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16 year olds should not be allowed on this forum.
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Hai!!!
Yeah, Kuz has this thing for 16 yo boys. Probably don't reply to his request for a meetup. Especially if he invites to checkout his "Pimp van".
Your not doing anything wrong man.
You'll probably realise that at college its pretty chilled out and theres heaps of chickos.
Just socialise, make friends, go to partys, get drunk, and meet girls.
It sucks a bit that you have been home schooled, but you'll make friends real quick.
PS Its ok to care what other people think.
Your not doing anything wrong man.
You'll probably realise that at college its pretty chilled out and theres heaps of chickos.
Just socialise, make friends, go to partys, get drunk, and meet girls.
It sucks a bit that you have been home schooled, but you'll make friends real quick.
PS Its ok to care what other people think.
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Yeah, and he's wanted in several states for sexual molestation charges etc... lol vey funny. As is your advice. You should have a column in an angsty teen magazine of some kind.
"Dear Aaaron,
My parents just don't understand me anymore. And nor my friends. I just don't know where i fit in!
Please help!"
"Dear Aaaron,
My parents just don't understand me anymore. And nor my friends. I just don't know where i fit in!
Please help!"
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Hai!!!
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Lol... least I had a crack Kuz
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Oldfucks hahaha.We should form a 16 club lol.
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I'm 16 too. I think I agree. We shouldn't be here. After all this time of being here I came to one startling conclusion, "This is a forum for people who, at some point in their lives, were messed up and lost themselves to social conditioning. I am only 16, I have a loving family with a confident father, many of the things he says are similar to concepts I have seen on RSD. I never should have came here in the first place!"
Because when I read all of these posts by people about healing their wounds and such, it eventually implants the idea in my mind that I have problems too, when I don't.
As Hitler once said, if you repeat a lie often enough, people eventually believe it. So too if I read these posts people make about their experiences and their messed up situatinos, I get a skewed angle on life. I literally find myself feeling at times inadequate because I am not out in a club partying hard or getting drunk or having sex with 3 women and having many numbers on my cell phone, like Manwhore.
No.
This is bullshit. Deep down I know it is. And I think you guys know it too. We shouldn't be here because our lives haven't yet started. We are still living under mommy and Daddies roofs, and even though I love my parents immensly and I feel I got pretty damn lucky with my Father (he told me of his experiences when he was my age. The man was and still is a natural leader of others.), I can't "internalize" the concept of being "independant" and taking life into my own hands when I am not yet living on my own.
I guess the initiation into manhood in today's society is how well you can succeed at life on your own. Standing up on your own two feet, taking responsibilities, taking risks and initiative in life. These are exactly the kinds of things that will push one's comfort zone and develop one's trust in themselves.
Because when I read all of these posts by people about healing their wounds and such, it eventually implants the idea in my mind that I have problems too, when I don't.
As Hitler once said, if you repeat a lie often enough, people eventually believe it. So too if I read these posts people make about their experiences and their messed up situatinos, I get a skewed angle on life. I literally find myself feeling at times inadequate because I am not out in a club partying hard or getting drunk or having sex with 3 women and having many numbers on my cell phone, like Manwhore.
No.
This is bullshit. Deep down I know it is. And I think you guys know it too. We shouldn't be here because our lives haven't yet started. We are still living under mommy and Daddies roofs, and even though I love my parents immensly and I feel I got pretty damn lucky with my Father (he told me of his experiences when he was my age. The man was and still is a natural leader of others.), I can't "internalize" the concept of being "independant" and taking life into my own hands when I am not yet living on my own.
I guess the initiation into manhood in today's society is how well you can succeed at life on your own. Standing up on your own two feet, taking responsibilities, taking risks and initiative in life. These are exactly the kinds of things that will push one's comfort zone and develop one's trust in themselves.
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there's koolaid in the fridge and mummy's makin cookies guys.
srsly wtf... just chill out dude.
srsly wtf... just chill out dude.
onmyway
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Join Date: 02/04/2010 | Posts: 86
Original post: http://ipower.ning.com/profiles/blogs/16m-seeking-validation
So I just spent 3 days at college after being home educated for 16 years. It's basically 3 days where you can go and see what the college is like before term actually starts in September. I was extremely sociable and confident pretty much the whole time. It felt fucking awesome. I'd never really approached random people and just introduced myself before, but in those 3 days it felt really easy. Like the new environment gave me the opportunity to create a new identity and be whoever I wanted. I was still myself.. just a super-powered version of me. I felt a bit overwhelmed once or twice but got over it quickly.
Now I'm back at home, no college till September. Haven't socialised Wednesday yet but I'm about go to the seaside with some of my close friends which is will be good. But right now I feel pretty shit. I felt shit yesterday too. It feels like when I'm doing awesome stuff I feel great but as soon as I'm not that feeling leaves me. As if I stop telling myself I'm awesome as soon as my actions don't reflect it. The moment I don't do something when I know I "should", or the other way around, everything falls to pieces and what felt like rock solid self esteem just crumbles and my mind is full of negative thoughts. I stop validating myself, or maybe it's the lack of validation from other people that leaves me because when I'm being awesome I generally get some of that.
I even felt this drop in state or whatever you wanna call it for like 20 minutes at college when my friends went off to smoke (I don't smoke and don't like breathing it in) and I was sitting alone. I'd been chatting to new people the whole time, what's wrong with just chilling for a bit? But I could feel myself worrying about what people thought of me, and thinking about how I must look lonely, and like I didn't have any friends or something. I'm not meant to give a shit what people think of me, yet there I was doing exactly that.
This was a bit incoherent and kind of rambling but oh well. Maybe someone can tell me what I am doing wrong. I want to be awesome all the time, and be congruent and consistent. I don't want it to be an act, a character I take on when I'm with people. Feels great at the time then shit later when I realise I'm not that guy I want to be.