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December 3rd, 2016
How I Get Approached Consistently
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IvánPérez

IvánPérez

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Join Date: 07/05/2008 | Posts: 1714

TL;DR: Make it super-easy for the girl to approach you.

Ok, so this is not something I tried to do but rather something I do naturally. I started noticing a pattern and thought you guys would like to know how it goes for me:

1. Be as defenseless as possible (i.e. low energy, nobody around you, she's with her group of friends, not so far from her, etc.)
2. Don't scan the room, have something going on (for me: drinking whisky, profiling girls - which looks like scanning but isn't the same -, playing with my Android, thinking...)
3. Hit her RAS (be mysterious guy, be irreverent guy, looking like a chode but with tough mannerisms, body language, eyes, laugh at somebody, have cool clothes...)

Cheers.
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Some principles that have been getting me some success:
- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.

IvánPérez.
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subx

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Join Date: 09/18/2008 | Posts: 1248

wuts profiling girls
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Marshen

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 Will try! I did this once and stopped, I guess I forgot about it...
thank you!! this is GOLD
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-oasis-

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chicks love boring creepers profiling girls while pretending to be using their phone
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bawc

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thumbs up
-oasis- wrote:
chicks love boring creepers profiling girls while pretending to be using their phone
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C.H.A.O.S

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Does not sound productive.  Tried it as a super chode, had little to moderate success, nothing to write home about.  Cold approaching 8-9 sets per night 3 nights per week is doing MUCH more for me than sitting around looking like a lost child in the supermarket.
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In pickup, it can be defined as "just get the fuck out of your head and bring her into YOUR reality, with no linear pattern or expected outcomes"

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ambiguity

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Its shit man. The article title should be "I'm mind fucking you." If your good looking, you get girls hitting on you. Welcome to my world. If you look for the attention, you look try hard. It goes away. Don't search for it. It will come. Just know that. In the mean while, don't wait. Hit on the girls.
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IvánPérez

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I was not saying follow this steps and you'll get approached, you fucking idiots. I'm just writing down a pattern I've noticed when girls approach me.  I've never got opened when I was in superfly mode, having a lot of fun, surounded with my friends, lording or any of that. Wich reminds me of:


I'm not trying to get approached lol, if I want a girl I'll go get her. However, this is something I do naturally, because I've never liked crowds. I need time alone to think and put things in perspective, I crave for solitude. Now that I think back, I realize of times that this happened when I was a kid.

So maybe one day I just wanna go out to relax so I order a whisky, sit alone in a table and start playing games... One girl comes to sit with me. Or I'll need space and time to think so I'll go look at the sea at a quiet place, some girls will start talking out loud about me and end up yelling and open me. ETC. The cool thing about this is that you realize the pattern and also realize that girls interested in you do give some signals (signals that they unconciously stifle if you are the one approaching). So, when you see those signals and having the knowledge I shared with you in the OP, you are able to create opportunities to get approached.
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Some principles that have been getting me some success:
- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.

IvánPérez.
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besserwisser

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Sounds funny, but he is right.

A few weeks ago I went to a concert. After the second band I go to the stage, lean very relaxed against it and start texting with my phone. I was dressed cool but normally. After like 20 seconds a girl who just arrived approached me, asking something. We have a conversation then band members come to me and we talk as well.

The thing is, I exposed myself to everybody because I was the only one not staring at the empty stage. I stood very approachable, so any one who would pass could start a conversation with me easily.

This is very passive though and I would not rely on it.
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Holland

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If you crave solitude, why even go out.
Go out if you want to be social.
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IvánPérez

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Holland wrote:
If you crave solitude, why even go out.
Go out if you want to be social.
Forget all that community conditioning. At the moment, the only reason for me to go out is getting laid. I'm social all the day through, yo. Music could also motivate me to go out.
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Some principles that have been getting me some success:
- When I'm out: it's me-time. I focus on expressing myself and doing what's fun for me, I don't care about girls. Self-absorbedness.
- 'It's all good, it's going to be fine, I am enough'. No worries or concerns. Let the dynamics work for me.
- Nobody is going to pull girls home for me. Self-image will stop you, take action regardless.
- Focus on finding a girl DTF vs. trying to game/arouse/whatever girl after girl.

IvánPérez.
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