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September 20th, 2014
Personality: Get One. Chode.
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It’s worth pointing out that any expression of personality that falls into the category of ‘social faux pas’ is an extremely arousing topic of conversation or natural expression content.
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Finally the sun is out in Sweden! So I’m sitting in McDonald's with colorful Australian board shorts and writing articles, but also thinking about summit in Vegas. The idea of summit is detracting from my living in the moment. It’s a pleasant fantasy -- so it’s ok.

Summit is something that I like, something that I personally like. That ‘like’ of summit is an expression of my personality.

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Having ‘personality’ IS your natural game content. It doesn’t actually matter what the fact or content is. It just matters that you have content. Of course, avoid being overly rude or offensive in the things you say. Remember that if what you do can’t be comprehended by your recipients, you won’t be comprehended by your recipients. Have empathy. Be responsive.

It’s worth pointing out that any expression of personality that falls into the category of ‘social faux pas’ is an extremely arousing topic of conversation or natural expression content.

Personality and having personality is an observer’s way to tell if you are an alpha male or a beta male. If you are an alpha male, you are attractive. If you are beta, you have no chance*. The distinct difference is that alpha males think for themselves and therefore have infinite potential to continually express themselves and arouse the girls or people they interact with. People react to alpha males, making them high value. People don’t react to beta males, making them lower value.

People with personality offer value. Those with no personality take value, usually in the case of liking other peoples' personalities, opinions and ideas better than their own.

This isn’t about the differences in alpha male and beta male psychology; it’s about developing a personality and finding avenues to express it.

If you’re lacking in personality, it might be from too much self help, entrenched bad habits from being a beta male all your life or because you have never been in a position of independence or authority. Several of these reasons used to be true for me and it’s true for a lot people looking to transform themself into a more attractive person.

I meet guys in the community with NO personality. Poor cardboard cut-outs of people who are like the death eaters from Harry Potter -- no opinions of their own, no personal boundaries, no stories, no open mindedness. These guys are truly a burden to spend time with – it’s like they are dead on the inside.

Then there is another category of people who use others' personalities as their own. Sometime I’ll coach a guy or talk to a guy after a workshop and everything that we talk about he will mention things like ‘that’s what Tucker Max does’, or ‘Tyler said this’ or ‘Anthony Robbins recommends this’. These are crutches for a lack of personality. Beware of falling into this pattern.

But if you don’t know how to walk, crutches are a good means by which to transition from total disability to ability. Then eventually towards Olympic athleticism.

Essential Expressions

Now, in having a personality you have to remember it’s usually a logically meaningless thing – it’s illogical. It’s like a party; there is no point. It’s simply a fun thing. Girls are arousal junkies – that’s why they like to party. Girls are arousal junkies – that why they like personality.

That said, your personality is a fluid and changing thing. You can express yourself in any way at any time. Lie or tell the truth. They are both just different forms of expression that serve to arouse and offer value, not only for your audience and interactions but also a creative expression for yourself.

Think of people – the social world – ‘as a verbal canvas upon which to express yourself’. If you’re stifled, it’s ugly and bleak. But if you’re authentic and variable in your expression, then your personality is a beautiful work of art. Something that you will be proud of and something that others will be drawn to and admire.

If you are worried about your changing forms of expression being a fluctuating and therefore weak reality don’t stress. The base of your reality comes from your nature which is composed of biological, evolutionary and physiological things that are set in stone (or deoxyribonucleic acid). Stone that gives you a rock-solid underlying strength of reality. That natural self is PRESENT, POSITIVE-DOMINANT and A MAN OF ACTION.

If you want to be assured that your expressions are congruent with who you are, ensure they are either coming from a place of presence, positivity, dominance or actions/initiative and you can be sure that you are expressing ‘from the right place’.

That also means that virtually any form of personality expression can also be attractive. For example, the most passive and positive smalltown Church folk can have attractive personalities to women. While ruthless, murdering, drug dealers can also have attractive personalities. Point is: anyone can do it.

So how can you tap into your personality? Find out about yourself. In the field, the more you talk to other people, the more you realize you are the fixed variable between everyone you meet and so the more you learn about yourself. Also, with each relationship you form the longer that relationship lasts and the more you emotionally invest into that relationship (with a guy or a girl – friends or lovers) the more you learn about yourself. So, when learning natural instincts aim to gather experiences and durations of interactions to make the fastest personal development progress.

Admittedly, while you learn you will travel along a certain maturity curve and continually come closer and closer into congruence with PRESENCE, POSITIVE-DOMINACE and BEING A MAN OF ACTION. So keep an eye out for that.

As an example, Oceans’ 11-13 are great movies to see cases of multiple dudes with different personalities, but are all still attractive. This is due to the fact that expression is the common denominator driving attraction, not other more superficial attributes.

But to save you some significant time in terms of field experience and long interactions, stop and think about yourself. Interview yourself. Have you ever had someone interview you and just because they took the time to ask the searching questions you learned some deeper answers about yourself.

Some ‘come to think of it…I am…’ moments.

FOR EACH READER HERE IS AN EXERCISE – TAKE FIVE MINUTES OR FIVE DAYS. In fact it's probably good if you do it once quickly within five minutes then carry the exercise around with you for a week thinking about it.

Free Personality Testing

Now, I could have chosen any number of questions or any other list of questions but these sort of questions explore topics that touch people on a very, personal level.

Notice as well that the questions below are more ‘future and hypothetical’ oriented. This gives you open content that can be explored and expressed, leading to deeper and longer interactions. Future and hypothetical topics are far superior compared to closed content ‘past and literal’ topics where the answers are definite and have far, less potential to arouse.

Notice as well that the content isn’t all rainbows and flowers -- the other side of your personality is your personal boundaries. Having boundaries fortifies your reality and value. A combination of ‘likes and dislikes’ gives you the essential ‘full range of emotions' you need to be arousing.

Copy the questions below, press respond to this post and answer these very personal questions to tap into your personality. If you have issues with this, you have discovered a blindspot in your ability to naturally and attractively express yourself and I would professionally recommend you spend some time soul searching and developing yourself. This was something I had to do to become a guy who could offer value.

QUESTIONS!
1. If you had an extra hour in the day what would you do with it?
2. Why that?
3. If you were on death row, what would your last meal be?
4. Why that?
5. If you could invite 4 people to dinner who would they be?
6. Why them?
7. If you could travel to any place in the world where would it be?
8. Why that place?
9. What is your dream job?
10. Why?
11. What is you most important personal boundary that MUST NOT BE CROSSED?
12. Why?
13. Who inspired/s you?
14. How did they inspire you?
15. How would you like to influence the world?
16. Why that mode, and why that level of influence?
17. If you were only allowed to own one CD which would it be?
18. Why?
19. What makes you the most emotionally upset?
20. Why?
21. If you could fight anyone who would it be?
22. Why them?
23. Which charity are you most interested in supporting?
24. Why?
25. If you could be famous or infamous for anything what reason would it be?
26. Why?
27. What are two of your idiosyncrasies?
28. What are two idiosyncrasies of other people that piss you off?
29. How to love to relax?
30. Why?
*Unless you’re rich and you’re in Amsterdam and the girl is shrouded in red light.
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~cavalheiro

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Am I  *FIRST*?

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Hey mate! Don't you forget to proceed on "Natural Game Is Wrong"  article!
cheers
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403ANDERSON

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Join Date: 12/10/2009 | Posts: 283

QUESTIONS!
1. If you had an extra hour in the day what would you do with it?
Relax and chill out

2. Why that?
I enjoy being mellow and low key and it makes me feel more balanced as well as happy inside

3. If you were on death row, what would your last meal be?
Ribs, Mashed Potato and Broccoli

4. Why that?
Healthy (mostly) to the end and becuase my mom makes it

5. If you could invite 4 people to dinner who would they be?
Richard Branson, Owen Cook, Dalai Llama, Arnold Schwarzenegger

6. Why them?
They cover the 4 key aspects of life - financial, social, mental/emotional/spiritual and physical

7. If you could travel to any place in the world where would it be?
Rough choice, if i had to decide now, Greece

8. Why that place?
Beautiful women, beautiful land and ancient history

9. What is your dream job?
Adventurer

10. Why?
I like to explore and do new things, I want to discover and do stuff

11. What is you most important personal boundary that MUST NOT BE CROSSED?
People must not betray my loyalty

12. Why?
My word or promise to someone is the greatest gift I can give either man to man, or love

13. Who inspired/s you?
RSD Instructors, Rags to riches millionaires, Atheletes, Yoga and Zen masters, Some actors

14. How did they inspire you?
They rose to the peak of their profession or life by hard work, transformation, dedication focus and continual effort without giving up

15. How would you like to influence the world?
I want to be remembered as an adventurer and to be lobed by all

16. Why that mode, and why that level of influence?
I want to share my lifestyle and serve as inspiration to other that whatever they desire is possible and can be achieved

17. If you were only allowed to own one CD which would it be?
Something Classical and beautiful

18. Why?
It takes time, love and effort to produce and to enjoy, I admire that

19. What makes you the most emotionally upset?
My inability to live up to my own standards

20. Why?
I always feel like I should be achieving more, doing more, getting farther than I am. I always want to be the best, yet that takes time patience and practice. I often go too hard on myself.

21. If you could fight anyone who would it be?
Hitler

22. Why them?
They represent so much of what is wrong with the world and such manipulation and destruction that I would cause them harm

23. Which charity are you most interested in supporting?
Some specific and green oriented

24. Why?
I like to consider the future and know exactly what my money is going towards

25. If you could be famous or infamous for anything what reason would it be?
Adventures

26. Why?
I want to express myself fully

27. What are two of your idiosyncrasies?
I don't let people get very close to me, I sometimes take shit too far and get over-excited

28. What are two idiosyncrasies of other people that piss you off?
People who try too hard for attention and who betray others behind their back

29. How to love to relax?
Chill music, a joint, a girl, massage, funny movie, comfy bed, little snack, dusk time, a drink

30. Why?
The blend is beautiful and makes all seem right in the world
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Don corleon

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Join Date: 03/28/2010 | Posts: 593

 1. If you had an extra hour in the day what would you do with it?
Jerk off
2. Why that?
I like it and I don't have time to do it. LOL
3. If you were on death row, what would your last meal be?
Pizza and maybe some Mac and cheese
4. Why that?
I love the fatty texture combined with Carbs. I usually eat really healthy and have lots of protein so it would be a refreshing change.
5. If you could invite 4 people to dinner who would they be?
My new wing man, this friend that I had from child who that I haven't seen in ages, my best friend, this crazy psycho friend that I have.
6. Why them?
I like hanging out with them. I want catch up with my childhood body who I haven't seen ever since I went to middle school. 
7. If you could travel to any place in the world where would it be?
Europe
8. Why that place?
There is so much to see plus hot girls.
9. What is your dream job?
I want to be a doctor
10. Why?
Because I want to help people and not feel bad about taking their money.
11. What is you most important personal boundary that MUST NOT BE CROSSED?

12. Why?
So
13. Who inspired/s you?
Tyler and my grandfather
14. How did they inspire you?
My grandfathers financial success is a goal for me and I really want to live like him when I get older and Tyler is just the fucking man. 
15. How would you like to influence the world?
I want to help people in need. I want to be the guy that is rich and well off but I also want to be the one that just didn't care about his cash.
16. Why that mode, and why that level of influence?
Because we are all going to die and I would rather die believing that I made some people's lives better with my time.
17. If you were only allowed to own one CD which would it be?
Don't know
18. Why?
Don't know
19. What makes you the most emotionally upset?
Ignorance
20. Why?
The human brain has so much potential. Why ruin it with shallow things like MTV and racism? Read a fucking book people.
21. If you could fight anyone who would it be?
Ronnie or whatever his fucking name was.
22. Why them?
He slept with my first girl friend. Made me hate all women at grade 12 and it took me ages to get back to where I first started. He got played too by her so I wouldn't really want to beat the shit out of him.
23. Which charity are you most interested in supporting?
Cancer
24. Why?
My mom almost got diagnosed by it. It scared the shit out of me.
25. If you could be famous or infamous for anything what reason would it be?
famous
26. Why?
Because I can save the world from itself.
27. What are two of your idiosyncrasies?
I love to postpone shit. 
I go through this cycle of TV, Facebook, Youtube that goes on for hours. I have been trying to stop it.
28. What are two idiosyncrasies of other people that piss you off?
Chewing while talking. I just want to kill them.
People that just talk the talk to look cool and never do it. 
29. How to love to relax?
Lay back, Close my eyes and meditate. 
30. Why?
It calms me down, makes everything go away and puts me in this state where I am in control of everything. 
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Noronha

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Join Date: 04/27/2010 | Posts: 168

greeeeeat
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Reprobate

Reprobate

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Join Date: 03/09/2010 | Posts: 75

 QUESTIONS!
1. If you had an extra hour in the day what would you do with it?
I’d keep a journal. This would allow me to easily reflect mood patterns, goals, work I’m doing and be able to recall events with more clarity

2. Why that?
This would allow me to easily reflect mood patterns, goals, work I’m doing and be able to recall events with more clarity

3. If you were on death row, what would your last meal be?
My last meal would be Indian Food.

4. Why that?
It’s my favourite when I go out and to punish those pulling the switch as your bowels open when you die

5. If you could invite 4 people to dinner who would they be?
John Darnielle, Tony Robbins, Ken Robinson, and Matt
6. Why them?
John Darnielle is an awesome human being and the interaction with him ken and tony would be worth recording. Tony Robbins for the positivity and passion, Ken Robinson to discuss future options in teaching and life improvement and Matt because he’s my best friend and it’d be awesome to share that experience with my boy.

7. If you could travel to any place in the world where would it be?
Ireland
8. Why that place?
I’ve always loved Irish culture. From ancient to modern. The music is what inspired me to play music at all and it has great natural beauty.
9. What is your dream job?
Life coaching
10. Why?
I lived without the answers I needed to my life. I want to be able to pass on all I’ve learned so that others can benefit from my struggles.

11. What is you most important personal boundary that MUST NOT BE CROSSED? I will not accept pity.

12. Why?
I used to all the time. It destroyed my head, my life and my ability to function normally. I am no victim. Nor will I ever be again

13. Who inspired/s you?
John Darnielle, My Father, My grandmother, My friend matt, My sister

14. How did they inspire you?
John Darnielle: His writing is real and his place of hopeful desperation is one I like. Things are shit but if that’s the bottom I’m on the way up.
My Father: For his love of his family and his perseverance to everything he commits to
My grandmother: Always listened and gave great insight into life. There was no one I’d rather sit and have a conversation with
My friend matt: For always making strides and joining me on this wonky journey to self improvement
My sister: Her intelligence and love of what she does.

15. How would you like to influence the world?
I’d like to create something with enough value that it will positively effect the lives of others.

16. Why that mode, and why that level of influence?
I don’t think you can influence without creation be it a philosophy, a song, a product and I’m satisfied if one person is positively effected.
17. If you were only allowed to own one CD which would it be?
Tallahasse- The Mountain Goats

18. Why?
The album has incredible depth, humor and no matter how often I listen to it, I enjoy it.

19. What makes you the most emotionally upset?
At the moment, my Ex

20. Why?
She’s dating a dude who isn’t good for her(I have reason to believe there’s physical abuse I don’t mean they aren’t a match and I’m just jealous heh)

21. If you could fight anyone who would it be?
Abe Lincoln: Big man Big Reach
Never gave it any thought. The dick who sucker punched me while I walked down the street would be good

22. Why them?
He sucker punched me. For NO reason. Just ran up and BAM. Plus I’ve been training hard and would destroy the dude.

23. Which charity are you most interested in supporting?
My student loan

24. Why?
Cause I’m going to be a broke ass after university

25. If you could be famous or infamous for anything what reason would it be?
Making music or as an author

26. Why?
Music has always spoken to me and taught me a lot. I think it’s a great way to give value to others while doing something awesome.
As an author, books are amazing amazing things. We take them for granted but think about how much knowledge is actually there for the taking?

27. What are two of your idiosyncrasies?
If I hear a unique way of speaking I mimic it without realizing for any number of days.
I always try to go a different route then the one laid out

28. What are two idiosyncrasies of other people that piss you off?
Internet acronyms in everyday speech
Flakiness

29. How to love to relax?
I love Muay Thai. It always relaxes me and if I’m just chilling, I like a cup of GOOD coffee and a book outside

30. Why?
Muay Thai relaxes me because I’m doing something in the moment, it’s good for me and following through on my goals
Coffee and a book is just a win combo. I’ve always loved coffee and I’ve read all my life.
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Chatterbox

Chatterbox

Junior Member

Join Date: 07/31/2010 | Posts: 3

QUESTIONS!
1. If you had an extra hour in the day what would you do with it?
Probably play guitar. Or go Surfing.

2. Why that?
Cause I can only play Aladdin and Paramore right now. And I would go surfing cause I live in Hawaii. Need I say more??

3. If you were on death row, what would your last meal be?
I would have a 3 course meal consisting of an Inn-N-Out Double Double, a couple slices of Topper's pepperoni's pizza, and some Carne Asada.

4. Why that?
Cause I usually eat healthy and I would want to eat junk food before I die.

5. If you could invite 4 people to dinner who would they be?
My best friend Elisa, Russell Brand (the British guy from Get Him To The Greek), Terrell Owens, Barrack Obama
 
6. Why them?
I've known Elisa since we were in 8th grade and I don't see her as often as I would like, Russell Brand is funny, T.O. cause he refers to himself in the third person, and Obama cause it would be pretty cool to meet one president in my lifetime.

7. If you could travel to any place in the world where would it be?
Mexico

8. Why that place?
My parents are from there and I've never been.

9. What is your dream job?
Professional runner

10. Why?
When you run you feel free of all the negativity in your life. Plus I'm good at it.

11. What is your most important personal boundary that MUST NOT BE CROSSED?
People that are afraid to tell me stuff to my face

12. Why?
One of my ex's did that to me and everybody that she knew. Now she has no friends, no source of income, nothing to her name, and no boyfriend. Sucks to be her.

13. Who inspired/s you?
Everybody I've met that is into pick-up/game.

14. How did they inspire you?
They have the same attitude as me. They don't care what people think about them. They have fun and do whatever they want. 

15. How would you like to influence the world?
I would travel the world and build houses for people who don't have one

16. Why that mode, and why that level of influence?
Who wouldn't want a free house? 

17. If you were only allowed to own one CD which would it be?
Anything by Johnny Cash

18. Why?
Cause he's the shit. Duh.

19. What makes you the most emotionally upset?
Now a days, nothing really.  When I do get upset, I'll just have a smoke and I'm good.

20. Why?
I've been to war three times in the past 7 years and am going again next year. After you've been shot at, everything else in your life takes a backseat. Life is short, so have fun.

21. If you could fight anyone who would it be?
My brother

22. Why them?
Just to see if I can still beat him up. When we were younger, we always fought and I always won even though he is 5'10 and has at least 30 pounds on me.  Haven't fought him in like 5 or 6 years.

23. Which charity are you most interested in supporting?
Anything involved with helping mentally ill people.

24. Why?
My mother is a paranoid schizophrenic

25. If you could be famous or infamous for anything what reason would it be?
Having multiple girlfriends in every major city across the globe

26. Why?
Variety

27. What are two of your idiosyncrasies?
Who cares? Not me.

28. What are two idiosyncrasies of other people that piss you off?
People that think they are high status because they have a nice car or job that pays a lot
Flakiness

29. How to love to relax?
Laying on my bed and letting a chick have her way with me.

30. Why?
Girls gotta do the work every now and then.
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Erick

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Join Date: 07/30/2010 | Posts: 2

AMEN brother.  Thank you for another nice article.
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The Soul

The Soul

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Join Date: 04/16/2008 | Posts: 30

QUESTIONS!
1. If you had an extra hour in the day what would you do with it?
Write rhymes or read a book.

2. Why that?
Because it is productive and I like to accomplish shit.

3. If you were on death row, what would your last meal be?
Club Sandwich with mild chicken wings.

4. Why that?
It tastes good!

5. If you could invite 4 people to dinner who would they be?
Mike Tyson, Noam Chomsky, Ralph Nader, Vince McMahon

6. Why them?
These are four really interesting and smart dudes and I would to figure out what makes them tick.

7. If you could travel to any place in the world where would it be?
Amsterdam

8. Why that place?
I want to sample the mushrooms.

9. What is your dream job?
MC

10. Why?
It is a fun and challenging profession. It allows me to express my creativity and shit, it is really all I ever wanted to be.

11. What is you most important personal boundary that MUST NOT BE CROSSED?
Dudes touching my dick.

12. Why?
I don't roll that way, no sir.

13. Who inspired/s you?
No one in particular. I am inspired by anyone who lives life unplugged--people who pursue their dreams as goals, devoid of any excuses.

14. How did they inspire you?
See above.

15. How would you like to influence the world?
I would like to help people learn to life unplugged

16. Why that mode, and why that level of influence?
because I don't think it is how people should live!

17. If you were only allowed to own one CD which would it be?
Cannibal Ox - The Cold Vein

18. Why?
It is the best album EVER!

19. What makes you the most emotionally upset?
To see people who are selfish to the point that will cause significant pain to others just to get small gains.

20. Why?
Because I think that life is helping others.

21. If you could fight anyone who would it be?
Goldberg

22. Why them?
Because I think I could beat his ass old ass. 

23. Which charity are you most interested in supporting?
Boys and Girls Club

24. Why?
Gotta help the impoverished kids have a chance at a decent life!

25. If you could be famous or infamous for anything what reason would it be?
Being a rapper.

26. Why?
Because it is what I want to do with my life. One of them ah, what do you call it... goals?

27. What are two of your idiosyncrasies?
I talk to myself

28. What are two idiosyncrasies of other people that piss you off?
People who cut their nails (fingers and toes), and fat people who wear skin tight clothing.

29. How to love to relax?
Surfing the internet.

30. Why?
I love swimming through the endless information on it.
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IvánPérez

IvánPérez

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Join Date: 07/05/2008 | Posts: 1714

Great mate. Most guys don't know that rapport and comfort are just a byproduct of you having personality. That's why almost everyone can relate to us on a personal level easily and instantly. I'm enjoying this articles more and more.
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King of Clubs

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Join Date: 03/04/2010 | Posts: 5

QUESTIONS!
1. If you had an extra hour in the day what would you do with it? Train more
2. Why that? because i would
3. If you were on death row, what would your last meal be? veal
4. Why that? i felt like it
5. If you could invite 4 people to dinner who would they be? the founding fathers of America, or at least the first four
6. Why them? that would be a trip
7. If you could travel to any place in the world where would it be? australia
8. Why that place? theres too many beautiful women in the rest of the world
9. What is your dream job? porn star
10. Why? duh
11. What is you most important personal boundary that MUST NOT BE CROSSED? don't disrespect me
12. Why? because i said so.
13. Who inspired/s you? the best fighters of all time
14. How did they inspire you? how do you explain that they gave me life
15. How would you like to influence the world? love ing
16. Why that mode, and why that level of influence? it makes me happy
17. If you were only allowed to own one CD which would it be? paraliminals and brainwave entrainment mp3s burned onto a cd
18. Why? the shit kicks ass
19. What makes you the most emotionally upset? If i knew i would have released on it...Not getting laid was one
20. Why? It represented approval, love and procreation for me
21. If you could fight anyone who would it be? whoever i'd get paid the most to fight.
22. Why them? i ain't afraid to fight any man if the price is right
23. Which charity are you most interested in supporting? my self
24. Why? thats all i wanna think about
25. If you could be famous or infamous for anything what reason would it be? being me
26. Why? i don't need a reason
27. What are two of your idiosyncrasies? i shoot snot rockets into the trashcan...i sing along to country songs on my pandora
28. What are two idiosyncrasies of other people that piss you off? overconfidence, not knowing one's place
29. How to love to relax? herb
30. Why? works every time ;-)
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