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SRQ-Vice

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Join Date: 01/22/2009 | Posts: 28

I just got back from work. I am ALWAYS emotionally drained from work, from dealing with the sh*tbags and their bullsh*t.

Note:

1. I am in the military, under contract. I can't just go out and quit.
2. I'm stuck in the particular section I'm in until I have my mandatory move.
3. I can't tell a superior to shut the fuck up when they're being sh*tbags.

Okay, look, I know it's the military. I know I'm supposed to go through this sh*t. But it's been going on for over a year now, and I'm getting worn down from it. I used to use their shit and negativity to fuel my ambition and motivation, but the motivation and "fire" in my eyes has long since gone away.

I didn't make a good first impression when I first got into the section. The particular section that I'm in is reserved for the screwups and dirtbags, but I was sent there only because there was an open slot that needed to be filled, so it had no reflection of my performance during my training.

Here's a quick list of sh*t that goes down:

1. There's one NCO that got into a car wreck, lost a bunch of money, got divorced, and has scars on his face and is blind in one eye. He has the goofiest attitude, he'll run round and be obnoxious , blow everything out of proportion, insult everyone, and he has the most negative attitude towards money and girls. I usually ignore him when he's being crazy and respond only when he's saying/doing something relevant. Sometimes I laugh at the stuff he does just because of the social pressure, but I've been catching myself lately and not rewarding his crap behavior.
2. Another NCO has been his current rank for a VERY long time. That says enough about him right there.
3. Yet another NCO is one of those "red neck" dudes that does the whole hunting and watching NASCAR thing. Not that there's anything wrong with hunting or watching NASCAR. But he's very immature, 26 years old, obnoxious, always insults me and gives me sh*t.
4. I'll have EVERYONE give me sh*t about all the books I read. I bring in a book to read during down time (most of them are about personal finances and investing) and they always give me sh*t about them. They'll ask "Oh, what does your INVESTMENT BOOK say about that, huh?"
5. One guy always plugs in his iPod and plays all this chodey music that really puts my state down.

I've gotten to the point where I just don't say anything anymore. I need to be more assertive. I've been going to the gym to get bigger so that people will stop thinking they can mess with me (I'm 6'3" at 180 pounds). Has anyone else had a similar problem?
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Koolaid

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Quit asap. Sounds wrong for you. Also you sound uptight.
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Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

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http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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TomUtrecht

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Join Date: 11/04/2009 | Posts: 39

Can't say that I have, but what i would do if i were you is;

1. Just keep busy with yourself. Look, the lame jokes they make, the stupid comments about your books, really are as you say; dumb and stupid. Don't even invest any of your time into their shit, it means nothing and it shouldn't mean anything to you. Perhaps make a a good joke back, can work really well.
2. About the insults; I don't know what your options are since you are in the military. But if you can, just be straight up to your superior who is insulting you. Confront and be honest, just say what you think of his shit and do so firmly. Stand up for yourself dude.
3. Have you explained your situation to a superior who is not on of your NCO's ? Who knows what they can do for you, somtimes ppl can be more helpful than you think. Also, talking to a psychologist can really help you, because it sounds like you're starting to get really down from your work.

And if nothing else works: I recently read about the US army policy about homosexuals.  I'm not from the US, so im not 100 % sure about this, but what I read is that if you tell anyone that you're gay, you will get fired. They won't know if you are or not, but just telling is enough. So that's something you can always use as a last resort.

Hope this helps, and I wish you the best of luck with your problem
Cheers
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SRQ-Vice

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Join Date: 01/22/2009 | Posts: 28

To complicate everything, I want to stay because I want to be a pilot, even though that's a long shot at this point in history. I'm going to see what I can do about transferring out of my section tomorrow, because a new start with a new group of people would lift me up so much. I've learned from my past mistakes with this group. I've got a year and a half left before I can gain full benefits for financing my education, and about four and a half years before my enlistment is up.

I'm also going for a scholarship that'll take me off active duty and send me to college for a bachelor's degree, and then I'll come back as an officer and hopefully a pilot.

Alternatively I can sign up for another program that will put me on reserves, where I have to work one weekend a month for a certain number of years and have the rest of the month for myself. I'm considering doing this once I start learning how to run my business that I'm developing on the side, and going to college to get my degree and then go for the pilot slot.

I will NOT pretend to be a homosexual, crazy, or anything that will bring dishonor to myself. What will I tell my parents? My future children? Friends? There's other ways for me to leave the military honorably, but I don't want to do that because of the current job market, and my ambitions to be a pilot.

I don't have that many friends. I spend alot of time outside of work alone. I spend alot of time studying personal finance. I'm going to be rich very soon. Every time I go to the club I make some kind of excuse and go drive teh half hour back home. I want to go to the local college and make friends, but I don't know how. I don't go to that school, and I don't have any good reason to be on campus.

I want to be able to stand up for myself. I want to be the kind of person that demands respect without actually verbalizing that demand. Ever since I was a kid people have been messing with me, and I wouldn't really care, and they would just keep doing it more and more. Even though I don't care, other people see me not doing anything and my social status goes down. Maybe I should start caring.
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Koolaid

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Can't you be a commercial pilot? Are you sure this will help?

Anyway you are too uptight and judgemental about yourself and other people. 
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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SRQ-Vice

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Can't you be a commercial pilot? Are you sure this will help?

No. I'm not planning on being an airborne bus driver. I want to fly, kill people and blow shit up.

Anyway you are too uptight and judgemental about yourself and other people.

You hit the nail right on the head.

I find myself hating more things than I like.

I find myself hating obnoxious, loud people.

I am judgemental. Very judgemental.

And I am really uptight.

And I can't even begin to think about how to stop it, even though I catch myself doing it ALL THE TIME.
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SRQ-Vice

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And yeah, I feel alot of hatred towards alot of people. Alot of pent up frustration and anger.

Stuff like how easy it is for other people to make friends. How people talk about useless shit. How people rely on their social circle to get more friends and girlfriends, when I'm out here alone in a new environment and have to meet everyone completely cold. How some people get everything handed to them, when I have to go out and get what I want by myself.

I haven't approached a girl cold in a few weeks. I don't know if my ego can handle it.

No, I have NOT considered suicide or any kind of violent act towards someone. I believe in channeling that kind of energy into something positive.
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Koolaid

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It's quite hard to develop a good attitude and a positive outlook. Good luck =)
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Jeffy Bootcamp Alumnus Oct 30-Nov 1, 2009
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865

Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471

Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223

Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
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PickUp_Police wrote:
 
The video says it all.

WAR ARNOLD
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