THE FORUMS

Hotseat Review - Sydney 12/6/2010 - with Papa

I was very excited to have secured a seat at this event. I remember when the summit was first held and heard about all the hidden camera in-field footage and almost cried because I couldn’t make it. This event to me was the next best thing.

I attended a Sydney bootcamp with Alex~ back in February and watched about 6 hours worth of footage then of him in-field and learnt a lot. I did wonder though if the hotseat was just going to be the same thing and potentially a bore for me.

I’m glad I attended. From the start I was excited. Papa’s introduction about RSD and about the event really got my juices flowing. He outlined what we stood to gain from the program which included taking our skills to the next level and really seeing how the game is supposed to be played. I couldn’t wait.

He started off showing us what it looked like to have INTENT when with a woman. I always wondered the RSD meaning of this and when I saw each different intensity I had a good idea on what I was doing right and wrong in the field. Sometimes I would have 10/10 intent with a girl and stick there with her and not resolving. This usually led to much better results for me and made me realise that if I don’t have that kind of intent then I’m only being half the man I really am.

The videos on opening were showed and I enjoyed watching them. I loved how Tyler opened girls from high energy to solid intent. It gave me some ideas and I consistently used one of his lines “hey little girl I have some candy for you in my van” with awesome results. I realised that opening is usually the easiest part of an interaction and also that it’s really fucking fun especially when girls say how much they like lollypops.

We watched videos of how Tyler dealt with rejection and how he plowed like a mo fo. His approaches were solid but the girls were not down and had to leave him otherwise they would have been fucked behind a dumpster – so it was good for me to see that because I also get the same responses from girls when I approach correctly and realise that when I do get fuck off and go away responses it’s me and not them.

We watched how Tyler dealt with group dynamics and I really enjoyed this section. I definitely took value from this as on Monday night I put directly into practice the things I saw by noticing when the friend of the girl I was with was coming to drag her away and befriending her and disarming her and then throwing my wing Moey at her which worked a treat. I would have probably just ignored her hoping she went away or just let her grab her and then tried playing tug a war.

Watching Tyler pull was great because you can see what he’s doing and how he’s dealing with things in the moment. He is always leading and escalating and dealing with objections and Papa’s commentary really helped to highlight the subtleties going on under the surface.

Watching Jeffy’s videos made me see how much fun he has whilst picking up and how unreactive he really is – I identify a lot with Jeffy’s game and it was good to see him handle things. He comes across very centered and powerful and it’s something I strive for myself so I appreciated watching him work. I loved his persistence with the English girl and noticed that he never once wavered or gave up which made me realise that if you stick in there and go for it then you may very well pull. I also loved his openers and found him very funny in general which is ultimately what I aim for.

Ryan was a great instructor for me to watch. I’ve never paid much attention to him and didn’t really know what to expect from his videos so it was great because I really learnt a lot from him. Papa likened a lot of Ryan’s game to using the Force and Jedi mind tricks. I saw it in action and loved what I saw. He tells the girls what they need to do and how to think. I also realised I do some of it myself such as moving the girls arms around me. I also loved how he controls the frame and never jumps through the girls hoops. Everything is on his terms and I’ve been focusing on this more since watching with better results. I asked some girl if she was Swedish and she told me she was Aussie to which I replied that I was a little disappointed – she let me know that she did LOOK Swedish and I realised what was happening because of seeing Ryan control the frame so well. I also loved his persistence and how he never gave up on the girl – I definitely am working on internalising this in my game.

I was excited to see Brad’s videos as I’ve followed his progress for a while now. I really enjoyed his section and I notice how he is ultra chill and present which ultimately keeps the girl around and attracted. I really loved seeing his sense of entitlement in the videos and definitely have been aiming to project that same vibe with some really solid results – like I told a girl that we’d have to go back to her house because I lived too far away and she ate it up – I have said things like this in the past but I said them hoping they would hit and ultimately they failed. I enjoyed watching Brad talk shit and realise I also do that but can definitely improve and have been since watching him work. I talked about food with a chick on Saturday night and just rambled about bullshit about Pizza and Pies and sauce and underneath the content there was massive sexual attraction.

Lastly were Alex’s vids. I had seen all of them so not too much to comment on but I did get a refresher on his game in action and how he is so playful and deliberately illogical which I have incorporated lots since I first had bootcamp.

I noticed that I have many similarities to all the instructors and came away with ideas on what I could work on and take from each of their game and have been since. The event was worth the money and more – I would highly recommend anyone at any level attend as the amount of culminated experience and the amount of effort required to obtain such footage is huge. I actually would say hotseat should be known as Foundations 2.0 as it covers everything you need to go out straight away and apply directly without too much effort of thought. For a newbie this is an invaluable seminar and I really wish my chode mates had came along but they stayed in chode character and did not – I really feel sorry for them.

My game has definitely improved from going to this event. All these little subtleties I once did are now very conscious and also I feel a lot more smoother and entitled. I feel a lot more confident that I am doing the right thing and I definitely feel like I’m living in my own reality and not taking the girls reactions seriously and defining reality for them most of the time. I just need to calibrate which is all about getting more reference experience so time will definitely help me improve.