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September 2nd, 2014
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Tasty

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Join Date: 05/25/2009 | Posts: 536

I've been asking a lot of people this.. get a lot of different things.
I know a lot of you do more spontaneous things and dont have a set plan, but surely you have some commonalities to your approach.

Like, you see a hot girl sitting alone, texting/reading/writing somewhere, what do you do?
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hi, my names mr. freckles, will you be my friend?
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EazyDoesIt

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I'll use the "moment" as my material for an opener.

For example,
Bunch of girls in a bar about to take a shot of alcohol. I'll walk by and make a flippant comment about being trouble makers.

I'll see a girl ignoring her friends and just kind of people watching.
I'll walk by. Stop for a second and make a comment such as, "You look bored as fuck."
Of course, the subcomm is usually playful and non attached. I'm not trying to offend them. I'm just making playful commentary.

From that moment, I simply work off of whatever the girl(s) give me.
They usually fire a comment back or say something. I simply use whatever they fire back with to make another comment or statement.
I try to keep it fun and light. Disarm them with some humor first. And go from there.

Sometimes, that conversation lasts 30 seconds. Sometimes, I'm hanging out w/ them for the rest of the night.
At that point, its purely a feel and vibe thing. In terms of how long I stick around and engage with them.
Sometimes its better to keep it short and brief, end on a high note. Re-open them 10-20 minutes later.
Demonstrate your not a level 5 clinger. And you have your own life.
Other times, you can tell the girls are completely absorbed by what your saying and the vibe is to stick around.

Even if that conversation only lasts 30 seconds. I can use that (original opener) to continue a conversation later.
For example,
Walk by a group of girls. And I say, "You girls are trouble makers."
And one girl fires back, "Yeah, we are."
And I have 20 seconds of meaningless banter as I head to the bar.
If I run into one of those girls later in the night. I will simply follow up from my previous conversation.
"So, are you staying out of trouble?"
And use that opportunity as a very natural way to strike up a 2nd conversation.
It comes off very natural and non-needy or clingy.

When it comes to super hot girls. You don't want to give off the vibe like you're clinging to them. Or that you have preselected them.
My openers are so natural and congruent with the moment.
I'm a stranger one minute. And the next minute. I'm drinking with them. Giving them approving shoves. Hugging them. Clawing them.
Laughing w/ them.
And demonstrating we have some sexual chemistry.
And to the average bystandard, it just appears like we're old friends.

That's personally how I do it most of the time. When I'm not being introduced to cute girls thru other friends, acquaintances.
There is so much material to work with "in the moment"
From their demeanor. To their style of clothing. To their group. To their choice in drinks.
I can pick any single girl in the bar and come up with something to "riff" from. And start a conversation in a very natural, unassuming manner.

A very simple one,
Excuse me. What are you drinking?
And when she answers.
Insert funny comment.
Exchange a couple of quips or what not.
Then introduce yourself. "By the way, my name is......"
Simple.
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lots of smiling
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Svall

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Acting gay.
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AÎM HÎGH

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I really don't know dude, it kinda just happens. One minute i'm doing my thing, the next i'm grinding some girl from behind after telling her she is cute in some way or another. I'd rather not analyze it to be honest.

In day game I only use one 'tactic' and that's to keep things minimal. As real world said...Approach her like you would an old friend...or in other words...Relax

The moment I start planning something, I can pretty much guarantee I am just making more work for myself. The point is to keep approaching until it becomes a habit that you don't need to think about anymore and just let experience do it's job.

Before this.......back in them 'The Book' days. I'd usually think about approaching for 10 minutes, then finally go say something to the girl, if it hooked then i'd spend the rest of the night 'pretending' i'm not interested in her. lol FACEPALM!
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Svall wrote:
Acting gay.
Nah acting "slightly" gay like kissing the dudes but being slightly gay.
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Svall

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nowhining wrote:

Svall wrote:
Acting gay.
Nah acting "slightly" gay like kissing the dudes but being slightly gay.
Yeah, well  I like to fuck them in their ass at the dancefloor, heavily disqualifying myself from being considered a potentioal suiter and builds huge attraction.

Tasty you should try it out.
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Svall wrote:

nowhining wrote:

Svall wrote:
Acting gay.
Nah acting "slightly" gay like kissing the dudes but being slightly gay.
Yeah, well  I like to fuck them in their ass at the dancefloor, heavily disqualifying myself from being considered a potentioal suiter and builds huge attraction.

Tasty you should try it out.

hmm disqualifying myself as a sexual threat but still being sexual .... makes sense.
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Tasty wrote:
Like, you see a hot girl sitting alone, texting/reading/writing somewhere, what do you do?
Try to look away and then spend the next 10 minutes trying to think of what to say to her while my mind comes up with reasons to not approach
Some day soon any day now I'll dare to

make eye contact
maybe.
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Bard

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Join Date: 08/27/2009 | Posts: 270

I usually walk up in the goatse position and talk from between my own legs

'Howdy!'
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