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September 21st, 2014
How to keep a fuck buddy from turning into a relationship
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RedBeard

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Join Date: 08/27/2006 | Posts: 385

Long story short, I got this chick, we've been hanging out just like 1-2 times per week for the past month or two, having some hot fuck sessions, but I feel she might be getting a little clingy and headed for a relationship.

You players got any tips for keeping this one as a fuck buddy, and not having her try to convert it into a relationship?

I feel the dreaded "talk" is imminent.

What should I say if she starts up with the "so what are we doing?" nonsense?
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EazyDoesIt

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Be honest and upfront.
I've been doing this for a long time. The reality, some girls will play along and other's won't. And some girls will create a stir and make a fuss.
If it becomes too much drama. I will simply drop a girl. This is where abundance comes in.

All you can do is be honest and straight fwd.
At the end of the day. Do you really want to be the source of somebody else's misery?
My view on fuck buddy relationships.
I'll ride that shit out for as long as BOTH of US are enjoying the arrangement.
Once the other person no longer enjoys the arrangement and starts nagging me, starting arguments, causing drama.
I'll politely and respectfully move on. And find somebody else. 
I don't do this disrespectfully because I love women.
I'm just very honest with them.
I let them know I don't want to be in a relationship. I am sure you have valid reasons.
If they are valid to you. They are VALID.
I'd simply express them. And they can take it or leave it.
I will remind them that they are significant in my life. I don't waste my time sleeping around with people I don't respect or care about.
And I value them in my life.
I will reiterate important stuff like that but I will also let them know where I'm currently at in my life and let them know if they are looking for something ELSE.
I will wish them the best, "no hard feelings".
I have no personal interest in making enemies, or building animosity towards me.
I want the girls in my life to be equally as happy as I am.
And if they are NOT. I would encourage them to go do whatever makes them happy.

Most girls will simply continue to hang out with you for a while longer.
Because, it's hard not to respect that type of honesty and straight fwdness.
But eventually all good things will come to an END.
And when that time comes. Don't have any regrets. Don't be afraid to let a girl go.
If you choose a certain lifestyle. Don't expect everyone else to want the same lifestyle. If your fuck buddies outgrow the fuck buddy status.
Be willing to let them go. And encourage them to find happiness.
If you do this. Not only will you maintain those friendships later. Albeit they might be frustrated or pissed in the short term.
Later on, they will realize you are a pretty upstanding, honest and straight fwd guy. And believe it or not. They will even tell other girls you are a pretty cool guy.
Once they get over it.
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RedBeard

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Awesome advice.

Thanks
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ChinaKid

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Treat women like gremlins.

1. You can't get them wet (don't let them shower at your place)
2. Don't let them in the sunlight (don't meet up with them during the day)
3. Don't feed them after midnight (don't let them stay over)

-Barney (HIMYM)
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Halffull

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Double Post.
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Halffull

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ChinaKid wrote:
Treat women like gremlins.

1. You can't get them wet (don't let them shower at your place)
2. Don't let them in the sunlight (don't meet up with them during the day)
3. Don't feed them after midnight (don't let them stay over)

-Barney (HIMYM)
That's genius.

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To OP,  you can't control her behavior, only yours.  If she want's a relationship and you don't, there's no magic formula to suddenly make everything ok.  Just cointinue to frame the relationship the way you want, and if she's not buying into that frame, find someone who wants what you do.
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