I had a dream last night about pu. I was at a grocery store, and I met two girls, one after the other, in about 10 minutes, and it went really well, and I got their numbers. It was really fun. It's awesome to dream about this stuff, I'll take all the practice I can get.
Tonight was the first night in the past 85 where I had an objective. I decided that getting a phone number would be good, b/c I could tell that it made me slightly nervous. I went to the bar area, and I went into a bar I like. It had some people in it, esp. for a monday, but b/c I'm so smart I know where people will be on monday anyway. I walked in, saw a chair open at the end of the bar next to a blonde girl who was talking to her friends (or people). I opened with, "what were you talking about with them?" She was pretty cute tbh. The interaction went well, it lasted about 20 minutes. I felt pretty damn good the whole time, and I was working on my eye contact again; I can now talk to people by looking them square in the eye. Guys don't do this as much, but it seems like a necessity with girls. Seriously, eye contact! The girl laughed a few times, and it was a fun interaction. In the back of my mind my objective was lingering. I decided I was going to try, I didn't want to worry about if I got it or not, I would learn either way. First, I said something like let me get your number, she might not have heard me, or was tactfully ignoring me. So I took out my phone, and said, I'm gonna call you sometime. She went into her defense, saying oh I'm so much older than you blah blah. It didn't phase me, cause I knew it shouldn't basically. I thought this girl was cute, period. I said, well we can be friends right? And she said oh, yeah we can be friends. I got her number (not really sure if it's her real # but hey). When I was putting it in my phone, she was like, do it fast I don't want my friend to see this, lol. She was 38. (I'm 24)
Lesson: Don't get phased my lmr to phone number, despite age gap
Positive: I had a great interaction with the first girl (person for that matter) that I talked to, and got her number.
WEnt out last night, I was feeling a bit weird, like unmotivated, but I still did it. I went to a few bars, didn't really talk to anyone there. Then I went into another bar, and I talked to this fairly cute girl for a little bit. I was trying to keep the conversation from any serious topics, and it went ok. It was one of those times where I didn't know what to say, and I was not genuinely aroused to this girl. BUt hey that lasted like 10-15 minutes, which is super solid for my standards. My initial objective for the night was to get a phone number, but b/c of my various excuses that I could make up, I didn't get a number. I really didn't want the number of the girl I talked to, I did consider asking for it though. I guess right action would have been to just ask for it and see what happens.
Lesson: I should take risks even if I'm feeling less motivated than usual
Positive: I had a 10 min+ interaction with a girl.
Goals: My plan for the next week or so-- to get several phone numbers and see what I can do with them.
I was traveling again today, so that makes things a bit more trickier. I didn't approach girls in the airport, but maybe I should have. Finally, when I was waiting for the elevator at my hotel, this girl walks by, she had some cuteness, I talked to her for about a minute, it was a real interaction, and she seemed to enjoy it. So at that point my proactiveness was completed for the day. I went out to a bar anyhow later on. I approached a fairly cute girl and met her, talked for a minute or two, but she never really seemed that interested, and she lost interest fairly quickly. Maybe I wasn't really aroused by her; when I talk to girls I don't really feel aroused by, I feel like I'm trying to validate myself and force things.
At least I got some work in.
Lesson: I should probably do day game even if I don't feel healthy. And I should have had an objective before going to the bar.
Positive: I talked to two (stranger) girls.
Insight: Day game girls can be much more responsive, night time girls seem to be way more selective...
I did some day game today, b/c of family tg dinner later on. I was also not feeling totally great again (I have food sensitivities, which are basically allergies). But I was walking around the historic downtown area with my parents. We were in a shop, my dad was looking at a scarf. He couldn't quite decide to get it. I grabbed it and went up to this lady and asked her opinion, classic pu female opinion lol. Later on, we were looking at jewelry being sold on the street. I noticed this cute girl looking at stuff. I went up and asked her what she was looking at. She lost interest in me in about 3.5 seconds. My simple openers don't always work. That's about it, I asked this other girl if I could pet her dog. Hey, this is the stuff that champions are made of.
Lesson: Try to focus more on how I say my openers and stuff in general, rather than on what to say.
Positive: I was even doing dave7 style day game with my parents, classic.
Objective: Talk to a (stranger) girl, I really just wanted to be in my warm house).
I went to a bar that I like, i sat down next to a girl with her friend. She was that cute, but I talked to her for a few minutes. She was that type of girl who is like a 6-6.5 and she plays it hard to get, even plays it hard to meet and have a friendly conversation. Eh, it wasn't too bad. I kept seeing this waitress walk by and I was aroused, I thought she was cute. I decided I was going to talk to her. I needed for her to stop sometime. My opener was going to be "how long have you worked here". Finally she was at the register with another waitress. I went up to the cutie and introduced myself and asked my opener. It went beautiful, god I am awesome. I talked to her for a few minutes, I didn't want to keep her b/c she was working, of course. BUt I needed to have a long enough conversation where my chances of getting her number would be higher. So I did that, and I asked for her number and she wrote it down. Beautiful work dave7. She is cute too. I'm not sure if I'll be back in this town for several weeks, so I'm not sure how I'm going to play it, or if I am, but it was good practice if anything.
That's two numbers this week.
(If anyone has any suggestions with how to "play" with this number I just got, considering I don't really live in this town right now, and I'm leaving tomorrow and won't be back for about 4 weeks, let me know. It seems to me the odds are against me. It's just one of those girls that is worth it.
Lesson: I can meet girls that are waitresses, i.e. it doesn't really matter if the girl is working.
I was in the airports again today. I wanted to talk to a girl there, and not have to go out when I got back home late at night. So I walked around the airport for a while, I saw some cute girls that I really thought were cute, but excuses I didn't talk to them. I finally went up to a lady with a sweet dog, it was all fuzzy, and I asked her if I could pet it. She was a hot mom, and I would have talked to her for longer, but her kid was crying and stuff.
I considered that this counted for me, I did talk to a (stranger) girl. But I wanted to talk to another. I finally went up to girl using her kindle. I pretended to be interested in it and shit, but all I really wanted to do was talk to her. She was ok cute, and nice. I talked to her for about 5 minutes, it was a solid interaction.