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July 26th, 2017
Why?? This is driving me CRAZY
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#11

SwedishDean

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Join Date: 06/11/2010 | Posts: 225

Im 22 years old
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#12
Deft

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Ok, I think I know whats going on there, first of all you are aware of "state" and how that affects you social effectiveness or whatever, so you want to archive that state be it by taking action or feeeling your innerbody or your breath, you try and try and you dont get it, untill you just ACCEPT your current state and then like magic, you effortlessly "archive" the super masculine state you feel super super awesome you dominate you are king, but then you get ego involved and booom it all goes down your state is now like cheap dirty high, you feel seemy good but you now start to care about what other people are thinking and you get a little paranoid so you RESIST this state and soooo the circle goes again.
Be Aware of this pattern if this is your case.
Accept whatever state you are in.
Peace brosky.
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SwedishDean

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Deft wrote:
Ok, I think I know whats going on there, first of all you are aware of "state" and how that affects you social effectiveness or whatever, so you want to archive that state be it by taking action or feeeling your innerbody or your breath, you try and try and you dont get it, untill you just ACCEPT your current state and then like magic, you effortlessly "archive" the super masculine state you feel super super awesome you dominate you are king, but then you get ego involved and booom it all goes down your state is now like cheap dirty high, you feel seemy good but you now start to care about what other people are thinking and you get a little paranoid so you RESIST this state and soooo the circle goes again.
Be Aware of this pattern if this is your case.
Accept whatever state you are in.
Peace brosky.
Great explanation and it could definately be something to it.

But what about the case that very often when I take energyzing pre workout drinks It all drops and I feel awesome? Like WAY MORE energy and more dominating.

Cant it just be some kind of chemical inbalance?
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#14

SwedishDean

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Well yeah. I grew up with no girls attention at all, I had buddies sure, but  I spent sooo many years in front of my computer so I didnt attend alot of parties etc.

When I was 19 I lost my virginity and got into my first LTR, which lasted almost 2 years. During this time I actually got much more social and confident, and alot of other girls started to notice me. Whats very interesting, was that I knew this girl saw me as a cool "alpha guy", who was strong and social witted. So when I was with her, It was like I could FEEL myself getting more social and funny, it was like "ok now she is here, I can be like this now", but when she wasnt there, I could not really access that part. Very very interesting stuff actually.

However, she broke up with me a little more than a year ago, I was very down and depressed for some weeks, didnt feel like doing nothing at all.

My images about people is like they do like me when I am social and funny, but as fast as I convert back to my introvert nature I just feel so fucking boring and stiff, and I can feel that people notice it and they like push me away unconsiously.

I can be both insecure but also VERY confident, my self image aint that good at this point.

When Im accessing that cool state its like EVERYTHING bad just DISSAPEARS, I can be socail, witty, funny, loud etc, and I feel that people just like me more then, and some girls also become attracted.

So thats really the feeling Im looking for, If I could be like that all time, I can only dream of how successfull I would be in life. The thing is, I cant really tell me self to be like that, because if I do, it just doesnt happen.
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SwedishDean

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Well, the thing is, that I have experienced times when I had the mindset to MAKE AN IMPRESSION, and it went very well, like I can think for myself "ok, talk loud, be confident, be funny", and I can go in there and do it, and people love it. So I dont know really if my problem is Im trying to make an impression, because alot of the time when I dont care about it at all, I just end up sitting there being boring.
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#16

SwedishDean

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Murdock I think you really are getting somewhere here.

So what do u think I should do to... get rid of this? Because, I can on one lever understand that  I should not try to make an impression, but by doing that I would probably just be kinda quiet and boring, due to the fact thats my nature as an introvert (If I really am an introvert, I dont know, I wasnt when I was a child and before the computer days, and Im not when Im drunk, and Im not when I access this good state, but on a day to day basis, the majority of time I do spend as some kind of introverted).
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#17

SwedishDean

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Yeah, hope some instructor can recognize the problem.
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#18
OMAR

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dude everybody here said the same thing to u in a billion different ways because we ALL been throguht it.. Ur just looking to satisfy ur ego with whichever soudns right to u. INstructors not gonan tell u anyhting differernt.  IF I learned anything about u...its ur failure to comprehend. LOL

and at pezar, i didnt read any books on meditation but this book has some cool ideas... THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN by DAVID DEIDA
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#19

Trimalchio

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Join Date: 07/12/2008 | Posts: 19

This kind of shit has happened before, watch Jerry Lewis in THE NUTTY PROFESSOR... wink
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#20

BloodmoneySWE

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Maybe because you hyperanalyze everything.

Get a strong fucking frame and run with it, only analyze shit when you HAVE TO.
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