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stateisking

stateisking

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Join Date: 12/11/2007 | Posts: 151



Alright, I'm actually lying a little bit on the title.

The last time I did a challenge like this one, it was only for 21 days (and I had just turned 21, and approach anxiety was still a huge deal for me). 

Why am I doing this?

Because I feel like I absolutely have to. I would consider myself intermediate, but lately I've let my schedule and involvements take over and have stopped going out (plus, until recently, I had a cherish). I've gone back to chode, but I still have a crazy congruence since I've been working on myself and my thought patterns, and have talked to girls on and off through social circle or life situations. 

To be perfectly blunt, I don't know how else you get good at this stuff. My 21-day challenge two years ago pretty much transformed my idea of bars, and it really just helped me get more comfortable in the environment. Needless to say, I've come a long way since (to the point where sometimes I'll even start yawning while at a night club). 

I wonder what kind of crazy mindset I will have in a little over a month. 


What am I doing anyway?

For thirty nights, I will go out and open no less than 10 sets. Even if some sets go well, I must have ten new (individual, cold-approach) reference experiences by the end of every night. I will probably bring my iPod Touch with me and write down individual notes from each girl so that the reference experiences are real, and so that I don't lose track of the goal. My goal is not necessarily to get laid (though I would love to); my goal is to do a little bit of high-altitude training before I go back home to Texas, and the only consistent way I can think of doing this is to meticulously document a set amount of night approaches. 

How I'm doing this (i.e. what are my rules?)

I'm going to keep written lists and an outline of this challenge on my wall for everyone to see. Also, I will write daily, brief and to-the-point posts as a reply to this thread (a total of thirty). Occasionally, I might put two field reports together if for some reason I can't write a field report one day (a limit of three nights maximum).

That's it. It's as simple as it gets.

The time I actually spend out doesn't matter too much, as long as I push  my sets hard every time and I do at least 10 sets per night, for a total of 300 new reference experiences throughout the challenge. 

The main reason I'm keeping a thread is public accountability, but feel free to comment and offer your own experiences if you think they'll help. Also, feel free to ask me anything (I have a crazy memory for the way the night went down, so if you need me to elaborate I'll probably be able to do it). 

See you Friday (since Thursday is the first night)!

Peace.
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Summit God~

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Very good man. Hope to hear your adventures. Cheers :)
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stateisking

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Join Date: 12/11/2007 | Posts: 151

 Alright, just sitting here in my room with my feet propped up on my bed. I'm waiting for tonight, as tonight is the first night.

I'm anxious not because of what I have to do, but because it's been a while since I've taken this kind of massive action towards this area. Last time I did this I was 21, and I really had no quota to meet for the night, and some nights, I just sang karaoke.

[Aside: I HIGHLY recommend karaoke for getting UNSTIFFLED, since it makes you sing from the right place. If you just notice yourself talk before and after you go up for the first or second song, you'll notice how much more powerful your tonality is.]

Anyway, I should be doing laundry and picking up my room up a little bit. Tonight's the start of something pretty crazy. Again.

Question of the year: what will my skills with women look like on Friday, August 6th 2010?
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Alright so I ended up skipping the first night. My roommate/wing/friend and I (aww my English teacher would be so proud!)  decided to push the end date one day back, and ALSO added an extra day so it's now actually a 31-day challenge. 

So, last night was more of a "BEFORE" picture on like a BEFORE/AFTER type advertisement than it was a night out. So, here are the observations.

Where I'm doing AWESOME

(1.) I will say whatever I want, whenever I want and I won't feel like an idiot doing it anymore (to the point where I just yell at the club, and people around me turn around to look at me)

(2.) I've been blown out so many times at this point that it doesn't even really face me. I don't particularly like getting blown out, but that's why this thing is happening

(3.) I will make fun of rude girls to my friends right in front of the girls. And not care. 

(4.) My state doesn't drop from bad approaches (but it still goes up from good approaches)

(5.) I can have A LOT OF FUN with other people, especially guys. This is a direct result of my latest challenge (the "Social Skills" challenge), since socializing is pretty much the same thing as game (insofar as the non-neediness aspect, since you shouldn't really "WANT" anything (like social status) from a social interaction)

Where I'm doing SHITTY

(1.) I'm thinking way too much (probably from drinking water out of some metaphorical firehose)

(2.) I have the absolute best confidence to approach (indifferent), but I'm still outcome dependent (not indifferent).

[Aside: This one is worth talking about, since it's a bit of a paradox. I proved to myself long ago that approaching is not a big deal, so I'm not nervous on the approach. However, once I'm in there fearlessly, I'm not vibing and it's clear that I'm seeking a reaction, which is not outcome independence. I guess I don't really know how "messy" pulling really is, so I eject at the first sign of trouble, despite this being a sticking point of mine since last year. ]

(3.) I'm offending 7s way too much. Solution: quit talking to 7s, and approach hot girls (even if there are none)

(4.) I have no idea what it means (in context) to "PUSH EVERY INTERACTION HARD"

(5.) I'm talking to people about utter and complete nonsense that I'm not even really that amused by, I absolutely refuse to ask girls any questions lest I break some rule. As I once read from Alex~

"Asking questions will gel with a girl’s reality, anything too fancy or technical game talk is over the top and weird."

Which leads me to the last item worth talking about…

Where I will be in 30 Days

After going out to a club for the first time in a while (my comfort zone is bars), I was surprised to notice how it didn't really obscure me anymore. Either this club wasn't that loud (probably), or I've just become more centered in the last year. I feel like I'm at a bookstore, even though clubs aren't my natural environment.

Given the above points, here's where I will be in 30 days

(1.) I will know EXACTLY what amuses me, and getting into state will be a natural and automatic process resulting from just being out in a social situation. If I'm not even amused by my shit, it will never "gel" with other people's realities and I will be a complete weirdo (which I'm cool with, but I don't think it's that necessary)

(2.) I will find out in context what it means to push the interaction (I have a general sense of what that means, like escalating and whatnot, but is that it?)

(3.) I will completely eradicate all thought patterns that relate to wanting to have a perfectly smooth interaction ("pulling…it's messy!" - Ozzie)

(**Bonus**) I will develop an incredible rhythm from going out, where day game becomes my warmup for night game and night game becomes my warmup for day game. I want to see the matrix for what it is, and I want to be able to identify the glitches, smirk, and use the three points above to get me closer to where I'm going: coming around full circle as a natural (after having dropped all routines).

Rule Change (Last One)

I wasn't really thinking too much when I said I would write a daily field report. These things take forever to write (because quality control is very important to me), and I figured a better strategy (to keep me outside my head) would be to write stuff down on paper when I get home, and every 3 days write a field report. Only then will the in-depth analysis happens, and that's essentially what I'll be writing down here (with supporting evidence from field experience).

Peace. Love. Chodes.

FIRST NIGHT COMPLETE!
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By the way, approaching ten girls is an absolute given, so I won't ever mention that on here. I will approach ten girls no matter what. If it's going well and I'm not yet at my mark, I will take the number and finish my approaches. This is about reference experience, not about results (my outer game needs to catch up to my inner game, and this has nothing to do with results). 

That is all. Tonight is night 2!
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stateisking

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 OK I hate having to amend rules like this, but 10 sets a night is SCREWING ME UP HARD and I'm actually experiencing negative progress. 

I'm running around venues like a chicken with my head cut off, and I never feel the need to plow because "I still got like 9 more to go" or whatever. 

So I'm dropping it down to five a night, because to be perfectly honest, I've already done a newbie challenge and there's diminishing results from over-approaching once you realize you're not going to die from a blowout. 

Now to be fair, I'll probably end up doing more like 7 or 8 (naturally). It's just more about quality now, since the thrill of approaching girls is gone and now it's time to get laid. And Push those interactions, whatever the FUCK that means. 

Field report coming up during the next couple of days. 
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Paris Boum Boum

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Hey man,

maybe you'll get through the same process that other guys here who did 30 DCs. 
It can be cool in your spare time to read their journals, so as to find quick solutions to the problems you'll face. 

One thing I thought was pretty cool was to spend the first hour just socializing, talking to every kind of people, and not thinking about approaches. 
Another thing was not thinking about approaching at all, and having fun with my friends. Anxiety vanishes, and I still had interactions with girl=s due to the momentum I got from 60+ nights out in a row. 
Also: the process of going out in itself will solve many problems. 

The best thing with going out many nights in a row was realizing what was wrong in what I used to do, by makin gthe mistakes over and over in a short period of time. 
So you'll probably make mistakes too, but don't worry: this is precisely the point of a 30DC, you make them fast now, so that you don't do them in the future. 

IME it's good to keep a daily journal. Keep the entries short if you don't have much time. Even 5 lines are better than nothing. You'll get momentum after a dozen nights and it will help to not give up or to stay motivated. 

EVery night you went out, you appraoched a bit and challenged yourself is a good night. Don't focus so much on the # of appraoches, 5 appraoches with girls you're afraid of talking to are better than 55 with girls you don't give a fuck about. 

I've synthezised many things I understood here (it's short and practical): http://www.rsdnation.com/node/158652

Have fun !
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stateisking

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Paris Boum Boum wrote:
Hey man,

maybe you'll get through the same process that other guys here who did 30 DCs. 
It can be cool in your spare time to read their journals, so as to find quick solutions to the problems you'll face. 

One thing I thought was pretty cool was to spend the first hour just socializing, talking to every kind of people, and not thinking about approaches. 
Another thing was not thinking about approaching at all, and having fun with my friends. Anxiety vanishes, and I still had interactions with girl=s due to the momentum I got from 60+ nights out in a row. 
Also: the process of going out in itself will solve many problems. 

The best thing with going out many nights in a row was realizing what was wrong in what I used to do, by makin gthe mistakes over and over in a short period of time. 
So you'll probably make mistakes too, but don't worry: this is precisely the point of a 30DC, you make them fast now, so that you don't do them in the future. 

IME it's good to keep a daily journal. Keep the entries short if you don't have much time. Even 5 lines are better than nothing. You'll get momentum after a dozen nights and it will help to not give up or to stay motivated. 

EVery night you went out, you appraoched a bit and challenged yourself is a good night. Don't focus so much on the # of appraoches, 5 appraoches with girls you're afraid of talking to are better than 55 with girls you don't give a fuck about. 

I've synthezised many things I understood here (it's short and practical): http://www.rsdnation.com/node/158652

Have fun !

Thanks man. I appreciate good advice, and I think you're dead on with the whole "making tons of mistakes really quickly." 

I keep a daily set of notes, but typing them up takes time so I condense them every three days. I'll be doing some of that today. 

Just from going out four days in a row after a long period of "deep inner game" has changed the way I look at things. For example, the challenge is not approaching as of last night, or even hitting state for that matter. I've hit state the last three nights in a row. 

The challenge is closing, or at least trying. Girls have started to walk away from me not taking shit where it's supposed to go 
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 Sweet. 

So, school work is a priority so writing an elaborate field report during the week will just never happen. I'll save those two-hour field reports of glory for the weekend. Yes, they really do take that long to write. I have to bust out notes I've been taking, journals, etc and then distill them for the internet. 

Anyway, i have like 5 minutes to write this so let's do it.

State: So Fucking Elusive (until now)

Hitting state is tough for a lot of reasons, especially being a math major. I'm in my room or the library all day and I'm banging my head against some abstract, hardcore shit. This puts me in my head, and having a conversation is impossible unless it follows a certain order and it "has a point." 

But most of my conversations with people have no "point." The people I'm talking to (sometimes guys, sometimes girls, sometimes both) don't keep try to argue with me. If we were talking about something and a new topic entered the conversation, the new topic usually stays. There's no agenda, because we're all out to have fun. All of us, whether we're having fun or not. 

The conversations have no point because I'm in state. It's fun no matter what. It's a supportive environment, where my wings don't ever criticize or micro-manage ANYTHING (not even how many approaches I've done, or what I'm doing RIGHT even). Sure, we're out there talking to girls to build a skill set. But the whole "approaching" thing happens eventually, without us having to push it super hard, or even approach the second we enter the club. 

How I Hit State (and stay there)

I like the Jeffy "state = warm searing coal" analogy. State really does feel like you're hot, but you have it under control. You're sitting back and enjoying it instead of trying to fuel it constantly. Whenever I say something really weird (miscalibrated or just plain weird), or whenever I mumble, the girls don't pull away. They stay. And they try to figure out what I just said. 

Today I was talking to this girl at the bar's patio (after opening her whole group)

Me: Ay, so. Aw fuck, don't tell me the bar's closed out here 

HB8: Yeah, it rained so they closed the bar. 

Me: Damnit, I came out here cus the bar wouldn't be as full.

HB8: You can probably go back there and make it yourself

Me: Wow you're going to go back there and make me a drink. Do you know how? (misinterpretation)

HB8: Haha, no. What? 

Me: I took a bartending class once, I'm not very good though. 

HB8: Aww, sure you are...

And this continues. Until it's time to close. I blow myself out but I don't walk away. She keeps talking to me. It's my second chance to close. 

And I don't. Oh Mastery, you evil bitch!

I'm going to talk about this on Saturday on my blog, but I've basically hit a point where closing (aka pushing the interaction) has become what approaching used to be.  It's something I would only do if it was really convenient, or really drunk. Neither of which is going to happen, so I need to take some time and break down where I need to fine tune my focus. 

Peace. This took like 10 minutes longer than I expected. 
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 Sweet. 

So, school work is a priority so writing an elaborate field report during the week will just never happen. I'll save those two-hour field reports of glory for the weekend. Yes, they really do take that long to write. I have to bust out notes I've been taking, journals, etc and then distill them for the internet. 

Anyway, i have like 5 minutes to write this so let's do it.

State: So Fucking Elusive (until now)

Hitting state is tough for a lot of reasons, especially being a math major. I'm in my room or the library all day and I'm banging my head against some abstract, hardcore shit. This puts me in my head, and having a conversation is impossible unless it follows a certain order and it "has a point." 

But most of my conversations with people have no "point." The people I'm talking to (sometimes guys, sometimes girls, sometimes both) don't keep try to argue with me. If we were talking about something and a new topic entered the conversation, the new topic usually stays. There's no agenda, because we're all out to have fun. All of us, whether we're having fun or not. 

The conversations have no point because I'm in state. It's fun no matter what. It's a supportive environment, where my wings don't ever criticize or micro-manage ANYTHING (not even how many approaches I've done, or what I'm doing RIGHT even). Sure, we're out there talking to girls to build a skill set. But the whole "approaching" thing happens eventually, without us having to push it super hard, or even approach the second we enter the club. 

How I Hit State (and stay there)

I like the Jeffy "state = warm searing coal" analogy. State really does feel like you're hot, but you have it under control. You're sitting back and enjoying it instead of trying to fuel it constantly. Whenever I say something really weird (miscalibrated or just plain weird), or whenever I mumble, the girls don't pull away. They stay. And they try to figure out what I just said. 

Today I was talking to this girl at the bar's patio (after opening her whole group)

Me: Ay, so. Aw fuck, don't tell me the bar's closed out here 

HB8: Yeah, it rained so they closed the bar. 

Me: Damnit, I came out here cus the bar wouldn't be as full.

HB8: You can probably go back there and make it yourself

Me: Wow you're going to go back there and make me a drink. Do you know how? (misinterpretation)

HB8: Haha, no. What? 

Me: I took a bartending class once, I'm not very good though. 

HB8: Aww, sure you are...

And this continues. Until it's time to close. I blow myself out but I don't walk away. She keeps talking to me. It's my second chance to close. 

And I don't. Oh Mastery, you evil bitch!

I'm going to talk about this on Saturday on my blog, but I've basically hit a point where closing (aka pushing the interaction) has become what approaching used to be.  It's something I would only do if it was really convenient, or really drunk. Neither of which is going to happen, so I need to take some time and break down where I need to fine tune my focus. 

Peace. This took like 10 minutes longer than I expected. 
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So, welcome to the long one.

I've been using this technique by Steve Pavlina called Timeboxing, which means you give yourself a set amount of time to complete a task. I have less than an hour to write this.

Anyway, let's get started.

Sunday is for Church (and 'advanced pickup-artistry')

These are the days when I worked on my more 'real' conversational skills. These days tended to be low-key, so it was easy to chat people up for no reason. Sunday we spoke with some chinese men who gave us all their chinese cigarettes after asking to bum some enough times.

There really was no girls at the venue, but thefunnymotherfucker was able to open a set. I came in soon after and crashed because I was heavily miscalibrated. I excused myself and went out to the door to talk to the bouncer. He's pretty cool, and lately he recognizes me. When I come back in, the girls respond a little better as I reintroduce myself.

Me: Ay, what's up. So, let's start over. My name's stateisking.

Girls: [introduce themselves with a big smile]

[Lesson: don't worry if the set doesn't go awesome at first. I'm not sure about re-opening my own sets, but as long as your wing or friend is talking to them, they'll accept you the second time. This has happened before, though I didn't necessarily crash as bad.]

Got a Super-Whack Case of the Mondays

We went to a place close by. Two totally unfuckable chicks are outside smoking a cigarette. I'm not smoking, but my roommate is.

Me: Ay, is it cool in there or is it fucking whack?

Girls: Blah blah blah

Me: [misinterpret response, gets into a little bit of state]

Once inside, we head to the back and grab our first and only beer. I chat up the bartender (HB8) who's very receptive. I open a guy-girl mixed set next to me and do a toast to drinking on a monday, or whatever.

HB Bartender: Are you going to want another drink?

Me: What? No man, 10 bucks is all I got. You took it all, all I have is fifty cents.

HB Bartender: Hahaha

Tension's off, I ask her what song is playing on the radio. She doesn't know, but asks somebody. The person's wrong, which sucks cus it wasn't an opener it was a genuine question. I ACTUALLY wanted to know the song, but luckily me faithful wing tagged it on his phone.

[self-amusement MY WAY ahead!]

Thefunnymotherfucker: What's the difference between jail and prison?

Me: Well if you can think of jail as community college, then prison would be real college

Thefunnymotherfucker: Haha, wow. I get it.

Random Guy: Wow, that's a really great analogy.

Me: Cheers dude!

We talk to the dude for a while, and he shows us his electric cigarettes and his nicotine serum. The dude loves to smoke cigarettes, it's borderline a fetish. We go outside to talk, and HB Bartender comes out. She sits at the stairs that lead down to the door (bar's in a basement) with her phone out while smoking a cigarette.

Me: Hellooo bartender [not loud enough, she doesn't say anything]

HB Bartender leaves. My wing yells at me because he said she'd been giving me IOIs the whole night and I'd been ignoring them. It's funny what another person's perspective will do, because after that night a lot changed (this is something for a blog post earlier next week).

Anyway, we head out to the next place. We get in, and we immediately open some (albeit sexy-looking) 7s, who totally want us but we totally didn't get into this to hook up with average-looking girls (nope). We grab a chair as the Random Guy from the last bar buys us drinks. I grab us a table, and without really giving it too much thought, I find myself talking to a guy in a 3-person mixed set (with an HB 9).

The HB9 is giving me IOIs, but the dude is actually pretty funny so I keep talking to him. I leave while half-heartedly addressing the girl. Now, I'm not gay, but this little fuck up taught me a lesson: mixed sets are absolutely not as hard as I thought they were. Not when you have social skills, which I spent a long time building during the regular semesters.

This blew my mind, because I didn't THINK to go approach, it just happened. And it just so happened that it was a mixed set. Next, we go outside to light up some cigarettes.

[Aside: I don't smoke cigarettes, but holy shit is this a great place to meet girls. I don't intend to pick up this habit, as it is deadly. But socializing is like almost a MUST when you're outside with other people smoking cigawetts.]

I'm in like crazy, insane state at this point (just from amusing myself and acting on the 'surge of good emotions' and approaching). It took a bit over an hour. Hitting state has not been an issue at all whenever I just look at everything as an opportunity to laugh. I've been laughing so much that my more 'NATURAL' laugh has started to come out, which actually makes people turn towards me and whoever I'm talking to (it probably sounds like a lot of fun).

My wing opens some HB8 by telling her to turn around. The girl gets the wrong idea and says no, but he points at his shoulder and the girl smiles, turns arounds, and shows him her tattoo. My wing, Random Guy, and the girl start talking tattoos. The RG says something about how his grandma has the same tattoo, and all of a sudden I start talking. And the girl starts laughing.

HB Cigawetts: HAHA. I like you. You're funny

[yes, tooting my own horn fuck off]

Me: (confused) I like you too.

Hmm. The girl gives me a weirdo, semi-seductive look as her (presumed) boyfriend steals her and takes her back inside.

At some point, some dude walks up to me. He's got a couple of burners with him. I tell him the strippers already left…

Presumed PUA: Dude, I brought the TENS man. Actually It's more like I bring the THIRTYs (get it, one two three girls).

Me: Your math's a little off brosef..

His math really was off, but he looked and sounded like he had it together so whatever. If you were at The Ave in Allston MA and you're in the community (and you're reading this), no offense to the third girl. She was a 7, but you still had a solid 27 score. Congrats.

Anywho, the night ended late and school ensued early the next day. Fuck.

Tuesday Becomes the Norm

Choded around at a bar eating wings, and chatting up the hot bartender. She responds different, but probably doesn't categorize me as 'cool' yet.

I opened a set at the same time as my wing (he pushed me to ). Talk about a crash landing for me. He's asking one of the girls if she's Chinese, while I'm asking her homely friend whether I look drunk or not. She gives me "the look" and I quickly follow it with more utter stupidity regarding the bar's straw-operated BAC measuring machine installed by the bar.

The set crashes completely and we're off to bigger and better things. Our third wing (newbie Dan) gets a small lesson in crashing sets into the ground from your truly. I tell him it's not really a big deal at all, and I tell him that the most important thing is to just start talking about anything and get it out there. He agrees.

The next bar is a little slow (read the last FR for an interaction). I mostly discover that girls definitely notice me more since I've improved my posture and walk, which amazes me. What amazes me even more is the fact that I'm wearing my absolute worst clothes, I haven't shaved, and I don't look "my best." And it doesn't matter. Hmmm…

My wing pushes me to open a street set with him. He asks the chick where she got the shirt and she responds positively to our *nimbus.* I have tenth-dan *nimbus* at this point, so I follow up

Me: Aw, wait. What happened in there, you're walking with your head down like you're a puppy.

HB9: *HUGE SMILE* No I'm OK

[We realize it's a mixed set as the chide in the group pushes her forward to keep walking. The dudes in mixed sets seem to be more afraid of us than we are of them. Surprise surprise.]

HB9 (to my wing): You can have my shirt!

We walk off, as that's all there is to do.

Wednesday Was Off

My wing was starting to get sick, and I wasn't feeling to well either. The crazy sleep-wake cycle combined with summer classes had started to get to us, so we figured we'd take a day off rather than risk our grades and our health.

We didn't really make to much of a big deal about this. We had been pretty consistent so far, and we simply went out the next day. Which brings me to….

Thirsty Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Tonight (low-key weekend)

My friend came in town. I opened sets here and there, mostly talking to my friend and catching up. I've started to run into people from my social circle. They give me mixed responses (why you drinking water brah?), but I mostly don't really care. As cool as it is to have a lot of friends at a particular place, it's more fun being in state and being friends with everybody.

The weekend was rather 'uneventful,' though I did number close two chicks (HB7 and HB8). I've started closing again just for the sake of practice. I don't really care if the numbers are flakes. We're supposed to meet the HB8 for sake bombs tomorrow (I'll post about that in a couple of days). I'd talk about it more, but she actually opened us (well, her friend did). She's from out of town, so it's very possible to make it happen tomorrow. Meanwhile, here's the text message convo with the HB7 for your amusement.

[right after I get her number]

Me: sup V

HB7: so much to the peril of my poor feet we're at X bar

Me: aww...we're heading over there soon. be there!

[I pass out from all the heavy drinking at like 1 am. check my phone the next day. These are from the night before]

HB7: so 2 very obnoxious guys are talking to us right now...omg

HB7: sorry, i'm not receiving texts. if ur here i'm here with one of my friends by the door. 

So, not too hard. Not number closing seems even more awkward. 

Things to work on this week: 

1. Figuring out logistics early on (bad = take the number, good = take the number and push for the meetup later; maybe the pull if it's late????)

2. Opening any and all girls who make eye contact with me who are HB8s or above. If they're with friends or other people, I will still open. Why not?

3. Practice learning and using people's name in conversation. Getting that girl's number today (the HB8) was the only way I got her name after I'd already forgotten it. I gave her the entire phone, which works fine, but what's worked better is giving them my phone with their name already in there (shows that I know it). I don't know if you guys have something to add to this, but names are really important and still a huge sticking point. 

Peace. Difficult math hw calls :-)
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