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It depends, the more she likes you, the more you can get away with, and the longer you've been seeing each other, the more little mistakes will be glossed over. Just go out and meet some more women, and give it a couple of weeks before you text this one again. Don't know how it will work out for you especialyl if you never kissed her or got physical at all.
Maybe they are judgmental and close minded. Maybe they are all those bad things you say they are. So what? It's got nothing to do with the most important part of this equation and that's you.
The only thing you ever have control over in this life is your experience, your beliefs and your interpretations of the world. You control how you feel and how you choose to respond.
If she makes you upset, that's YOUR FAULT. You have a choice and that choice is how you decide to interpret things.
You made a mistake. That's all it is. Don't label it anymore beyond that. Don't label ALL WOMEN because of how one person decides to react. How she behaves has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
At the end of the day, remember that you are a man. A MAN bro. That's not something to be taken lightly.
A man does not let petty shit move him internal. He is a fucking rock. When people in this world don't know what the fuck to do they turn to you. A man centered in his own beliefs and reality for guidance.
You lead this motherfucking shit. Everyone can be on their bullshit, it doesn't fucking matter because you don't give a flying fuck. YOU ARE A FUCKING MAN. Don't let this petty ass nonsense sway you in any way.
The only thing you ever have control over in this life is your experience, your beliefs and your interpretations of the world. You control how you feel and how you choose to respond.
If she makes you upset, that's YOUR FAULT. You have a choice and that choice is how you decide to interpret things.
You made a mistake. That's all it is. Don't label it anymore beyond that. Don't label ALL WOMEN because of how one person decides to react. How she behaves has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
At the end of the day, remember that you are a man. A MAN bro. That's not something to be taken lightly.
A man does not let petty shit move him internal. He is a fucking rock. When people in this world don't know what the fuck to do they turn to you. A man centered in his own beliefs and reality for guidance.
You lead this motherfucking shit. Everyone can be on their bullshit, it doesn't fucking matter because you don't give a flying fuck. YOU ARE A FUCKING MAN. Don't let this petty ass nonsense sway you in any way.
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Yes i have facepalmed many a time this summer.
Here is where i think the distinction is though; if a girl BARELY knows you (cold approach) and has not spent enough time to build "real" connection and comfort with you then yes any little thing can and will blow you out, text being the primary culprit for me. My theory is that most choad looking dudes that have 8ish gfs got them from social circle game, the girl has obviously made the decision that to secure her place in the group that he is the guy for her and she probably came to that decision over a loooooooooooooong period of his personality exposure (like 50+ hrs, maybe more), thus even in all his choadliness and terrible body language and a little girl voice he is still not being blown out because his connection is solid, that is the only thing i can conclude.
I have made it a point that when i see a choad with a hottie (7+) i go up to the choad and ask him if they are bf/gf and the MAJORITY of the time (62%, 8 of 13) they are NOT bf/gf, some will not answer me so i have to figure that some of those are platonic as well. I also ask them how they met, and exactly 0 of them have told me cold approach; ALL of them were friends of family or friends of friends, or were co-workers or classmates. I have had 13 respondents btw, not a huge scientific sampling but enough to tell me that cold approach is very shaky as far as close% but i think it is a lot more rewarding in terms of personal growth.
Here is where i think the distinction is though; if a girl BARELY knows you (cold approach) and has not spent enough time to build "real" connection and comfort with you then yes any little thing can and will blow you out, text being the primary culprit for me. My theory is that most choad looking dudes that have 8ish gfs got them from social circle game, the girl has obviously made the decision that to secure her place in the group that he is the guy for her and she probably came to that decision over a loooooooooooooong period of his personality exposure (like 50+ hrs, maybe more), thus even in all his choadliness and terrible body language and a little girl voice he is still not being blown out because his connection is solid, that is the only thing i can conclude.
I have made it a point that when i see a choad with a hottie (7+) i go up to the choad and ask him if they are bf/gf and the MAJORITY of the time (62%, 8 of 13) they are NOT bf/gf, some will not answer me so i have to figure that some of those are platonic as well. I also ask them how they met, and exactly 0 of them have told me cold approach; ALL of them were friends of family or friends of friends, or were co-workers or classmates. I have had 13 respondents btw, not a huge scientific sampling but enough to tell me that cold approach is very shaky as far as close% but i think it is a lot more rewarding in terms of personal growth.
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The Carthaginian
AUT VIAM INVENIAM AUT FACIAM
"I will either find a way, or make one."
- Carthaginian Gen. Hannibal Barca (to his officers regarding their incredulity about crossing the Alps with a 100,000+ member army including many War Elephants) outset of the 2nd Punic War 218 BC
AUT VIAM INVENIAM AUT FACIAM
"I will either find a way, or make one."
- Carthaginian Gen. Hannibal Barca (to his officers regarding their incredulity about crossing the Alps with a 100,000+ member army including many War Elephants) outset of the 2nd Punic War 218 BC
You guys are all right. I should just brush it off and go back out there for the next one. Do my own thing and if girls aren't feeling it that's their fault. As long as i'm having genuine fun and moving along my path.
Jdizzle, you're right I find this shit only happens with cold approach.
It's as if the girl is already looking for reasons to dismiss you to protect herself from being hurt or wasting time. So the first mistake you make, she nips it.
So what's the solution
It's not that i'm bothered by this one girl, but I like everyone here would one day like to hit rockstar advanced success. This situation just confused me.
It's as if the girl is already looking for reasons to dismiss you to protect herself from being hurt or wasting time. So the first mistake you make, she nips it.
So what's the solution
It's not that i'm bothered by this one girl, but I like everyone here would one day like to hit rockstar advanced success. This situation just confused me.
Bro, you don't think elite level guys fuck up? Are you kidding me? Some of the best get blown out more often than they pull because they're so damn polarizing. Derrick is great example.
The difference is they DON'T GIVE A SHIT, which is what I'm trying to get across here. You cannot possibly micromanage every single chick to perfection. The best guys don't even think twice about it and move on.
Bottom line is, BE ON YOUR PATH. Period. Her shit is irrelevant.
The difference is they DON'T GIVE A SHIT, which is what I'm trying to get across here. You cannot possibly micromanage every single chick to perfection. The best guys don't even think twice about it and move on.
Bottom line is, BE ON YOUR PATH. Period. Her shit is irrelevant.
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Jdizzle, you're right I find this shit only happens with cold approach.
It's as if the girl is already looking for reasons to dismiss you to protect herself from being hurt or wasting time. So the first mistake you make, she nips it.
So what's the solution
It's not that i'm bothered by this one girl, but I like everyone here would one day like to hit rockstar advanced success. This situation just confused me.
There is no solution for a specific girl. Like Jeffy said "stop sucking" that is the only way to fix it, and that doesnt fix any of the girls from the past. Keep meeting more girls, maybe some of the flakes will come around, maybe they wont.It's as if the girl is already looking for reasons to dismiss you to protect herself from being hurt or wasting time. So the first mistake you make, she nips it.
So what's the solution
It's not that i'm bothered by this one girl, but I like everyone here would one day like to hit rockstar advanced success. This situation just confused me.
I keep ALL of my girls on my list and i send a mass text once or twice every week and the old#s basically just never reply back.... full ignore. I have some girls on my list that i have called once and texted twice every week for the last 10-12 weeks LOL, like sometimes i wonder that after like 2 years of texting and voicemails will she just be like "DUDE STOP TEXTING ME", and i can be like "oh sweet it only took you 73 weeks to respond back, lets meet up at Starbucks" complete RAWR.
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The Carthaginian
AUT VIAM INVENIAM AUT FACIAM
"I will either find a way, or make one."
- Carthaginian Gen. Hannibal Barca (to his officers regarding their incredulity about crossing the Alps with a 100,000+ member army including many War Elephants) outset of the 2nd Punic War 218 BC
AUT VIAM INVENIAM AUT FACIAM
"I will either find a way, or make one."
- Carthaginian Gen. Hannibal Barca (to his officers regarding their incredulity about crossing the Alps with a 100,000+ member army including many War Elephants) outset of the 2nd Punic War 218 BC
so how do you go from playing a numbers game to hot consistency?
I had the exact same shit happen to me. Went on 2 dates with this girl. One night we were on the phone and I teased her a bit too much and then out of nowehere she goes "im gonna let you go". From the tone of her voice I knew she lost alot of attraction. Its amazing how quickly a girl can change at the drop of a dime. I actually recovered from this very briefly. I basically didn't contact her for a week after the phone call. Then I started texting her but her text responses were short and she never carried on the conversation. I decided to give it a last shot and continued with humor, low investment texting every couple days without smothering her. Eventually I got her laughing again and then asked her out. We hung out one more time. The following weeks I texted her, but she never initiated anything. I felt I was putting in way more effort. I decided to cut her loose cause it didn't seem like she was interested and only wanted the attention.
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3 days of solid ass texting and rapport building back and forth. (she was really into me. She texted me everyday, and if I wouldn't respond she would immediately text me right away.)
I make one mistake on a phone call and she tells me "i'm going to let you go now" in a very dismissive/freaked out/I never want to talk to you again manner.
What happened is that we were vibing on the phone, laughing and telling jokes. Then I told her a random cooky story about my day. And yes it did come off like I was elciting a respone. Then she abruptly says "ok well i'm going to let you go now, I have things to do" in a really bitchy manner and couldn't hang up any faster.
REALLY? just one fuck up blows it all.
Shit like this just makes me so indifferent about girls all together. It's like how do they expect us to respect them, love them, cherish them and not cheat on them when they make it sooooo "tough" to be with them.
arghhh.... sorry for the negativity, it's just frustrating.
has this ever happened to anyone or is this just a freak incident where the girl has fucked up issues. And ya i'm taking responsibility for my "mess up", but i still feel the girl has to be very close minded, for one thing to freak her out.
I just feel like girls are SO judgemental. Even when you approach. If you do as much as flinch into your brain for what a micro-second, they begin to judge you. They start thinking that you are insecure etc etc.
I feel bad for guys who don't know any of this stuff, if I know all of this and I still struggle...then average chodes would never have a chance.