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May 25th, 2017
How do you tell a girl you've been seeing/dating about the community?
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#21
ceoarob

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Join Date: 05/20/2008 | Posts: 1293

This times 100
Drama wrote:

It all comes down to the way you communicate it.

If you say: "I learn how to pick up girls" -- it is going to come across so fucking weird (and I even find saying that weird).

If you say: "I study social dynamics and go out three nights a week to have fun, meet new people, and make friends" -- that isn't weird. AND that is what we do when we go out.

I love to make friends everytime I go out, and sure, I meet women and move things in a sexual direction, but that isn't the focus.

No one from an outside looking in perspective is going to understand that going out and pushing your comfort zones and meeting women is going to improve who you are as a man. Most people cannot comprehend that - hell, some guys that study RSD still haven't figured that out. It is part of the development, so you can't expect someone who hasn't experienced it to understand.
For me personally, the girl can TELL that I'm a living embodiment of this whole "transformation" stuff. If I tell her my story, she won't believe it because it sounds nothing like me. If someone comes across as always trying to manipulate people, then yeah...they'd probably get that entire PUA label since they're sucking value from everyone that they meet.

But when you're working to better yourself and make the world a better place, then RSD isn't just about "getting the chicks", it's about having fun and getting to your core.

I'm learning more and more that "I am the only constant" in this entire game deal. 

If a girl took an "RSD" like course for women so that she could learn to be freer, sexier, and in better touch with her feminine polarity, then I would LOVEEE that. I would have no problem about it. I'd probably actually encourage it. 

I just kinda LOL whenever people are afraid about this part of their life. They feel like they're "exposing" something. I used to feel that way. Then one day, "my secret" got out. Did people give a shit? Not really. One girl accused me of being one of those creepy pickup artists and for a second that hit a raw nerve, but I lol'd it away. Why? Because I don't view it as "pickup" anymore and I don't view it as traditionally approaching anymore. 

-These are people - not targets, sets, HB's, AMOG's or whatever. 
-There is no such thing as "approaching" - do you approach your mother? your father? sister? friends? no...it's simply WALKING UP and TALKING to someone that's it. 
-I've realized that as people get older, they make ALOT less friends than they did in their past. So whenever I walk up to either a guy or girl, introduce myself, and start talking, I'm essentially doing them a favor and *enhancing* their quality of life. The funny thing is, I probably get the most pleasure out of it just because, but that in turn makes that persons "day/week/month/year/whatever" 
-The biggest shift happened whenever I watched Jeffy Show for the second time (2 years or so after I watched it originally), I realized how certain shit made sense, but I understood the importance of VALUES. 
-I learned that I AM A GIVER OF VALUE whenever I'm social, not the opposite

It's just really all in your head. Old social conditioning. 

But that's my 2cents. 

Cheers,

-AR
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TheHitter!

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copy wrote:


But probably the best way would be to post a link to your LR about her on her facebook wall.
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#23
Dolemite

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Ask that chick "Bitch you bein' followed? Cause I've been seein' people behind yo back." Then give her one gangsta ass, thug stare down.



Works erry time, bitch'll sort herself out, damn jive turkey
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#24
Goran~

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Don't bother telling her, unless your an asistant instructor or an intern there's no point!
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#25
EarthQuakeMan

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Biff wrote:

Second girlfriend just knew that I went out all the time.  One night she was out with her girlfriends and I approached her from behind, realized I had just approached my own girlfriend.
Awesome.
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#26
Koolaid

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 I don't understand why people feel the need to talk about this.
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#27
ceoarob

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Talking about "pickup" with girls is pretty much the equivalent of talking about my grandmother's window treatments. 
Drama wrote:
ceoarob wrote:

Great response too. This is really all you need to know.

BUT then again, why do you feel the need to tell her? This is something I used to be "secretive" about too - but I was coming from that "pickup" frame. Now that I've moved past that, it isn't weird at all. I don't advertise it, but I don't hide it either. Let her figure it out on her own is my philosophy now. I don't care if people know, but I don't walk around and make it obvious either.

I don't really bring it up, and if it does, I'm just like, "Oh yeah...this this this....that that that". 

Hell, I could even hype it up...but most of the time, it just doesn't even register. 
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#28
Koolaid

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Haha its like this girl starts telling you about how she has all these gold-digging dynamics DVDs. And she says they aren't really about squeezing men dry, it's for empowering her, improving social skills, making herself a more attractive person.

Point of the matter is all this "seduction" stuff, might make the girl more insecure and make her think you don't care about her as a person and only want sex. Vagina life support system etc. All that affection you show is a lie, you'd cheat at the drop of a dime, you'll fuck and chuck her etc etc. Same reason why a dude would be afraid of losing his money or something. It's actually a fairly common thing as I hear many men and women trash talking their girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse etc and I don't think they're joking. 

Talking about it is like lots to lose and nothing to gain, unless you're actually good enough to understand which girls will be more receptive to hearing about it. Like if the girl wants to pickup other girls for threesomes or something then go for it, but probably she doesn't.
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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#29
Kaizen_Connor

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Join Date: 08/05/2010 | Posts: 46

Just call it "this self improvement stuff i'm involved with" real social dynamics even sounds like (since it essentially is) a company to help peole learn about "SOCIAL DYNAMICS" a.k.a. conversational skills etc. Just tell her that. I don't believe theres such thing as lying by ommision lol.
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#30

cougatron

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Join Date: 04/08/2009 | Posts: 19

I'll tell you before I used to think that that people in a relationship should share EVERYTHING.   Now I don't think that so much.  It's just not necessary.  I kind of look at it like a past relationship.  Yes I dated other people but I don't have to go into detail about it nor would she want me to and vice versa.  In a lot of ways it's in the past because I'm not actively going out.  My style is natural and I embrace being not doing.   I've already been to an RSD seminar since dating her and was just vague about it and it was fine.  If she straight out asked me about the community I would tell her.

One thing (of many) that got me thinking about it is I wanted to get the new Physical Game book and read it and if we lived together would I just have to totally hide it? seems kinda weird..  Also I already have nine ball so would I have to throw it away or otherwise hide it?  Or do I just have it in a box somewhere and if she comes across it then talk about it.
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