THE FORUMS
Tuesday February 14, 2012
Couldn't decide at first whether I should go out. Then I realized that I haven't done anything social today and tomorrow I would feel less confident if I didn't go out tonite.
So then I went out for about 20 minutes, approached 2 ladies at a bar, talked for 5-10 minutes. I was feeling pretty good despite not going out last 2 nights. Maybe it was because I recharged a bit.
Couldn't decide at first whether I should go out. Then I realized that I haven't done anything social today and tomorrow I would feel less confident if I didn't go out tonite.
So then I went out for about 20 minutes, approached 2 ladies at a bar, talked for 5-10 minutes. I was feeling pretty good despite not going out last 2 nights. Maybe it was because I recharged a bit.
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Draw state from within.
Thursday February 16, 2012
Did reading for class and worked on thesis today. Then later on I was actually feeling depressed which I think was because I didn't go out last night and I was thinking about not going out tonite again (just experimenting with different amounts of going out). So then I was like I NEED to go out or else I wil go crazy. I needed that stimulation.
So I went out for about 40 minutes, did several approaches, they were ok. One was girl on sidewalk and I walked with her for a block or two to show her directions. I should've not been such a pussy and just tried to "get with her". I did get the stimulation I was after. Going out definitely made me feel better. I ate red bell pepper (chopped) on the way to the bars which gave me some DavePower.
For the next few days my plan is: to go out as long as--- a) I'm not limiting my time to study/work on thesis and b) I'm not pissed that I'm making myself go out even though I would MUCH rather just watch a movie that night.
I want to focus more on my thesis for now, it will help me become less stressed.
But after I do this experiment with different amounts of going out, I think I will realize that more is better, and I will probably end up doing "go out a lot" which means most of the time but I will allow myself to stay home sometimes if I really need/feel like it. It's crazy going through these self-conflicts, where you're conflicted with what decisions to make, but I think it's necessary if I want to keep progressing/improving.
Did reading for class and worked on thesis today. Then later on I was actually feeling depressed which I think was because I didn't go out last night and I was thinking about not going out tonite again (just experimenting with different amounts of going out). So then I was like I NEED to go out or else I wil go crazy. I needed that stimulation.
So I went out for about 40 minutes, did several approaches, they were ok. One was girl on sidewalk and I walked with her for a block or two to show her directions. I should've not been such a pussy and just tried to "get with her". I did get the stimulation I was after. Going out definitely made me feel better. I ate red bell pepper (chopped) on the way to the bars which gave me some DavePower.
For the next few days my plan is: to go out as long as--- a) I'm not limiting my time to study/work on thesis and b) I'm not pissed that I'm making myself go out even though I would MUCH rather just watch a movie that night.
I want to focus more on my thesis for now, it will help me become less stressed.
But after I do this experiment with different amounts of going out, I think I will realize that more is better, and I will probably end up doing "go out a lot" which means most of the time but I will allow myself to stay home sometimes if I really need/feel like it. It's crazy going through these self-conflicts, where you're conflicted with what decisions to make, but I think it's necessary if I want to keep progressing/improving.
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Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
You need to focus on eating red bell peppers whole like an apple. This wastes less of your time on food prep and you become more beast because you eat it like a caveman would, unleashed the primal man within you. lol
As far school/beastmode, you need to learn where your priorities really lie. Ask "if I could do ONLY ONE of these things for a year, what would it be?" Make sure you prioritize for that one thing. Then you ask "If I could do only ONE MORE THING" what would it be?
e.g. lets say I'm all
"I would rather focus on getting supremely awesome beastmode than getting huge."
"I would rather focus on getting huge than caring about getting a raise."
"I would rather keep my job than be forced to find a new one."
--> I'm going to be eating more crap even though I work out, and allowing myself to drink, etc.
If I stick "I want to be super healthy" up above the 3 other goals, this fixes a lot of my issues "Oh I'd rather not drink and miss this lay, decision made." If I'd rather get good w girls than get huge, then if I have to choose, I'll tend to choose going out and miss a day at the gym. Etc. Clarifying your priorities and goals and values kind of makes your decisions for you, ahead of time.
This kinda shit has been helpful to me.
As far school/beastmode, you need to learn where your priorities really lie. Ask "if I could do ONLY ONE of these things for a year, what would it be?" Make sure you prioritize for that one thing. Then you ask "If I could do only ONE MORE THING" what would it be?
e.g. lets say I'm all
"I would rather focus on getting supremely awesome beastmode than getting huge."
"I would rather focus on getting huge than caring about getting a raise."
"I would rather keep my job than be forced to find a new one."
--> I'm going to be eating more crap even though I work out, and allowing myself to drink, etc.
If I stick "I want to be super healthy" up above the 3 other goals, this fixes a lot of my issues "Oh I'd rather not drink and miss this lay, decision made." If I'd rather get good w girls than get huge, then if I have to choose, I'll tend to choose going out and miss a day at the gym. Etc. Clarifying your priorities and goals and values kind of makes your decisions for you, ahead of time.
This kinda shit has been helpful to me.
Thursday February 16, 2012
Did reading for class and worked on thesis today. Then later on I was actually feeling depressed which I think was because I didn't go out last night and I was thinking about not going out tonite again (just experimenting with different amounts of going out). So then I was like I NEED to go out or else I wil go crazy. I needed that stimulation.
So I went out for about 40 minutes, did several approaches, they were ok. One was girl on sidewalk and I walked with her for a block or two to show her directions. I should've not been such a pussy and just tried to "get with her". I did get the stimulation I was after. Going out definitely made me feel better. I ate red bell pepper (chopped) on the way to the bars which gave me some DavePower.
For the next few days my plan is: to go out as long as--- a) I'm not limiting my time to study/work on thesis and b) I'm not pissed that I'm making myself go out even though I would MUCH rather just watch a movie that night.
I want to focus more on my thesis for now, it will help me become less stressed.
But after I do this experiment with different amounts of going out, I think I will realize that more is better, and I will probably end up doing "go out a lot" which means most of the time but I will allow myself to stay home sometimes if I really need/feel like it. It's crazy going through these self-conflicts, where you're conflicted with what decisions to make, but I think it's necessary if I want to keep progressing/improving.
Did reading for class and worked on thesis today. Then later on I was actually feeling depressed which I think was because I didn't go out last night and I was thinking about not going out tonite again (just experimenting with different amounts of going out). So then I was like I NEED to go out or else I wil go crazy. I needed that stimulation.
So I went out for about 40 minutes, did several approaches, they were ok. One was girl on sidewalk and I walked with her for a block or two to show her directions. I should've not been such a pussy and just tried to "get with her". I did get the stimulation I was after. Going out definitely made me feel better. I ate red bell pepper (chopped) on the way to the bars which gave me some DavePower.
For the next few days my plan is: to go out as long as--- a) I'm not limiting my time to study/work on thesis and b) I'm not pissed that I'm making myself go out even though I would MUCH rather just watch a movie that night.
I want to focus more on my thesis for now, it will help me become less stressed.
But after I do this experiment with different amounts of going out, I think I will realize that more is better, and I will probably end up doing "go out a lot" which means most of the time but I will allow myself to stay home sometimes if I really need/feel like it. It's crazy going through these self-conflicts, where you're conflicted with what decisions to make, but I think it's necessary if I want to keep progressing/improving.
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►Part I -- What Tyler means by "Drop the Self-Image Paradigm"
►Part II -- [What Do You Want to Hear About On a Coming Sunday?]
Awesome that is a great way to look at things I think. For me, it might be something like this:
1) I want to be super healthy (digestion, brain, etc)
2) I want to work on my schooling to get it done
3) I want to get good with girls
4) I want to gain some muscle, physical fitness
1) I want to be super healthy (digestion, brain, etc)
2) I want to work on my schooling to get it done
3) I want to get good with girls
4) I want to gain some muscle, physical fitness
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Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
Friday February 17, 2012
Ok so an interesting night I guess. Was out about 12:15-3:00 am. Go to a warm up bar to try to do some approaches. Do a girl with her friends, it was ok, then they leave. I go stand next to this other girl and talk to her. I just wanted to have a conversation to get it flowing. Talked for like 15 mins. Then she leaves, she wasn't really attractive, slightly fat. She was pretty into me, though it wasn't sexual b/c I wasn't pushing that type of vibe. And I was thinking "hmmm...maybe I should have just tried to fuck her, why not get a lay?". I go outside and she is smoking outside, so that was lucky. It was a hard decision but I decided to try it with her, I realized I would be glad to fuck her if I did.
I talked to her and walked her back to her place a few blocks away. Mid-way I stopped and madeout with her, so yay. Then kissed her again at her place, but she didn't invite me in. I should have been more persistent. But that was a good interaction, just shows that I'm a pimp and a slut.
Go back to the bars. Madhatter. Do several approaches but none of them really go anywhere. I run into a wing that I go out with sometimes, he's a chill dude. Then we go to another bar. I talk to girl on the stairs. We go to roof. I do some approaches up there, including a group of girls. It was ok. Then to first floor, say what's up to some prostitute, she grabs my arm lol but I just leave her. I find the girl I talked to on the stairs, she is all happy to see me and touches my hair. I have fun with it and try to escalate a bit, turns out she is with her bf apparently, which I think was true, she was just flirty. Not gonna lie I was kinda disappointed.
Do a decent approach of girl walking by, point at her then grab her hand and pull her over. Try to escalate but she doesn't want to.
Go outside do some street approaches. Then we go to this sweeeeet club I haven't been in yet. I liked it, but lots of guys. I approach one girl and try to pull her in but she didn't really want to.
GO to another club, approach a black girl who I thought was reallly cute, I didn't know what to do b/c I'm a pussy.
Do some more street game. Talk to 2 asians. One is cute I like her. I tell her she is sexy and she giggles for a while. I tell her I want to show her something reallly cool, and she finally agrees so I just pull her out toward the sidewalk. I try to pull her in, uncross her arms etc. She likes it but she says she has a bf, and she keeps saying that like it is true. Meh it was fun anyway.
We go into another club, too many guys I think. I might have done a few brief approaches.
Debrief
[/font]Tonight I noticed that I would just get into friendly talking mode with girls and not try to pull them in and escalate. So I was able to realize this and I tried to be more sex style pull the girls in and that was better but I wasn't totally sharp with it. I did do some decent physical leading, and mini venue changes (just pulling a girl 15 feet away or whatever), so that is good I have had difficulties doing shit like that before. But for sure the approaches where I was just talking to the girl about regular stuff and not doing any kind of escalation or physicalness were the dumbest approaches.
Ok so an interesting night I guess. Was out about 12:15-3:00 am. Go to a warm up bar to try to do some approaches. Do a girl with her friends, it was ok, then they leave. I go stand next to this other girl and talk to her. I just wanted to have a conversation to get it flowing. Talked for like 15 mins. Then she leaves, she wasn't really attractive, slightly fat. She was pretty into me, though it wasn't sexual b/c I wasn't pushing that type of vibe. And I was thinking "hmmm...maybe I should have just tried to fuck her, why not get a lay?". I go outside and she is smoking outside, so that was lucky. It was a hard decision but I decided to try it with her, I realized I would be glad to fuck her if I did.
I talked to her and walked her back to her place a few blocks away. Mid-way I stopped and madeout with her, so yay. Then kissed her again at her place, but she didn't invite me in. I should have been more persistent. But that was a good interaction, just shows that I'm a pimp and a slut.
Go back to the bars. Madhatter. Do several approaches but none of them really go anywhere. I run into a wing that I go out with sometimes, he's a chill dude. Then we go to another bar. I talk to girl on the stairs. We go to roof. I do some approaches up there, including a group of girls. It was ok. Then to first floor, say what's up to some prostitute, she grabs my arm lol but I just leave her. I find the girl I talked to on the stairs, she is all happy to see me and touches my hair. I have fun with it and try to escalate a bit, turns out she is with her bf apparently, which I think was true, she was just flirty. Not gonna lie I was kinda disappointed.
Do a decent approach of girl walking by, point at her then grab her hand and pull her over. Try to escalate but she doesn't want to.
Go outside do some street approaches. Then we go to this sweeeeet club I haven't been in yet. I liked it, but lots of guys. I approach one girl and try to pull her in but she didn't really want to.
GO to another club, approach a black girl who I thought was reallly cute, I didn't know what to do b/c I'm a pussy.
Do some more street game. Talk to 2 asians. One is cute I like her. I tell her she is sexy and she giggles for a while. I tell her I want to show her something reallly cool, and she finally agrees so I just pull her out toward the sidewalk. I try to pull her in, uncross her arms etc. She likes it but she says she has a bf, and she keeps saying that like it is true. Meh it was fun anyway.
We go into another club, too many guys I think. I might have done a few brief approaches.
Debrief
[/font]Tonight I noticed that I would just get into friendly talking mode with girls and not try to pull them in and escalate. So I was able to realize this and I tried to be more sex style pull the girls in and that was better but I wasn't totally sharp with it. I did do some decent physical leading, and mini venue changes (just pulling a girl 15 feet away or whatever), so that is good I have had difficulties doing shit like that before. But for sure the approaches where I was just talking to the girl about regular stuff and not doing any kind of escalation or physicalness were the dumbest approaches.
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Draw state from within.
Draw state from within.
Wait... What??
Jokes ;) Well played sir, well played.
Makeout right whens he gets in to lead in that aspect and keep it alive.
Jokes ;) Well played sir, well played.
Makeout right whens he gets in to lead in that aspect and keep it alive.
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