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January 21st, 2017
how do i grow up
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Mr. Freckles-

Mr. Freckles-

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Join Date: 10/19/2009 | Posts: 320

last month, turning 24 was a eye opener for me. i'm getting older guys, but i feel that i am not really growing up. i don't feel that i am cuttinh the threads of my childish ways. i'm pretty sure part of it is because i never had men around as a child to model what an adult male is so i am putting the pieces togeather myself. 2 of the things i am doing is 1) going on a meditation retreat for 10 days straight, no talking, just meditating and 2) going to a project mankind weekend event. i'm hoping these, along with the bootcamps  i have taken will click somthing in my head to cut loose all of my boyish ways. any suggestions. i know a lot of people on these types of fourms have/had issues like this, hell that is the purpose of this community "turning grown ass boys into men" it's just time for me to grow up
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Koolaid

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Join Date: 03/02/2007 | Posts: 2245

What specifically do you do that isn't manly? And what aren't you doing?
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Life changing self-esteem article by Tyler
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jon166

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Join Date: 08/12/2007 | Posts: 18

for me, i would stop worryin about if i am a child or man in my own eyes.

it doesn't really matter i'm just me,

i'm more concerned with implementing positive habits that will help me out in the long run.

i don't think there is going to be a shining moment of truth when you're going to be like...

I AM A MAN lol
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fishbulb

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Join Date: 04/27/2007 | Posts: 405

What effect do you suppose it would have on you if you acknowledged that you are already there?
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Corksil

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Join Date: 03/03/2009 | Posts: 1341

True, adolescents in our society today have no right of passage. No great war, no great depression, no great plague... Nothing to flip that switch in your head and make you think "whoa, I'm grown up now."

I suggest you just go about your life and don't stress about it.

Or you could go to africa and find the rare 2 inch long fire-ant. If you collect a few hundred of them, you can lay in a bathtub and pour them into the water. The won't be able to climb the tub walls, but they will find their way onto you and they won't be happy that you drowned them. Lay there for a few hours and let them bite you without screaming, then you can feel like a man :)
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NewMan

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Join Date: 05/06/2010 | Posts: 404

Yo Mr Freckles

Check out David Deangelos : Being a Man program

heres a few youtube videos of it




theres only 8 vides on youtube that cover just the INTRO of the real program

im taking notes on it now

if ud like i can PM you the notes once i finish the program?
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RedGlass

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Join Date: 11/14/2009 | Posts: 756

Be a man in what ways?

What do you want to change?
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Realizing that you need to grow up is the first sign of actually growing up
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crusher~

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At 40, I was still a child inside. Since then, I've grown up and here are some things that seem to me to be part of growing up.
- Breaking free from external validation
- Choosing a direction in life
- Taking action
- Accepting responsibility

If you can do these things, in my opinion, you will be a man.
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Newuser

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Join Date: 08/16/2009 | Posts: 1119

That David D "on becoming a man" seminar was really good. I've felt the same way as all my friends have grown up and I feel like im still a little kid inside sometimes.
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