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December 9th, 2016
Problem with setting up Day 2's, hangouts etc
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tspongt

tspongt

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Join Date: 01/08/2010 | Posts: 217

Lately ive been having a slight problem. This summer ive been living life, work a bit bouncing once or twice a week and another job sat and sun mornings, so really my nights from sunday too weds are usually free. This is when I like to plan Day 2's or hangouts with girls ive already been seeing.  I do the same Day 2 for all girls, and it works perfectly. Sometimes I guess i dont take into the fact lots of girls around my age work like crazy in the summer for school or other things, so doing the whole " hey im free tonight lets hangout" hasnt been working lately because its too much of short notice and its really hit or miss if a girl is free or not.

Im framing it as  "Im usually busy , but tonight im not so im making time for you" and even if at an earlier date the girl agrees and wants to hangout, they have other responsibilites and cant. It seems the biggest thing im doing wrong is trying to hangout with them last minute or giving them "afternoon of" notice. I should probably at the start of the week, see when each girl is free and set it up accordingly. I always thought that would be me being too available, letting them decide when we are hanging out etc, but in reality i cant always call the shots when it comes to this. Then again maybe if they were alot more attracted they would make time but who knows?

How do you guys, who are getting regular new girls deal with this? I find its more with Day 2's rather then girls ive already seen, maybe thats because im in tune with what they are doing with their life and kind of know their schedule a bit more.

I feel like I have all these options layed out, but coordinating when to hangout with them is whats killing my thoughts of "true abundance."

Isnt always terrible tho, have a day 2 tomorrow, with a stunning bartender. :D
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tspongt

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yuppaz01

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Join Date: 03/10/2010 | Posts: 51

Not that I'm the greatest at this or anything but you can tell her that you should get together and ask her what her schedule is like for the week, then when you have an open day set the time. I've noticed if you set the date then and there they are not likely to flake. You can't assume they are free on the same night, and for sure don't think you can call her and setup a time later, real good chance for flaking / no response even if the approach is good.
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C.H.A.O.S

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I don't put ANY effort into thies.  See, I have like this mental complex, where I don't really want to ever se the same girl twice.  I feel like even I get a makeout or suck some titties, but can't fuck that night, I dont' ever want to see her again.  It's almost like she IS a used condom, I just want her to go away.  Like she's conquered or something. 
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tspongt

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I can see what you mean to some degree. With my logistics issue tho------, there are many isntances when i turn down girls who are DTF and 7.5 or lower since, i know there buying temp will go down after that night, and there is no point to put in the effort through seeing them a few other times.

Lately tho ive been finding some gems, so me putting in the work is worthwhile and if i can get a girl who is solid in bed and is cool Ill definetly want to keep them around.

I definetly still feel the need to keep meeting hotties to put in the rotation, but when I find solid ones I want to keep them around for a bit.

Maybe youre not meeting really quality girls man? Cuz really whats the point, if you constantly feel the need to keep meeting a new one just to do something with, seems pretty stupid to me in the long run.
C.H.A.O.S wrote:
I don't put ANY effort into thies.  See, I have like this mental complex, where I don't really want to ever se the same girl twice.  I feel like even I get a makeout or suck some titties, but can't fuck that night, I dont' ever want to see her again.  It's almost like she IS a used condom, I just want her to go away.  Like she's conquered or something. 
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