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awesome night ;)
lessons learned
lots of fun times
reference experiences made
inner chode kissed the dust
1st set
keep going
free of outcome
approach = success
[/][/]nice report, thanks
lessons learned
lots of fun times
reference experiences made
inner chode kissed the dust
1st set
keep going
free of outcome
approach = success
[/][/]nice report, thanks
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Hit the club with gogl~ and airforcedan who came by. It was actually really nice to meet another guy from rsdnation. A nice contrast to creepy german pickup artists.. haha.
We enter the club and i fucking chode out and don't open the first set! Big mistake.
Gogl opens a set and i wing him.. well, he rather pulls me in. Thanks! It goes pretty well. I have this funny thing that happens in warmup sets. I call it "grasping for words". It somehow takes me ages to find words and build sentences for conversation. I find myself making long pauses in the middle of sentences. Quite strange actually. But at least it gets better after the first or second set.
Blowouts deluxe follow. I'm in a pretty bad state and it kinda hurts.
Gogl pushes me a lot and makes me approach a hottie sitting on a bar stool at the side of the club with this bitchy look on her face. Surely you can imagine.
Set 2:
I actually want to blurt out I LIKE SALAD but in the last second i stop and say something else.
Tom: "Damn you look sad." (Wow how chodish. My tonality must have been good)
Girl (smiles): "No I'm not!"
Random banter commences. Apparently shes there with another couple which is in fact dancing behind me. They look like they're in their late 40's. What the fuck.
Tom: "Damn are those your parents?!"
Girl (smiles BIG): "Haha no!"
Turns out she is about to leave. I don't know where to take it from here. Should have numberclosed.
We part and I notice she goes dancing once more. A guy tries to approach her and she blows him out HARD. Wow now that pushed my state. Best set of the night.
Notes:
- The "bitch-polarity". Every girl has a bitchy side and a nice side. Will try to prove this futher (haha).
Yeah, she looked really bitchy. So great lesson for you to realize it just often seems taht way and in reality they are nice girls.We enter the club and i fucking chode out and don't open the first set! Big mistake.
Gogl opens a set and i wing him.. well, he rather pulls me in. Thanks! It goes pretty well. I have this funny thing that happens in warmup sets. I call it "grasping for words". It somehow takes me ages to find words and build sentences for conversation. I find myself making long pauses in the middle of sentences. Quite strange actually. But at least it gets better after the first or second set.
Blowouts deluxe follow. I'm in a pretty bad state and it kinda hurts.
Gogl pushes me a lot and makes me approach a hottie sitting on a bar stool at the side of the club with this bitchy look on her face. Surely you can imagine.
Set 2:
I actually want to blurt out I LIKE SALAD but in the last second i stop and say something else.
Tom: "Damn you look sad." (Wow how chodish. My tonality must have been good)
Girl (smiles): "No I'm not!"
Random banter commences. Apparently shes there with another couple which is in fact dancing behind me. They look like they're in their late 40's. What the fuck.
Tom: "Damn are those your parents?!"
Girl (smiles BIG): "Haha no!"
Turns out she is about to leave. I don't know where to take it from here. Should have numberclosed.
We part and I notice she goes dancing once more. A guy tries to approach her and she blows him out HARD. Wow now that pushed my state. Best set of the night.
Notes:
- The "bitch-polarity". Every girl has a bitchy side and a nice side. Will try to prove this futher (haha).
Anyway... she wasnt about to leave ^^ I still saw her sitting there half an hour later. You should have stayed there ;)
1st of the night or youll regret it. and keep going, be willing to push through the first sets, until your mind snaps into a confident mindset, which everybody has. Or you can say, your mind starts to filter out all the external bullshit and you get comfortable in yourself. This is when the sets start to open.
REALLY TRY to keep going until you hit that sweetspot because otherwise you might get frustrated over time and stop appraoching alltogether because you accumulkated too many reference experiences that girls are mean. Happened to me this january where i went out with a goal of at least 5 sets a night. 5 sets is near to nothing and i always went home frustrated because girls didnt like me. Thats exactly because i stopped and went home by the time i was building up momentum but wasnt in the sweetspot yet.
makes sense? Dont fall into the same trap.
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Bootcamp London May 2009 with Ozzie
Summit 2010
Bootcamp Miami 2013 Tyler
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I'm just back from a night at the bars with gogl and it was the best night i ever had!
Every set opened. EVERY SET!
Interestingly, my initial state today was different than before. There was hardly any approach anxiety, no anxiety at all. I was totally calm.. I could have gone to sleep in less than five minutes if there would have been a bed around. Felt a bit like meditation.
First bar (with dancefloor). Gogl pushes me to approach. Merci.
Nice, felt the warmth pleasant feeling inside your body? Slowed down the moment? AWESOME.Every set opened. EVERY SET!
Interestingly, my initial state today was different than before. There was hardly any approach anxiety, no anxiety at all. I was totally calm.. I could have gone to sleep in less than five minutes if there would have been a bed around. Felt a bit like meditation.
First bar (with dancefloor). Gogl pushes me to approach. Merci.
I do NOT want to push you anymore. I do not believe you a minute that there wasnt an attractive girl around, and with no approach anxiety and a good feeling inside, WHY THE HELL dont you get the motivation to take action out of yourself?
Maybe beacuse you are afraid to challenge that pleasant feeling. You dont want to loose it by getting blown out. If that is it, realize it, and break down your reality if necessary. That is the only way to grow your reality stronger. Everything else is EGO building and at some point it WILL crash and you get frustrated.
Trust me, im speaking from a shit load of experience here.
Thats exactly why our only success criteria should be the approach itself. No outcome-criteria.
There are also no BAD NIGHTs or GOOD NIGHTs. There is only "did take action"and "didnt take action". 1st one leads you towards "lord", 2nd one leads you towards "chode". So always ask yourself, "right now, am i moving towards lord or chode?"
think about it.
and keep going
cheers
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