give a shit. She asked me how I felt about that, I said I felt amazing b/c I really felt so mega chill and shit. She said she felt awkward which was weird to me, I think she was really attached to drinking in a bar and when she saw me not doing that it was weird for her even though I felt totally normal. These girls were meeting a friend who was in town from Afghanistan so it was not the best logistics I'd say so I left.
Went down to blackjack, approached 2 girls and it was pretty decent until their guy friend came over and then they seemed to get weird. I was on the sidewalk and some drunk dudes asked me if I knew a joke I said no and they got sad in disapproval like their state depended on me knowing a joke, little shit like that pisses me off. Did one last approach outside another bar. At this point though my brain is so stimulated with dopamine and I am really satisfied with the work I've put in and had fun, and so then I'm just like "ok time to go home I feel satisfied". But in reality I could do more approaches and probably pretty easily have some decent approaches and build up my momentum even more. But I think it will take some more time to get my brain wired to raging for longer periods of time. I was out from like 9:30pm-12:00am but in the future once I develop more I think I could and should stay out until like 2am and by then I could be just on fire. So that's interesting, seriously.
Went out tonight, forgot to meditate so I wasn't quite as focused as I could have been. I also ate ice cream today, which I haven't done so in like 5 days so that's ok. But i noticed that ice cream makes me slightly less focused in my brain so that is a very good reason to not eat it. I might just eat ice cream once a week on sunday.
Did a quick approach at a bar, then grabbed a bus up 14th street. Did an ok approach in a bookstore. This all seems so long ago, like it was yesterday.
Then went to bar. Lots 'o people out tonight apparently it's a holiday tomorrow, who'd've known? Sat on bar stool next to 2 girls, then opened one and asked what she was drinking. This somehow led into a good interaction for like 20+ minutes pretty chill. She was ok cute I would fuck her. When she left I tried to get her number and I was honestly expecting an easy number but she didn't give it to me which really surprised me but I still didn't care but that was interesting. I think she was probably the mediocre type girl who "won't get played by pimps". But after this interaction I was feeling good like put in some good work on sunday.
I do a quick approach with this cute drunk girl over a wall. Then I go say hi to this girl I already know and meet her friend. Then I walk over to another area and stand next to 2 girls. I decide to go stand in front of them and approach them. I do some opener like "hey", some hardcore advanced shit. These girls are blonde, one is not attractive but is still cool and the other is reallllly cute and is the type of puffy blonde ya know? like not the skinny type but still in shape in her own body type. Anyway somehow I talk to these girls for an hour, I did pretty good with this "group interaction". After they left my brain felt so awesome it was so stimulated in the best ways. Dopamine yo, neurotransmitters.
I go do a brief approach with another girl.
Then go to another bar where bouncer lets me in without ID, this bar always just lets me in and it's funny b/c I never talk to the bouncers or anything it's awesome. I go stand next to 2 girls and then talk to them. At certain points in this interaction I was feeling awesome just so chill. I wasn't quite up to my capability in terms of "not trying" which I think was b/c of the ice cream and not meditating earlier, but I was still maxing out my ability. It was slightly weird at one point, the girl kept asking me if I was gonna get a drink, and I'm totally fine with not drinking in bars or drinking water and I didn't give a shit. She asked me how I felt about that, I said I felt amazing b/c I really felt so mega chill and shit. She said she felt awkward which was weird to me, I think she was really attached to drinking in a bar and when she saw me not doing that it was weird for her even though I felt totally normal. These girls were meeting a friend who was in town from Afghanistan so it was not the best logistics I'd say so I left.
Went down to blackjack, approached 2 girls and it was pretty decent until their guy friend came over and then they seemed to get weird. I was on the sidewalk and some drunk dudes asked me if I knew a joke I said no and they got sad in disapproval like their state depended on me knowing a joke, little shit like that pisses me off. Did one last approach outside another bar. At this point though my brain is so stimulated with dopamine and I am really satisfied with the work I've put in and had fun, and so then I'm just like "ok time to go home I feel satisfied". But in reality I could do more approaches and probably pretty easily have some decent approaches and build up my momentum even more. But I think it will take some more time to get my brain wired to raging for longer periods of time. I was out from like 9:30pm-12:00am but in the future once I develop more I think I could and should stay out until like 2am and by then I could be just on fire. So that's interesting, seriously.
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DavePower
Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
P.S. I watched a classic movie today called "true romance". Great script, cat I recommend it yo. Brad Pitt has a really funny side role which is probably relatively not well known.
Also the latest Tyler videos have been fuckennnnnn amazing am I right? They inspired me fully. Wow. These videos are on a whole 'nother level Tyler's public speaking in these is the best I've ever seen of him his shit is on so soliddddd so focused.
Also the latest Tyler videos have been fuckennnnnn amazing am I right? They inspired me fully. Wow. These videos are on a whole 'nother level Tyler's public speaking in these is the best I've ever seen of him his shit is on so soliddddd so focused.
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DavePower
Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
Tuesday January 17, 2012
Went to a bar but no approach ops. So then I went to the grocery store and decided to do approaches while I got some food, for like 20 minutes. One girl I talked to for like 5 whole minutes lol. After this grocery store session it made my brain more focused which is what I like.
Noticed that I can get into negative thought/emotion loops. It's like if I am not very active during the day then I just feel crappy. This should help me become more motivated to use my time more wisely. That's what I need to do.
Went to a bar but no approach ops. So then I went to the grocery store and decided to do approaches while I got some food, for like 20 minutes. One girl I talked to for like 5 whole minutes lol. After this grocery store session it made my brain more focused which is what I like.
Noticed that I can get into negative thought/emotion loops. It's like if I am not very active during the day then I just feel crappy. This should help me become more motivated to use my time more wisely. That's what I need to do.
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DavePower
Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
dave7
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Keep on seducing these cougars son! Where do I get the dong energy shirt yo
Here's the shirt: DONGenergy shirt
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