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How do you stay centred in 'hostile' environments?
With draw broski. Nothing good comes from those environments. I know of clubs where thugs & wanna be thugs attend. I don't like hood rat women nor hostile men trying to prove their superiority. Its just a bad move.
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Alex: "The famous ambiguity!" + "This is what happens when your naturally attractive; cheekyinnit#!
Ambiguity: I don't chase, I replace.
So you just avoid those places? This can work but it does leave you with less options. I'd rather be able to own up anywhere if I need to.
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I mean ambiguity has more experience then me. But personally I would try to go to the hostile environments so you are forced to step up.
I mean to me. Malls are hostile for gaming, so I go there for gaming. It is a challenge and therefore an opportunity to grow. Also I can't go to clubs yet.
Also, big thing you need to get used to not drawing state from the environment. I have not mastered this in any aspect, but it is what I am aiming for.
Or take baby steps. Start in friendly environment, then escalate to more hostile. That is what I would do in the ideal situation.
I mean to me. Malls are hostile for gaming, so I go there for gaming. It is a challenge and therefore an opportunity to grow. Also I can't go to clubs yet.
Also, big thing you need to get used to not drawing state from the environment. I have not mastered this in any aspect, but it is what I am aiming for.
Or take baby steps. Start in friendly environment, then escalate to more hostile. That is what I would do in the ideal situation.
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Am I on crack or is the OP"s hostile environment simply a crowded place that is "hot"??????
As far as being in a legitimately hostile environment.
Just be cool.
98% of the time, if you're bringing value. (ie a great vibe) & you seem confident.
People will not fuck with you and you will be able manuever freely without any hindrance or obstacles.
As far as being in a legitimately hostile environment.
Just be cool.
98% of the time, if you're bringing value. (ie a great vibe) & you seem confident.
People will not fuck with you and you will be able manuever freely without any hindrance or obstacles.
So you just avoid those places? This can work but it does leave you with less options. I'd rather be able to own up anywhere if I need to.
There are clubs that are the equvalent of "dive bars." they attract low lives and other lower forms of life. I am suggesting you put yourself in a "Posh" atmosphere or anything better then the woods. I assure you, the pay off is much better as well as the caliber of girls. __________________
Jlaix: You are rather cheeky I admit but the self amusing authentic avi makes it impossible to hate!
Tyler:This is ultimately one of the keys to the game -- viewing EVERYTHING AS A JOKE. It's ALL funny.
Tim:`How can I make this fun?
brad:This thread got Ambiguity banned, you can thank me later.
Zack G: Ambiguity is becoming the Howard Roark of RSD!
Alex: "The famous ambiguity!" + "This is what happens when your naturally attractive; cheekyinnit#!
Ambiguity: I don't chase, I replace.
Tyler:This is ultimately one of the keys to the game -- viewing EVERYTHING AS A JOKE. It's ALL funny.
Tim:`How can I make this fun?
brad:This thread got Ambiguity banned, you can thank me later.
Zack G: Ambiguity is becoming the Howard Roark of RSD!
Alex: "The famous ambiguity!" + "This is what happens when your naturally attractive; cheekyinnit#!
Ambiguity: I don't chase, I replace.
So you just avoid those places? This can work but it does leave you with less options. I'd rather be able to own up anywhere if I need to.
There are clubs that are the equvalent of "dive bars." they attract low lives and other lower forms of life. I am suggesting you put yourself in a "Posh" atmosphere or anything better then the woods. I assure you, the pay off is much better as well as the caliber of girls.Not much to be gained from a dive bar full of drinking seamen, and ugly std ridden women. Major stereotyping, but I don't really know anything else. Later.
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So you just avoid those places? This can work but it does leave you with less options. I'd rather be able to own up anywhere if I need to.
There are clubs that are the equvalent of "dive bars." they attract low lives and other lower forms of life. I am suggesting you put yourself in a "Posh" atmosphere or anything better then the woods. I assure you, the pay off is much better as well as the caliber of girls.Not much to be gained from a dive bar full of drinking seamen, and ugly std ridden women. Major stereotyping, but I don't really know anything else. Later.
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Jlaix: You are rather cheeky I admit but the self amusing authentic avi makes it impossible to hate!
Tyler:This is ultimately one of the keys to the game -- viewing EVERYTHING AS A JOKE. It's ALL funny.
Tim:`How can I make this fun?
brad:This thread got Ambiguity banned, you can thank me later.
Zack G: Ambiguity is becoming the Howard Roark of RSD!
Alex: "The famous ambiguity!" + "This is what happens when your naturally attractive; cheekyinnit#!
Ambiguity: I don't chase, I replace.
Tyler:This is ultimately one of the keys to the game -- viewing EVERYTHING AS A JOKE. It's ALL funny.
Tim:`How can I make this fun?
brad:This thread got Ambiguity banned, you can thank me later.
Zack G: Ambiguity is becoming the Howard Roark of RSD!
Alex: "The famous ambiguity!" + "This is what happens when your naturally attractive; cheekyinnit#!
Ambiguity: I don't chase, I replace.
All I meant by hostile is that it affected the way I was feeling in a way I didn't like.
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I'd get ice cream and then go indoors somewhere. Don't judge yourself for being a mammal.
She probably felt the same way as you, and would appreciate you taking the initiative to go somewhere a bit more conductive to building intimacy than a scenario with awful weather and lots of agitated tourists.
I'd get ice cream and then go indoors somewhere. Don't judge yourself for being a mammal.
She probably felt the same way as you, and would appreciate you taking the initiative to go somewhere a bit more conductive to building intimacy than a scenario with awful weather and lots of agitated tourists.
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Why didn't you leave? If you value the day2 more than your own comfort that's subtly supplicating to her.
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http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865
Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471
Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223
Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/138865
Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=12471
Excellent post about practice and consistency by Ozzie. Really hits home.
http://www.rsdnation.com/showthread.php?t=13223
Field report thread.
http://rsdnation.com/node/127554
onmyway
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Like today I was in the city centre and it was fucking hot, I was with this girl and just felt really shit cause of the people and the heat. It kinda spoilt my day. In a lot of situations I can be very confident but many still defeat me.. I just read that dominance is less about dominating other people and more about dominating your environment and being non-reactive to all the bullshit people usually react to, and I can really relate to that. I want to know how you guys deal with this and stay 'cool' and don't let shit affect you. Trying to ignore it and act like it's not happening doesn't work for me... It feels like I'm pretending and I can feel my state being drained.