THE FORUMS
This has been said before but oh boy is that me what he is talking about in the beginning, hah
and.. I love this man. Same topic.
and.. I love this man. Same topic.
__________________
Hold The Frame.
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
I also get question like that "how old are you?" girls want to get conversation growing thats why they ask you some basic stuff.
Nice to get some feedback. But the tonality of these girls was very negative so they were either rejecting me or testing me.. Actually they were tests because thanks to Alexander I view all crap at the beginning as tests these days.
__________________
Hold The Frame.
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
Q1 2012
It´s time to do a check how I have done this year business style..
Results of Q1:
Girls
The Process: 1-3 times a week.
Results: 0 lays.. About 3-4 numbers. 0 day2s.
Wow that sucks. I have a ton of excuses but the real reason for these results is that my sex drive has not been high enough to take action
over any excuses. I switched back to a "normal" diet after 5 months of low carb and noticed my interest in sex went up the very first day so I know that when
I´m out the next time excuses won´t mean &%¤&.
So Q2 will include more new girls - no doubt.
Out 2 x week minimum. No exceptions.
A small new rule to kill procrastination at the bar: action before 12 o´clock.
Gym
The Process: From 2 x a week -> 3 x a week
Started going 3 x a week in march. I have made significant but small progress. Just like with girls I can´t focus on results - just the process - so no goals for the gym. Just the firm decision to go 3 times a week until summer.
SEO
The Process: 1 hr / day min.
Results: 1 site at #6
I started working on seo in january and I was hoping to be further by now. But I have learned A LOT and I have 1 local site (1000-1500 searches) that is now at #6 and seems to become popular. It feels really good. A few others ranking but not high enough.
I want to make my first income online by june 2012. And I want to get enough visitors to get adsense on my sites.
School
The Process: "focus on other goals, I will pass my courses.. hopefully"
Oh boy school has been bad..
Today I realized I must start doing something new to pass the courses I have. 1 hr / day of school added to my daily schedule.
Conclusion:
Working on 4 goals is hard for me. But I need to work a lot harder to get results. The way I´m doing things now is not enough. I´m making progress but too slowly. My dream right now is
to reach awesome life by 30.
It takes discipline and smart action.
Back to keeping busy and hardcore stressing!! :)
It´s time to do a check how I have done this year business style..
Results of Q1:
Girls
The Process: 1-3 times a week.
Results: 0 lays.. About 3-4 numbers. 0 day2s.
Wow that sucks. I have a ton of excuses but the real reason for these results is that my sex drive has not been high enough to take action
over any excuses. I switched back to a "normal" diet after 5 months of low carb and noticed my interest in sex went up the very first day so I know that when
I´m out the next time excuses won´t mean &%¤&.
So Q2 will include more new girls - no doubt.
Out 2 x week minimum. No exceptions.
A small new rule to kill procrastination at the bar: action before 12 o´clock.
Gym
The Process: From 2 x a week -> 3 x a week
Started going 3 x a week in march. I have made significant but small progress. Just like with girls I can´t focus on results - just the process - so no goals for the gym. Just the firm decision to go 3 times a week until summer.
SEO
The Process: 1 hr / day min.
Results: 1 site at #6
I started working on seo in january and I was hoping to be further by now. But I have learned A LOT and I have 1 local site (1000-1500 searches) that is now at #6 and seems to become popular. It feels really good. A few others ranking but not high enough.
I want to make my first income online by june 2012. And I want to get enough visitors to get adsense on my sites.
School
The Process: "focus on other goals, I will pass my courses.. hopefully"
Oh boy school has been bad..
Today I realized I must start doing something new to pass the courses I have. 1 hr / day of school added to my daily schedule.
Conclusion:
Working on 4 goals is hard for me. But I need to work a lot harder to get results. The way I´m doing things now is not enough. I´m making progress but too slowly. My dream right now is
to reach awesome life by 30.
It takes discipline and smart action.
Back to keeping busy and hardcore stressing!! :)
__________________
Hold The Frame.
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
Lately I have started to like Boney M, some of the 70s disco is awesome. I only now noticed the voice of that guy was pretty amusing. And now that I saw him I like him even more.. RIP Bobby Farrell.
My Life
Reached my first nr1 spot in google hooray and I´m getting 60-80 visitors a day to that site. I was going for a 1000 search keyword and accidentally ended up #1 for a 3600 search keyword. Awesome. Applying for adsense now I and hope to make my first money before June 1st. I found another nice international 3600 search niche and I´m working on that site now.
Gym is going pretty well. School..well. It´s tough.
Let´s get to girls now..
Oh yeah, visited the girl I´m seeing and she suggested to have sex on her dining table so I manhandled her and lifted her onto the table and banged her porn style. That was interesting :)
I had a good chance to go out more thanks to easter holidays:
FR
Thursday 5.4.2012
Out with my friend at the usual place. 1-2 drinks. I don´t remember much but I had trouble approaching.
Friday 6.4.2012
Out with another friend. about 2 drinks.Same bar. I have a small new rule to get me approaching, it´s the "start by midnight rule".
I really had to force it and use 30 second game to do it. Went over to 2 girls, introduced myself to both. It´s a pretty nice response
from them but as usual I struggle with saying anything and eject. The usual pattern for me on no drinking nights has always been pretty much the same.
I struggle hard to do the first approach. I finally get it done. I want to do another one right away but I cant push myself to do it. So I Decide to be happy that I did something.
Then I try to force myself to approach for the rest of the night and manage to do it maybe once every half an hour.
This is exactly what happened tonight. I think I´m going to call this the "Old method" from now on to get rid of it because things changed a week from this...
Saturday 7.4.2012
I chose to stay home to work on SEO. It is kinda an excuse for not going out alone but also it´s necessary for getting somewhere with SEO. I worked on it til 4am and went to sleep as if I had been out.
Sunday 8.4.2012
At Onnela, woo! My first completely non-alcohol night for a long time. I´ve been taking a few sips or 1-2 drinks for many weekends now. I like going out without any alcohol cause it´s like this all my own confidence. I like it.
This was also a comeback to Onnela after a long break. I love this place now. And the girls were really hot tonight.
This night ended up going with the "Old method" again but there were some moments of glory though. Small but nice.
I was feeling very talkative at the beginning of the night and remembered that if I want to be able to lead a conversation with girls later I have to be able to
do it with my friend here now. Yes, I am that sad socially, I blame it on my gut issues. Anyway, we had fun, just the two of us. Midnight arrived and I saw a hot ass
walking in front of me by herself. Stared at her from behind unapologetically and she notiuced it. She stopped to join her group. I went to talk to her. Stayed for half a minute, was happy
I had approached a girl that hot. I managed to relax nicely later and was in a quite awesome mood. On the dancefloor girls were coming to dance next to me more than ever before. I choded out from most of them. One girl gave looks at me and finally opened me on the dance floor:
"It´s pretty hot huh?"
"Yeah, its like in the summer"
Then I had nothing. Damn.
I got hungry and was not motivated at all. I ate a little bit and found some horniness again.
We went to the rnb side where a group of asian girls came to dance close to us. The hottest peace of ass I´ve seen with great tits came to dance in front me seductively. I was sober and
and too nervous to go for it. I grabbed her from behind a little and ejected riught away. My friuend was drunkj 0and went 0foir 0iut 0anyway and got 0to grinud wiuth 0her foir 0a liuttlke 0whiulke.
Then got a few 9s on both sides but can´t go for either.
And at the very end of the night as we were waiting for our jackets and it was really crowded there was a girl right next to me who looked at me. I looked back at.
She started talking something in English so she was foreign. Unfortunately I had trouble understanding what she said and the conversation died down. Darn..
Gotta do that meditation to get over this "I have nothing to talk about" problem.
So yeah a night of- massiuve passive validatiuon which means nothing:
Felt nice to get 0soime valkidationu to prove I
´m doiun somethiun siught 0inu terms of groomiung and 00health though..
damn thius 0kjeyboard :)
Then a night that I hope will become the line between what I used to do in the past and what will be the way I go out from now on. The end of "The old method".
I will start working on the sticking points I´ve had since the begiunniung. And even though I´ll workj on them onlky 2 nights a weekj I thinkj it wiullk be smarter than just toi 0
try toi 0get 0laiud every weekedn and 0run 0iunto 0the 0same 0problems every time.
So since my biggest problem has always been not approachinug enough:
I gave my friend 50 euros and decided to do 20 approaches or he gets to keep it. This is a pretty big deal for 0me since usually when im out wiuhout alcoihol i 0can 0doi 0mayb€ 5-6 approaches. and never succeed in doinug many sets in a- r-o-w-.
This is how it went:
Friday 13.4.2012
So no alcohol again (I have no money for it so my plan is to go sober until summer). I was feeling pretty ok. My health issues weren´t bothering me much but I wasn´t
feeling talkative. Anyway I had deciuded that it was time to fix this big sticking point and put an end to being a pussy and learn to get used to that super awkward feeling you always get when
you walk up to girls.
We went to a bigger club this time. It was only half-full though so I pretty much had to approach every group of girls in the place. I had some funny situations thanks to this like approaching 3 groups of girls in a row who all saw me do it so no surprise that I wasn´t very succesful there :) Luckily I did not care cause I was on my mission so it made it easier to take the humiliation.
20 sets felt surprisingly challenging. But it was also eye-opening. I managed to do 3-4 sets in row here and there and I felt the momentum kicking in. It was liberating. Finally managed to do it.
Success!
The only downside of doing set after set was that I wasn´t able to stop and fix the stuff I was doing wrong so I kept doing horrible approaches with full-on interview mode, heh.
And yeah I pretty much sucked in about 17/20 sets I did but that´s ok. I was more tense than the girl (which tends to mean you´re done) in every interaction and felt a small rush to get the 20 approaches done. It was the price I paid for learning to approach as much as I want and I accepted it.
So next time I´ll be doing the same thing. But I gotta keep building up on this thing every week. This time I will focus on plowing. No questions to fill the silence.
Great!
My Life
Reached my first nr1 spot in google hooray and I´m getting 60-80 visitors a day to that site. I was going for a 1000 search keyword and accidentally ended up #1 for a 3600 search keyword. Awesome. Applying for adsense now I and hope to make my first money before June 1st. I found another nice international 3600 search niche and I´m working on that site now.
Gym is going pretty well. School..well. It´s tough.
Let´s get to girls now..
Oh yeah, visited the girl I´m seeing and she suggested to have sex on her dining table so I manhandled her and lifted her onto the table and banged her porn style. That was interesting :)
I had a good chance to go out more thanks to easter holidays:
FR
Thursday 5.4.2012
Out with my friend at the usual place. 1-2 drinks. I don´t remember much but I had trouble approaching.
Friday 6.4.2012
Out with another friend. about 2 drinks.Same bar. I have a small new rule to get me approaching, it´s the "start by midnight rule".
I really had to force it and use 30 second game to do it. Went over to 2 girls, introduced myself to both. It´s a pretty nice response
from them but as usual I struggle with saying anything and eject. The usual pattern for me on no drinking nights has always been pretty much the same.
I struggle hard to do the first approach. I finally get it done. I want to do another one right away but I cant push myself to do it. So I Decide to be happy that I did something.
Then I try to force myself to approach for the rest of the night and manage to do it maybe once every half an hour.
This is exactly what happened tonight. I think I´m going to call this the "Old method" from now on to get rid of it because things changed a week from this...
Saturday 7.4.2012
I chose to stay home to work on SEO. It is kinda an excuse for not going out alone but also it´s necessary for getting somewhere with SEO. I worked on it til 4am and went to sleep as if I had been out.
Sunday 8.4.2012
At Onnela, woo! My first completely non-alcohol night for a long time. I´ve been taking a few sips or 1-2 drinks for many weekends now. I like going out without any alcohol cause it´s like this all my own confidence. I like it.
This was also a comeback to Onnela after a long break. I love this place now. And the girls were really hot tonight.
This night ended up going with the "Old method" again but there were some moments of glory though. Small but nice.
I was feeling very talkative at the beginning of the night and remembered that if I want to be able to lead a conversation with girls later I have to be able to
do it with my friend here now. Yes, I am that sad socially, I blame it on my gut issues. Anyway, we had fun, just the two of us. Midnight arrived and I saw a hot ass
walking in front of me by herself. Stared at her from behind unapologetically and she notiuced it. She stopped to join her group. I went to talk to her. Stayed for half a minute, was happy
I had approached a girl that hot. I managed to relax nicely later and was in a quite awesome mood. On the dancefloor girls were coming to dance next to me more than ever before. I choded out from most of them. One girl gave looks at me and finally opened me on the dance floor:
"It´s pretty hot huh?"
"Yeah, its like in the summer"
Then I had nothing. Damn.
I got hungry and was not motivated at all. I ate a little bit and found some horniness again.
We went to the rnb side where a group of asian girls came to dance close to us. The hottest peace of ass I´ve seen with great tits came to dance in front me seductively. I was sober and
and too nervous to go for it. I grabbed her from behind a little and ejected riught away. My friuend was drunkj 0and went 0foir 0iut 0anyway and got 0to grinud wiuth 0her foir 0a liuttlke 0whiulke.
Then got a few 9s on both sides but can´t go for either.
And at the very end of the night as we were waiting for our jackets and it was really crowded there was a girl right next to me who looked at me. I looked back at.
She started talking something in English so she was foreign. Unfortunately I had trouble understanding what she said and the conversation died down. Darn..
Gotta do that meditation to get over this "I have nothing to talk about" problem.
So yeah a night of- massiuve passive validatiuon which means nothing:
Felt nice to get 0soime valkidationu to prove I
´m doiun somethiun siught 0inu terms of groomiung and 00health though..
damn thius 0kjeyboard :)
Then a night that I hope will become the line between what I used to do in the past and what will be the way I go out from now on. The end of "The old method".
I will start working on the sticking points I´ve had since the begiunniung. And even though I´ll workj on them onlky 2 nights a weekj I thinkj it wiullk be smarter than just toi 0
try toi 0get 0laiud every weekedn and 0run 0iunto 0the 0same 0problems every time.
So since my biggest problem has always been not approachinug enough:
I gave my friend 50 euros and decided to do 20 approaches or he gets to keep it. This is a pretty big deal for 0me since usually when im out wiuhout alcoihol i 0can 0doi 0mayb€ 5-6 approaches. and never succeed in doinug many sets in a- r-o-w-.
This is how it went:
Friday 13.4.2012
So no alcohol again (I have no money for it so my plan is to go sober until summer). I was feeling pretty ok. My health issues weren´t bothering me much but I wasn´t
feeling talkative. Anyway I had deciuded that it was time to fix this big sticking point and put an end to being a pussy and learn to get used to that super awkward feeling you always get when
you walk up to girls.
We went to a bigger club this time. It was only half-full though so I pretty much had to approach every group of girls in the place. I had some funny situations thanks to this like approaching 3 groups of girls in a row who all saw me do it so no surprise that I wasn´t very succesful there :) Luckily I did not care cause I was on my mission so it made it easier to take the humiliation.
20 sets felt surprisingly challenging. But it was also eye-opening. I managed to do 3-4 sets in row here and there and I felt the momentum kicking in. It was liberating. Finally managed to do it.
Success!
The only downside of doing set after set was that I wasn´t able to stop and fix the stuff I was doing wrong so I kept doing horrible approaches with full-on interview mode, heh.
And yeah I pretty much sucked in about 17/20 sets I did but that´s ok. I was more tense than the girl (which tends to mean you´re done) in every interaction and felt a small rush to get the 20 approaches done. It was the price I paid for learning to approach as much as I want and I accepted it.
So next time I´ll be doing the same thing. But I gotta keep building up on this thing every week. This time I will focus on plowing. No questions to fill the silence.
Great!
__________________
Hold The Frame.
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
My Life
Damn. I finally started making money online on 19.4. (succeeded in my goal of making my first money before summer) and earned 1 € a day (shut up, it´s a beginning :) ) and thought nice at least I´ll be making about 30€ every month in passive income finally.
And then the site dropped from #1 to #11 which means no money and I don´t know how to get the site back to the top again.
Actually I had to check adsense now... and it´s 1.49€ for today!! Wohoo! I´ll check later how that is possible.
Anyway it´s not about about that one site. Gotta find bigger and better niches and get them to convert with bigger money. And focus on the bigger picture.
In other areas... I´ve been starting to get sick of working on my goals every day. My life just feels like the same bullshit every day, every week.
It´s sunday today and I felt super stressed and negative. Realized it might be a good idea to rest on sundays. Just the gym on sunday. That way it´ll all feel fresh on monday.
Other stuff:
Been doing meditation for 10 min daily, love the benefits.
And started to listen to The Power of now to get rid of negative thoughts.
Also The Six Pillars of Self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden (one of Brad´s favorites) which is awesome. So far better than RSD for your self esteem.
FR Friday 20.4.2012
No alkohool. Just green tea ;)
Except my friend bought me one drink to celebrate my first dollar/euro online.
Tonight I was pretty convinced that Iwill not need any gimmicks like giving 50€ to my friend to make me approach.
Boy was I wrong.
I was feeling pretty good, not perfect but social.
I´ve been thinking about how Tyler said that you ruin your night in the first 30 seconds you walk into the bar.
I always feel so positive and confident at that point that I will not have trouble approaching. Especially this time. tyler´s words were on my mind and as we were talking with my friend, pretty excited, I shoved my phone to a girls face and asking if my website looked like a gay site.
We chatted for about 2 mins. No intent just getting more social and getting the first interaction out of the way.
After that pretty much 0 approaches.
Maybe it was the first drink that messed me up (weird I know) but something was holding me back and usually it´s something physiological that I can´t point out until later when I feel better.
Anyway you should approach despite feeling like whatever so next weekend: back to the 50€ system.
Some other reasons I realized for not approaching:
Ego bullshit. You don´t want negative feedback at all.
Horniness not on the level where you don´t give a fuck about social stuff anymore and just want to get laid. I love that mode :)
Lack of wanting to fuck makes this way harder cause you only see bad outcomes. And the worst
thing about not having interest in fucking sweet girlies is that you don´t see the point in making progress either.
It´s like nothing in the bar makes you take action. It sucks.
Anyway.. it´s worth nothing to think about the reasons that are stopping you from approaching.
I´ll just give the fucken 50 to my wing every time and do 20 approaches a night.
Some events from the night:
I was walking away from the downstairs dancefloor as some girls grabs my arm and starts physically leading me upstairs.
In my mind I´m like wow this feels awkward but it´s nice to get some action for the night. I wonder if I have met this girl before..
"Do I know you?"
"You don´t remember. You´ve met so many girls?"
I realize she thinks I´m super high value and live in abundance for some reason.
And she keeps gaming me as I´m trying to guess who she is. Fun.
I have an idea that she might be the girl I met here 1 month ago who replied my text 12 days later.
We set up a meeting and she flaked the next day.
She thinks everything I do is great compared to her. She keeps persisting to find out why I´m not drinking.
"Why are you in a bar sober?"
"Why not."
After a fwe minutes she suggests we go out for a cigarette.
"Although you don´t smoke cause it´s unhealthy but I´m not as good as you"
I find it funny how she thinks she´s way lower value than me and mocks me for it when in my head
I´m thinking "if she only knew how wrong she is about my pimping skills"
Anyway, we go outside. She doesn´t have her cigarettes with her. She says she goes up to get them.
I´m not sure if she is dumping my ass or not so I go inside to dance to Adelante which is awesome (Sash playing live).
I go out to check if she is there. She comes in and we run into each other.
I lead her to dance. she doesnt seem to be having fun and takes off.
I realize fuck.
I guess she was ready to bounce already and I did not realize that.
It did not cross my mind that a girl would be dtf in 5-10 minutes.
I guess after our initial interaction and after all the texting she was immediately ready.
I will know that next time.
(btw wasnt getting physical at all cause I did not feel like it, don´t want to fake it)
Later on the dancefloor a drunken hot tight body girl walks past right in front of me. Later she almost walks in my lap and starts
making out. Nice. And leaves right away. Nice anyway. Still I don´t really give a fuck about getting laid tonight.
Also later the hottest girl of the bar (when she walked on the dancefloor about 8 guys turned to stare at her. Never seen that.)
and her friend came to dance next to me. I felt like shooting myself in the head for not doing anything. And ithappened again later.
she was probably the hottest girl I have seen all year.
Well all this means nothing except that I´m going in a good direction with the gym.
And that getting rid of all tension in your body and self amusing on the dancefloor makes girls think you are awesome.
Failed to go out on saturday. I´m having motivation issues hardcore.
Back to this next week.
__________________
Hold The Frame.
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
Life
I have done better at school now. I found a new way to study for tests and found tea :) It really seems to help me concentrate.
Also I worked my website back to the top again and it´s making me about 1€ / day again. Gotta stay unemotional about business stuff. If things go wrong you just fix them or find
another way to make money.
FR
Friday 27.4.2012
No alcoho again.
I had no motivation. I chose not to care and be ok about it.
I had not eaten enough and when I´m even a little hungry I lose all interest in girls.
-> Eat properly before going out. Just overeat.
Also quite far from being present - I could not always even follow what my friend was saying to me.
How can you approach in that state?
One grinding moment on the dancefloor with a great, fiesty, tiny latin girl who seemed to wait for me to
approach. I finally did (not feeling sexual at all), she started grinding her ass to me and left after half a minute.
We did some 30 second game later and I reapproached her but she gave me a no with a smile.
I should have plowed more there. Also more 30 second game and approached a chubby blond on the df.
Just went in and shook her hand fully waiting for a positive response. She shook my hand a bit confused, heh.
I realized I don´t even know why Im approaching her and left. No intent.
-> ?? Less porn :) Porn is great about once a week but no more :D
-> More kegels ;)
-> Work on being more present. Girls like it and I like being present when I approach.
I´ve been focusing on other stuff in my life lately so I did not beat myself for not approaching much like I usually do.
I did break my promise to do the 50€ thing I promised to do last week..darn.
I will go harder at this in the summer. More alcohol and hotter girls then.
Meeting my girl tomorrow. Nice.
I have done better at school now. I found a new way to study for tests and found tea :) It really seems to help me concentrate.
Also I worked my website back to the top again and it´s making me about 1€ / day again. Gotta stay unemotional about business stuff. If things go wrong you just fix them or find
another way to make money.
FR
Friday 27.4.2012
No alcoho again.
I had no motivation. I chose not to care and be ok about it.
I had not eaten enough and when I´m even a little hungry I lose all interest in girls.
-> Eat properly before going out. Just overeat.
Also quite far from being present - I could not always even follow what my friend was saying to me.
How can you approach in that state?
One grinding moment on the dancefloor with a great, fiesty, tiny latin girl who seemed to wait for me to
approach. I finally did (not feeling sexual at all), she started grinding her ass to me and left after half a minute.
We did some 30 second game later and I reapproached her but she gave me a no with a smile.
I should have plowed more there. Also more 30 second game and approached a chubby blond on the df.
Just went in and shook her hand fully waiting for a positive response. She shook my hand a bit confused, heh.
I realized I don´t even know why Im approaching her and left. No intent.
-> ?? Less porn :) Porn is great about once a week but no more :D
-> More kegels ;)
-> Work on being more present. Girls like it and I like being present when I approach.
I´ve been focusing on other stuff in my life lately so I did not beat myself for not approaching much like I usually do.
I did break my promise to do the 50€ thing I promised to do last week..darn.
I will go harder at this in the summer. More alcohol and hotter girls then.
Meeting my girl tomorrow. Nice.
__________________
Hold The Frame.
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
I´m gonna start putting my favorite songs here to remind me to bring out my personality more and just generally make this thread more fun for me.
Ok.
Lack of entitlement. Lack of believing I am high value. That´s what has been missing from my game lately.
Going for the close too. Well actually my game has been shit lately. I´ve been going out sober for too long and therefore lacked experiences I need.
Yesterday it was the the 1st of May (if that´s what it´s called). A Big party here in Finland. Everybody´s goofy and it´s great.
I got drunk after a looong time. It wasn´t gloriuous but it was fun.
(I don´t remember much though)
No trouble opening.
No trouble with lack of stuff to say.
But I wasn´t going for the close at all..
When you´re drunk all game principles usually go out the window :)
Anyway I remember 2 important sets.
The first one was me and my friend in a pub sitting with 3 older (than normally) girls, about 28.
It went pretty well. We stayed with them for about 20-30 minutes.
But now that I think about it we weren´t leading it anywhere or making it sexual at all.
The second one was at the very end of the night. I was standing at the bus station by a place where people come to check
the bus timetable. I did not want to walk home by myself so I stayed there asking every girl who came there where she is going and
told them that I have to walk home and I need someone to keep me company. I was pretty much just goofing around with this and genuinely wanting company, not really meaning
anything sexual with it but obviously girls interpreted it that way. One really hot girl responded to me nicely "I would but I have a boyfriend."
I drunkenly clawed her and tried to get her to join me.
I did this for about 30 minutes. I got pretty good at it, heh. Opening well with it I mean. I found the right tonality for it.
Anyway I going nowhere with this right now..
So then came this one girl. I asked where she was going. She said a place pretty near my home. I told her the same I had told 30 girls before her and
she was like "Yeah let´s go" and started walking. Wow.
She had the student overall thing on so I couldnt really tell how hot she was but a cute basic student blond girl 8-9.
We talked all the way but I kept it on a very friend to friend level. Not good.
She ended up walking away and seemed pissed off.
I guess this was the final reminder for me to stop doing "friend to friend". (I learned this with Day 2s earlier, now I need to learn this in clubs and streets too)
Make it sexual: Thinking of sex is the best way to do it. Sexual eye contact. Misinterpretation. Generally high value. Emotional spikes. Lead. Closing mentality.
I guess I was a bit low value in the interaction too, getting blown out a lot during the night does that to me. Gotta stop letting that effect me.
Also I was not sure of what I wanted. Therefore I was not leading it in anyway. I always need to be aware of what I want from the interaction.
Otherwise it just dies down. Being horny is the easiest way to this but gotta remember it when not really feeling the mojo.
Ok.
Lack of entitlement. Lack of believing I am high value. That´s what has been missing from my game lately.
Going for the close too. Well actually my game has been shit lately. I´ve been going out sober for too long and therefore lacked experiences I need.
Yesterday it was the the 1st of May (if that´s what it´s called). A Big party here in Finland. Everybody´s goofy and it´s great.
I got drunk after a looong time. It wasn´t gloriuous but it was fun.
(I don´t remember much though)
No trouble opening.
No trouble with lack of stuff to say.
But I wasn´t going for the close at all..
When you´re drunk all game principles usually go out the window :)
Anyway I remember 2 important sets.
The first one was me and my friend in a pub sitting with 3 older (than normally) girls, about 28.
It went pretty well. We stayed with them for about 20-30 minutes.
But now that I think about it we weren´t leading it anywhere or making it sexual at all.
The second one was at the very end of the night. I was standing at the bus station by a place where people come to check
the bus timetable. I did not want to walk home by myself so I stayed there asking every girl who came there where she is going and
told them that I have to walk home and I need someone to keep me company. I was pretty much just goofing around with this and genuinely wanting company, not really meaning
anything sexual with it but obviously girls interpreted it that way. One really hot girl responded to me nicely "I would but I have a boyfriend."
I drunkenly clawed her and tried to get her to join me.
I did this for about 30 minutes. I got pretty good at it, heh. Opening well with it I mean. I found the right tonality for it.
Anyway I going nowhere with this right now..
So then came this one girl. I asked where she was going. She said a place pretty near my home. I told her the same I had told 30 girls before her and
she was like "Yeah let´s go" and started walking. Wow.
She had the student overall thing on so I couldnt really tell how hot she was but a cute basic student blond girl 8-9.
We talked all the way but I kept it on a very friend to friend level. Not good.
She ended up walking away and seemed pissed off.
I guess this was the final reminder for me to stop doing "friend to friend". (I learned this with Day 2s earlier, now I need to learn this in clubs and streets too)
Make it sexual: Thinking of sex is the best way to do it. Sexual eye contact. Misinterpretation. Generally high value. Emotional spikes. Lead. Closing mentality.
I guess I was a bit low value in the interaction too, getting blown out a lot during the night does that to me. Gotta stop letting that effect me.
Also I was not sure of what I wanted. Therefore I was not leading it in anyway. I always need to be aware of what I want from the interaction.
Otherwise it just dies down. Being horny is the easiest way to this but gotta remember it when not really feeling the mojo.
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Hold The Frame.
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30
Doing pretty well I see. You should start to cultivate more trust in yourself. You're working pretty hard at everything, give yourself a pat on the back. And you have the results too. Don't ever doubt youself. Never let any girls or anyone tell you how you're feeling. Dont look to them for shit. If you're still thinking about your "game problems", "sticking points" and creating imaginary problems out of nowhere, find a way to stop it. That leads to doubt, bad body language and a chode vibe.
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love reading this journal from time to time, would like to know how's it going with SEO? if your'd doing good I need to suck some money making value out of you 
haha. I haven't been working on the online dough since the brad freetour (damn you brad!). Hopefully you'r gonna keep going out cause I'm thinking of moving to Helsinki for summer and work some shitty ass job for 3 months there, need motivated people to go out with durrr, I think only guys I know from the forum from Helsinki are you and Voeoe.. other than that trust the process dude, sounds clichee but I had the a pretty dry time at the beginning of the year (dating one girl and no new lays, boring shit) and then BANG! on april I was living the rockstar lifestyle. Only thing that's gonna allow it to happen is to trust the process, keep going out and at some point you get onto a really crazy romp and remember how good pussy tastes haha. for me it was the consistent action of going out to clubs and choding out half the time with my drink up the chest and like Jeffy says at some point you get the emotional leverage where you've just had enough and suddenly your brain rewires itself and goes "ah well this fucker just won't give up on hitting up these chicks and going to clubs every night, I quess it's time to go get some pussy then brah and get the genes moving forward! "
one advice I would give to you is to stop analyzing all the interactions, you've pulled pussy many times before and you know how to do it, I think you are past that phase by now. I noticed myself that analyzing the little bits of every interaction is a negative thing especially once you'r out of the beginner phase. You should only start writing about and focusing on the bigger picture and keep us up to date on your latest stuff and epiphanies
also other thing that helped me tremendously is to get a pussy goal for the year.. for me it was to double up last year's number and so far it has worked haha, literally a concrete number of how much pussy you'r gonna get this year.. it might sound like one of these egoistic "pua batting average" bs kinda things but it's not.. It helps to bring out that emotional leverage (my recommendation: double up or quit
)
peace
haha. I haven't been working on the online dough since the brad freetour (damn you brad!). Hopefully you'r gonna keep going out cause I'm thinking of moving to Helsinki for summer and work some shitty ass job for 3 months there, need motivated people to go out with durrr, I think only guys I know from the forum from Helsinki are you and Voeoe.. other than that trust the process dude, sounds clichee but I had the a pretty dry time at the beginning of the year (dating one girl and no new lays, boring shit) and then BANG! on april I was living the rockstar lifestyle. Only thing that's gonna allow it to happen is to trust the process, keep going out and at some point you get onto a really crazy romp and remember how good pussy tastes haha. for me it was the consistent action of going out to clubs and choding out half the time with my drink up the chest and like Jeffy says at some point you get the emotional leverage where you've just had enough and suddenly your brain rewires itself and goes "ah well this fucker just won't give up on hitting up these chicks and going to clubs every night, I quess it's time to go get some pussy then brah and get the genes moving forward! "one advice I would give to you is to stop analyzing all the interactions, you've pulled pussy many times before and you know how to do it, I think you are past that phase by now. I noticed myself that analyzing the little bits of every interaction is a negative thing especially once you'r out of the beginner phase. You should only start writing about and focusing on the bigger picture and keep us up to date on your latest stuff and epiphanies
also other thing that helped me tremendously is to get a pussy goal for the year.. for me it was to double up last year's number and so far it has worked haha, literally a concrete number of how much pussy you'r gonna get this year.. it might sound like one of these egoistic "pua batting average" bs kinda things but it's not.. It helps to bring out that emotional leverage (my recommendation: double up or quit
)peace
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My journal: www.rsdnation.com/node/217933/forum
My Jeffy hotseat notes, a good set of reminders for the field: www.rsdnation.com/node/199615
My Jeffy hotseat notes, a good set of reminders for the field: www.rsdnation.com/node/199615
ludvig
Respected Member
Join Date: 02/17/2010 | Posts: 386
Pilgrimage2012
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/98734/forum
and of course
Abercrombie: Ascent To Elite Congruence : http://www.rsdnation.com/node/75297
Pilgrimage has pretty much done what I want to do.
And Brad´s thread... well. Reading that thread makes you go "Fuck you Brad" like at least once in every report. But you learn a lot too.
The most important thing I have got from these is small-chunking the process. They both do it and it´s mandatory.
"Apply what you learn, push your comfort zone and most importantly HAVE A BLAST doing it."
"Just don't ever lose track and forget why you're doing what you're doing. If that happens, then really, what's the point?"
- Pat Flynn
Getting my income and cold approach handled in 2013: 30